Bahria University Islamabad Campus

Name: Muhammad Irsam Khan

Enrollment: 01-111192-175
Section: BBA 4-4D
Course: Self-Management
Submitted to: Mam Maria Ashraf
 HABIT 6 SYNERGIZE
Self-Management Workbook # 10
VALUING DIFFERENCES
Q#1 Circle the number from I to 5 that most closely represents your normal
behaviour or attitude regarding the statement to the left. When you have
answered all the questions, add up your total and check your score.
Never Sometimes Always

When I hear a point of view that is

different from mine, I ask the 1 2 3 4 5
person to elaborate on the idea.
When in disagreement ,getting my
ideas expressed is more important 1 2 3 4 5
to me than following the opinion of
the majority.
I frequently work with people who
seem to have different perspectives 1 2 3 4 5
from mine.
I try to use the knowledge and
skills of others to better accomplish 1 2 3 4 5
tasks.
I have found it very useful to have
teams composed of people with 1 2 3 4 5
different backgrounds.
I strongly believe that every person
has a unique way of contributing to 1 2 3 4 5
his or her family or group.
I actively seek to learn from others.
1 2 3 4 5

I share my opinions with others,

even when our opinions seem to 1 2 3 4 5
differ.
When working on a project, I seek
out different ideas and opinions. 1 2 3 4 5

Whenever I am involved in a
creative task, I tend to brainstorm 1 2 3 4 5
with other people rather than rely
on the opinions of experts.

SO The Total score is 35.

PROFESSIONAL EXERCISE
Write name of a person you work with: ___Kamran Ashraf____
In the area below, write the qualities this person possesses.
1. Talents/abilities (organized, knowledgeable, assertive, artistic,
programmer, recruiter, writer, etc.)
Answer. Kamran is one of my best friends and he is one of the best professional
Photographers and videographer in Islamabad and he is very much talented in his
work, he is an artist in his work, he knows how to create the whole scene to take
photos, how to do the perfect shoots, he is a person who has a complete
knowledge of how to use the camera perfectly and he is also stays very much
organized in his life as he has to do a lot of work in a day.
2. Background (education, race, gender, socioeconomic status, where he or
she grew up, etc.
Answer: So my friend’s background is like he had completed his intermediate and
FSC from Army public school and college in Rawalpindi as he lives there with his
family, He grew up with his big brother and younger sister in Rawalpindi and he
belongs to a high middle-class family. And he earns enough to live a happy,
healthy life with his family.
3. Interpersonal skills (listener, communicator, speaker, teacher, mentor,
role model, etc.)
Answer: Kamran also possesses many interpersonal skills; he is very good at
communicating with people, he is also very much honest and consistent in his
work, he brings in the creativity in his work because his work demands that then
he is also a mentor for the new comers in the field, he teaches them how to be
really good in the field.
4. Character traits (sense of humour, micromanager, reliable, honest,
diligent, opinionated, etc.
Answer; Kamran is very much passionate for the work he does and he is an honest
man with great sense of humor, he knows how to keep his clients happy and how
to handle the situation peacefully in his work. He also has patience and flexibility
in his character that is why he has so many different race and gender clients.
5. How different is this person from you?
Answer; He is different from me in many ways first of all I as a person will panic a
little if I see the situation is slowly getting out of the hands, but my friend is the
opposite he will remain calm will offer the solutions for the problems, then
Kamran is also very good at observing the things and listens to the person without
interrupting and understands the other person completely and He also has more
knowledge and experience of doing things than me.
6. How could these differences contribute to accomplishing a common
purpose?
Answer: These differences can contribute in order to accomplish a common
purpose, so when we will be working together these differences will help me
there where I will be lacking, when the situation arises where I will be stuck in
accomplishing the purpose, these differences will open up the other ways of
handling it and these differences are our pillars to support each other and fulfill
the gaps in each other’s characters to accomplish the purpose.
Think of a gathering or conversation, where you were present, during which
ideas were shot down and answer these questions:
When you first rejected the idea, what was it that turned you off? Was it the
idea itself? the deliverer, or the way in which it was delivered? Did you dislike
the idea because it wasn't yours?
Answers: when I first rejected the idea, the thing that turned me off was that the
idea itself was not up to the mark, the idea was no way near what we were
discussing and planning on and it would have cost us the failure of the whole
thing and I don’t care if the idea doesn’t come from me I just want that he idea
should be a good one.
What is your inner monologue saying? Is it saying, "That won't work,“ "You're
nuts," or "We've never done it that way before"?
Answer: So my inner monologue is saying to me that the idea would not work, if
we will apply this idea, then there would be very less chances of us to accomplish
the purpose, the idea is totally the opposite of the situation we are having so this
idea is useless and won’t work at all.
If this was a work (team) situation, was there a "mob mentality" at work? Did
the group quickly dismiss the idea because it didn't appear to support the
group's typical way of thinking? If so, how?
Answer: If this was a work(team) situation I do think there would the times when
the mob mentality occurs at work but here the group didn’t quickly dismiss the
idea just on the basis it did not support their way of thinking, when the idea was
heard first of all group members discuss it and thought of the future
consequences of it and thought that will it work under these circumstances and at
the end it was concluded that the idea wasn’t good enough according to the
situation that is why it has to be dismissed.

