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What Neanderthals can teach us about the future My life in flatshares It’s not over yet… late summer escapes
Anything but ordinary
In this
issue
Up front
5 Eva Wiseman The mixed joys of a celeb
wardrobe sale. Plus, the Observer archive
7 This much I know Spice Girl turned
writer Geri Halliwell-Horner
Features
8 It’s me time Hankering for a minibreak
on your own? Looking for dinner for one?
Our brilliant guide for solo travellers has
all you need to know to escape a busy life
16 Meet the ancestors French Neanderthal
hunter Ludovic Slimak on a discovery
that totally reinterprets our prehistory
21 Rent nation Living with other people
has its ups and downs. But is it actually
a more natural way to build community?
Food & drink
24 Nigel Slater Coppa, fig and gorgonzola
tarts. Plus, lemony beans and cabbage
28 Jay Rayner A new nose-to-tail
restaurant. Plus, apple-based drinks
16
Fashion
24 30 The edit The hoodie, a streetwear
go-to, from high street to high end
Beauty
31 Get fresh Is your foundation past its
best? Our pick of the new season products
Interiors
32 Going Dutch A home in Amsterdam
that reaches new heights of invention
Travel
34 Shore leave Blissful beach stays in the
UK to enjoy some late-summer sunshine
Self & wellbeing
36 A search for meaning How his friend’s
murder changed the life of writer Hua Hsu
Ask Philippa
38 “My aunt would be safer in a home,
34 21 but she refuses to make the move.”
Plus, Sunday with Rev Kate Bottley
the magical images magazine, she talks to the (p16), and ticks
for our cover feature Rev Kate Bottley about how ‘meeting a Spice Girl’ off What Neanderthals can teach us about the future My life in flatshares It’s not over yet… late summer escapes
Cover image
on going solo (p8). she spends her Sundays (p38). his bucket list, too (p7). Franck Allais
Eva
Wiseman
Is a Chloë Sevigny-
style wardrobe purge
the key to maturity?
@evawiseman
T
his spring, when Chloë Sevigny announced copy her. I pictured that famous photograph taken
she was putting on a closet sale in New from space, where a mountain of dumped clothes is
York, a number of feelings passed through clearly visible, blue against the brown of the earth, and
me all at once, a kind of poisoning. First, imagined similar in my living room. Could I take it? Real-
obviously, jealousy: a vintage jumble sale is life people (rather than Vinted or eBay avatars) sifting
my favoured way to shop, but I could not be there in New through my vintage dresses with their judgy little hands?
York to rifle through her racks, to pick up her unwanted Discarding the best pieces of me with a scrunched nose
denim chaps or Prada backpacks or vintage kilts or and a nah? Perhaps.
Miu Miu clogs, to walk home with a bitchy strut ready to Perhaps part of accepting that I am no longer the
begin the rest of my life as an enigmatic ingenue. person who thought nothing of walking to work in a silk
Second, shame. I recognised it in the eyes of the 1940s dress and 3in platforms is giving away that dress
declared a grisly blow- women in the very long queue, documented online. They and those platforms, and leaving a gap for something
looked away from the cameras, clearly unwilling to be new to enter, whether psychic or cotton. Perhaps
From the by-blow (literally) guide to
horse butchery. The French witnessed here, waiting, their eyes like those of shitting having these old costumes hanging there all deadly is
archive found British horses too
fatty; the Belgians couldn’t
dogs. Yes they wanted the clothes, but no, they very much
did not want to be seen wanting. It is hard to remain
preventing me from moving forward into adulthood,
in a corduroy slack and nice ironed shirt. Of course, I’m
A look back get enough (especially
diaphragm, a delicacy).
cool when you’re papped trying to purchase clothes you
desire because someone cooler has worn them. The fact
not kidding myself for a second that my pile of clothes –
a heap of disappointed housewives in muted shades of
at the Observer Yet the pony-girl of wanting them, of believing them to be imbued with silver, their husband’s secretaries, and a drummer whose
Magazine’s past stereotype remained alive the spirit of Sevigny, deeply undermines the project of band had some success around the introduction of
and bucking. Girls ‘feel remaining unique, louche, necessarily disinterested. decimalisation – would elicit a queue like Sevigny’s, but,
maternal towards animals But still, they queued, and still I scrolled, wondering importantly, they are mine, and I have loved them, and
from a very early age’, idly how I’d look in that Victorian lace blouse with this I’d like to know they were going to continue to be loved.
Carrot on its outstretched and the ‘pony phase’ was high-waisted Margiela trouser, and how it might have I have a fantasy of how it might play out: discovering
palm, the Observer took a ‘almost as inevitable a part transformed or improved or settled me down. new local friends who take my jumpers as if adopting
close look at horses on 20 of puberty for the English The third, was inspiration. Sevigny’s closet sale found a cat, or old friends reminiscing about the parties each
July 1969. TV coverage of teenage girl as spots or me in crisis. It happens every decade or so: I will look minidress saw, then perhaps, I don’t know, framing
riding and postwar affluence puppy fat’. Supporting in the mirror and realise, I don’t dress the way I think them on their wall as a kind of permanent exhibition of
had contributed to ‘a growing a pony-girl habit required I dress. And I will look in my wardrobe and realise me. More likely I will end up somehow with more than
army of equestrians’, with more than your weekly LP there is nothing hanging there that I can bear to wear. I started, or forced to rediscover a love of polyester and
80 London schools adding budget: a minimum £100 for My vintage dresses make me look like John Travolta leopard print. But maybe I will emerge from the purge
riding to the curriculum a ‘reliable but not especially in Hairspray. My heels become suddenly obscene. Stiff elegant and free, and ready to step forward confidently
and 25,000 urban riders. beautiful or accomplished denim seems an absolute madness. Anything white is and comfortably into middle age in a smart little loafer.
Soon, it claimed, riding pony’, then bottomless now a sickened grey; anything woollen is now a moth I’ll let you know how it goes. ■
facilities might be ‘as much running costs from hoof oil buffet. But a new issue for me, as this decade’s clothes
a community essential as to hay nets. crisis comes round, is it seems there is no longer truth about ‘credit claiming’,
a public swimming bath
or children’s playground’.
