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CHAPTER 7: Communicating Closeness
MULTIPLE CHOICE
1. ________ refers to the routine behaviors and strategies partners undertake to help ensure that their
relationship will continue.
a. Capitalization c. Intimacy process model
b. Relationship maintenance d. Support
ANS: B DIF: Easy REF: How Communication Promotes Intimacy
TOP: How Communication Promotes Intimacy: Relationship maintenance
MSC: Factual
2. You know your partner has been studying all day for an exam and won’t have had time to cook supper,
so you pick up some takeout on your way home from work. Your behavior is an example of:
a. empathy. c. relationship maintenance.
b. capitalization. d. intimacy process model.
ANS: C DIF: Easy REF: How Communication Promotes Intimacy
TOP: How Communication Promotes Intimacy: Relationship maintenance
MSC: Applied
3. The intimacy process model is important because it draws attention to:

a. how support can sometimes be costly because it involves vulnerable disclosures.
b. capitalization and support processes in relationships.
c. how the amount of disclosure in relationships is important.
d. how partner responses to disclosures determine whether the experience is rewarding.
ANS: D DIF: Difficult REF: How Communication Promotes Intimacy
TOP: How Communication Promotes Intimacy: Intimacy process model
MSC: Factual
4. According to the intimacy process model:

a. factual disclosures provide greater opportunities for intimacy than emotional disclosures.
b. motives, needs, goals, and fears affect how partners interpret one another’s behaviors.
c. feelings of being understood, validated, and cared for are determined by one’s attachment
history.
d. responses to disclosures are unrelated to intimacy development.
ANS: B DIF: Medium REF: How Communication Promotes Intimacy
MSC: Factual
5. Petula’s mother has a terminal illness and she is not expected to live more than a few weeks. Petula
just placed her in hospice. Petula told her romantic partner, Sarah, that she felt guilty and that she felt
she was abandoning her mother. Sarah responded by saying, “Well, everyone has to die sometime.”
What perspective from your text helps us understand Sarah’s response?
a. intimacy process model c. self-expansion model
b. attachment theory d. capitalization
ANS: A DIF: Medium REF: How Communication Promotes Intimacy
MSC: Applied
6. Ivan’s father had a stroke and is now living with Ivan’s sister. Ivan told his wife, Ann, that he felt
guilty that his sister had to bear the burden of caring for their father. Ann responded by saying, “Well,
maybe we can help pitch in for some of the extra groceries.” What perspective from your text helps us
understand Ann’s response?
a. intimacy process model c. self-expansion model
b. attachment theory d. capitalization
MSC: Applied
7. You have been under a great deal of stress at work for the past few months. You tell your partner about
your concerns. Your partner responds by saying, “It sounds like this is really difficult for you to
handle.” What kind of response has your partner made?
a. invalidation c. invisible support
b. empathy d. active-constructive
ANS: B DIF: Easy REF: How Communication Promotes Intimacy
TOP: How Communication Promotes Intimacy: Empathy MSC: Applied
8. Adnan has had a tough day at work and his partner, Georges, listens to him complain, makes sure that
Adnan eats a good meal, and gets to bed early. The next day, Adnan tells Georges that he wishes
Georges was more supportive about his work problems. What is the most likely explanation for
Adnan’s comment to Georges?
a. Adnan views Georges’ responses through an interpretive filter.
b. Georges views Adnan’s responses through an interpretive filter.
c. Georges failed to provide good social support to Adnan.
d. Adnan is the kind of person who simply complains a lot.
TOP: How Communication Promotes Intimacy: Interpretive filters
MSC: Applied
9. Julian tells his wife, Danielle, “I’m worried that my brother might be drinking again.” She nods and
goes back to typing on the computer. Julian tries again, “I smelled alcohol on my brother last week,
and I really hope he hasn’t fallen off the wagon.” After a few seconds of silence, his wife turns to him
and says, “Hmm, right.” What is this an example of?
a. vulnerable disclosure c. interpretive filters
b. empathy d. disengagement
ANS: D DIF: Difficult REF: How Communication Promotes Intimacy
MSC: Applied
10. Asians and Asian Americans are ________ likely to disclose their needs for support to a romantic
partner because of concern that ________.
a. more; not doing so will cause embarrassment
b. more; the partner will value them less if they do not
c. less; doing so will burden the partner
d. less; it might be interpreted as disengagement
ANS: C DIF: Medium REF: How Communication Promotes Intimacy
MSC: Factual
11. Studies by Aron and colleagues suggest that couples who engage in ________ activities together tend
to experience increases in relationship satisfaction and communication.
a. cooperative c. trust-building
b. passionate d. novel
ANS: D DIF: Easy REF: Maintaining Intimacy
TOP: Maintaining Intimacy: Shared activities: Self-expansion model
MSC: Factual
12. Which types of shared-couple activities have been shown to increase relationship satisfaction and
communication?
a. outdoor c. novel
b. trust-building d. pleasant
ANS: C DIF: Easy REF: Maintaining Intimacy
MSC: Factual
13. Jaswinder has been in a relationship with Sukhdip for about 2 years; they have set up a joint bank
account and have bought a house together, and Jaswinder has taught Sukhdip how to ski and has
introduced her to his hobby of photography. What model or perspective best explains these behaviors?
a. self-expansion c. social support
b. intimacy process model d. capitalization
ANS: A DIF: Easy REF: Maintaining Intimacy
MSC: Applied
14. You design an experiment where half the couples go on weekly dates and do activities that they find
exciting and novel (e.g., cooking class, skydiving) and the other half go on weekly dates and engage in
activities that they typically enjoy (e.g., movies, dinner). What prediction do you make about the effect
of this experiment on their relationship satisfaction?
a. The two groups should have the same satisfaction at the end of the study because they are
both engaging in pleasant activities.
b. The couples in the novel and exciting group should have higher relationship satisfaction
because they are self-expanding together.
c. The couples in the pleasant activities group should have higher relationship satisfaction
because they are not imposing certain activities on each other.
d. The couples in the pleasant activities group should have higher relationship satisfaction
because they are self-expanding together.
ANS: B DIF: Easy REF: Maintaining Intimacy
MSC: Conceptual
15. Studies conducted to test the self-expansion model proposed by Aron and colleagues suggest that:
a. even conflict, if it is sufficiently arousing and frequent, can improve relationships.
b. engaging in novel and arousing activities can counteract the “typical honeymoon then
years of blandness pattern” that tends to happen as relationships develop.
c. self-expansion is more important than other-expansion early in relationships.
d. arousing activities must also be self-expanding for relationships to be maintained.
ANS: B DIF: Medium REF: Maintaining Intimacy
MSC: Factual
16. Which of the following is true?
a. Self-expansion only occurs in the context of relationships.
b. Engaging in exciting activities, even unpleasant ones, will always enrich relationships.
c. In the early stages of self-expansion, relationship satisfaction is mostly derived from the
shared activities that are novel and exciting to at least one member of the couple.
d. Engaging in shared pleasant activities is not as self-expanding as engaging in shared novel
activities.
ANS: D DIF: Medium REF: Maintaining Intimacy
MSC: Factual
17. Over the course of the semester, your friend Samantha meets someone and falls in love. From the
self-expansion perspective, what changes can you expect to observe in Samantha?
a. She will be more likely to share good experiences with her new partner.
b. She will feel less effective in her schoolwork because she will be spending more time with
her new partner.
c. She will have a richer sense of her own identity.
d. She will engage in fewer new activities because she will be building intimacy with her
new partner.
ANS: C DIF: Medium REF: Maintaining Intimacy
MSC: Applied
18. Your friend Mia is in a bad spot in her 5-year relationship with Lee. She finds it boring and complains
that she never does anything new, and she doesn’t feel particularly attracted to Lee anymore. Given
this information, which of the following is the most credible explanation for why Mia is dissatisfied?
a. Mia’s CLalt is higher than her CL, and so she is likely to be unhappy with Lee.
b. Because their relationship is predictable, Mia’s attachment behavior system doesn’t get
activated, and so Lee never has the opportunity to provide her with a sense of security.
c. Lee’s outcome is higher than Mia’s outcome, and so she feels underbenefited and
therefore unhappy.
d. Mia and Lee are only engaging in pleasant activities (e.g., going out to dinner together,
going to a movie), and so self-expansion opportunities (and the associated pleasure) are
limited.
MSC: Applied
19. Self-expansion theory provides an explanation for:

a. why relationship satisfaction declines over time.
b. why people prefer predictability in their relationship.
c. mate selection.
d. why people stay in a relationship that is not particularly satisfying.
MSC: Conceptual
20. Mohinder offers to help Sally study for her exam. Sally tells Mohinder she does not appreciate his
offer and wonders if Mohinder thinks she is not capable of studying on her own. Mohinder, surprised
by her response, angrily retorts that she can just go ahead and fail then! An angry and critical argument
ensues that lasts for a half hour. Which of the following is most true about this situation?
a. Sally is insecure about her abilities.
b. Sally would have benefited more if Mohinder had washed the dishes to give Sally more
time to study.
c. Mohinder’s offer was not motivated by a desire to help Sally.
d. Mohinder was trying to offer emotional support to Sally.
ANS: B DIF: Difficult REF: Maintaining Intimacy
TOP: Maintaining Intimacy: Social support: Visible versus invisible support
MSC: Applied
21. What is social integration?

