In "Sex, Lies, and Conversation„ Tannen speaks about the

miscommunication between men and women. Miscommunication is wreaking

havoc with marriage. According to Tannen's article „the current divorce rate is
nearly 50 percent, that amounts to millions of cases in the United States every
year -- a virtual epidemic of failed conversation.„
A woman expects her husband to be a new and improved version of a best
friend. Let her know that when she goes home there is someone waiting for
her and to whom she can tell everything. But men can be as intense as women,
but they are based less on talking, and more on doing things together.
Body language also can be a factor that can do to miscommunication. Girls
like to look at each other more when they talk and focus on a certain topic,
while guys avoid eye contact and don't focus only on one topic.
Women and men focus in different ways when they talk to each other.
Women always expect feedback, and in turn, they give feedback. But men
focus more on listening in silence.
Our way of communication is practically totally opposite, that's why we end
up with many misunderstandings. According to Tannen's article, for women,
talk creates intimacy. Marriage is an orgy of closeness: you can tell your
feelings and thoughts, and still be loved. Their greatest fear is being pushed
away. But men live in a hierarchical world, where talk maintains independence
and status. They are on guard to protect themselves from being put down and
pushed around.
One of the solutions to these problems would be to explain to each other
the different ways of speaking and to reach a common denominator. And to
accept the difference between the ways in which we express ourselves, both
verbally and with body language.