Parents were offered
alternatives. ‘Donkeys
anywhere reliable to shop in order to replace them.
I enjoy the marvellous game of Vestiaire Collective,
that “Maybe This Time” scroll, but there’s nowhere
One more making sure it is known that
it was YOU who started
Horsing around was no
longer the preserve of the
landed elite: ‘Anyone who
aren’t all that daft,’ read the
headline on one section
(cheaper and less likely to
reliable where I can comfortably browse on a Saturday
afternoon, languidly fingering sparkly tops and bumping
thing… a hashtag. ‘We have to do
it, or so many of us believe
– we are caught in a roaring
can afford to buy a weekly eclipse a woman’s beauty into old selves. Charity shops are filled today with Shein river of voices that seems
LP or pay a couple of visits than a horse, reportedly). Or pieces of indeterminate purpose, vintage shops are few to wash away all that came
to the cinema can ride.’ a higher-tech solution: ‘If all due to stocks inevitably running low, and the high street before. If we don’t remind
Here and there, horses else fails, promise her a car just reminds me how much I miss Topshop. I choose people of what we have said
were still earning their keep. for her 17th birthday, it will to remember that place, that magical place, through and done, surely we will soon
At Young’s Ram brewery, be cheaper.’Emma Beddington rose-tinted glasses, a pair of which I once bought there A chilling article about be floating downstream to
drays were cheaper than for £5.99. As well as “basics”, which for many of us has AI by Simon Rich in Time the sea with all the other
£3,300 diesel lorries. Farms spanned everything from a white T-shirt to a pair of includes both a list of cultural detritus.’ Eek.
(tractors had ‘lost their 1970s-ish silver platforms, there was always space for genuinely brilliant Onion-
novelty’), mines, police plus the quite mad and silly, and sculpted and dreamy, and style headlines, and an There are some fabulous-
London’s ‘costers, flower you could see the whole of fashion if you stood by the excellent, dark short story, looking films out soon. I’m
sellers, coal merchants, escalators and turned, slowly. written not by Rich but by looking forward to Poor
removal men and rag-and- The spur for Sevigny to purge her collection and an advanced AI program. Things, Yorgos Lanthimos’s
bone collectors’ all remained sell this warehouse-worth of stuff, she said, was I remain… horror-struck. follow-up to The Favourite,
partly horse-powered. becoming a mother, which struck me as a depressing and Sofia Coppola’s Priscilla
Once they had outlived acknowledgment of the limits of parenthood from In Naomi Klein’s brilliant new Presley biopic. She says
their usefulness, ‘Almost all a woman who seems so alive and so free. But yeah, book, Doppelganger, she it’s like ‘Marie Antoinette in
horses are eventually eaten,’ also, I get it. And it occurred to me that maybe I should points out an uncomfortable Graceland.’ I can’t wait.
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Up front
This
much
I know Geri Halliwell-Horner, singer and writer, 51
Interview MICHAEL SEGALOV The Spice Girls doesn’t belong to the For a moment I didn’t know which way Marry someone you like – who loves
Photograph DAVID LEVENE five of us – the band is everyone’s. We was up and which was down. It was you for your best, worst and silliest self.
were a voice for the voiceless; expressing terrifying. But somehow I escaped with Find someone you have fun with.
The loudest person in the room is an how so many people felt. Whether you nothing worse than a fat lip.
empty vessel. I used to jibber on – a sign were five, 15 or 25, through us people saw There’s meaning behind every
of nerves. Now I allow the pauses, and say that they could be themselves. I’ve become less selfish since magpie you see. I always count them: one
less than necessary. becoming a mum. I’m no longer the for sorrow, two for joy, three for a girl…
I can sometimes over-egg an priority. What I want to be as a parent, If you see one by itself, you must salute it.
Waving came naturally to me. My omelette. Impatience is a bad habit of and what I am, are different things. I try
earliest memory is being pushed in a pram, mine. I’m a solutions person, but often to be firm but fair and fun – lately I’ve Judi Dench is gorgeous, I love her.
the rain cover being hit by raindrops, and rush to find the answer, rather than been the disciplinarian. When we first met, she invited me for tea.
me waving at the people of Watford. sitting on a situation. I told her I’d been reading the Merchant of
Venice. I started to quote some; she joined
My childhood wasn’t perfect, but Writing is my greatest joy. For me, it’s The Spice Girls in. I’ll treasure that forever.
there was lots of love. Dad was very
English, a broadsheet reader – intelligent,
all consuming. I get to play God, in total
control: will they live or die? Feel pain or belonged to I’d like to go to Oxford University to
but he never fulfilled his potential. Mum
is hardworking – a Latin live-wire.
fall in love? I can immerse myself entirely.
everyone. Through study history and English. I said it out
loud for the first time this morning. I’ve
solo trips
into picturesque Brixham, where the Solo walks keep
town’s fishing fleet fuels a clutch of me sane. I take
excellent restaurants; pull up a seat at the one every day
in the UK
counter at Simply Fish, a family-owned and, when I can, I head to Mam
restaurant where diners pick their choice Tor in the Peak District, where
of seafood from the fresh fish counter I first started walking as a child
(simplyfishrestaurant.co.uk). with my dad – one of my most
When travelling alone, 2. Wells-next-the-sea, Norfolk
special places. I don’t plug in
headphones, so I can relish the
Annabelle Thorpe gets Vast skies, tranquil beaches and solo experience. It’s my therapy,
strike up conversations with people I’ll love the idea of a long- Pack walking
w boots for a stay in Tenby,
never meet again, yet always remember. distance walk k – pitting w here the Pembrokeshire Coast Path
where
And even after 25 years of travelling, myself against st the leads out on to spectacular clifftop
I still get the same feeling of satisfaction elements, the e distance scene
scenery, with the town itself – famous
when I’m home – a quiet sense of ude. The
and the solitude. for its picturesque harbour with pastel-
pleasure that I did it all on my own. antiago
Camino de Santiago hued houses – a lovely friendly spot to
ust
in Spain has just return to and ideal for a solo foray. Stay
Coastal the right mix of Tr oyne Manor (trefloyne.com),
at Trefl
1. Brixham, Devon views, challengenge five minutes’ drive out of town and
The Berryhead Hotel – surrounded by and great food.od. pop in for a spa treatment at the cute
six acres of gardens with lovely views Interviews by Dov
Dovecote spa. Pull up a bar stool at
across Torbay – is a rare find: a hotel v
Michael Segalov Tw
Twelve (twelvetenby.co.uk), where ‹
5. Bude, Cornwall
Get chatting to locals with a kayaking,
paddleboarding or surfing class
with Free Wave Surf Academy
(freewavesurfacademy.co.uk), or mix solo
strolls along Summerleaze Beach with
a dip into the town’s artisan market
(Wednesday to Saturday, 10am-3pm).