a. when people acquire resources, enrich their identities, and elaborate on what they know
via their close relationships
b. when people respond positively to their partners’ disclosures of positive news
c. when people have a high number of social ties and connections
d. when people take on aspects of their partners’ identities as their own
TOP: Maintaining Intimacy: Social support: Social integration
MSC: Factual
22. Your roommate is studying for a big final exam. You notice that she is anxious, so to help out you
decide to wash all the dinner dishes, even though it is her turn. What kind of support is this?
a. emotional support c. active-constructive support
b. invisible support d. passive-constructive support
MSC: Applied
23. Lisa is in the middle of studying for four final exams and feels a great deal of stress. Her partner, Alex,
decides to help more around the house by doing the dishes and cooking dinner more often and mowing
the lawn; however, Lisa does not notice that Alex has stepped up because she is too busy studying for
finals. According to the textbook, Alex is providing:
a. emotional support. c. accepted support.
b. visible support. d. invisible support.
MSC: Applied
offers to help quiz her on some of the material. According to the textbook, Alex is providing:
a. emotional support. c. accepted support.
b. visible support. d. invisible support.
MSC: Applied
is trying to decide how best to help: he could do more around the house by doing the dishes and
cooking dinner more often and mowing the lawn, or he could offer to help quiz her on some of the
material. What should Alex do, and why?
a. Alex should offer to help quiz Lisa on the material so that she knows it really well in time
for her exam.
b. Alex should offer to help quiz Lisa on the material because it is clear she cannot handle
the situation on her own.
c. Alex should do more around the house because Lisa is likely to notice and appreciate
everything he is doing for her.
d. Alex should do more around the house in a way that Lisa won’t notice so that she won’t
feel like she cannot handle the situation on her own.
MSC: Applied
26. Your partner is dealing with an upcoming important deadline at work. What is the best way for you to
support him during this stressful time, and why?
a. You should provide emotional support to bolster his self-esteem.
b. You should provide practical support to allow him to focus on his work.
c. You should provide visible support so that he knows you care for and value him.
d. You should provide invisible support so as not to undermine his self-esteem.
ANS: D DIF: Difficult REF: Maintaining Intimacy
MSC: Conceptual
27. Niall Bolger and his colleagues (2000) conducted a study of law students taking the bar exam and their
partners. Which of the following is true?
a. Law students had the best adjustment (i.e., more positive mood) when they perceived
support from their partners.
b. Law students were most satisfied in their relationships when their distress level (anxiety,
depression, etc.) was the lowest.
c. Law students had the best adjustment when their partners provided more support than the
law students reported receiving.
d. Law students had the best adjustment when they perceived more support, but their partners
said they had not provided it.
ANS: C DIF: Difficult REF: Maintaining Intimacy
MSC: Factual
28. Visible support is to ________ as invisible support is to ________.

a. not helpful; helpful c. practical; emotional
b. known; unknown d. satisfied; dissatisfied
MSC: Conceptual
29. Sharing positive emotions will enhance our relationships and thus build resources (e.g., strong
relationships) on which we can draw in times of need. With what theory of relationships is this most
consistent?
a. self-expansion theory c. attachment theory
b. “broaden and build” theory d. self-verification theory
TOP: Maintaining Intimacy: Capitalization: Broaden and build theory
MSC: Factual
30. Selena is proud of herself for getting an article published in her school newspaper and has called her
boyfriend, Nick, to tell him the good news. Which of the following factors will most likely determine
whether Selena benefits from her attempt at capitalization?
a. the response she receives from Nick
b. how much time passes between the event and telling Nick about it
c. the level of intimacy in their relationship
d. whether Nick also shares his own good news with Selena at the same time
MSC: Applied
31. Carl told his wife, Meena, that he got a raise at work. Meena (although happy for Carl) did not say
much. What type of capitalization response is this?
a. active-constructive c. passive-destructive
b. active-destructive d. passive-constructive
MSC: Applied
32. Carl learns that Meena got a promotion. Carl said congratulations, but he then expressed his concern
that this promotion might actually increase her workload. What kind of capitalization response is this?
a. active-constructive c. passive-destructive
b. active-destructive d. passive-constructive
MSC: Applied
33. Shelly Gable and colleagues investigated how responses to partners’ disclosures of positive life events
are related to relationship satisfaction. Which of the following statements best describes the findings
from this line of research?
a. Active-constructive responses to partners’ disclosures are positively related to relationship
satisfaction.
b. Passive responses to partners’ disclosures are negatively related to relationship
satisfaction.
c. Destructive responses to partners’ disclosures are negatively related to relationship
satisfaction.
d. All of the above are true.
MSC: Factual
34. Your partner just got a promotion at work and shares the news with you. Which of the following
responses would be most likely to enhance your partner’s relationship satisfaction?
a. “That’s nice.”
b. “Does this mean you’re going to be working even longer hours?”
c. “That’s good to know; now we can go on that vacation next summer.”
d. “Wow, that’s fantastic! Let’s go out to dinner tonight to celebrate.”
MSC: Applied
35. Passive-constructive capitalization responses are negatively associated with relationship satisfaction.
Why might this be?
a. They are invisible, so there is no benefit of this type of response.
b. There is a problem with the reliability of the measure of passive-constructive responses.
c. The passive aspect of these responses overwhelms the constructive nature of the
comments.
d. These responses focus only on the positive emotion that the discloser experienced and not
enough on the positive nature of the good news.
MSC: Conceptual
36. According to Gable and her colleagues, passive-constructive responses to capitalization attempts are
associated with:
a. greater relationship trust. c. lower relationship intimacy.
b. greater relationship satisfaction. d. lower relationship trust.
MSC: Factual
37. Gertrude just got a new job. Her boyfriend, Andre, responded by saying, “I really hope I can find a
summer job. It is going to be hard this late in the semester.” What would you conclude about their
relationship from this exchange?
a. They are probably satisfied with their relationship.
b. They are probably dissatisfied with their relationship.
c. Andre is probably satisfied, and Gertrude is dissatisfied in the relationship.
d. Gertrude is probably satisfied, and Andre is dissatisfied in the relationship.
MSC: Applied
38. Following a transgression, becoming less angry and blaming is to ________ as acting warmly toward
your partner is to ________.
a. intrapersonal; interpersonal
b. interpersonal; intrapersonal
c. silent forgiveness; hollow forgiveness
d. hollow forgiveness; silent forgiveness
ANS: A DIF: Difficult REF: Maintaining Intimacy
TOP: Maintaining Intimacy: Forgiveness: Intrapersonal and interpersonal components
MSC: Factual
39. Danny and Stella were in therapy following the revelation of Stella’s relationship with another man.
Danny felt hurt, angry, and confused about his relationship and feelings for Stella, and Stella was
defensive about the affair and tried to hide the full extent of her relationship with the other man. What
stage of forgiveness do you think this couple is experiencing?
a. impact c. moving on
b. meaning d. reconciliation
TOP: Maintaining Intimacy: Forgiveness: Stage model of forgiveness
MSC: Applied
40. Lisa discovered that her wife lied about a bad investment that has cost them a good portion of their life
savings. Still unhappy about the situation, Lisa is asking many questions about what happened. What
stage of forgiveness do you think Lisa is experiencing?
a. impact c. moving on
b. meaning d. silent
MSC: Applied
41. According to definitions of forgiveness given in the text, which of the following is required for a
couple to experience forgiveness?
a. reconciliation with the transgressor
b. a promise from the offender not to re-offend
c. a decline in the partner’s motivation for revenge against the transgressor
d. an increase in emotional distance from the offending partner
TOP: Maintaining Intimacy: Forgiveness MSC: Factual
42. According to the text, ________ describes the transformation that occurs when people’s motivation to
seek revenge for hurtful actions diminishes and their motivation to pursue conciliatory courses of
action increases.
a. invisible support c. forgiveness
b. intimacy d. capitalization
TOP: Maintaining Intimacy: Forgiveness MSC: Factual
43. Brad and Jing-Mei have been married for several years. Recently Brad discovered that Jing-Mei had a
brief affair. Which of the following will NOT increase the likelihood that Brad will forgive Jing-Mei?
a. Brad believes Jing-Mei is fully in control of her actions.
b. Jing-Mei apologized and promised never to do it again.
c. Brad is generally an amiable, easygoing person.
d. Brad is extremely committed to Jing-Mei and their relationship.
TOP: Maintaining Intimacy: Forgiveness MSC: Applied
44. In response to a blunder John made, John’s wife, Carineh, said, “You are so dumb, John.” John got
angry, and Carineh quickly apologized. John told Carineh he forgave her even though he didn’t mean
it, as he was still angry with her. What type of forgiveness is John displaying?
a. hollow c. silent
b. partial d. intrapersonal
TOP: Maintaining Intimacy: Forgiveness: Intrapersonal and interpersonal components: Silent versus
hollow forgiveness MSC: Applied
45. In response to a blunder John made, John’s wife, Carineh, said, “You are so dumb, John.” John got
angry, and Carineh quickly apologized. John forgave Carineh even though he didn’t tell her so. What
type of forgiveness is John displaying?
a. hollow c. silent
b. partial d. interpersonal
TOP: Maintaining Intimacy: Forgiveness: Intrapersonal and interpersonal components: Silent versus
hollow forgiveness MSC: Applied
46. Regarding relationship maintenance processes in relationships, which of the following is true?
a. Invisible support is typically detrimental to relationships because it goes unnoticed.
b. Social scientists have not established sound procedures for observing social support.
c. Forgiveness does not require an apology.
d. Capitalization has more to do with the perception of behavior than with the actual
behavior.
TOP: Maintaining Intimacy: Social support | Maintaining Intimacy: Capitalization: Broaden and build
theory | Maintaining Intimacy: Forgiveness MSC: Factual
47. Which of the following about sex and relationship functioning is true?
a. A good sexual relationship cannot offset the effects of poor communication on
relationship satisfaction.
b. Sexual functioning in relationships tends to predict better relationship satisfaction.
c. Relationship quality has little or no effect on later sexual functioning.
d. Sexual frequency is more strongly linked than sexual satisfaction to relationship quality.
TOP: Maintaining Intimacy: Sex and physical intimacy MSC: Factual
48. Which of the following about sex and relationship functioning is true?
a. If one partner perceives that his or her mate is engaging in sex to avoid adverse outcomes
(e.g., to prevent the partner from losing interest in the relationship), this tends to be
detrimental to relationships.
b. Sexual frequency is more strongly linked than sexual satisfaction to relationship quality.
c. Relationship quality has little or no effect on later sexual functioning.
d. The association between sexual satisfaction and global relationship satisfaction is
reciprocal.
ANS: A DIF: Medium REF: Maintaining Intimacy
49. Considering the research on sex and relationships discussed in your text, who is most likely to end
their relationship over a 12-month period?
a. men with high sexual satisfaction
b. women with low sexual satisfaction but high sexual frequency
c. men with low sexual satisfaction
d. men with low frequency of sexual activity but high sexual satisfaction
TOP: Maintaining Intimacy: Sex and physical intimacy MSC: Conceptual
50. Suzy and Wei-chin report a great sex life but poor communication with each other. What would we
expect about Suzy and Wei-chin’s relationship satisfaction?
a. Although the sex is good, their poor communication likely means they are dissatisfied in
their relationship.
b. Because sex is more important for men, Wei-chin is probably satisfied, but because
communication is more important for women, Suzy is likely dissatisfied.
c. Because they have a good sex life, they likely have a satisfying relationship.
d. Their good sex life would only contribute to their satisfaction if they also had good
communication, so neither would be associated with their relationship satisfaction.
ANS: C DIF: Difficult REF: Maintaining Intimacy
TOP: Maintaining Intimacy: Sex and physical intimacy MSC: Conceptual
ESSAY
1. Describe the intimacy process model.
ANS:
Researchers Reis and Shaver viewed the process of everyday exchanges between partners as
contributing to or interfering with the development of intimacy. From the perspective of this model, an
individual makes a disclosure to her or his partner, the partner perceives the disclosure and responds,
and the response leads the individual to develop beliefs about herself or himself and the relationship.
Appropriately timed disclosures that are emotional rather than factual and interpreted by and
responded to positively (e.g., with understanding and validation) by the partner build a sense of trust,
understanding, and intimacy.
DIF: Easy REF: How Communication Promotes Intimacy

