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Quarter 2 - Module 2
Dynamics of Commitment
Personal Development – Senior High School
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Quarter 2 - Module 2: Dynamics of Commitment
First Edition, 2020
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Table of Contents
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What I Know
Multiple Choice. Select the letter of the right answer by writing in your answer sheet
among the given choices.
1. Which of the following statements is a good sign of a healthy relationship? A. Your
friend pressures you to do things you do not want to do.
B. Your friend tells you not to hang out with certain people.
C. Your friend criticizes you or the people you care about.
D. You usually feel happy when you are with this person.
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12. Which of the following is NOT an example of taking responsibility in your relationship?
A. Builds trust and accountability.
B. Build resentment in each other.
C. Empowering each other and learn and grow together.
D. Willingness to address unhealthy excuses and issues.
13. Which of the following is an element of a healthy relationship? A. One person makes all
the decisions C. Be disrespectful
B. Trust one another D. You are threatened
14. Which of the following statements is a good sign of a healthy relationship? A. Your
friend makes fun of you.
B. Your friend threatens to hurt you.
C. You are afraid of your friend's temper.
D. Your friend is happy when good things happen to you.
15. Which of the following statements is NOT a sign of a healthy relationship? A. You feel
safe to share secrets.
B. You feel fear in your relationship.
C. There is communication, sharing, and trust.
D. You feel good about yourself when you’re around the other person.
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Lesson
TAKING RESPONSIBILITY IN A
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Imagine this scenario: "Why would you put ketchup all over my fries? " Jacks asked.
Then Jill replied, "Well, you should've told me that you don't like ketchup!". This is an
example of how oftentimes people deflect ownership of their behaviors and play the blame
game. Is Jack responsible for his ketchup-covered fries, or should Jill have taken
responsibility for her behavior? Taking responsibility in your relationship is the
acknowledgment and ownership of every action and word you say and do.
Why taking responsibility is important? Taking ownership and responsibility for your
actions is an important part of healthy relationships. Doing so is an empowering reminder
that you have control over the role you play in your relationship. Taking responsibility creates
trust and dependability. When you take responsibility for your behaviors, you demonstrate to
your partner, family, and friends that your willingness to be honest and vulnerable, which
encourages them to be open and authentic with you.
What’s New
2. You enjoy being with this 10. You say that you agree with your
person but you also enjoy friends, even though you don't.
spending time with other You are afraid they won't be your
friends. friend anymore if you disagree
with them.
3. Your friend pressures you to 11. You rarely get to plan what the two
do things you do not want to of you will do together.
do.
4. Your friend tells you not to hang 12. You are nervous that if you tell
out with certain people. your friend something personal,
he/she will tell other people at
school.
5. You usually feel happy when 13. Your friend is happy when good
you are with this person. things happen to you and
celebrates your successes.
6. Your friends talk to you about 14. Your friends sometimes make fun
his/her feelings. of you.
7. Your friend criticizes you or the 15. Your friend respects your feelings
people you care about. and your opinions.
What Is I t
The situations given in the previous activity can all apply to your family and significant
other or partner. Learn to recognize examples of people who engage in negative behaviors
that lead to unhealthy relationships. These are some important aspects of healthy
relationships.
Understanding Do I try to understand the other person, what they say or do?
Acceptance Can I feel I am okay the way I am? Do I accept him/her as he/she is?
Trust To what degree am I willing to let the other person know private aspects
of my thoughts, feelings, and life?
Good Can we talk freely about issues that are important to relationships? Do
Communication we know how to talk so we each are understood and sharing is safe?
Personal Integrity Am I able to maintain my beliefs and sense of self as well as offer my
time and attention to the relationship?
Vulnerability To what degree can I let down my barriers and allow the other person
to see my perceived weaknesses, without fear of negative reactions
from them?
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How to become responsible in real life?
Taking responsibility is not just a one-sided practice. It looks like practicing selfawareness.
The following ways to use the empowering action of taking responsibility are important for
you and your family, friends, or partner to use and practice in your relationship.