Settle in for a supper of small plates
ideally suited for one at Temple (the
roof terrace, overlooking Summerleaze,
is a dream on warm evenings) and
stay at the Beach at Bude (from £195
B&B, thebeachatbude.co.uk), a charming
Victorian house with rooms decked out
in a New England seaside style – with
self-catering apartments also available.
Rural
6. Buxton, Derbyshire
Fancy a solo spa treat, but don’t want to
be marooned in a secluded hotel? The
Buxton Crescent Spa (from £193 B&B,
ensanahotels.com) lies at the heart of
the Peak District’s most vibrant town,
combining thermal pools – including on
the rooftop – with a wide programme
of treatments. Beyond the hotel, Buxton
is an easily navigable, friendly place;
spend an hour browsing the 40,000
secondhand titles in Scrivener’s Books
delicatessens and cafés – perfect for 10. Lavenham, Suffolk
a spot of people-watching. A walk along Peter The most picturesque of Suffolk’s
the River Teme gives wonderful views Bradshaw historic wool towns, Lavenham has
of Ludlow Castle; finish up at the Green film critic a slow-paced arty feel, with a number
Café (thegreencafe.co.uk) where small The cinema I’ve taken of art galleries and boutiques
plates of broccoli with melting cheese to showing up to on that offer an excellent afternoon’s
and orange spice or Ludlow farm steak my own is the Everyman Muswell browsing. Number Ten Wine Bar
with green harissa mean you can try two Hill in north London. It used to be & Kitchen (ten-lavenham.co.uk) is
or three dishes without feeling you’ve the Odeon when it was a single a convivial place for lunch or supper,
over ordered. The Cliffe at Dinham screen and only the balcony was with giant barrels providing great
(from £120 B&B, thecliffeatdinham.co.uk) open. Now it is dark and plush and tables for one, while the Swan at
is a charming restaurant with rooms, vaguely Lynchian in a way that’s Lavenham has a cocoon-like warmth,
10 minutes’ walk from the centre. downbeat and discreet. Going to with cosy bedrooms beneath original
6 the cinema is a supposedly guilty 15th-century beams (Lavenham rooms
9. Keswick, Cumbria pleasure which is, in fact, entirely are ideal for singles, from £171 room-
(scrivenersbooks.co.uk) before lunch Who says shepherd’s huts are only for guilt-free; unlike dining alone in only, theswanatlavenham.co.uk), and
at Noonology, where hearty brunch couples? The Mount B&B has a beautiful a restaurant there is no equivalent a boutique spa. Dogs are welcome at
dishes sit alongside vegan poke bowls hut for singles only (three-night break of the waiter ostentatiously both places.
and pleasingly indulgent cocktails £240 B&B, themountkeswick.co.uk), clearing away the other place
(noonology.co.uk). with a woodburning stove and lovely setting. Going alone gives you the Urban
garden views, with the chance to join time and space to think. 11. Canterbury
7. Hay-on-Wye, Powys other guests for breakfasts around the Set within the Cathedral grounds,
Bookish Hay is ideal for solo travellers; communal dining table in the main Samira Ahmed the Canterbury Cathedral Lodge
bookshops come with armchairs and house. This is serious walking country, broadcaster is a unique place to stay, with
assistants who are happy to chat and with footpaths from the front door; I’ve always loved doing things single, ensuite rooms (from £92
recommend, there are great walks from reward yourself with Mexican-inspired alone, visiting museums B&B, canterburycathedrallodge.org),
the centre of town, and the Granary tapas at Es Bar (esbarltd.co.uk), with bar and other centres of culture with views straight across to the
(thegranaryhay.co.uk) is a convivial seating, dogs welcome and a breezy, specifically. It’s something about 1,400-year-old church. The rate
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place for lunch, offering homemade chatty atmosphere. the power of independence, of includes free entry to the cathedral
pies, veggie dishes and inventive having the quiet to think and (usually £15), with the city’s historic
salads (strawberry and goat’s cheese absorb on your own and savour streets just outside the door. Don’t
is particularly good). Atelier Hay is 10 things at your own pace. There’s miss lunch (or just a shopping spree)
a tranquil bolthole above an art gallery nowhere better er than the BFI on at the Goods Shed, a daily farmer’s
(from £170, three-night minimum, hbank. Last
London’s Southbank. mark
market and restaurant, serving
atelierhay.co.uk) and if you run out year, they had a François produ
produce from each of the stalls;
of something to read, the 24-hour Truffaut season. n. I booked two starters
s (maybe octopus, clams
open-air Hay Castle Honesty Bookshop tickets for afterr work, for and ’nduja
’n or cheddar and truffle
ensures you never go to bed without my days off. I basically beign
beignets) make a perfect meal for one
a good book. saw everything, g, and (thego
thegoodsshed.co.uk).
was transported ed to
8. Ludlow, Shropshire world’s I’d havee 12. L
London
Surrounded by the rolling hills, Ludlow’s otherwise Perfe for a solo jaunt, Citizen M has
Perfect
high street is dotted with boutiques, never found. four breezily
b hip outposts, where the ‹
Jay Rayner
restaurant
critic
It doesn’t matter
that I’ve eaten there
alone five or 10 times a year for
over a decade. They rarely seem
to recognise me as a returning
customer. The branch of Four
Seasons in London’s Chinatown
is not that sort of place. I don’t
3 go there for companionship.
