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    This document provides resources and tips for positive conflict management. It lists contact information for several family and child welfare organizations in South Africa. It then outlines five tools for handling conflict positively: 1) listening carefully without judgment, 2) fighting fairly by keeping disagreements short and focused, 3) not making it a competition and being willing to compromise, 4) putting yourself in your partner's shoes to understand their perspective, and 5) making amends after a conflict to prevent future issues and rebuild trust. The overall message is that understanding conflict and applying positive management strategies will lead to better relationships.

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    This document provides resources and tips for positive conflict management. It lists contact information for several family and child welfare organizations in South Africa. It then outlines five tools for handling conflict positively: 1) listening carefully without judgment, 2) fighting fairly by keeping disagreements short and focused, 3) not making it a competition and being willing to compromise, 4) putting yourself in your partner's shoes to understand their perspective, and 5) making amends after a conflict to prevent future issues and rebuild trust. The overall message is that understanding conflict and applying positive management strategies will lead to better relationships.

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    This document provides resources and tips for positive conflict management. It lists contact information for several family and child welfare organizations in South Africa. It then outlines five tools for handling conflict positively: 1) listening carefully without judgment, 2) fighting fairly by keeping disagreements short and focused, 3) not making it a competition and being willing to compromise, 4) putting yourself in your partner's shoes to understand their perspective, and 5) making amends after a conflict to prevent future issues and rebuild trust. The overall message is that understanding conflict and applying positive management strategies will lead to better relationships.

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    CONFLICT

    MAN AGE MENT Life is too short for this!


    RESOURCES AND
    CONT ACTS
    Child Welfare South Africa
    In all major cities in SA
    childwelfaresa.org.za
    Tel 011-2356481

    FAMSA IC T
    N FL
    famlife@iafrica.com
    CO E NT
    Tel 0117884784 E M
    N AG
    M A
    Vroue Versorging in Aksie
    CHILD & F AMILY WELF ARE
    SOCIETY BETHLEHEM
    051-44786321
    When your only tool is a hammer,
    PO Box 708
    Lewens Verryking Seminare BETHLEHEM every problem looks like a nail.
    9700
    012-5421708
    Phone: 058-3034701 POSITIVE CONFLICT
    Fax : 058-3033486
    Email: ksorgbhm@xsinet.co.za MANAGEMENT WILL GIVE
    Web : www.bcfw.org.za
    YOU THE RIGHT TOOLS FOR
    THE JOB

    Understanding Conflict
    and applying
    Happy balanced parents produce Conflict Management
    happy balanced children

    CREATED BY DEON ERWEE CELL 0724836119


    5 TOOLS 3. It is not a competition
    Never try to win the “fight”. Be prepared to
    5. Atonement
    After a conflict situation both part-
    to handle conflict compromise and to change. Remember to
    treat your partner with the same kindness,
    ners should repeat to each other what
    the cause was and how it was re-
    POSITIVELY respect, and appreciation as you would a solved. This will prevent any future
    close friend. misunderstanding.
    1. Listen carefully
    Start over slowly, be friendly, be
    Being an attentive lis- courteous and considerate, rebuild
    Work together to
    tener lets your partner trust and friendship.
    solve conflict
    know that his or her Learn to communicate your loving
    thoughts and feelings energy through touch and romance.
    are important to you. Don't allow yourselves to be rude or disre- Spend more time together by taking
    Moreover, good listen- spectful. small 30-minute holidays such as
    ing encourages partners "to open up
    Forget about giving each drinking coffee at a restaurant at
    and be willing to share," The secret, is
    other the silent treat- least once a week.
    not just to "hear" what your partner is
    saying, but to be truly "present," hav- ment, it resolves nothing. Share, share, share thoughts, expens-
    ing a heartfelt desire to understand Speak in a soft voice and es, feelings! Keep those communica-
    what is being said and listening with- never shout at each other. tive channels open.
    out being judgmental or interfering.
    Hear your partner out.

    4. Put yourself in your partner’s place


    By putting yourself in you partner’s shoes by
    2. Fight Fairly getting into his skin, you will be able to
    Since disagreements view the cause of the conflict from another
    and arguments are in- perspective.
    evitable, what's im- By changing roles, you will get the oppor-
    portant is not whether you fight, but tunity to understand your partner and your-
    how you fight. When disagreements self better and to accommodate change
    surface, keep them short, and focus more easily. Never go to bed angry , always try to
    on the issue at hand. "After 10 resolve conflict as soon as possible.
    minutes, it gets nasty and repetitive." ? Only if you crawl
    Also, keep boundaries on the subject into my shell, you will
    matter. Don't dredge up issues from know how to act as a tor-
    last week or last month. toise

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