ATTRACTION AND INTIMACY: LIKING AND LOVING OTHERS

CHAPTER 11: Activity 1

Instructions: In this activity you will make a comprehensive note-taking/outline of the

lecture/discussion found in chapter 11 of the book. Highlight the different terminologies and its
concepts. This will help you to maximize your productivity, efficiency, and retention in
preparation for a particular evaluation such as the succeeding chapter exercises/activities.

Need to belong A motivation to bond with others in relationships that

What leads to friendship and attraction?
Proximity
Mere-exposure effect
Matching phenomenon
Physical-attractiveness
stereotype
Complementarity
Ingratiation
Reward theory of attraction
Passionate love
Two-factor theory of emotion Arousal its label = emotion.
Companionate love
What enables close relationships?
Secure attachment
Preoccupied attachment
Dismissive attachment
Fearful attachment
Equity
Self-disclosure
Disclosure reciprocity
provide ongoing, positive interactions.
Geographical nearness. Proximity (more precisely,
“functional distance”) powerfully predicts liking.
The tendency for novel stimuli to be liked more or rated
more positively after the rater has been repeatedly exposed
to them.
The tendency for men and women to choose as partners
those who are a “good match” in attractiveness and other
traits.
The presumption that physically attractive people possess
other socially desirable traits as well: What is beautiful is
good.
The popularly supposed tendency, in a relationship between
two people, for each to complete what is missing in the
other.
The use of strategies, such as flattery, by which people seek
to gain another’s favor.
The theory that we like those whose behavior is rewarding
to us or whom we associate with rewarding events.
What is love?
A state of intense longing for union with another. Passionate
lovers are absorbed in each other, feel ecstatic at attaining
their partner’s love, and are disconsolate on losing it.
The affection we feel for those with whom our lives are
deeply intertwined.
Attachments rooted in trust and marked by intimacy.
Attachments marked by a sense of one’s own unworthiness
and anxiety, ambivalence, and possessiveness
An avoidant relationship style marked by distrust of others.
An avoidant relationship style marked by fear of rejection.
A condition in which the outcomes people receive from a
relationship are proportional to what they contribute to it.
Note: Equitable outcomes needn’t always be equal
outcomes.
Revealing intimate aspects of oneself to others.
The tendency for one person’s intimacy of selfdisclosure to
match that of a conversational partner.
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Multiple choice.
1. A 10. A
2. A 11. A
3. A 12. A
4. A 13. A
5. A 14. A
6. A 15. A
7. A 16. A
8. A 17. A
9. A

Activity 3

Instructions: Read carefully and answer the following questions briefly and concisely.

1. Why is friendship a blessing?

Friendships are the foundation of what binds people all across the world together. We
knew the value of friendships and how we allowed them into our lives to help us to grow. True
friendships are a gift from God. It is a divine creation that was made for all living things,
something we can rely on with our secrets and turn to in difficult times, especially when we
have happy ones. Someone who protects you from harm and helps you make better decisions in
life.

2. What makes others feel that they do not have friends?

Social isolation and a lack of social relationships can lead to a person feeling they have
no friends. Being rejected or excluded by others can make someone feel unimportant as a
friend. Making or sustaining friendships can be challenging owing to shyness, anxiety, or other
social issues, making someone feel as if they do not have any friends. A lack of possibilities to
meet new people or being in a new place can lead to the feeling that one does not have any
friends. Unrealistic friendship expectations or standards can make someone feel as if they don't
have any pals.

3. When is a friend encouraging and understanding?

When a friend supports and motivates you to realize your goals and dreams. When
someone listens to you and expresses empathy for your circumstances, when they congratulate
you on your accomplishments and offer you support during trying times, when they accept you
for who you are and respect your boundaries, as well as when they help you see things from
several angles and offer helpful advice.

4. Do you believe a friend should share much but never intrude?

I believe that a friend should be willing to share their thoughts, emotions, and
experiences with you, while still respecting your limits. A friend should be open and honest
with you, but should also be mindful of your comfort level and refrain from oversharing. You
should be able to confide in a friend, but they should also respect your privacy and refrain from
intruding. In addition, a friend should be able to support and encourage you without being
overwhelming or insistent as well as they should be able to share with you and be there for you,
but should also respect your need for solitude and personal space.
5. Can you truly say you are a real friend? What makes you believe that you are?
Being there for a friend in a moment of need and providing support is essential to being
a true friend. Another crucial part of being a true friend is being trustworthy and sincere. Real
friendship requires attentive listening and genuine interest in the other person's life. To be a
real friends you have the ability to apologize and make amends when necessary. Being
someone whom others can rely on and trust to be there for them is essential to being a true
friend.
Additionally, consistency and reliability in providing emotional and physical support might
prove someone that you are a true friend. Being eager to offer advice and support without being
asked, being a good listener and offering considerate counsel, being able to be truthful with
them, even when it is difficult. Someone may perceive you as a true friend if you are someone
they can confide in and trust with their secrets.