I go there because I love the
Cantonese roast duck. Amid the
13. York noise, I am alone and at peace.
With an easily walkable historic
centre, boasting both York Minster and Megan Nolan
a picturesque tangle of pedestrianised author
streets, York is ideal for a solo I write in bed
weekend break. Book a counter seat at after midnight
Skosh (skoshyork.co.uk), to watch small because my brain
plates of Orkney crab papads, paratha has a masochistic inability to
with whipped aubergine brinjal and function during designated work
Peruvian chocolate tart roll out, and hours, but when I need to leave
stay at No 1 Guesthouse (from £138 the house, I go to the Pelican
room-only, guesthousehotels.co.uk), café in Peckham on my own
where the well-stocked pantry means and sit there for hours. It’s a big
there’s always something to nibble on comfortable space with cheap
if you fancy a break from eating alone. coffee – and when I’ve finished
Time for
retreats from various Buddhist traditions, it’s usually just rolling into happy
14. Edinburgh led by experienced Dharma teachers. hour.
Plan a packed itinerary for a trip Group retreats last from two to 10 days
me time
to Edinburgh with the Kimpton’s (gaiahouse.co.uk). Joe Lycett
Stay Human concierge, which offers comedian
a variety of curated experiences – from 4. Glen Dye, Aberdeenshire Birmingham is well
city walking tours to coffee tasting Making the most of the spectacular known for its grey,
or personal shopping – all bookable
before you arrive. Book a City Single Book yourself into a surroundings, Glen Dye offers a wellness
programme of foraging walks, forest
brutalist architecture,
less so for its green space. But
(from £252, ihg.com) and spend an retreat that’s perfect for bathing, wild swimming and Vinyasa my suburb is surrounded by
T
here’s no confusing Ludovic Slimak for
just another hotel guest. It’s a swelter-
ing Sunday afternoon in late August
and we’ve arranged to meet in the
carpark of a guesthouse on the out-
skirts of Montélimar, southeastern
France. The lawn sprinklers are in
full swing; a couple of kids play in the
fenced-off poolside area. Hiding from the heat in my rental
car, I’d been concerned we’d struggle to find each other:
Slimak’s email and WhatsApp communication until now
have been at best irregular; the phone signal is patchy in
this rural French corner. As soon as he pulls up in a dust-
covered Volkswagen minivan, however, I realise there’d
been no need to worry. Amid the trickle of blissed-out
holidaymakers, Slimak seriously sticks out: he has wild,
long hair and an overgrown, grey-flecked beard; there’s
dirt deep beneath his fingernails. It’s 43C, according to
the screen on my dashboard. In shorts and a T-shirt, I’m
sweating. Meanwhile, the man now waving in my direction
is dressed in a herringbone waistcoat, stained linen trou-
sers, denim shirt and Indiana Jones Panama hat. There’s no
need for introductions to confirm he’s the man I’m here to
visit. Ludovic Slimak looks a picture-perfect archeological
adventurer; a self-described Neanderthal hunter.
He suggests we drive in convoy to our final destination,
the Grotte Mandrin, a hillside cave hidden deep in Rhône
Valley woodland. “It’s almost impossible to find the place
unless you’ve been there many times,” Slimak explains in
fluent English with a French accent. “And it’s better that
way: we don’t want any random people to – accidentally
or otherwise – come across all the treasures we’re finding.”
One of the world’s leading experts on Neanderthals, Slimak
has spent decades travelling across continents in search of
insights into this mysterious, extinct prehistoric species.
Just a short drive away, he assures me, is one the most sig-
nificant archaeological sites he’s ever spent time working
at. “I started digging there 33 years ago,” he says, “and for
the past 20 years I’ve spent a lot of time in this cave, trying
to understand Neanderthals better. It’s here we’re making
discoveries that are radically reshaping our understanding
of the history of both Neanderthals and humans, too.” His
book, The Naked Neanderthal, is the result of this research.
In 2022, it was published in France to great acclaim. Now,
it’s been translated into English. That’s why I’m here.
For 15 minutes, we drive in convoy further into the
countryside. From a deserted road, we turn on to an unas-
suming dirt track. I park up, as instructed, and get into his
VW. We make a bumpy climb a few hundred metres uphill,
before we jump out. I follow him down an overgrown foot-
path I’d never have noticed. “This cave can be seen for miles
around,” Slimak says, a few steps in front of me. “Locally,
it’s known as ‘The rock of the guide’. The oldest occupa-
tion here, we think, is at least 115,000 years ago. We know
there were 500 phases of occupation in this cave. It’s
a hyper-strategic location.”
Sandwiched between Marseille and Lyon, it feels as if ‘We have an opportunity
we’re in the middle of nowhere, save the regular rumble to look in a mirror and see
of high-speed trains a hundred or so metres below. “The ourselves for what we truly
national highway and railway lines here represent 70% of are’: Ludovic Slimak outside
European movement along the north/south axis: a path Grotte Mandrin in France,
through the mountains. It’s why this has historically been which has been occupied
very significant.” We turn a final corner. Ahead of us, an for at least 115,000 years
archaeological dig is in full swing. Slimak guides me ‹
‹ to the top of the cave area, where we sit and observe. sandwiched between Neanderthal occupants in these
Seven or eight experts are at work: brushing, noting, pho- caves? It totally reshapes our understanding of our ori-
tographing, sorting. His wife – fellow Neanderthal-expert gins and rewrites what we’ve believed previously. If both
Sonia Harmand – is one of those present. Their two sons, species brushed up against each other over this long
nine and six, are back at the 12th-century castle they rent period of time, far more important than what happened
while on site. Others here are PhD students and research- to Neanderthals, we should be asking: what did these two
ers drawn to the dig from all over. species do together? Did they communicate? And most
“By all accounts,” Slimak says, “as a species, Neanderthals importantly, how did they interact? Because Neanderthals
are our closest relatives. And we have parallel histo- experienced and existed in the world differently to our
ries; common ancestors, I believe, between 300,000 and ancestors. Not just by culture, but by their very nature.”
500,000 years ago. But then there’s a great divergence.” He points to the way prehistoric Homo Sapien and
A separation of the two creatures. “Home Sapiens – our Neanderthal crafts are vastly different. “We might not
ancestors – were mostly in Africa, although we can see know much about Neanderthals,” he goes on, “but through
early traces of them in the Near East and Eurasia. There’s an what they created, we can see something incredible. When
anomaly, however, with Europe, where we believe Sapiens you take Home Sapien tools made of flint, spanning tens of
didn’t really travel to, home to the largest Neanderthal thousands of years, in different parts of the world, they’re
populations.” The first Neanderthal skull was discovered always the same. Standardised. It can’t be cultural.” There
in a Belgian cave in 1829; the first bones were found near was likely little contact between these different settlements.
