Lesson Demo in

Personal
Development
 CSE lesson –Personal
Development
A.Content standard
The learners demonstrate the dynamics of attraction,
love, and commitment.

B. Performance Standards
The learners shall be able to appraise one’s present
relationships and make plans for building responsible
future relationships.
 CSE lesson -Personal
Development
 C. Learning Competencies/Objectives
I.MELC
Discuss an understanding of teen-age relationships, including the
acceptable and unacceptable expressions of attractions. EsP-PD11/12PR-
IIa-9.1
1.Define relationships
2. Enumerate acceptable and unacceptable expressions
of attractions.
CSE Objective:
CSE Code : K2A3:
Identify potential, legal, social and health consequences of sexual
decision- making.
 CSE-Lesson-Personal
Development

 II. CONTENT
Understanding Teenage Relationship
A. References
CSE Standard Curriculum
K – 12 Curriculum – PERDEV
CSE Draft Reader
Executive Order No. 12, S. 2017
Prayer
Checking of Attendance
Reviewing previous lesson
 A.Reviewing previous lesson or presenting
the new lesson
 FACT or BLUFF (3 mins )
Directions: Write Fact if the statement is
correct and Bluff if the statement is
incorrect.
_______1. Attraction is a
force that unite
people.
Fact
. __________Affection is one of the human
beings' greatest emotions.

FACT
_______3. Infatuation is love
without engagement or intimacy

FACT
______4.People differ in what they
consider attractive

 Fact
_______5. Relationship is a one-way
traffic

 BLUFF
It is said that every kind of relationship is a two-way traffic
which means that all parties should learn how to give and
take. There are different forms of relationships and each of us
has a clear description for each of these forms. We certainly
have our own ways of creating and improving these
relationships.
In this lesson, you will be able to understand what personal
relationship really is. Personal relationship is practically the
kind of relationship that we have with our families, friends,
and partners in life. This definition also applies to our
relationship with those people who are significant to us.
 1.Do you remember someone
who has caused you to lose
self-Control?
 Picture Analysis

 Describe the pictures presented and write

your reaction/observation on the opposite
side of the box.
1.

REACTION
2

REACTION
3

REACTION
 1. What are the pictures
all about?
 2.What did you feel after you wrote your
reaction/observation to the images?
3. Have you experienced this kind of
scenario before? If so, how did you deal
with it? If not yet, how will you react to
this kind of situation?
Teenage relationships: romance
and intimacy. share. Early
teenage relationships often
involve exploring physical
intimacy and sexual feelings
Romantic relationships are a major
developmental milestone. They come with all the
other changes going on during adolescence –
physical, social and emotional. And they’re
linked to your child’s growing interest in body
image and looks, independence and privacy
 When teenage relationships start
 There isn’t a ‘right age’ to start having relationships – every child is different,
and every family will feel differently about this issue. But here are some
averages:
 ● From 9-11 years, your child might start to show more independence from
your family and more interest in friends.
 ● From 10-14 years, your child might want to spend more time in mixed
gender groups, which might eventually end up in a romantic relationship.
 ● From 15-19 years, romantic relationships can become central to social life.
Friendships might become deeper and more stable.
 SEXUAL DECISIONS AND ITS LEGAL,
SOCIAL AND HEALTH CONSEQUENCES
 Sex and teenage relationships
 Same-sex attraction and early sexual experimentation
 never let others pressure you into having sex if you
don’t want to.
 If you are sexually active, you’ll also need to think
about the:
 ● Gender of your sexual partner(s)
 ● Kind of relationship you have with them
 ● Type of contraception (if you have a male partner)
and sexually transmitted infection (STI) prevention
methods you’ll use
 Before you decide to have a sexual relationship, talk
with your partner about whether having sex is what
you both want

Affection is one of human beings' greatest emotions.
There is a lot of passion, but more are conveyed in
an intimate partnership with a compatible partner.
Romantic attachments are one of the most important
aspects of life for these people, and a source of
tremendous fulfilment. However, the will to create a
human link seems innate, which develops our ability
to build a healthy and loving relationship
 Some suggest that early childhood begins to
develop the capacity to create a healthy
relationship with a nanny who regularly satisfies
the child's food, treatment, comfort, protection,
stimulation, and social interaction needs. Such
partnerships are not destinies, but are
hypothesized to establish deeply embedded
relationship patterns with others. The end of a
relationship is however also a source of
significant mental trauma.
 Process questions:
 1.What is teenage relationship?
 2.When are the acts involved in teenage
relationships?
 3.When does teenage relationships start?
 4.What are the consequences of teenage sexual
decisions?
 Discuss Mo ;Present ko
 Instructions:Group the learners into 6 group
 Learners should be given copy of the lecture with assigned topics to be
discussed by each group through graphic organizer.
 Grp. 1- Early teenage relationship and Personal relationship
 Grp,2- Kinds of Relationship
 Grp.3 – Definition of Attraction
 Grp 4- Various attractions that need to remember.
 Grp. 5- What Makes a Healthy and Acceptable Expression of
 Attractions
 Grp, 6 – 10 things That Are Unacceptable in Any Relationship
 (Do the discussion with the learners)
What is early teenage relationship?

