PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT
• Label them in your mind (for example, by saying to yourself "I
UNIT 2: ASPECTS OF PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT
MODULE 8 : Emotional Intelligence
BIG QUESTION : How can you manage your emotions?
Objectives: At the end of this module, you will be able to:
1. Discuss that understanding the intensity and differentiation of
your emotions may help in communicating emotional
expressions;
2. Explore your positive and negative emotions and how you
express or hide them, and
3. Demonstrate and create ways to manage various emotions
Reading 1 : EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE
More Than One Kind of Intelligence
You may have heard people mention "IQ" when talking
about intellect and how smart someone is. (For example, "My
brother doesn't need to study as much as I do because he has a
really high IQ.") IQ stands for "intellectual quotient." It can
help predict how well someone may do academically. IQ is
just one measure of our abilities, though.
There are many other kinds of intelligence in addition to
intellect. For example, spatial intelligence is the ability to think
in 3D. Musical intelligence is the ability to recognize rhythm,
cadence, and tone. Athletic, artistic, and mechanical abilities
are other types of intelligence.
One important type of intelligence is Emotional
Intelligence.
What Is Emotional Intelligence?
Emotional intelligence is the ability to understand,
use, and manage our emotions.
Emotional intelligence is sometimes called EQ (or EI)
for short. Just as a high IQ can predict top test scores, a high EQ
can predict success in social and emotional situations. EQ
helps us build strong relationships, make good decisions,
and deal with difficult situations.
One way to think about EQ is that it's part of being
PEOPLE-SMART. Understanding and getting along with people
helps us be successful in almost any area of life. In fact, some
studies show that EQ is more important than IQ when it comes to
doing well in school or being successful at work.
Improving Your EQ
Emotional intelligence is a combination of several
different skills:
1. Being Aware of Your Emotions
Most people feel many different emotions throughout
the day. Some feelings (like surprise) last just a few seconds.
Others may stay longer, creating a mood like happiness or
sadness. Being able to notice and accurately label these
everyday feelings is the most basic of all the EQ skills. Being
aware of emotions — simply noticing them as we feel them —
helps us manage our own emotions. It also helps us understand
how other people feel. But some people might go through the
entire day without really noticing their emotions.
Source : Personal Development Reader by Department of Education, Republic of the Philippines, First Edition, 2016
• Practice recognizing emotions as you feel them.
feel grateful," "I feel frustrated," etc.).
• Make it a daily habit to be aware of your emotions.
2. Understanding How Others Feel and Why
People are naturally designed to try to understand
others. Part of EQ is being able to imagine how other people
might feel in certain situations. It is also about understanding
why they feel the way they do. Being able to imagine what
emotions a person is likely to be feeling (even when you don't
actually know) is called EMPATHY.
Empathy :
• helps us care about others and build good friendships
and relationships.
• guides us on what to say and how to behave around
someone who is feeling strong emotions.
3. Managing Emotional Reactions
We all get angry. We all have disappointments. Often
it's important to express how you feel. But managing your
reaction means knowing when, where, and how to express
yourself. When you understand your emotions and know how to
manage them, you can USE SELF-CONTROL to hold a reaction
if now is not the right time or place to express it. Someone who
has good EQ knows it can damage relationships to react to
emotions in a way that's disrespectful, too intense, too impulsive,
or harmful.
4. Choosing Your Mood
Part of managing emotions is choosing our moods.
Moods are emotional states that last a bit. We have the power to
decide what mood is right for a situation, and then to get into that
mood.
Choosing the right mood can help someone:
• get motivated,
• concentrate on a task,
• try again instead of giving up.
People with good EQ know that moods aren't just things that
happen to us. We can control them by knowing which mood
is best for a particular situation and how to get into that
mood.
EQ: Under Construction
Emotional intelligence is something that develops as
we get older. If it didn't, all adults would act like little kids,
expressing their emotions physically through stomping, crying,
hitting, yelling, and losing control!
Some of the skills that make up emotional intelligence
develop earlier. They may seem easier: For example,
recognizing emotions seems easy once we know what to pay
attention to. But the EQ skill of managing emotional reactions and
choosing a mood might seem harder to master. That's because
the PART OF THE BRAIN THAT'S RESPONSIBLE FOR SELF-
MANAGEMENT continues to mature beyond our teen years. But
PRACTICE HELPS THOSE BRAIN PATHWAYS DEVELOP.
We can all work to build even STRONGER
EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE SKILLS just by:
• recognizing what we feel,
• understanding how we got there,
• understanding how others feel and why, and
• putting our emotions into heartfelt words when we need to.
INTRODUCTION TO EMOTIONS
Emotions are what you feel on the inside when things
happen. Emotions are also known as FEELINGS.
1. Afraid: feeling fear and worry
2. Angry: feeling mad with a person, act, or idea
3. Ashamed: feeling bad after doing wrong
4. Confident: feeling able to do something
5. Confused: feeling unable to think clear
6. Depressed: feeling sad, blue, discouraged, and unhappy
7. Embarrassed: feeling worried about what others may think
8. Energetic: feeling full of energy
9. Excited: feeling happy and aroused
10. Glad: feeling joy and pleasure
11. Jealous: feeling upset when someone has something that
you would like to have or they get to do something you
wanted
12. Lonely: feeling alone and that nobody cares
13. Proud: feeling pleased for doing well
14. Relaxed: feeling at ease and without worry, calm
15. Stressed: feeling tense, tired, uneasy, and overwhelmed

Reading 2 : TYPES OF RESPONSES

Passive response: Behaving passively means not expressing
your own needs and feelings, or expressing them so weakly that
they will not be addressed.
• If Geneva behaves passively, by standing in line and not
saying anything, she will probably feel angry with the girls and
herself. If the ticket office runs out of tickets before she gets
to the head of the line, she will be furious and might blow up
at the girls after it's too late to change the situation.
• A passive response is NOT USUALLY in your best interest,
because it allows other people to violate your rights. Yet there
are times when being passive is the most appropriate
response. It is important to ASSESS whether a SITUATION
is dangerous and CHOOSE the RESPONSE most likely to
keep you SAFE.
Aggressive response: Behaving aggressively is asking for what
you want or saying how you feel in a threatening, sarcastic or
humiliating way that may offend the other person(s).
• If Geneva calls the girls names or threatens them, she
may feel strong for a moment, but there is no guarantee she
will get the girls to leave. More importantly, the girls and their
friend may also respond aggressively, through a verbal or
physical attack on Geneva.
• An aggressive response is NEVER in your best
interest, because it almost always leads to increased
CONFLICT
Assertive response: Behaving assertively means asking for
what you want or saying how you feel in an HONEST and
RESPECTFUL way that DOES NOT INFRINGE on another
person's rights or put the individual down.
• If Geneva tells the girls they need to go to the end of
the line because other people have been waiting, she will not
put the girls down, but merely state the facts of the situation.
She can feel proud for standing up for her rights. At the same
time, she will probably be supported in her statement by other
people in the line. While there is a good chance the girls will
feel embarrassed and move, there is also the chance that
they will ignore Geneva and her needs will not be met.
• An assertive response is ALMOST ALWAYS in your
best interest, since it is your best chance of getting what you
want without offending the other person(s). At times,
however, being assertive can be inappropriate. If tempers are
high, if people have been using alcohol or other drugs, if
people have weapons or if you are in an unsafe place, being
assertive may not be the safest choice.
Source : Personal Development Reader by Department of Education, Republic of the Philippines, First Edition, 2016