The 4 Pillars of Trust

The Cheat Sheet to Thriving in Life

Having trust = Tranquility of the mind Challenges are fuel for growth → If you’re On an adventure, balance is the key - over
Thriving is indicated by all being satisfied - not challenged, you’re not growing → If reliance on one of them is a crutch and
but too much is also a bad thing → it you’re not growing, you’re not living indicates another element’s lacking
prevents growth and opportunity

Confidence: Air = Mental, psychological, and intellectual trust Control: Fire = Perception of environmental trust
Belief in your ability to succeed Belief that your actions manifest the outcome

Warning signs: Remedy: Warning signs: Remedy:

● Doubt
● Fear in ability
● Anxiety
● Pressure
● Feeling of being threatened
● Confusion
● “I can’t” phsyically
● Expectations missed
(confidence is the antithesis
of expectations, b/c you trust
that you’re in control)
● Belief in your strengths
● Coaching/guidance - seek
out help
● Get out of your own head
● Patience
● Challenge the doubt →
Demand proof from your
doubt
● Celebrate the small wins
● You’ve got a brain → use it
● Manage your expectations
● “You can do it!”
● “You’re doing great!”
● Writer’s block, or anything ● Focus on doing the next right
like it thing
● Feeling overwhelmed with ● “Up to me mentality”
responsibility - Too much to ● Belief in the purpose & know
do how to approach, analyze, &
● External factors have an adapt
extreme pull in your life ● Be okay with ambiguity
● AMbiguity overload ● Patience
● “I cant do it” emotional ● Get in the driver’s seat and
● Indicisiveness say “no”
● Confusion ● Boundaries
● Fear of letting go ● Rest
● “You’re doing the right
thing”

Balance Built By: Balance Built By:

● Failing/missing and getting back up ● Slipping and sliding → “control comes at the end of the turn”
● Knowing that misses happen ● Focusing on the effort
● The pursuit of perfection will always dissapoint ● Knowing that every effort is a success and the success is in the effort
not the result
● You’ll never be 100% prepared
● Remember: Human limitations are the fabrication of the Yetzer Harah

Comfort: Water = Phsyical trust Safety/Stability: Earth = Communal trust

Belief that the environment is conducive towards a desiredable lifestyle standard Belief in being in a state/environment of protection from existential threats

Warning signs: Remedy: Warning signs: Remedy:

● Physical or mental pain ● Rest ● Actual physical trauma ● Safety Precautions
● Frustration/irritability ● Recover ● Perception of existential ● Relocation →
● Fatigue ● Eat threat permanent/temporary
● Depression ● Spend time and money fixing ○ Personal experience ● Physical protection → gear
● Uncomfort in the way you’re up your personal space (attack) improvements
being spoken to or in the ● Lighten the load ○ Second hand ● Belief in the systems you
way that others make you ● “How can I help?” ○ By news have in place → Implement
feel ● “Let’s try it a different ● Heightened fear new ones
● Frustration about external way” ● Exposed vulnerability ● “You’re Safe”
unfamiliarity ● “I’ve got you”

Balance Built By: Balance Built By:

● Growing pains ● Letting go to grow → Commitment
● Feedback ● Taking the Leap of Faith/commitment
● Explore the unknown ● Knowing that 100% safety is impossible → goal is to have high enough
● Adapt to available standards probability that the consequences of the risk to not woutweigh the
benefit of succeeding

Connection: Light/spirit = Belief in being supported

Emotional element of trust

Warning signs: Remedy:

● Loneliness/longing ● Team assembly and interaction
● Not being heard ● Meditation
● Emptiness emotionally ● Socialize in familiar environments
● Confusion in direction ● Try saying “yes”
● Not “feeling” connection → Lack of meaning ● Fitness
● Connect to a higher power
● Read
● “I’m with you”
● “I’m here for you”

Balance Built By:

● Independence
● Space
○ Strenght of relationships with distance