KC O. CERILOS BSED 2-A GENDER & SOCIETY JAN.

17, 2024
Assignment:
Communicate. With I, being the most descriptive to 5, being the least descriptive of you, rank
the five languages according to:
(1) How you express your love to others.
1. Act of service
- I best express my love for someone through helping them in ways where they need
me even with the smallest of things. I couldn’t refrain favors from those I love
because I felt good to know that they also need me and my presence. But usually, I do
things willingly for them to show my love because I’m not very verbally expressive
of my feelings.
2. Time
- I also express my love through spending my time with them. Even though I’m not
verbally expressive about what I feel, I am very talkative around my family.
Whenever I go home from two to three weeks of staying here in Roxas City, I always
love spending time with my family because of the times I missed.
3. Touch
- I am also very touchy to those whom I feel comfortable with like my sister and
mother. I am also fond of kissing them on the cheeks out of nowhere or when I go
somewhere and I also like holding hands with them. I also kiss my father on the
cheeks to bid goodbye if I go back to Roxas because I don’t want him to feel isolated
and that I only kiss my mother and sister.
4. Gifts
- I also express my love through giving them gifts. When I had enough savings before,
I buy gifts for my mother and father, particularly t-shirts because they like having
something new to wear. I also feel good if they appreciate my gifts through wearing it
or something because it’s like they’re wearing my love.
5. Affirmation
- Giving words of affirmation makes me shy so I seldomly do that or none at all. Maybe
because, words like that are not really used in our house most of the time that is why I’m
not used to it.
(2) How you want to receive other’s love.
1. Act of Service
- As much as I want to express my love through being there for them, I also want to
feel their love through act of service. I really think it’s sweet for someone to willingly
do something for you even though it’s just small things. I really love it when I’m
cared by people whom I loved.
2. Affirmation
- Sometimes, actions are not clear if not explicitly said. It could raise confusions and
misunderstandings. Affirmations are really sweet and it brings people together
because of the openness of feelings.
3. Touch
- I want to receive love through kisses, holding hands and clinging. Because I feel like
these gestures are not only sweet but it drives me to be close to that person where
shyness will leave no space.
4. Time
- I think spending time with me is important if a person loves me because it’s a matter
of thoughtfulness and sacrifice. I like it when someone like my family and friends do
the effort to spend time with me. It’s heart-warming.
5. Gifts
 - I’m not very materialistic but I also love receiving gifts because of the excitement it
brings. I also appreciate gifts coming from my mother, father, and sisters because of
the effort they did. But gifts should not be always anticipated and a basis of love
because of the quality of happiness it brings.

Afterwards, pair with a classmate whom you are most comfortable to talk with. Discuss among
yourselves your rankings. Then, further discuss:
 What are your similarities/differences in terms of your love languages?
Differences
Kimberly’s most descriptive love expression is spending quality time because she loves
spending time with people she loves meanwhile, my most descriptive love expression is
through act of service because I love to willingly do something for them. Her least love
expression is physical touch but mine is affirmation because I’m not really good with
expressing my feelings.
Similarities
In terms of receiving other’s love, Kimberly and I, ranked acts of service as our first
because maybe we want to feel being cared. And our least is receiving gifts because
maybe like me, she also sees gifts to be less important in expressing love, or we ae just
not really materialistic.

 What influences do you think are at play in your preferences?

We both live in a different house, we have different moral values, received different
parenting style, different kind of relationship inside the house, different exposure to love
expression. That is what influences us about our own preferences in expressing and
receiving love.
Contemplate. Write down words/phrases or draw symbols with show what comes to your mind
when you hear the word:
Love Relationship
There is love in a family. Relationship is a close connection.
Love is valued. Relationship is nurtured.
Love warms the heart. Relationship with family
Love is genuine and pure Relationship with a partner
It is love who unites us. Relationship with a friend
Love can be felt through a lot of ways. A relationship is intimate
A relationship is with love
Intimacy
Intimacy should not be overly showcased to the people.
Intimacy is a behavior in response to love.
Intimacy is physical.
Intimacy is present in couples.
Intimacy is present in a family.
Intimacy is sweet.