EMOTIONS OF MEN CONSTRICTED BENEATH ITS PATRIARCHAL LABEL

   The emotions of men are underrated. Aren’t they? How many young boys know about the
well-being of mental health and healing emotional wounds?
The majority of people are still living in a society that is stereotypical and gender-biased. 
Most of the time being emotional is associated with women, let us consider the stereotypes
attached to men. As a woman, I respect every female out there.  The role of a woman as a
mother is irreplaceable, the pain of giving birth to the child is unbearable, the cramps of a
woman on her period are innumerable, leaving her house after marriage is great grief. The
status of a woman is magnificent and sensitive.   But today I want to share thoughts that are
to the bottom and people rarely talk about it.   I want to take a deeper dive into several
statements such as “real men have a beard”,  “ Real men don’t cry” are statements so
common that we don’t realize their damaging effects on the unconscious mind.
If you ask me I have come across men who are indeed emotional and sensitive. As a
human, you are supposed to be. I have seen men love a person unconditionally and seen
them shed tears of pain on the separation of their loved ones. Fathers who are never
expressive but who loved their child fondly, Men who are about to be a father and the
excitement is so overwhelming, Men who see their partners in pain and can empathize with
it. I agree the pressure of struggling in their life, Hunting for jobs, living alone, Starving,
saving every penny, Humiliation at the workplace, Body shaming, Mental Stress is no lesser
than anyone
We need to understand that as humans it is okay to share and express their emotions.
Speaking about the friendship and bond which is so highly focused on masculinity and
subjects attached to boy’s talk, how many men can truly say that they can easily share their
emotions with a guy next to him? That he felt bad and dripped his tear watching a love
drama. Many of them are feared of being judged if they express the feelings they have been
bottling up for over years. WE are raised in a society where man has to take the burden of
the entire family and that being unable to manage is a failure. Most of the cinema portraying
male friendship solely based on manhood where we can see a guy trying to share his
personal feelings and incidents and his friends are cheering up to let us have a shot and
party. Have a drink/smoke your problems will disappear. A lot of times they stay isolated
bearing the burden of their thoughts and troubles. This helplessness can further lead to
many mental health problems. It affects all the parts of their lives
When men were asked about mental health, it was discovered that when you feel lonely,
when you are alone, whenever you sit alone, whatever thoughts come to your head
favorable or negative, that is mental health.
Concerning men Men’s mental health differs from women’s. Mental health is concerned with
what men think in their spare time. When asked what they do when they are stressed or
anxious. The male sample population said that they prepare and are really concerned and
wounded if it does not work. We end up catastrophizing our thoughts, and breaking the cycle
is difficult. It's more bothersome at night, making it harder to sleep peacefully. Seeing films,
seeing stand-up comedians, and listening to music were employed as coping mechanisms.
They prefer to share with friends, although they are frequently busy and only communicate
their emotions when they are accessible.
However, it is tough to explain our actual emotions, and most people are unaware of what is
going on in our personal lives.
            Men are supposed to be brave and always winning has set unrealistic expectations. 
Whether it is a physical fight or emotional trauma- our surrounding believes that they will
manage and don’t need assistance. Raising this mindset has made it difficult for them to
seek help. Understand whether you win or fail hundred times you are brave already. You are
respected and your emotions have value. You just need to surround yourself with the right
people who will not embarrass you for making your own choices. Friends who will not offer
you a drink or a joint but will rather hug you and tell you how can we get over it? How can I
support you while you are hustling in your life? It's completely okay to seek help, to seek
support. We are humans and that’s what being interdependent is being human.
Being kind to everyone around and having a friend or loved one who can feel free and safe
to express their moments and memories with you is always better than cribbing alone. So
next time if you come across a man being a stay-at-home parent, grooming and doing skin-
care videos, following his passions, and expressing his platonic affection appreciate them for
being their true selves. Initiate them to reach out anytime they want your help and support
them in their sole decision to take a stand for themselves.