Answer following questions as true or false. Think of specific incidents in your

life before answering.
___F___ I demand perfection from myself and everyone around me.
___F___ I am surprised when others don't like me or my ideas.
___F___ People continually make promises to me without following through.
___T___ I don't have many friends whom I really like or trust.
___T___ I get tired of all this political correctness. I don't have to like everyone.
___F___ I don't appreciate other people's opinions of me.
 ___F___ I don't like change.
___T___ I work better alone than in groups.
___F___ I tend to be more negative than positive.
___F___ I'm afraid people will find out that I'm not what I appear to be.

BREAKING DOWN THE BARRIERS

Circle the number from 1 to 5 that most closely represents how often you use
synergy producers. When you have answered all the questions, add up your
total and check your score.
Never Sometimes always

I challenge and question others

1 2 3 4 5

I am honest and candid in my

communication 1 2 3 4 5

I keep commitments
1 2 3 4 5

I keep my cool in stressful

situations. 1 2 3 4 5

I convey my feelings clearly

1 2 3 4 5

I am realistic in my expectations of
others 1 2 3 4 5

I share credit and success with

others 1 2 3 4 5

I Value differences of opinion and

truly seek to understand them. 1 2 3 4 5
I discuss the facts without
exaggerating 1 2 3 4 5

I accept responsibility when things

go wrong. 1 2 3 4 5

Choose a relationship or issue where you would like to work toward a more
synergistic end.
Define the problem or opportunity.
SO during this covid period me and my brother’s classes were shifted to online
classes for almost a year and we both the rooms of our hostel, but now when the
universities are opening we talk to hostel manager he said there will be only one
room will be allowed and from both of you only one can take the it so we have to
decide what can we both do.
Listen to the other person.
So after hearing the situation my brother has a talk with me and I listen to his
views, he said that as we know that now the classes are hybrid and first week you
will be taking classes I will be at home and in second week he will be taking
classes so why not we take the room and share it week by week.
Share your views
After listening to brother I shared my views with him that yes there is a hybrid
system but I have to be at hostel full month because The two of my classes are
not hybrid, the whole class have to come to attend it so how we will manage.
Brainstorm options together.
After hearing me, my brother and I started to think and started brainstorming the
options what else we can do my brother suggested that “you take the room and
when I have my classes I will come and live with you for one two night without
mangers knowing” but I replied this cannot happen.
Find the best solution together.
So after brainstorming for options for hours and through collective efforts I came
up with the idea and I suggested my brother that most of your friends have their
own flats there and if he want he can talk with them and can go to their place to
spend some nights and if some problem occurs than you can also go to our aunt’s
house to live for some time in this way the problem will be solved.
How did the new approach feel? Was it difficult for you? What steps will you
take to ensure that you will continue to use this approach in the future?
Yes, the new synergetic approached felt really good and if I was alone fighting
with the situation it would have been very much difficult for me to come up with
the solution but due to this new approach it wasn’t that difficult me to deal with
and now in future I will keep myself open for the new ideas and found the person
who have the similar goal as mine and I will embrace trust on the other person
and keep working together.
• In your life, have you found that there are people who drive you nuts or
irritate you? Who are they? What do they do that irritates you?
Who what
MY Brother: my brother many time irritates me by calling out my pet names in
public and eats my food which I have to eat later.
My Roommates: My roommates irritate me by locking me sometime in bathroom
or when they trick me and somehow I have to do their work.
My Best friend: My best friend irritates me by start talking about the things I have
forbidden them to talk on or whenever he has to pick me up he comes late every
time.
Choose one issue from each area. How can you affect the synergy for each
situation?
DIRECT CONTROL
So in my brother’s case he has some character issues means he lacks in discipline
in this matter I have a direct control on this issue and I can talk and teach my
brother that how to be disciplined when he is around in public.
INDIRECT CONTROL
So in case of my Roommates I can indirectly control the situation by addressing to
the manager of the hostel and then he can resolve the issues my roommates are
having.
No control:
In case of my best friend it a issue of personality and I have no control over his
personality, I can just say that please don’t do this, but it is his choice what to do
or what not to do at the end.

THE END