Düsseldorf in the 1850s. For millennia, these creatures “There’s something innate within the behaviour of Homo
coexisted on the planet in different places. “More recently,” Sapiens – within our behaviour – to act and think in a cer-
Slimak continues, “we have started to discover there were, tain way. It’s in our nature.” Neanderthal crafts, though,
in fact, moments where these species met. And here in this don’t share this pattern of standardisation. “Look care-
very cave, we’ve made an exciting new discovery.” fully at Neanderthal tools and weapons. They’re all unique.
Study thousands and you’ll find each is completely dif-
At the age of four, Slimak was asked by his father what ferent. My colleagues never
he’d like to do when he grew up. “I said I wanted to make Digging deep: (from top) realised that. But when
holes in the ground to find old things. I didn’t know it was the Grotte Mandrin site; I did, I saw there was a deep
a job, until he told me about archaeology.” He’s been at it and some of the flints divergence in the way Homo
ever since. Slimak was born in 1953; his father was a for- found there that give vital Sapiens and Neanderthals
ester. His early years were spent surrounded by trees, as clues about our past each understand the world.”
the family moved across France. “My grandfather lived Historically, he believes
in the Pyrenees. He was born in 1918, but really, he was humanity has had a problem. “To truly understand some-
a man from the 19th century. I spent so much time with thing, you need to be able to compare it to something
him that I also feel like a man from another era, lost in the else. But us as Sapiens? We’ve never had a species to com-
modern world.” pare ourselves to.” Yes, there are other animals: great apes,
By 10, Slimak had talked his way into various archeolog- chimps, gorillas. “But we diverged from these creatures
ical digs he’d come across near their home. At 14, he was maybe 10m years ago. Of course, compared to a gorilla
already something of an expert. “By 18, I was working on we have more creativity and skills. It gives us a certain
a dig here in the Rhône Valley, at a Neanderthal site maybe image of ourselves– one of superiority. But what happens
70km north.” These Neanderthals were cannibals. “From if we compare ourselves to something far closer – some-
then on, I knew I wanted to dedicate my entire life to these thing far more like humanity that only disappeared 40,000
creatures.” At first, university didn’t feel a fit for this born years ago?” Imagine, he suggests, how differently we’d see
outdoor explorer. In his 20s, he realised a degree would ourselves if confronted by hyper-intelligent aliens.
help him carve out a career, so enrolled in a course at Aix- Slimak feels this comparison can and should be made
Marseille University. To help pay his way, Slimak learned with Neanderthals. “Their tools and weapons are more
to play the bagpipes after writing to Glasgow’s College of unique than ours. As creatures, they were far more creative
Piping, and through busking and playing in Marseille’s than us. Sapiens are efficient. Collective. We think the same,
premier late-90s Celtic band earned enough to keep his and don’t like divergence. And I don’t just mean western
research afloat. In 2004, he completed his PhD and was culture. Go to any Aboriginal society: there are clear rules
soon recruited by Stanford University, before being hired and customs, and shared styles of clothing. Expectation to
by France’s prestigious Centre National de la Recherche act in a certain manner; to follow regulations.” Our ances-
Scientifique, where he’s worked ever since. tors, he says, lived like this instinctively. “You don’t see that
His Neanderthal hunting has seen him direct digs with Neanderthals.” By seeing Neanderthals as a reference
everywhere from the Horn of Africa to the Arctic Circle. point against which we can measure ourselves, Slimak
“It’s an exploration,” he says. “On this planet now, there reckons humanity is offered a gift: “We have an oppor-
is no longer any exploring to do horizontally in space, but tunity to look in a mirror and see ourselves for what we
there’s so much to do in time. Neanderthals offer a huge truly are. To help us redefine, which we must do urgently.”
unknown; still, it’s the greatest exploration.” The way he sees it, this isn’t just an interesting philo-
What happened to the Neanderthals – their extinction – sophical theory. “Neanderthals vanished, I think, because
is one of the greatest unsolved mysteries. Around 40,000 of high human efficiency. And this efficiency now threat-
years ago, they vanished. It’s a topic that has consumed ens to destroy us, too. That’s what’s killing the planet’s
both academic research and fiction. Much effort has been biodiversity.” For Slimak, The Naked Neanderthal isn’t
spent trying to ascertain what led to their demise. But a history book. “It’s about us in the present. Urging human-
the way Slimak sees it, this might no longer be the most ity to see itself for what it is by comparing us to something
prescient question. “Normally, archaeologists find that if else, in the hope of changing the course of our future.
Sapiens come into Neanderthal territory, that’s the end of
the Neanderthals. But here we’ve made a unique discovery.”
He jumps down in the dig itself, pointing between various
‘As creatures, Because by understanding our nature – and the risk this
efficiency poses – we can save ourselves from a similar
fate.” Over millennia, humankind has also developed an
layers of rock and sediment. “We are finding thousands of
things at every level: this is a flint, a flint, a flint, a bone, Neanderthals advanced, impressive technology and culture, of a type
Neanderthals could never have imagined. “So while there
a flint, tooth, flint, rib…” The team here can date every bone,
tool or rock they discover while digging. “Neanderthals first
occupied this site more than 100,00 years ago. Then, we
were far more is something dangerous in our nature, as a collective we
can control and reshape it. Understanding this is the key to
humanity’s future. Because if we don’t think carefully, next
now know that 54,000 years ago, the first Homo Sapiens
lived here. After that, there were at least five further phases
of Neanderthal inhabitants over a 12,000 year period.”
creative than time it won’t be Neanderthals that our efficiency destroys,
it’ll be humankind itself that’s the victim.” ■
I
’m sitting in a sea of badly packed
moving boxes with a painful bout
of shingles and a sprinkling of
existential angst. My landlord’s
mortgage has been hiked up, so
he’s selling up and me and my flatmate
are being shoved out once more.