MSC: Factual
2. How are sexual and relationship satisfaction related?
ANS:
There is a positive relation between sexual and relationship satisfaction. Studies show that sexual
functioning predicts the quality and stability of relationships, and better relationships and
improvements in relationships also predict better sexual functioning. Although this evidence might
lead us to conclude that sexual functioning in relationships and global perceptions about relationship
quality are reciprocally linked, no data, to date, have supported this conclusion.
DIF: Medium REF: Maintaining Intimacy

3. What is invisible support, and why might it be more beneficial than visible support?
ANS:
Invisible support is support that is provided by a partner but goes unrecognized by the recipient. This
would most likely take the form of tangible support, such as taking the car in for servicing when
needed, offering to bring a drink for a partner who is studying, or perhaps taking over household
chores without bringing the support efforts to the attention of the recipient. Invisible support might be
more beneficial than visible support in certain instances, such as when the recipient is facing a specific
situational stressor. Visible support may come with a cost to the recipient, such as making him or her
feel obligated to reciprocate the support, undermining his or her feelings of competence to deal with
the stressor, or perhaps feeling as though the partner disapproves of his or her methods of dealing with
the stressor. Thus, providing support that allows the recipient to marshal his or her own resources
without undermining his or her ability to cope—invisible support—may be a more effective strategy
than offering visible support.
DIF: Easy REF: Maintaining Intimacy

MSC: Conceptual
4. You go on a local television show to promote your new research study on social support. The
interviewer asks, “Why do you need to study social support? Isn’t it simple: Being supportive is
better?” How do you respond to her comment, referring to specific research findings on support
presented in the text?
ANS:
Although perceptions that others are available and supportive are beneficial, there are some
counterintuitive findings. It appears that support received in the context of specific stressors can be
detrimental for adjustment. For example, women in a weight-loss program were more likely to succeed
if their husbands were told to be as uninvolved as possible, heart attack sufferers recover more slowly
when they receive more support from their relationship partners, and law students who perceive more
support than was provided by their partners tended to have poorer emotional adjustment in the days
leading up to the bar exam.

MSC: Conceptual
5. Your partner is dealing with an upcoming important deadline at work. What is the best way for you to
support him during this stressful time, and why?
ANS:
Try to provide invisible support, that is, don’t draw attention to the support you’re providing. For
example, you might take over your partner’s household chores. This type of invisible support has been
shown to be more beneficial than visible support (of which your partner would be aware) when the
recipient is facing a specific situational stressor—such as your partner’s deadline. Provide invisible
support so as not to undermine your partner’s self-esteem: if you provide visible support, your partner
might perceive that you don’t think he is competent to deal with the work deadline, or that you
disapprove of how he is dealing with it. Further, visible support might make your partner feel
obligated to reciprocate the support in the future. Thus, providing support that allows your partner to
marshal his own resources, without undermining his ability to cope, by offering invisible support
would be the best strategy.

MSC: Applied
6. Meg and Jian have been married 10 years and both feel generally dissatisfied with their marriage.
Although they still get along fine and spend lots of time together, both feel that their relationship and
their lives in general are rather flat. From a self-expansion perspective, give two potential
interpretations of what the problem might be.
ANS:
First, they have been together for quite some time, so the relatively automatic process of learning
about each other and incorporating each other’s resources and identities, which is inherently exciting
and satisfying, is no longer occurring. Second, they may not be engaging in shared expanding and
novel activities together. Thus, they are no longer expanding the self, and the pleasure that results from
self-expansion is not present to be associated with the relationship or with the partner.
DIF: Difficult REF: Maintaining Intimacy

MSC: Applied
7. Your friend Humpreet asks you what she can do to put the “spice” back into her 2-year relationship
with Tasha. She says the two of them get along fine, but the relationship seems to be routine compared
to when they first started dating. From a self-expansion perspective, what suggestion(s) would you
give Humpreet, and why?
ANS:
At the beginning of their relationship, Humpreet and Tasha spent a lot of time learning about each
other and incorporating each other’s resources and identities. These activities are inherently exciting
and satisfying; now that they know each other, this is no longer occurring. Short-term and long-term
studies have shown that engaging in novel activities with one’s partner increases relationship
satisfaction. Therefore, I would suggest to Humpreet that she and Tasha may want to engage in
expanding activities together so that the pleasure that results from self-expansion will be associated
with the relationship or with the partner. These activities should be something that both Humpreet and
Tasha would consider “exciting” (e.g., rock climbing) and not only pleasant (e.g., gardening).

