The purpose of this inventory is to help you to assess your assertive style.

if you almost
Answer as honestly as possible. Read each item carefully and select your always behave
response as per the rating system. this way

I generally keep quiet and do not argue with others when they don't listen
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to me.
I feel very hurt and angry, if the other person refuses when I ask for a
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favour.
3 I am able to recognise and express my strengths.
4 I feel I am not as good as others.
5 I become resentful, angry and defensive, when criticised.
6 I try to reason out with others, when they don't listen to me.

7 I always check with others, if it is okay with them, what I plan to do.

8 I become physically or verbally abusive when angry.

9 I do not feel shy in asking for a favour or making a request.

I have the tendency to make self-deprecating remarks when I succeed or

10 achieve something (e.g, 'Oh, I was just plain lucky!' or 'I can't believe I
really did that!' or 'I am not really very good at that!).

11 I often have my share of fun at the expense of others.

12 If I cannot complete any given task by the deadline, I tell openly and
honestly the reason for delay rather than making up excuses.
Though I feel people often take advantage of me, but I guess nothing can
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be done about such people.
If I am angry with a person of higher authority (e.g. parent, teacher or
14 boss), I take out my anger on inanimate objects (e.g. throwing a book,
banging the telephone, kicking a chair. etc.).

15 I can start and carry on a conversation comfortably, even with strangers.

I feel very embarrassed and don't know how to react when I receive
16 compliments from others.

I tend to grumble about other people's behaviour (e.g. 'You never...' or

17 'You always...).

I speak clearly and directly, keeping my voice calm and controlled, even in
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a conflict.
I feel hurt and depressed when someone criticises me, but I don't say
19 anything and just sulk.

20 If I do not like what the other person says, I ignore him and walk away.

21 If others laugh at me. I too laugh with them or disagree in good humour.

22 I go out of way to help people. even at my own inconvenience and later

on regret doing so.
23 I get angry and defensive, when others laugh at me.
 I listen to the other person attentively, even when I might disagree with
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him.
In a discussion. if I feel I have nothing worthwhile to say. I just sit quietly
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and do not participate.

26 There is no harm in using people or manipulating things to succeed in life.

I have no problem in paying a compliment to anyone if I like something

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about him.

28 I control and suppress my anger, because I don't want to create a scene.

29 When I am angry with someone. I usually become silent and indifferent.

30 I can express very easily my feelings of tenderness towards others.

I findd it difficult to take initiative in discussion and wait for somebody

31 else to take charge.

I do not bother when told that I am being unfair, and try to prove the
32 other person wrong.

If I hear some rumour or gossip about me. I directly go to the person

33 concerned and ask for clarification.

34 I pay compliments to people just to be comfortable with them.

35 I shout or snap back at others when they don't listen to me.
36 I can refuse a request without feeling guilty or over explaining.
37 I do not like to be compared with others.

38 In discussion, if I feel, the other person is talking something irrelevant. I

tell him to shut up.
If I get irritated by someone's habit that drives me up the wall, I ask him to
39
stop.
40 I find it very difficult to make eye contact while talking.

41 I feel my desires, needs and suggestions are very important, and others
should go along with them.
42 I can take criticism without being defensive.
43 I find it very difficult to ask for a favour.
When I succeed, I make it a point to let everyone know that I outsmarted
44 everybody else.

45 I do not avoid confrontation for the fear of spoiling relationships.

46 I feel bad if I have to refuse a request and try my best to explain it.

47 I do most of the talking in a conversation.

I take initiative in discussion and raise questions if I do not understand a
48 point.
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Submissiveness 64 100
Aggressiveness 48 75 14
Assertiveness 16 25

AEQ will range from 0 to 100. The higher the EAQ, the more effective the person is usin
assertive behaviour in relation to submissiveness or aggressiveness.
Assertiveness Effectiveness Quotient (AEQ)

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Q, the more effective the person is using their

ubmissiveness or aggressiveness.