In need of a dose of light relief,
I FaceTime my young niece. But she’s
distracted, examining my east London
rental. Suddenly, I’m incredibly self-
conscious about the unjustified amount
of faux fruits, framed 90s movie posters
and the unwieldy box of skincare
products on display.
“How old are you?” she asks.
“Thirty-two,” I whisper.
I dive into a box searching for my
32-year-old teddy’s battered paw.
“Thirty-two!” she howls.
I tell her I have to go, my flatmate’s
just walked in. A lie. She’s actually in the
process of moving in with her Hinge
lover. I just didn’t want her to see me cry.
By and large, “adulthood” remains
shorthand for stable housing and long-
term domestic partnership. The nuclear
family home is embedded into our
mainstream cultural template of what it
means to be a righteous grownup. But the
facts are beginning to tell a different story.
In the 2022 census, the fastest-growing
household type over the past two decades
was the “multi-family” setup, where
“families” may be unrelated and, therefore,
encompass more than one person living
with someone not necessarily related. Photographs KRISTINA VARAKSINA
This isn’t surprising. According to the ‹ ‹
‹ Office for National Statistics, private with our romantic partner and build
rental prices in the UK increased by 4.4% a self-sufficient brood in an urban
in the year to January 2023: the largest dwelling or, if financially possible, a
increase since records began. Add that house with a manicured lawn as a moat,
to the swelling statistic of single adults we are risking seclusion. Bowing to the
(aged 30-34) rising from 49.2% in 2011 pressurising institution of individualism.
to 58.9% in 2021. And so, for those of The nuclear domestic setup was not
us born without the magical power of always the norm. For centuries, kinship
affluent parents, what this equates to is: was not defined by being genetically
getting a roommate. related, it was something you could create.
What was once seen as a “blip” on the An international research team carried out
journey towards adult life, a final hurrah, an ancient genome-wide analysis in an
a Friends or The Young Ones experience early mediaeval graveyard of individuals
before you maturely moved on, is who most likely lived together 2,700 years
increasingly becoming the destination ago in what is now Germany. They found
of the adult experience. And, though my that many of the people who were buried
tears are falling because I, like my niece, together were not related to one another.
have been indoctrinated to think that They shared the highs and lows of each
the family home is the goal, and I’m not other’s lives, but were most likely not
hitting the Farrow & Ball painted mark romantically or genetically linked.
just yet, I also think I’ve found the beauty Maybe by softening our commitment
in this messed-up fate. to the socially prescribed “family home”,
Yes, this housing situation is anxiety we might give ourselves the chance to
inducing and increasingly impossible rebuild a sense of community. I’ve read
for many. And, yes, it’s a gloomy product that the Chuukese people in Micronesia
of the extremities of capitalism. But, have a saying for when two people survive
as I sort through the relics of flatmates a dangerous trial at sea – they call their
I’ve lived with over the past few years – boating partner “my sibling from the same
Polaroids, birthday cards, old wine corks, canoe”. I haven’t had to test my survival on
a motivational Post-it – I’m hit with a the shores of the Thames just yet, but
deep pang of nostalgia. I’ve navigated All boxed up and ready to go: ‘We are living in an era of impermanence, of forced adaptation’ I do believe that through my rental life,
this 55sqm space with a delectable cast I’ve built an eclectic network of kinsmen.
of city dwellers over these past five meals. “What Winston Churchill once relationship with food while living with As I tape up my boxes, preparing myself
years. We’ve each partaken in the bizarre said of architecture – “First we shape a personal trainer. This meant I waited for for my next overpriced, under-furnished
dance of sharing a sofa, toilet, food our buildings, and then they shape us” her to get to bed before I binged my way abode, I think about my niece’s quip.
cupboards and that weird drawer filled – might also be said of shared feasting. through the kitchen, like some strange “You’re an adult. Start acting like one.”
with curious things (candles, batteries, First we cooked our food, and then our orthorexic vampire until she caught me We are living in an era of impermanence,
sparklers, etc). We’ve fielded constant food cooked us. The rituals, they build one night rustling in her cupboards. Even of forced adaptation. Maybe, the very act of
micro-negotiations of managing work a sense of community. these awkward encounters, as hellish as living in a constantly changing setup is the
calls and nighttime partners and personal Over the course of my rental life, while they were to confront, were instructive. definition of modern adulthood; learning
conversations and cleaning rotas and sharing rooms with acquaintances who In one of my many moving boxes, to live with the precariousness of it all.
social plans and individual highs and have – on the most part – swiftly become I have a book (gifted to me by a previous I FaceTime my niece again and just as
woes. Essentially, we’ve completed a crash close friends, I’ve experienced heartbreak, flatmate) Life, Letters and Journals written I’m about to share my theory, she tells me
course in navigating interpersonal ethics. lust, love, death, work wins and losses, by the pioneering astronomer Maria she’s been thinking about what she wants
illness and grief. We’ve navigated the art Mitchell. She writes: “Is not the assent for her birthday. “A doll’s house,” she says,
Amy Canevello, a psychology professor of communicating (as best as we can), of another a sort of second conscience?” “with a mummy and a daddy and a baby
at the University of North Carolina, adjusting, considering – and coexisting. She poses that the people with whom we and a dog.” Before I have the chance to
explains the unique dynamic of non- Like any other relationship, this isn’t encircle ourselves become fundamental respond, she’s performing a very good
family cohabitation: “Our expectations a utopia. I once had a flatmate who used to in the architecture of our own being. “Our song from Matilda.
are different from living with romantic trim his pubes, leaving a confetti-like trail character is moulded by them and receives I follow her birthday instructions and
partners or family… It calls for a clear around the toilet seat on a biweekly basis. its colouring from them.” She describes swiftly fall down an Instagram hole of
setting of boundaries. You negotiate, I had another cohabiter who didn’t register what researchers (Aron & Aron) went on doll’s houses. Wide oak-plank floorboards,
hopefully with a sense of care, how you the thinness of our walls, so I listened to define as “self-expansion”. Most studies shiplap walls, Shaker-style cabinets,
are going to live in an intimate setting to the uncensored audiobook of her sex are limited to exploring how romantic a Victorian fireplace, a study for the
without the presumption of shared values life with her new boyfriend. We swiftly relationships help broaden our sense of parents, a playroom for the kids, a larder.