MSC: Applied
8. How does the self-expansion model help us explain the deterioration of relationship satisfaction?
ANS:
In the early stages of a relationship when romantic partners are getting to know each other, they pass
through a stage of automatic self-expansion, learning about the other person, taking on aspects of each
other’s identities, and sharing resources, activities, and ideas. This process of relatively automatic
self-expansion is pleasurable and is associated with the excitement and enjoyment of developing a new
relationship. These opportunities for automatic self-expansion decline as the relationship progresses.
At this later stage in the development of the relationship, feelings may even out, producing fewer highs
and lows. If the couple engages in shared, novel, exciting, and self-expanding activities together, their
relationship satisfaction could be bolstered. However, if they do not work to keep their relationship
new and exciting, they are likely to experience a decline in relationship quality because self-expanding
opportunities have been lost.

MSC: Conceptual
9. Anthony has been struggling with the decision to return to school to become an architect or to continue
in his high-paying but very dissatisfying job. He decides to talk to his wife, Mei, about the problem.
He tells her, “Mei, I know it would be tough financially, but I’m thinking about going back to school
to become an architect. What do you think?” Define “empathy,” and provide an example of what Mei
could say in response that would reflect empathy.
ANS:
Empathy is the ability to accurately sense another person’s thoughts and feelings. An example of what
Mei could say that would reflect empathy is, “I know you’ve been feeling unhappy with your job, but I
wonder if the idea of going back to school worries you.”
DIF: Easy REF: How Communication Promotes Intimacy

TOP: How Communication Promotes Intimacy: Empathy MSC: Applied
10. Compare and contrast the processes of social support and capitalization and how they are related to
relationship quality.
ANS:
Although similar in that each involves a process of self-disclosure by one partner to another, and
interpretive filters are likely operating in both cases, capitalization involves the disclosure of good
news or positive experiences, and social support involves the disclosure of distressing news or worries.
Responses to capitalization attempts or bids for social support are both important for relationship
satisfaction; a partner’s responses characterized by interest, warmth, and caring are positively related
to relationship satisfaction. However, there may be situations in which social support is not seen as
beneficial, such as in the context of specific stressors, and may undermine a recipient’s own sense of
self-efficacy. As of yet, there is no evidence that active-constructive capitalization responses can be
detrimental to relationships or to individuals.
DIF: Difficult REF: Maintaining Intimacy

TOP: Maintaining Intimacy: Social support: Visible versus invisible support | Maintaining Intimacy:
Capitalization: Broaden and build theory MSC: Conceptual
11. Explain how the four capitalization responses to a positive partner disclosure are related to relationship
intimacy.
ANS:
Active-constructive responses are associated with higher levels of intimacy in the relationship, even
after taking into account the way the partner is perceived to respond to negative events in the
relationship. In contrast, destructive responses (whether active or passive) are associated with lower
levels of intimacy in the relationship. Interestingly, passive-constructive responses are also associated
with lower levels of intimacy in the relationship—it seems that the passive part of these types of
responses overshadows the constructive part.

MSC: Factual
12. Cassandra’s co-workers celebrate her birthday by taking her to a spa for a manicure and pedicure
instead of working in the afternoon. She tells her wife, Patricia, all about the outing. What might
Patricia say or do that would represent the 1) active-constructive; 2) active-destructive; and
3) passive-destructive capitalization responses to Cassandra’s disclosure?
ANS:
1) active-constructive: Patricia would be enthusiastic and happy for Cassandra, and she would say
something to show that, such as “What a great day!” or “That sounds like a really nice thing for your
colleagues to do.” 2) active-destructive: Patricia would say something to undermine Cassandra’s
enjoyment of the day, such as “You are going to be even more behind with your work now that you
took the afternoon off.” 3) passive-destructive: Patricia would say little and would appear uninterested
in Cassandra’s good news.

MSC: Applied
13. Describe the stage model of forgiveness developed by Gordon and Baucom (1998).
ANS:
In the impact stage, partners learn of the transgression and recognize the effect on their relationship.
Partners have strong emotional reactions such as anger, hurt, and confusion. The transgressing
partner may also experience strong emotional reactions but will likely engage in some form of damage
control. In the meaning stage, the partner tries to work toward some understanding of what happened
and why to gain a sense of control and predictability. In the moving on stage, there is some restoration
of trust and positive feelings; feelings of forgiveness could be expressed to the transgressing partner.
Steps may be taken toward restoring the relationship; however, reconciliation is not necessarily a part
of the forgiveness process.

MSC: Factual
14. Brad and Jing-Mei have been married several years. Recently Brad discovered that Jing-Mei had a
brief affair. The text describes four factors that increase the likelihood of forgiveness following a
relationship transgression. Which of these factors might apply in Brad and Jing-Mei’s relationship?
ANS:
First, Brad would be more likely to forgive Jing-Mei if he is generally an amiable, easygoing person; if
he is emotionally stable, empathic, and agreeable; or if he has a secure attachment style. Second, Brad
would be more likely to forgive Jing-Mei if she apologized and promised never to do it again—as long
as he perceived that her apology was sincere enough. Finally, Brad would be more likely to forgive
Jing-Mei if he is extremely committed to her and their relationship, or if he is dependent on the
relationship and feels he has no good alternatives. The last factor is unlikely to apply in Brad and
Jing-Mei’s relationship: that is, more minor transgressions are more likely to be forgiven than more
severe acts. Given that infidelity is a fairly severe transgression, this factor decreases the likelihood
that Brad will forgive Jing-Mei.

TOP: Maintaining Intimacy: Forgiveness MSC: Applied
15. The textbook authors discuss five specific strategies a couple can use to keep their relationship healthy
and strong. Describe how interpretive filters (part of the intimacy process model) can influence social
support provision, capitalization, forgiveness, and sexual satisfaction.
ANS:
Our partner’s interpretive filter affects how he or she chooses to respond to our disclosures; perhaps
more important is the interpretive filter that comes between our partner’s response and our tendency to
experience that response as validating, understanding, and caring.
Social support: When support is offered, its effectiveness seems to depend not so much on whether the
support was well intended but, rather, on whether it makes the partner feel capable, competent, and
free from any obligation to reciprocate.
Capitalization: How we perceive our partner’s response to our positive disclosures affects our
relationship satisfaction; only responses that are perceived as active-constructive are linked to higher
relationship intimacy.
Forgiveness: Partners tend to adopt biased perspectives about the transgression: the victim perceives
the transgression as “larger” than does the offender. If the offender apologizes, this increases the
likelihood of forgiveness, but only if the victim perceives the apology to be sincere enough.
Sexual satisfaction: If a partner in an established relationship engages in sex to avoid adverse
outcomes (e.g., to avoid conflict, to prevent the partner from getting upset, to prevent the partner from
losing interest in the relationship), the relationship is more likely to dissolve. More relevant to
interpretive filters, this is also true for the partner’s perception that the mate is engaging in sex to avoid
undesirable outcomes (whether or not he or she actually is).
DIF: Difficult REF: How Communication Promotes Intimacy | Maintaining Intimacy

TOP: How Communication Promotes Intimacy: Interpretive filters | Maintaining Intimacy: Social
support | Maintaining Intimacy: Capitalization: Broaden and build theory | Maintaining Intimacy:
Forgiveness | Maintaining Intimacy: Sex and physical intimacy
MSC: Conceptual
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slag f’rdiend, één middag.. Hai skunnigde alles noàr ’t
buiteland.… hai hep d’r wacht, tut ie onster mi de pet
in de ooge heb sitte sien!.…
—Je most d’r je stroopbek moar houe, woedde Dirk

tegen Grint, jai.… jai!.… ’r sit d’r gain oasem nie soo
goekòòp aa’s jai in Duinkaik.… en bestige grond da’
die vent hèp … swoare en lichte.… alles d’r aife
bèstig … god’s kristus!.. aa’s d’r onse de half soo
waa’s gaf ik d’r main pink veur … moar da rooit nà
niks.…
Dirk gifte zich uit. Hij hield van z’n brok grond, maar de
woede, dat ’t zoo belabberd was met afwatering en ie
toch óók niet heelemaal kon werken voor zich zèlf,
maakte ’m doodonverschillig. Hij gunde d’r geen korrel
zand van aan Piet of z’n vader.… En nou ’t zoo
beroerd ging, moest de boel maar waaien. Toch hield
ie jaloersch, heet-veel van ’n brokkie tuin voor zichzelf
en ’n wijf, als ie maar zoo iets ’n hoek had als Grint;
vet, vruchtbaar, doorwaterd, warmpies in ’t zonnetje
en licht.
—Nou jou lap is t’r àn de Beek ook bestig.… kermde

