SELF AWARENESS

Self-awareness is the
explicit
understanding that
one exists as an
individual, separate
from other people,
with private thoughts
SELF CONSCIOUSNESS
• self-consciousness is a
personal understanding of
the very core of one's own
identity.
SELF CONSCIOUSNESS
• self-consciousness plays a
large role in behavior.
BENEFITS OF
SELF AWARENESS
• The better you
understand
yourself, the
better you are
able to accept or
change who you
are.
 REALISTIC VIEW
•You have
strenghts and
weaknesses
 SIGNIFICANT OTHERS....PARENTS
• Our parents, who
gave birth to us
have the
opportunity to
observe us at close
quarters over many
years, would have
a clearer insight of
our character than
anybody else.
HONESTY AND COURAGE
• When you know who you
are, you may have to
change; and some people
just do not want to change
because changing
demands effort! Self-
awareness requires honesty
and courage
IMPORTANCE OF
SELF IMAGE
• Self-image is
important because
how one feels and
thinks about himself
affects the way he
acts.
 PHYSIQUE
• Physical appearance
cannot be a strong
foundation for self-
image because we
age. Moreover, God
values a man's inner
disposition and
character rather than
his outward
appearance.
POSSESSIONS
• Possessions is another
shaky foundation for
self-image because in
an economic
downturn, we may
have to give up some
of our possessions. Our
possessions are not
permanent ... they can
be stolen or destroyed
PERFORMANCE
• Performance is
undependable in that
our performance can
deteriorate. If our self-
image is based on our
performance then our
self-esteem rises and
falls with our
performance.
 POOR SELF-ESTEEM VS.
HEALTHY SELF ESTEEM
People with poor
Healthy self-esteem
self-esteem
often rely on how they are doing This means being able to
in the present to determine how realistically acknowledge our
they feel about themselves strengths and limitations

They need positive external

accepting ourselves as worthy
experiences to counteract the
and worthwhile without
negative feelings and thoughts that
conditions or reservations.
constantly plague them.
 WHERE DOES SELF-ESTEEM COME
Healthy Self-Esteem
>being praised
>being spoken to respectfully
>experiencing success in sports
or school
>having trustworthy friends
>being listened to
FROM?
Poor Self-Esteem
>being harshly criticized
>being ignored, ridiculed or
teased
>experiencing failures in sports or
school
>being yelled at, or beaten
>being expected to be "perfect"
all the time
 The Impostor (acts as happy and
successful)

THREE FACES
OF LOW SELF- The Rebel (acts like the opinions or good
will of others)

ESTEEM
The Loser (victim)
THREE FACES OF LOW
SELF-ESTEEM
• It can create anxiety, stress,
loneliness and increased
likelihood for depression.
• It can cause problems with
friendships and relationships.
• It can seriously impair
academic and job
performance.
• It can lead to
underachievement and
increased vulnerability to drug
and alcohol abuse.
 Step 1: Rebut the Inner Critic

THREE STEPS TO Step 2: Practice Self-

BETTER SELF Nurturing

ESTEEM
Step 3: Get Help from Others
 STEP 1: REBUT THE INNER CRITIC
The Inner Critic's Voice: Your Rebuttals:

Is Unfairly Harsh: Be Reassuring:

"Wow, they really liked it! Maybe it wasn't perfect, but I worked hard on
"People said they liked my presentation, but it was nowhere near as that presentation and did a good job. I'm proud of myself. This was a
good as it should have been. I can't believe no-one noticed all the great success."
places I messed up. I'm such an impostor."

Generalizes Unrealistically: Be Specific:

"I got an F on the test. I don't understand anything in this class. I'm such "I did poorly on this one test, but I've done O.K. on all the homework.
an idiot. Who am I fooling? I shouldn't be taking this class. I'm stupid and I There are some things here that I don't understand as well as I thought I
don't belong in college." did, but I can do the material-I've done fine in other classes that were just
as tough.

Makes Leaps of Illogic: Challenge Illogic:

"He is frowning. He didn't say anything, but I know it means that he "O.K., he's frowning, but I don't know why. It could have nothing to do
doesn't like me!" with me. Maybe I should ask."

Catastrophizes: Be Objective:
"She turned me down for a date! I'm so embarrassed and humiliated. No
one likes or cares about me. I'll never find a girlfriend. I'll always be "Ouch! That hurt. Well, she doesn't want to go out with me. That doesn't
alone." mean no one does. I know I'm an attractive and nice person. I'll find
someone."
 STEP 2: PRACTICE SELF-NURTURING

• Rebutting your critical inner voice is an important first step,

but it is not enough. Since our self-esteem is in part due to
how others have treated us in the past, the second step to
more healthy self-esteem is to begin to treat yourself as a
worthwhile person.

• Start to challenge past negative experiences or messages

by nurturing and caring for yourself in ways that show that
you are valuable, competent, deserving and lovable.
 STEP 3: GET HELP FROM OTHERS

• Ask for Support from Friends

• Get Help from Teachers & Other Helpers
• Talk to a Therapist or Counselor
ACTIVITY: SELF-AWARENESS
PERSONAL SWOT ANALYSIS WORKSHEET
I. Instruction: (By partner) Identifying your own strengths and limitations, as well as
understanding the possibilities and risks that arise as a result of them. After
completing the form, set aside 5 minutes to share with your partner.

Strength Weaknesses
• What do you do well? • What could you improve?
• What unique resources can you • Where do you have fewer resources
draw on? What do others see as than others?
your strengths? • What are others likely to see as
weaknesses?
ACTIVITY: SELF-AWARENESS
PERSONAL SWOT ANALYSIS WORKSHEET
I. Instruction: (By partner) Identifying your own strengths and limitations, as well as
understanding the possibilities and risks that arise as a result of them. After
completing the form, set aside 5 minutes to share with your partner.

Opportunities
• What opportunities are open to
you?
• What trends could you take
advantage of? How can you turn
your strengths into opportunities?
Threats
• What threats could harm you?
• What is your competition doing?
• What threats do your weaknesses
expose you to?