or an intrinsic sense of responsibility instilled a non-negotiable agreement to self. Renting over the past decade, I’ve had I could scroll for hours… I want all of it. I’m
for the other person. The space becomes play music whenever a bed partner was the chance to experience multiple “others” interrupted, damn. The moving van is here.
quite democratically shared.” Within this present. Back in the early years of my rather than a single partner. They’ve As I open the door to my new rental,
strange and sometimes strained intimacy, rental life, I was navigating a disordered challenged my biases, my blindspots and with boxes filling up the hallway, I meet
I’ve had a taste of communal living. ultimately my sense of meaning. the eyes of my new flatmate. A broken
I’ve binged every 60s horror film, while While the single-family home has toilet sits outside the bathroom and the
wolfing down troughs (mixing bowls) long been held up as the aspiration – smell of a dead rodent is hard to ignore.
of pesto and pea pasta with a flatmate
who generously nursed me through
a breakup. I arranged an online boxing
With my the signifier of stability, commitment,
wholeness and a range of other
moral attributes – I wonder if there is
And she quietly, anxiously, asks me for
a hug. Together, we confidently refuse to
move in until the flat is made acceptable
session for my flatmate (which backfired
as I mistakenly kicked her in the face),
as she was processing a family illness.
flatmates, a correlation between the “chronically
lonely” age we are living in and the
picket-fence domestic dream. Urbanist
for two human beings who are paying
far more than they can afford. The
faceless estate agent grimaces, but we
we’ve had
HAIR AND MAKEUP BY JULIANA SERGOT
Through Covid, after my uncle died, my Jane Jacobs argued that “The structures stand strong: “My sibling from the same
flatmate instilled a Sunday ritual of a hike that once supported the nuclear family canoe.” There’s power to be found in this
(long walk) followed by a roast dinner
followed by making our way through the
Guardian’s list of the top 100 films of the
lust, love, no longer exist,” and this leads to
an intense sense of pressure on the
relationship. The average divorce rate is
kinsmanship. And as we take the agent
round the flat, showing him what needs
to be fixed, I wonder, what will be learned
21st century. The shared walks, talks and
food helped me grieve.
It reminds me of Michael Pollan’s
heartbreak currently 42% and that figure is on the
rise. Psychotherapist Esther Perel comes
to mind: “You’re asking one person to
here, within these four weathered walls? ■
as baked tarts
marbled gorgonzola, then a little crème quantity of filling. Return the tarts to the oven and bake
fraîche and ripe green figs. Crisp tarts such as these need them for a further 10-15 minutes, until
Good as they were, an extra savoury a plentiful accompaniment. I made the pastry is crisp and golden. Eat straight
note came in the form of very thin a bowl of French beans with shredded away, while they are still warm.
slices of coppa, but pancetta or parma spring cabbage and a mustard-lemon
ham would work here, too, the fine dressing, substantial enough to eat as French beans and cabbage
sheets of cured meat tucked among the a principal dish if you wished. I added Lovely lemony, mustard and basil notes
figs and cheese. toasted hazelnuts, too. going on here. This would be good with
I made long thin tarts, enough The cabbage is very lightly cooked – the tarts above, but would also work as
for one per person – but smaller, just a dip in boiling water, really, to set a main course, especially if you introduce
Photographs JONATHAN LOVEKIN round ones would also be good (the its colour while leaving it crisp. some smoked mackerel or mussels, ‹
Lovely lemony,
mustard and basil
notes here. This
is a salad I like to
serve just warm
rather than chilled
Plum crisp
(if you wish) the pointed tips of the beans. way of using up a loaf that is past its best.
Drop the beans into the boiling water Set the oven at 190C/gas mark 5. The crumb topping can be applied
and let them cook for 3 or 4 minutes until Cut 850g of plums in half and remove to apples, apricots and sweet
they have darkened and will gently bend their stones. Put the fruit into a 23cm mincemeat, too.
without snapping. Remove the beans baking dish or deep pudding basin Use a mixture of varieties, even adding
from the water and set aside. Let the (a shallow casserole will work, too). a few late damsons if you have them.
water come back to the boil. Squeeze over the juice of a small orange Blackberries are a gorgeous autumn
Shred the cabbage into finger-thick and sprinkle lightly with a couple of addition, their purple juices marbled
strips, removing the core as you go, wash tbsp of caster sugar. through that of the scarlet plums.
under running water, then drop into Reduce 125g of fresh white bread to You need a juicy filling under the crisp
boiling water. Leave to cook for 1 minute, coarse crumbs. A food processor will do crumb crust. Pour in a little apple juice
then drain into a colander, shake dry and this in seconds, but you can use a coarse – or at a push, water – if necessary. If
add to the beans. (Make sure to shake grater, too. Toss the crumbs with 1 tsp making an apple crisp, then I recommend
the cabbage well, so the dressing does of ground cinnamon and 80g of soft cooking the apples a little first.
not become diluted.) Toss the beans brown sugar. This is one of those puddings where
and cabbage with the dressing and pile Photograph In a small pan, melt 80g of butter, then cream is essential, rather than just a
generously on to a serving dish. ■ JONATHAN LOVEKIN pour it over the sweetened crumbs. Toss luxurious accompaniment. ■
As Smithfield meat
market gets ready to
close, a superb new
meat-led restaurant
opens up its doors
delicious, says
for it to be loose packed and not (£6, 60g) is delicious. I’ll admit of apples baked in brown
put sotto vuoto as it’s impossible the Marie Antoinette in me would sugar. Ice cider, like ice wine, is also popular
Annalisa Barbieri to separate the slices if it’s sealed have preferred the almonds to in Canada, specifically in Quebec, where
under vacuum). Rukét’s journey be skinned, but it’s all extra fibre the subzero late-autumn temperatures
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This Amsterdam apartment started life as a storage space,
but a touch of toy design transformed it into a live/work eyrie
32 10.09.23 The Observer Magazine
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aomi Russell may not be an Whitechapel Gallery in London, where
interior designer, but she has I had my second job. After the show we
precise views about how her were all given a signed piece.”