Grint.
—Ferrek jai!.… mesiek! mesiek!… aldegoar bluf! doar

motte wai àf.… of tie da’ nie weut hee?.… en kaik
erais wa’ doar van de oarepels komme is?.… die
hemme nou self poot!.… gain bloas!.…
—Wa’ ken main dat skele, jai beskait je land nie

hee?.… suinige jop!.. moar heè? jullie sien nou dâ die
mof van ’t stetjon d’r ook nie meer gaift.… aa’s
veertien sint ’t kilo.…
—Krik f’rdorie, riep Steyne verbaasd en angstig,—en

gister hep ie nog sestien sint betoald.… is die fint nou
heuldegoar daas?.… [159]
—Daa’s net, moar nou sien die da d’r te veul is.… nou
goan ie onster an ’t knibbele hee?.… wa motte d’r wai
mee?… aa’s je ’t nie goed vin.… la’ ie je stoan!.… Je
ken je bakke tug nie je kooters te suige gaife?
Dirk bleef stom, lurkte aan z’n pijp die niet halen wou..
zoog en blies blauw-duisteren nevel rond de herriënde
babbel-tronies.—
—Main nog ’n bakkie leut! riep Grint dof.—
—Daa’s kom naige!.… lachte stikkerig ingehouen de

lange bediende, nou.… die suipt gain borrels meer.…
die goan d’r mi’ sain neus allainig in de koffiewind.…
Dirk zoog behaaglijk reutelige haaltjes door z’n pijp,

uitkraterend zwarten walm en vonksterren.—Zure
stank broeide rond, dat de kerels kuchten.
—Main ’n brandewaintje mi’ suiker.… riep Rink schor,

zich schurkend met z’n reuzige schoften tegen
bankrug òp.—
—’n Bestige segoar! en ’n brandewaintje mi’ sonder

suiker.. mi’ suiker smoakt ie màin te lekker, ke’k nie
finte!
—Nou sullie wachte d’r, tû je weeròm bin,.… vast
hoor, schaterde een achter bankrug.… Seg Hassel.…
weneer sel je hooi overend sain?
—Da’ wee’k nie, bromde Dirk.
Ventersgroep drong uit donker doorrookte

boeghoogte, klompbonkerend voorbij kerels op
middenbank, naar kajuitstrap.—
Naast Grint bij den ingang, rumoerden stoeiige

krijschkerels die om waar streden, zoo hevig, dat
Klaas voorover moest bukken naar Dirk om te
verstaan.
—Wa’ sai je?.…
—Daa’k nie weut.… wanneer wai ’t hooi of’rend

hebbe! wai motte d’r nog één daik.… hooi is bestig.…
sit van onder ’n strootje in.… moar bestig hoor!
Zoon van schenkster, aan punt van de middenbank,

waar de kerels zaten te zuipkonkelen, drentelde nog
met koffie door de kajuit, ingebukt z’n kop op borst.
—Toe skiet op! main die koffie!.. barstte Dirk

ongeduldig uit, toen ie den kerel zag voorbij stappen
met zìjn bak dampende leut.— [160]
—Mo’ je van main nou nog wa’ mooie duiveke’s

hewwe?.. vroeg de venter achter bankrug, met halve
tronie er boven uit, oogen en neus strak gericht op
Grint.
—Niks gedaan!.… ik hep d’r net waa’k ankèn hee?.…
daa’s achtien bos!
—Mo’ je de mand pieterselie nog veur ’n kwart?.… mit

’n slokkie d’r op! krijschte uit de kajuitstrap, ’n rood-
bukkende kop, boven zwaar-tonnigen buik, van ’n
groenboer, schreeuwend naar ’n volgerookten
kajuitshoek. Met hakkenstommel rumoerde hij op
bovenste koper-beslagen tree.
—Mit ’n happie d’r òp is ’t daan, krijschte uit rookdiep

hellend achterend ’n stem terug en ’n paarsige
zuipkop op mager lijf, donkerde vóór, uit nevel van
boeghoek.
Bij de kajuitstrap bonsden ze tegen elkaar-op. Dikke

zuiper graaide centen òp van mageren zuiper, stopte
den kooper ’n mandje zoet-geurende pieterselie in de
knuist. Gretig slurpten ze hun borrel in, al klaargezet
op buffetplankje door schenkster, die ’r klanten kende.
—
—F’rek, daa’s nog hardstikke vol hier, bromde de

dikbuik, met ’n zwiersmak z’n glaasje op buffetje
bonzend. Strompelend wrong ie zich, snuivend en
hijgend, door eng trapje naar ’t hek.—Magere
pieterseliekooper stapte weer harkerig terug naar den
kleurig-duisteren boeghoek. Telkens dáár, ’n ander
nevelbrok van rooksfeer schemerde wolkerig òp,
tusschen lichtkrinkels en wit-vuur van zonnespuiende
open kijkgaten; weefde in diffuus licht, violet-
zilverende damp, flakkerend en geheimvol tintfijn
boven de donkere diepte van babbelkoppen,
rookmonden, haar en handen. Eén wolkerige sfeer
van rookglans rond duistere, in woelige diepte
verdompelde menschen.
Van rechts schreeuwde ’n vrouw, midden uit ’n kakel-

groep, naar den rookboeg tegen ’n kerel, ’t meest
voorop in den damp:
—Nee!.… da’ waa’s ’t snuitwerk van Henk.… hai

kwam ’n kiekie loere onder de trap hee?.… moar ’t
waa’s vast Henk de koalbuik!
—Henk de koalbuik? lachte de kerel, Henk?.… Heé

joa’ twee brandewaintjes mi’ suiker veur de doames …
en nóg twai [161]veur main aige hail hee?.… Nou
Oàf!.… ik seg je dàn.… da die Henk d’r sain aige
beeste la’ f’rhongere!—
—Nou, daa’s main ’n merk! de fint is d’r tuureluurs.…

in de eeuwighait in de loorem.…
—Daa’s klesseneere, daa’s klesseneere, bulderde de

vent uit rookhoek naar ’t vrouwengroepje, hai lait s’n
borrel glad.… hai likt s’n urretje op sàin menier.…
moar de fint.… ken d’r puur sain honde nie te vraite
gaife.… s’n aigeste beeste.. da benne d’r vaif!.…—
Hee.… hee!.… Dirk.… hai jai hoort da’ die
trekhonde.… van.… vàn Henk.. de koalbuik.… da die
d’r twai skoape van Jaanse van de Lemperwai hep
afmoakt.… se hebbe de baiste puur van malkoar
skeurt!
—Nou.… wa nou?.. schreeuwde Rink terug.… daa’s

tug krek eender.… al die honger-meroakels.… die
tuinders doar.… die Lemperhoek uit.… se hebbe d’r
vast selfers niks, te fraite.. Is d’r netuurlik, daa’s sullie
d’r honde snachts skiete loate! kenne sullie d’r aige
potje soeke.… en woest aa’s die krenge binne.… se
f’rskeure je.… van malkoar.… Bi-jai-’t-Hain!
—Nou ’t is d’r ’n klussie, blerde de breivrouw knorrig,

dwars door ’t roezemoezige gekakel van andere
schelle stemmen uit ’t vrouwentroepje,—’t is main ’n
klussie.… main baiste legge d’r vast.… en fraite d’r
aige vetje.—
—Wa’ sa’ je màin d’ran jokke.… laikt t’met of sullie ’n

botertonnetje inslikt hebbe, soo ke’ je hullie ribbe aa’s
hoepels deur d’r pins siene hainsteke.…
—Nou, zeurde een venter met geknepen schor geluid,

wai binne aldegoàr noakend!.… die beeste motte f’r
aige kossie skarrele.… se hebbe d’r gain fraite veur..
voed jai d’r noà hullie g’noege! vaif kaire t’met.… Se
benne d’r soo ellendig sterk.… en bloeddorstig.…
enne uithongerd.…
Van boeghoek waggelden de kerels òp, uit donkeren

achtergrond, en dwars door de groen-violette
wolksfeer, in ’t oogen-vuur der kijkgaten, sloegen de
lijven en handen van opstaande en gaande kerels,
een storm van lichtschokken, groot-donker in de
rooksfeer, die zacht gloei-kwijnde in dampigen flakker
[162]bòven de banken.—Meer kerels stapten op, met
d’r koppen zoldering rakend, sloegen door den walm
heen, waggelden naar voren, bij trapje, plots onder ’t
felle lichtgat uit kajuit-schemer, áángloeiend in
zengend zonnegoud. De boel bleef leeggeslemperd,
vermorst-suf op de banken staan.
Groote stad was in zicht, en van alle kant grepen de
venters hun goed bijeen, manden, pakken, kisten. In
groepjes, achter elkaar, drongen ze eng kajuitstrapje
af, en met koopwaar op nek en schouders, rumoerden
ze zich in woesten woel, los over ’t dek.
[Inhoud]
III.
Tusschen gewar van melkbooten aan ’t Westerdok,

stuurde kaptein de stadshaven in. Tegenover
„Tuinders Geluk”, waren al de drie andere booten,
binnengeankerd.
Over den dwars dooreengestapelden warrel van

kisten en manden sprongen de venters en vrouwen
heen en weer, in woeligen stroom, overgolfd door
snik-heete stanken. Van den „netoares” kreeg elk
veiler ’n papiertje in de handen gestopt, waarop stond,
hoe veel en van wie hij te vorderen had, bij teruggang
naar Wiereland.—
In gistenden warrel, als ’n opgejaagde horde begon

uiteenkluwing van kisten en manden, weggesjouwd,
verdragen op nekken en koppen.—
Aan den walkant, in ’t zomerochtendgloeien, wemelde