1. Be Honest
“You have to love yourself before you love others” is a versatile phrase that has
multiple meanings when applied to relationships. It can translate to “You have to be honest
with yourself before you can be honest with others.” Being honest with yourself begins with a
healthy sense of self-awareness. And being self-aware means you acknowledge that what
you say and do impacts your family, friends, and partner.
For example:
Referring back to the ketchup situation, imagine you’re Jill. A healthy response would be to
take ownership of her actions and respond with something like, “Oh, I’m sorry! I should have
asked you before I added ketchup. I did not realize you didn’t like ketchup, and this is my
mistake.”
For example:
Jill is reacting to Jack being upset instead of acting on her need to take responsibility. Acting
instead of reacting allows you to clearly define a self-aware and honest answer to unhealthy
behavior.
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and celebrates growth. Forgiveness builds trust and accountability in your relationship,
breaks down resentment, and stops the never-fun "blame game."
Taking responsibility for your behaviors in your relationship requires honest and open
communication and a willingness to address unhealthy excuses with your family, friends, and
partner. They’re not always easy discussions to have, but you’ll find that doing so builds trust
within your relationship over time and is an empowering way to learn and grow.
What’s More
1. You feel good about yourself when you’re around the other person.
2. You do not try to control each other. There is an equal amount of giving and take.
3. You feel sad, angry, scared, or worried.
4. There are communication, sharing, and trust. You feel safe to share secrets.
5. You feel that you give more attention to them than they give to you. You feel controlled.
6. You don’t communicate, share or trust.
7. You like to spend time together but also enjoy doing things apart.
8. You feel pressured to spend time together and you feel guilty when you’re both apart
from each other.
9. You feel the need to be someone that you are not.
10. It’s easy to be yourself when you are with them.
11. You respect each other's opinions. You listen and try to understand their point of view
even if you don't always agree with them.
12. You feel the need to be someone that you are not.
13. There is no fear in your relationship.
14. You feel there’s no respect for you or your opinion. You are not able to disagree.
15. You feel fear in your relationship.
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What I Can Do
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Summary
1. Important aspects to nurture a relationship are the following: mutual respect,
compassion, empathy, understanding, acceptance, honesty, trust, good
communication, consideration, compatibility, mutual enjoyment, personal dignity,
vulnerability.
2. To become responsible in a relationship in real life requires practicing
selfawareness. The following ways to use the empowering action of taking
responsibility are important for you and your family, friends, or partner to use and
practice in your relationship.
✓ Be Honest
✓ Act on Situations, Don’t React
✓ Be Willing to Forgive Your Other People and Yourself
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Assessment: (Post -Test)
Multiple Choice. Select the letter of the right answer by writing in your answer sheet among
the given choices.
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9. Which of the following is an element of a healthy relationship?
A. One person makes all the decisions C. Be disrespectful
B. Trust one another D. You are threatened
10. Which of the following statements is a good sign of a healthy relationship? A. Your
friend makes fun of you.
B. Your friend threatens to hurt you.
C. You are afraid of your friend's temper.
D. Your friend is happy when good things happen to you.
11. Which of the following statements is NOT a sign of a healthy relationship? A. Your
friends talk to you about his/her feelings.
B. Your friend respects your feelings and your opinions.
C. Your friend bullies and makes fun of other people at any place.
D. Your friend celebrates your successes such as achievements in school.
12. Which of the following statements is NOT a sign of a healthy relationship? A. You
feel safe to talk and open up.
B. You feel threatened in your relationship.
C. There is communication, sharing, and trust.
D. You feel good about yourself when you’re around the other person.
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References
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Development (Reader). Quezon City, Philippines: Sunshine Interlinks Publishing
House, Inc., 2016. Accessed June 6, 2020. https://bit.ly/3eLsx75
Peel Public Health Department. “Responsible and Healthy Relationships”. Google. Accessed
June 16, 2020. https://bit.ly/2XnY75e
The Connection Lab McGill University. “Peer Relationships”. Accessed June 16, 2020.
https://bit.ly/2HNEaiQ
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