Amsterdam home should The striped wallpaper by Netherlands
look. The “perfectly done designer Irma Boom, inspired by
space that feels like a showroom” is not paintings in the Rijksmuseum, was the
for her. What Russell, a theatre producer catalyst for the confection of colours
and founder of arts organisation – burgundies, blues, oranges – used
Espaço Agora prefers is a gentle fusion throughout. “I was greedy and chose
of past and present. It is the approach 11 versions of the paper. I was worried
she applied to her ingenious live-work it might be too much. But Rachel helped
eyrie. Set on the top floor of a slender me make sense of how every space
19th-century townhouse, streamlined could draw on a different palette.” In its
furnishings and vivacious paint colours previous incarnation the apartment was
are clasped by soaring golden beams so all white. No longer. “I didn’t want white,
that, as she puts it: “The provenance of anywhere. Instead, we used a soft pink to
the architecture shines through.” anchor the different colours.”
Like most of Amsterdam’s pre-20th She trod lightly, too, at the back of
century houses, the apartment originally her apartment – leaving the layout
served as a storage space for household untouched, but finding ways to utilise
clutter. A previous owner converted the overlooked nooks and crannies. It was
90sqm interior into a home in 2002. The her builder who suggested she add the
airy, double-height living area – a ladder platform bed in the guest room. The gap
stretches up to a roof terrace above below is now a wardrobe screened by
– basks in the brightness of the south- a colourful curtain. In Russell’s bedroom
facing front, with two bedrooms and It gave her time to unpick flaws. to gut the place, but to work with what they used four different shades of blue
a bathroom tucked behind. Rachel van der Brug, the interior we had.” One solution was the overhead for the walls: counterintuitively, the
Russell rented the apartment designer who helped her to reshape desk space, wedged between beams with mix makes the small space feel larger.
for three years before seizing the the apartment is a neighbour: “She a glass floor beneath, like a floating office. When friends come to stay she hangs her
opportunity to buy it when it came up made sense of my ideas. I needed an You climb a ladder to reach the space clothes for the week from a beam.
for sale in 2016. “I’d been commuting external eye.” The jigsaw-like layout because, as Russell will tell you, a head The bathroom is next door. In true
between London and Amsterdam. Every means that no two rooms are alike. for heights is another prerequisite for Amsterdam fashion, the claw-foot bath
time I got off the train I’d sigh and say… “I was lucky because our builder was living here. “I’ll happily look down,” she was hoisted into place through a window,
‘I’m home.’ It made sense to move here,” creative. His colleague makes doll’s says. The window seat below – for equally using a rope attached to a hook on the
she says. The tenancy had been useful. houses; he was good at coming up with contemplative vistas – is also new. facade An old-fashioned wooden drying
solutions to tricky spaces,” says Russell. Another dead space became Russell’s rack hovers above; the antique gilded
‘Like a jigsaw’: (clockwise from left) the “Everything’s an odd size, I couldn’t reading nook, accessed by a set of mirror fitted on to the back of her bike.
double-height living area, with its platform buy things off the shelf and almost custom-made, stepped bookshelves. Russell also found the reclaimed doors
and reading nook; the kitchen shelves everything had to be made to fit.” The shapely vase belonged to her locally. Chosen for their patina of time,
accessed by sliding steps; Naomi Russell; Russell wanted to make the space more grandmother; the artwork of silvery they look – like everything else – as if
wallpaper by Netherlands designer Irma efficient, without compromising the eggs is by German artist Rosemarie they have always been here. ■
Boom; and views over the river Amstel architecture. “It was never my intention Trockel. “She had an exhibition at the espacoagora.space
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deeply for our elderly aunt and are determined Manson’s Law applies even if that change to our identity
would benefit us, as your aunt would benefit if she
that we will care for her with the same level moved from her large, impractical house to a flat near
of care that she gave to her own mother. you, and yet it is still too unbearable to contemplate.
However, we really would feel much better, This is deep stuff and she doesn’t want to open that box,
so she prefers to say she hasn’t got time. And maybe
as I think she would do, too, if she were to she hasn’t. As you say in your longer letter to me, she is
spend her last years in a property that met getting sleepier. She is drifting away at times and her
her needs and without the weight of her forgetfulness has increased. Yes, she may well follow her
mother down those stairs and, yes, it could be avoided,
Sunday lunch? My
parents’ possessions around her and her own but if she feels she needs to cling to her sense of who she
mountains of old paperwork. is by being the one who treats rather than the one who is
Sunday Yorkshires are amazing. I’m
from Sheffield – they revoke There was a sheltered accommodation flat helped, plus she feels she is part of that house, part of all
with... your citizenship if you can’t
make Yorkshire pudding.
going near me that would have been perfect, that stuff, this will be what is holding her back.
You could say, “Please, for my sake, let us clear the
but my aunt, although agreeing it would
Rev Kate Bottley I feed people, literally and
metaphorically. My mum be good, was resistant to leaving her large,
house and put you all on one floor so you’ll be safer.”
She only has the present and the past now. She doesn’t
on feeding flocks died in February, so I feed my unmodernised, family home. I have offered to want to think about the future, so clearly she thinks it
and alarm clocks dad, and I make food when
help her sort things out, but she gets agitated
would be nicer to have a lovely lunch. So get her out for
people are sad. I like to think as many nice lunches as you can. These are what really
what I do well – and not just and upset at the thought, insisting that neither matter to her, bringing her, and you, joy.
from the pulpit – is offer she nor I have the time, and wouldn’t it be You and your sister know
Sunday lie in? The only people nourishment. that independent sheltered
thing I don’t like about my
nicer if we just went out for lunch instead? We
all do go for a lot of nice lunches and love it,
Take her accommodation would
job is the tug of war with
my alarm. I’m up at 4.30am
Sunday workout? I swim
in a local river and I’ve got but we need to help at a more practical level. out for as make you all happier and be
the best option, but it seems
in the Holiday Inn in Salford
before my Radio 2 show.
a cold water barrel in the
back garden which is more
It’s so painful to watch. Our grandmother fell many nice it is too big a leap for her to
take. And yet, if she carries
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don’t I? Did you do my cousin’s Write to us: If you have a question, send an email to askphilippa@observer.co.uk.
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