’t van licht-bruine handkarren, waar de verhuurder in
z’n zonnig-wit overhemd, bedrijvig doorheen
manoeuvreerde, met elk venter wat snaterend en
lollend. Vischvrouwen in kort-blauwe, roodbaaien
rokken, en witflodderige jakkies, kanaljeus-aanhalig
gekapt met de stijfbereepte haarkrullen, drongen,
woelden in gillerigen kakel en ratel tusschen de enge
karrengangetjes, opgejaagd, verhit snuffelend en
schetterend, vastgrijpend de groenboeren om
aardbeienwaar. Halsbloote Zeedijkers en
stadsventers, [163]met lawaaierige blousen, opgedirkt
in heeten lok en streel met rooie strikjes om blank
naakt, verdrongen de losse kijkers, paften vooruit, met
hun borstzwaren zwel van lijf, pronkend in ’t vroolijke
getinkel en gerammel van hun koralen snoertjes met
gouden slootjes, in glans begoten. Op één hoek
drongen samen, jodenmannetjes en jodenvrouwtjes,
schuchter-brutaal,bang-overmoedig tegelijk. Van de
boot àf, dromden, bonkten en zwoegden de venters,
botsend tegen elkaar op, in gejaagden loer, ieder naar
zijn huurkar. Telkens vàn hun plaats, joegen ze weer
naar de boot, rukten en bonkten hùn waar uit den
burcht van kisten, stormend in stortvloed terug, weer
tegen elkaar opbonkend met nieuwe bakken en
manden, dat ze verknelden tusschen hun eigen
vrachten. Woest krijschten de vrouwen en mannen,
die bakken of manden hadden gegrepen van anderen,
er niet meer verder mee wilden sjouwen.
—Hassel.. hier:.. Has.. selll!.. jou bakke!
—Bierbrouwèr!.. pak d’r an!
—Bier.. broùwèrr! schreeuwde een naast den eersten

krijscher, die ook ’n bak van dien venter had
losgewoeld,—pak-àn! jou bakke!
Tusschen de aangolvende massa, waar gloeiender
tempo van koortsige jacht en verkoophartstocht
doorheen zwol, ging woelender angst van niet-gauw-
genoeg bij hun markt te zijn. Zon laaide, priemde,
verzengde alles, sloeg in fellen kleurbrand de
golvende, wemelende scharrelmassa. En telkens
àndere kerels sjouwden atlas-vrachten àf, van de boot
naar hun karren, duwden in vloek en krijsch de
Zeedijkwijven en joodjes op zij, die brutaler en heeter
rond hun bakken en waàr opdrongen.—Eindelijk, na
de eerste ontkronkeling van kisten en sjouwers,
dobberden weer, met hebzucht-haat elkaar be-
venijnend, de koopsters rond de groenboeren.—Tuk
op aardbei, barstte er ’n heete dingdrift los, van allen
tegelijk, als één vloedstorm, één aanrukking van feros
jaagleven, brandend lawaai van stemmen, in de
klater-schroeiende zon, die begloeide de kleurkleeren,
de vruchten, en te zengen vlamde in de bakken.
Breed bejakte vischwijven; joodsche mummieïg
verdroogde groenteventertjes, [164]met broeistank van
zomersche zwoegmisere, verwalmend van d’r
geteisterde lijven; kruiers, leegloopers met loenschig
heeten oogstaar, venters en tuinders, woelden en
krioelden rond de boot en aardbei-bakken.—Uitpuil-
oogen gretigden overal waar vruchtjes òpgesjouwd
werden. Vraat-zuchtige monden beefden rood-wreed
en verwrongen van zenuwtrekken. Koop-hartstocht
gierde en raasde door den zonne-brand van poer en
scharrel. Van alle hoeken, nu manden en bakken
losgestapeld rondgingen, sloeg ’t vruchtenrood uit, ’t
gloeivuur van aardbei, tegen ’t blauwe hemelvuur van
smoor-heeten Juli-brand. Op koppen en ruggen, de
vruchten, sla, tuinboonen, aardappelen, doppers en
wortelen, werden versjouwd, en hitsender, helscher
joeg ’t schorre gekrijsch van kerels met verkeerde
bakken, door de losgewoelde groepen.
—Joap Kerredaik!—hier hain! donderde rauw in zwel

van drift, ’n stem.
—Vrouw Zeune!.… jai doar!!.. is d’r op kommende

wège!
—Vrouw Engels.… daa’s jou goed! mô jai da’ nie tù je

staike?
Rauw er doorheen brulde ’n venter, barstend van drift,

met verzenuwden zweetmond, z’n kop doortrokken
van bietrooie vlekken, in zwoeghitte:
—Gais Kerredaik kòm! of ik donder je bakke teuge de

grond.… ikke kèn hullie nie langerst hewwe! se benne
d’r swoàr aa’s ’n lokemetief!.…
—Gaa’-ais! Kerre.… dàik! bazuinde ’n ander tuinder,

in rauwen woesten krijsch, ingekneld tusschen
groenboeren en meiden. Vastgebeukt met loodzware
bakvracht, zat ie tusschen drie karren in, en wilder
krijschte hij om verlossing naar Kerredijk, die zèlf
praatjes verlolde met ’n Zeedijkster.
Wilder en ziedender stroomde ’n krioelbende langs en

òm hem zonder dat ie z’n eigen waar kon raken. Te
dansen van moordende drift stond ie, vloekend
bakken tegen buik en keel aangedrukt, z’n zweetkop,
zóó heet en rood-verzwollen, dat ’t leek of ie met z’n
tronie in ’n menie-pot gesmakt was.—
Bij hoeken en brokken was handel aan walkant al
begonnen. [165]Dirk had ’n bak of tien, niet te
gebruiken voor z’n klanten, verkocht aan ’n dikke
meid, die op z’n karkruk wiegeldijend en breed-uit d’r
zwiepende beenen, met mandjes zat te spelen.—
—Nou seg erijs blondje.… vleide ze zoetig-

Amsterdamsch, dat Dirk ’n huiver van wellust voelde
kruipen door z’n korpus, feur die daar as je d’r nou ’s
drie sint seit!.… drie pop de honderd!.… hai je dèn je
b’komst?
—Bi je bedwaild geep! donder moar op! he jòu neudig!

die vaif veur vier pop!.. gain duut minder!.. je ken d’r
bai main nie figelaire!.…
Dikke dij-meid zat onrustiger op karkruk te wiebelen.

Vòòr d’r neus zag ze Ka al, met ’r blanke jak wurmen
tusschen karren-kronkel, om naar Dirk toe te dringen.
Telkens keek ze van ’r zachten dij-wiebel òp naar Dirk,
die norsch-stom z’n rommel bonkend weer in de kar
terugschikte; rekende ze haastig uit, met mijmer-
oogen luchtblauw in, nàtellend op haar vingers en d’r
witte schort topfijn betingelend, hoe hoog dàn ieder
mandje kwam te staan. Eén dij, schort-omspannen,
drukte nu breed-uit op de kruk, onder plooiigen
wriemel en kreuk van rokken-spul. En telkens
aanhalig, met knipoogjes en zoetig lachje, probeerde
ze Dirk’s kijkers in te staren, geil, verliefderig.—
—Nou blondje.. toe noù!..
Vlak achter de meid opgedrongen, ademhaalde in

snurkerig gerucht, vuilneuzig zusje, dat toekeek,
bleekgoor en stil. En rond de karren schreeuwden
jochies en meisjes, liederlijk en vuil, als dolle duiveltjes
in schel getier, tusschen elk engtetje en doorgangetje
inkruipend en gierend. Van allen kant was nu de
koopwaar losgebroken en uitgestald; smoorvolle
karren als gloeiende karossen, bestapeld vóór den
wal, beschaterd, en beblakerd van zonnevuur; ’t rood
dat zengde, ’t oranje dat gloeide van hitte en ’t
losgestorte groen, woelzee van gewas en vruchten.
Hoog, in den dampenden gouddag, joelde en broeide
kleurleven en sjacher daar sàmen, in den geluiden
vermokerenden daver van zonne-begloeide stofstad.
Golfwild en steigerend, sloeg en beukte de heete
scharrel van vrouwlui en kerels dooréén.— [166]
Ontzaglijk, in ruwe reuzenmacht van dondergeweld,

