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Professor Thompson
Art Survey
7 September 2020
Beauty
“Wow! Your sister is so gorgeous!” I hear these words all the time. My five sisters each possess
very different physical and character traits, all contributing to their beauty. Cassandra has a head of
golden curls, olive skin, and long, dark eyelashes. She has an optimistic, bubbly personality. Courtney
has long brunette hair, a sprinkle of freckles across her nose, and piercing blue eyes. She has a warm
heart and cares deeply for those around her. Kailie can be spotted by her brown curls and big, cheerful
smile. Her sense of humor can fill a room with laughter in minutes. Ciarra’s bleach blonde hair and
slender figure make her stand out in a crowd. She is always calm, relaxed, and confident. Karli, the
youngest, has big, blue eyes that can brighten anyone’s day. She has an intelligence and maturity that
goes beyond her years. Over time, I have admired and watched as my sisters developed into the
beautiful young women they are today. However, there have been times when this view of my sisters
has turned into something unhealthy. I often see their beauty and begin to compare theirs to my own. I
wish I had Cassandra’s round nose instead of my pointy one. I desire to have long, toned legs like
Ciarra’s. For a long time, I saw my sisters’ beauty as much greater than my own. Sometimes, I still feel
this way.
Not very long ago, I found myself in a situation and all these feelings came to surface. In high
school, my parents were always monitoring to make sure my sisters and I dressed modestly. There have
been a few instances where I have been told to change into something more appropriate. I never push
back on this and respect the opinions of my parents. Usually, I can see where they are coming from and I
am thankful for their input. While I was at home from college, I made the observation that my younger
sister was going out in an outfit similar to one I had been told not to wear. I asked my mother about it
and was told flippantly that my sister looked fine. This did not sit right with me, and later that night I
decided to confront my mother about this. I told her that I felt as though she was being inconsistent and
unfair. She responded by saying, “I’m not trying to be unfair… but there are some things that she can get
away with wearing because she is built in a different way than you.” These words cut into me like a
knife. The knife continued to stab as she pointed out how my sister had a much different personality
than my own: she is less flirty and outgoing. She explained to me how my sister’s reserved and quiet
personality contributed to the perceived motive of her wearing the outfit. Rather than understanding
and trying to conceptualize this, I felt labeled and misunderstood. I had no way to explain this to my
mother, so I simply sobbed and managed to stutter the words, “This hurts. This really, really hurts.” My
mother was simply trying to be honest and convey her reasoning, but it came at the expense of my
feelings. Instead of seeing the validity in her argument, which I typically do, I found myself broken over
I had made these same comparisons hundreds of times before. As stated previously, I have
always envied certain features of my sisters’. But when my mother spoke these words, the comparisons
became real. These were no longer the voices in my head. The differences between our physical and
character traits are noticeable and have had an affect on how others perceive us. This idea began to
take over my mind. For a long period of time, I observed the interactions between my siblings and our
shared friends. I began to focus on tiny differences in the way that my parents treated us. I became
skeptical and started to second guess my actions. In social settings, I let others take the role as “life of
the party.” When I got dressed for the day, I noticed every part of my body that had a bit of excess fat. I
was always concerned about the way that people saw and thought of me.
In all honesty, I am still broken. I am still healing from this wound. I continue to look at my
sisters and envy their beauty. However, I am beginning to understand that my own beauty comes from
being the person God made me to be. He is not a God of mistakes, so it is no coincidence that I look and
act the way that I do. It takes a conscious effort to keep this in mind. Instead of hating my high forehead,
I can find beauty in the faint splash of freckles that cover it. Rather than being ashamed of my sassy
attitude, I can appreciate the lighthearted conversations that have come out of it. These are the traits
that God has blessed me with, and I am learning to embrace them. At the same time, I am learning to
change my view of my sisters. When I observe the features that make them beautiful, I use this to
compliment them. These compliments may not be taken to heart, but I can almost guarantee that they
have gone through some form of what I have faced. I only hope that this cultivates healthier
relationships between us and enhances their views of their own beauty. God created each of us in our
own unique way, and I am learning to be thankful for that. Over time, I have learned that beauty is
accepting who God created you to be, inside and out. It is appreciating and embracing the beauty of
those around you. Beauty is noticing the differences but choosing to love those differences.