zwel van krijsch en stemmenraas, schalden de
geluiden door de snikheete lucht. In grilligen drom,
wrongen de groenboeren tusschen de karren. Van
allen kant klonk gepingel, gekrijsch als van schrei en
lachstemmen, om geld, gèld. Toe- en afslag rumoerde.
In dreun en rhytmus schokten koopers áán,
verdwenen er weer, hier van elkaar geduwd, daar
weer bijééngebotst, verkolkt in passiestroom van
heeten sjacher, onder vloek en raas, tusschen
gedrang en hitte. Schooierende sjouwers en kruiers
wachtten, stoeiden met meiden in vuilen handgrabbel
naar rokkenspul.—Dirk was met z’n vette
schommeldame net afgehandeld. Ze had de bakken
gekregen en breed, voor d’r buik, schort omgevouwen,
werkte ze de kisten van de kar, terwijl hij geen vin
verroerde. Telkens drong ze tusschen de kar-engten
terug, sjouwde ze nieuwe vracht mee.—D’r zware kop
schudde, ’r stijf bereepte krullen schudden, ’r
oorbellen schudden, en wijder spande jakje òpen, bij
vet-blanken wellusthals. Met ’r ingeperst, naar voren
gebukt lijf, ’r breeë wiegende hangborsten op de
bakken gekneld, armen in breeden span om d’r vracht
uitgebogen, stapte ze zweetzwaar en snelademend
vóórt, op de kort-stevige beenen, dòòr de venters en
vrouw-stoeten heenzuigend; met d’r lijf teruggebonkt,
op zij gewaggeld, toch doorporrend, tot ze bij ’r eigen
kar, dood op en blazend, ’r boel kon neersmakken.
Dirk keek ’r na, loom-kalm. Dat waren de eerste

warme centen in z’n hand, lolde ’t in hem. ’n lekkere
markt.—.… kaike.… da waa’s net effe acht uur, da kon
t’met.… En nou had ie nog ’n lollige reperoatie.. mit de
maid.… ’n afsproàkie veur d’ aêre week.… Da’ gong …
’n vetje!.. lang nie mis.. Heere mejeepie! kaik! d’r
stong sai te haige!… bloas jai moar maid.… da’ mo’k
ook doen veur main kossie!.. kaik.… nou brenge de
kooters d’r nog bakke noà!.…
Overal onder de venters was bestiaal gestoei met

meiden; braakten vloeken en getier los, dierlijk en
broeierig. Tusschen het dondergeraas van groote
stad, ’t mokergeweld van bierkarren, van rijtuigen en
trem-jacht, schel geklinkel en gebengel, [167]bonkerde
de groote stadsscharrel, mokerde ’t havenhart. En
overal rondom, geklakker van paardhoeven op keien
in het barende roezemoes van kreten en schreeuwen,
in den ontwakenden ochtendwemel.—
Tusschen gedonder en gewarrel van melkbooten,

vrachtschepen en tuinders verder op, scharrelden de
venters, verhit in dollen woordstoei rond de meiden,
onder wellust-schater en vloek, verkoopend hun waar.
En de wijven, zinnen-dronken met d’r bevende
hartstochtmonden, hun felle oogen,—oogen vol van
liederlijk begeeren, rood van kanaljeuze passie-vlam,
—lieten zich bestoeien, soms èven in schijn-afweer
beproestend de knappe boeren van Wiereland, die
grepen en knepen in d’r blanke borsten, in d’r warme
lijven, d’r vette armen, gespannen en saamgesnoerd
in witte jakken, d’r schommel-dijen voluptueus
zwellend onder heet-rooie en blauwe rokken.—
Dol keken de kerels zich op dat blanke vleesch.

Dronken luisterden ze naar de tartende kanaljeuse
meidentaal, en gretig roken, snoven, dronken ze in
den zonnegloei, den zweetwasem van hun blanke
lijven, verblind en bezwijmeld door ’t hel-witte jakkies-
spel, de witte schorten, de rooie lintjes en
kraalsnoertjes, de lichte rokken en boezelaars,
zondoordoopt in felle helheid van barnend zomerlicht.
—
Telkens meer blauwe en rooie onderrokken zwierden

in uitschulpenden zwaai van de karkrukken naar de
boot. Fel gloeiden de kittelende, zwierslaande slootjes
op kralensnoertjes, om de varkenshalzen, en
felketsend, in verblindende hoogheid van begloeid wit,
dromden dan hier, dan daar, de jàk- en blousen-
meiden tusschen ’t vruchtenrood, ’t groen, tusschen ’t
geblaker en gezoem van gonzende, heete kleuren.—
Dirk zocht naar z’n kruier, want alle venters hadden

hun vasten man, die de kar duwde in den
zwoegenden ommegang rond hun stadswijk. Eindelijk
door ’n woeligen drom heen, zag Dirk zijn helper. ’n
Schreeuw, rauw, geweldig, ’n arm-pagaaiend gebaar,
nijdige veeg door de lucht bòven de koppen der
venters, en de kruier wurmde op ’m aan, tusschen ’t
gedrang. [168]
Langzaam hotsten en ratelden de karren weg van den

wal, met de opgestapelde, pronkende waar, de
grommende stad in, stad van gebarsten muren en
hooge huizen, in zonkleurigen gloei van gevelsteen en
beblakerde keien, brandende stad van ratelend
rumoer en gloeistoffige zonnigheid.—
Wijven met karren, armelijk vergeelde joodsche

vrouwtjes, en donkerkrulharige joodsche
groenteventertjes in mandrillig rad beweeg van
uitbuilenden mond, rimpelige voorkoppen en
vooruitgezwollen lippen, donker en harig,—bleven op
’n hoopje elkaar nog wat toeschreeuwen bij den wal,
met heete gebaren en kefferige schorre stemmen.
Zon moordde en zengde tusschen ze in, als

reuzebom, die hel vonkend schroot uitgeslingerd had
naar de, in goud-gloei gewiegde zonne-aárde,
toortswalmige hitte verschroeiend op karwanden,
vruchten en steenen. Alles stond in Juligloei,
dreunenden lichtval, goud en fel wit-vurig. En
hemeldom, strak, tusschen de huisblokken uit, boven
’t Westerdok, waar teerwalm zonnig rookte, barnde als
blauwvuur. Aan overkant, tusschen woeling van
melkbooten gloeide blauw, blauw van vaten.—
Vatengerucht, metaalhol, jolig en dartel klankte òp bij
bonzingen van karren, tusschen stadsgejoel. Uit de
heet-zonnige straatbrokjes in ’t verschiet, fel-begloeid
in brokkelige gevellijnen van pleister en rooden
baksteen, schetterde òp orgeldreun, kanaljeuze stem
van zonne-stad.—Langs den wal zwermden nog
treuzelende groenboeren van de andere booten,
tusschen melkvaten en karren. Eindelijk, ook dáár
ratelden de karren met de roode en groene furie van
vruchten, de stof-zonnende wijken in, verdwenen
langzaam kerels en waar om straathoeken en
pleinbochten, in ’t hartje van ’t gerucht-zwellende,
gloeiende en dreunende stads-leven.—
[Inhoud]
IV.
In den middag tegen vier uur, stond Dirk weer met z’n
kar aan „Tuinders Geluk”. Loom en doodop, sjouwden
de venters [169]aan, ieder uit ’n andere wijk. Om drie
uur had Dirk z’n kruier afgedankt, ’n daalder betaald,
was ie met al z’n klanten klaar; duizelig en vermoeid
van sjok in brandzon, zuchtend naar drank, in wat
kroegen hier en daar neergesmakt, en eindelijk ’n uur
later, op de boot aangeland. Nou had ie z’n duiten in
den zak, wel zeventig pop, die ie zwaar en warm
voelde proppen in z’n broek. Hij wou, moèst ’r wat
kwijt van. ’t Was ’n heete stroom van geldgrabbel, die
’m bedroesemde. D’r mòst wat gezopen, gezòpen.
Nou kreeg ie straks nog de laatste zending aardbei uit
Wiereland.—
—Tjonge! Tjonge!.… da most d’r moar gauw van

deur.. en dan hè je.. ’t end tug!.. de soàlige soaterdag-
middag.… enne de sondag!…, Bi-jai ’t Hain?—
Hij was de kajuit ingestapt, sukkelig, met handen in de

zakken ’t trapje af, vragend den kaptein, hoe laat hij
de aardbeisloep verwachtte.
—Die ken d’r t’met in ’n ketiertje sain … kaik op dek!..

de lui stoan d’r weer an de kant te dringe!.… kaik die
maide!..
—Wa sou ’t.… in ’t harretje van de groote hoal

hee?.…
Grimmig en nijdig op alles, had Dirk zich in den

hellenden boeghoek neergesmakt, languit z’n been op
’n bank, kop en schouders ingediept tegen ’n richel,
die ’m pijn priemde in den rug.—Even moest ie toch
adem scheppen. Hij zweette als ’n paard.—Z’n hemd
dreef van ’t nat en door z’n lichaam rilden koortsige
vloeiingen.
—Effe luiere.… veur da’ de bakke d’r ingoane, bromde

ie, se’k t’met wel leeg smaite.…—
Al meer kerels doken de kajuit in, jolig opgewonden,

lichtelijk beschonken en paf van hitte. Beemster, met
slaperige oogen en schorre spraak kwam op Dirk áán.
—Allo moàt!.. lolde Beemster, zware kerel, met

lupusneus zwerig afgevreten tot op wangplat,—nou
gaif jai d’r ’n urretje hee?—of.. of.. hai je d’r al de prins
sproke?
—Bestig! Hee Henk.… vaif!.… main brandewaintje!
Lange bediende schoof weer weg in ’t groezellicht van

trap-hol buffetje. [170]
Meer kerels dromden in en zwaar nevelde de kajuit, in

vaal-groenen rook, grijnzeriger, nu de kisten en
manden nog niet van de karren ingesmakt, hurrieden
op den vloer. Telkens donkerden reuzige schoenen,
broekspijpen, lijven, langzaam zakkend neer, uit ’t
licht-felle trapgat, schuifelden de kerels tusschen de
sombere vegen en zweverige warrel van rookmist. De
vrouwen, vermoeid en gebroken van hitte en zwoeg,
vielen als bezwijmden neer, achteruit op de banken.
Zwijnige grapjes zinlijkten wat kerels uit op ’n ventster,
die plat op ’r rug lag te snakken naar adem. ’n Paar
jolige half-beschonkenen drongen òp, maar met
rukken van d’r lompe beenen, trapten en snauwden ze
de kerels de bankrand af.
Is d’r dut ’n hette.… main goed.… brant d’r puur op ’t

laif.… zuchtte vrouw Zeune, donkere rokkenvracht,
klefferig en doorbroeid, van d’r heupen schuddend en
weer luchtigjes vasthakend om ’r vette middel.—
—Daa’s net! ikke sweet d’r aa’s ’n os hee?.… ik ken

d’r gain stap meer! vast nie!
—Pak ’n happie!.. Beemstra gaift ’n rondje!..

—Bestig, gretigde verhit, met uitgedroogde stem, de
brei-vrouw.
—En jai gele medààm? hep ie de klantjes beet had

hee?.. hep je d’r op gefigelaird.. mô jai ’n happie?
Gele medam bedankte, zat verschrompeld in ’n hoekje

te blazen, met ’r lange wollige mantelmouwen over ’r
vingers verzakt. Haar mond stuipte in zenuwtrekken.
Ze kon geen syllabe uitbrengen meer, òp van
smoorhitte en vermoeiing.
—En jai vrouw Zeune?
—Nou, wel twee, schraapte ze mannerig uit, enne.…

gaif d’r de gele medam ’n affekoatje.… an ’n boere
jònge hep sai ’n sussie dood!
Woeste schater barstte los, rochelend gelach, dat in

de rook-kajuit als schreistemmen verklonk.—Achter
dampgroen gierden de koppen, lichtten de
wellustmonden, flikkerden de oogen en verschoven
kramperig van heete pret, de lijven.—Achter
bankbeschot stampten boerenknuisten grof en
hamerhard, tegen ’t hout, in lol. [171]
—Wai selle d’r ’n affekoatje gaife.… Hee Henk!.. Klus

d’r es ’n aitje.. smait da’ hard-stikke vol mi
brandewain!.… en suiker.… en dan sel sai lurreke.…
hei! medam.… sing d’rais mee!
Enne.… se stonge.… doar op toeters te bloase..

Toe da’ nou waa’s doan
Kwam d’r ’n man veur main stoàn
Enne die sprak.. wil je rais goàn kniele?.…
Ikke wist d’r nie wa-àt te doene.…
Moar hai.… gaf main ’n soen.…
En sai.… wài rèdde hier.. sie.… ie.… le!..
Schor en valsch-rauw zwabberde z’n stem achter

rookwolkerige duisternis uit, en ’n demonische krijsch
van dronkemans-passie ronkte door z’n lied.…
—Daa’s nou ’n hails-maid.… rochelde z’n dronken

proets, dat als geschrei verdoften in de rook, en z’n
kop gloeide áán plots baardig en donker, in ’n zuig-
ophaal van z’n gouwenaar, die even roodvonkte en
sterretjes vervuurde.—
Klaas Grint bonkerde hakke-zwaar de kajuitstrap af,

met Rink achter zich aàn.—Daarachter nog drie
tuinders en ’n vrouw met ’n steekmuts, doodmager
met krokodillige, bruine kop-snoet, en valschen
oogenloer.
Rink scheerde de zoldering met z’n pofpet al liep ie

ingebukt met z’n kop.
—Krikemejenne!… daa’s s’n afferekòansche smoorte

hee?.. god hait de sege! moar nou bi’k tug t’met
deurmidde loope hee? zuchtte de reus, paf en
onmachtig neersmakkend op ’n bank. Met twee
handen tegelijk schuurde ie ’t zweet van z’n gezicht,
met ’n grauwlinnen zakbrok.
—Moei!.… moei!.… ’t sel wá’.… bromde Dirk, z’n pijp

nijdig uitblazend, dat donkergroene damp z’n kop
omstòòmde.—

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3. The intimacy process model is important because it draws attention to:

4. According to the intimacy process model:

19. Self-expansion theory provides an explanation for:

21. What is social integration?

28. Visible support is to ________ as invisible support is to ________.

1. Describe the intimacy process model.

DIF: Easy REF: How Communication Promotes Intimacy

2. How are sexual and relationship satisfaction related?

DIF: Medium REF: Maintaining Intimacy

DIF: Easy REF: Maintaining Intimacy

DIF: Medium REF: Maintaining Intimacy

DIF: Medium REF: Maintaining Intimacy

DIF: Difficult REF: Maintaining Intimacy

DIF: Medium REF: Maintaining Intimacy

DIF: Medium REF: Maintaining Intimacy

DIF: Easy REF: How Communication Promotes Intimacy

DIF: Difficult REF: Maintaining Intimacy

DIF: Easy REF: Maintaining Intimacy

DIF: Medium REF: Maintaining Intimacy

DIF: Easy REF: Maintaining Intimacy

DIF: Medium REF: Maintaining Intimacy

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—Je most d’r je stroopbek moar houe, woedde Dirk

—Nou jou lap is t’r àn de Beek ook bestig.… kermde

—Ferrek jai!.… mesiek! mesiek!… aldegoar bluf! doar

—Wa’ ken main dat skele, jai beskait je land nie

—Krik f’rdorie, riep Steyne verbaasd en angstig,—en

—Main nog ’n bakkie leut! riep Grint dof.—

—Daa’s kom naige!.… lachte stikkerig ingehouen de

Dirk zoog behaaglijk reutelige haaltjes door z’n pijp,

—Main ’n brandewaintje mi’ suiker.… riep Rink schor,

—’n Bestige segoar! en ’n brandewaintje mi’ sonder

—Da’ wee’k nie, bromde Dirk.

Ventersgroep drong uit donker doorrookte

Naast Grint bij den ingang, rumoerden stoeiige

—Wa’ sai je?.…

—Daa’k nie weut.… wanneer wai ’t hooi of’rend

Zoon van schenkster, aan punt van de middenbank,

—Toe skiet op! main die koffie!.. barstte Dirk

—Mo’ je van main nou nog wa’ mooie duiveke’s

—Mo’ je de mand pieterselie nog veur ’n kwart?.… mit

—Mit ’n happie d’r òp is ’t daan, krijschte uit rookdiep

Bij de kajuitstrap bonsden ze tegen elkaar-op. Dikke

—F’rek, daa’s nog hardstikke vol hier, bromde de

Van rechts schreeuwde ’n vrouw, midden uit ’n kakel-

—Nee!.… da’ waa’s ’t snuitwerk van Henk.… hai

—Henk de koalbuik? lachte de kerel, Henk?.… Heé

—Nou, daa’s main ’n merk! de fint is d’r tuureluurs.…

—Daa’s klesseneere, daa’s klesseneere, bulderde de

—Nou.… wa nou?.. schreeuwde Rink terug.… daa’s

—Nou ’t is d’r ’n klussie, blerde de breivrouw knorrig,

—Wa’ sa’ je màin d’ran jokke.… laikt t’met of sullie ’n

—Nou, zeurde een venter met geknepen schor geluid,

Van boeghoek waggelden de kerels òp, uit donkeren

Tusschen gewar van melkbooten aan ’t Westerdok,

Over den dwars dooreengestapelden warrel van

In gistenden warrel, als ’n opgejaagde horde begon

Aan den walkant, in ’t zomerochtendgloeien, wemelde

—Hassel.. hier:.. Has.. selll!.. jou bakke!

—Bierbrouwèr!.. pak d’r an!

—Bier.. broùwèrr! schreeuwde een naast den eersten

28. Visible support is to as invisible support is to .