 Relationship is a two-way traffic which

means that all parties should learn how to
give and take
 Early teenage relationships often involve
exploring physical intimacy and sexual
feelings.
 Teenage Relationship

Physical Sexual
intimacy feelings
Kinds of personal relationship

*PRIVACY and INTIMACY- are two attributes describing

personal relationships and level of commitment to another
person/s
* IMPERSONAL RELATIONSHIP- commitment to an
organization like a business entity, a principle or purpose.
*ATTRACTION- it is a force that unites people and can grow
into an attachment which eventually leads to commitment.
 Kinds of relationships

Privacy and Impersonal

intimacy
 ATTRACTION
 Proximity and similarity contribute to relationship-building, and
 reciprocity and self-disclosure are critical for sustaining
relationships. Yet, what characteristics do we find attractive
about a person? We don't shape relationships with someone who
lives or works in our vicinity, so how do we determine which
particular individuals we want as friends and partners?
 People differ in what they consider attractive,
and cultural influences on attractiveness.
Nevertheless, research indicates that some
commonly attractive characteristics in women
include wide eyes, high cheekbones, a thin jaw
line, a slim build (Buss 1989), and a lower
waist-to-hip ratio (Singh 1993).
 Attractive features of men include being tall,
having broad shoulders, and a small waist (Buss
1989). Both men and women with high levels of
facial and body symmetry are commonly seen as
more attractive than asymmetric individuals
(Fink, Neave, Manning and Grammer 2006;
Penton-Voak et al. 2001; Rikowski and
Grammer 1999).
 Love is sometimes characterized by
intimacy which is the sharing of details and
emotions and intimate thoughts.
 Sternberg (1986) states that a healthy
relationship will have all three components
of love – intimacy, passion, and
commitment – which are described as
consummate love.
 At different stages of life, however, different
aspects of love may prevail more
 . Other types of love involve affection, described
as intimacy, but not passion or commitment.
 Infatuation is love without engagement or
intimacy.
 Empty love means engagement without passion
or intimacy.
 Companionate love, characteristic of close friendships
and family relationships, is affection and loyalty but
there is no passion.
 Passion and affection describe romantic love, but no
engagement.
 Lastly, fatuous love is characterized by passion and
devotion but no intimacy, such as a long-term sexual
love affair.
 Here are some of the attractions you need to remember:

1. PHYSICAL ATTRACTION IS BASED ON INSTINCT

Most people would claim that they are attracted to someone after a few seconds of
their first encounter. April Masini, who also gives ABC Entertainment News relation
advice, wrote books like Date Out of Your League, suggests that females are naturally
attracted to men who exude affection and passion and seem to live a fascinating life.
Heterosexuals tend to be attracted to men with traditionally masculine features
including muscle body, square jaw, straight nose, and narrow eyes, physically or
emotionally. These physical properties often include higher testosterone levels, common
among "alpha males." Alpha males display a particular personality trait, including
directness, determination, and power.

 2. PHYSICAL ATTRACTION DOES NOT NECESSARILY LEAD TO A
GOOD
RELATIONSHIP

 The first physical attraction is a very poor

indicator, according to Dr. Margaret Paul, an
expert in relationship who has a Ph.D. in
psychology, about how well a relationship
performs that can lead to a feeling about
abandonment.

 3. PLATONIC ATTRACTION IS
IMPORTANT
Believe it or not, it seems that simply living in the
same city or neighborhood makes people experience
more platonic attractions with each other.
 Having a common family history may also be helpful.
Aaron Ben-Ze'ev, a professor of philosophy and
author of The Subtlety of Emotion, suggests that your
relationship may benefit from physical proximity,
living close to your interest in love.
 4. THE UNATTAINABLE IS ATTRACTIVE

 We just want something that cannot be

achieved
 , it will still be attractive to someone we
consider "out-of-the-league" because they
are ideal. As a way to force ourselves to
strengthen both our body appearance and
our social status, we could be producing these
frustrating crushes.
 What Makes a Healthy and Acceptable
Expression of Attractions

1 . Mutual respect
 2. Trust
 3. Honesty
 4. Support.
 5. Fairness/Equality
 6. Separate identities
 7. Good Communication
 10 Things That Are Unacceptable in Any
Relationship
 1. Cheating
 2. Putting you down
 3. Not supporting your dreams
 4. Controlling
 5. Lack of communication
 6. Unnecessary sacrifices
 7.Unreliability
 8. Forgetting the memorable day
 9. Self-destruction
 10. Not caring about friends and family
 SEXUAL DECISIONS AND ITS LEGAL,
SOCIAL AND HEALTH CONSEQUENCES
1. Sex and teenage relationships
 If your child is in a relationship, it can bring up questions about sex and
intimacy.
 Not all teenage relationships include sex, but most teenagers will
experiment with sexual behaviour at some stage. This is why your child
needs clear information on contraception, safe sex and sexually
transmitted infections (STIs).
 This could also be your chance to talk together about dealing with
unwanted sexual and peer pressure. If you keep the lines of
communication open and let your child know that you’re there to listen,
he’ll be more likely to come to you with questions and concerns.
 2.Same-sex attraction and early sexual
experimentation
 3.Need to do when sexually active (decision
making)
Young women have to make lots of decisions
about sex, including whether to abstain (not
have sex), or be sexually active.
 Steps in making decisions
1. Know the Gender of your sexual partner(s)
2. know the Kind of relationship you have with them
3.Type of contraception (if you have a male partner) and
sexually transmitted infection (STI) prevention methods you’ll
use
4.Before you decide to have a sexual relationship, talk with your
partner about whether having sex is what you both want.
5.Ask about his or her sexual history, including if he or she
has had any STI’s.
6.Talk about what kinds of STI prevention methods you plan to
use.
 7.If you are in a heterosexual (straight) relationship, talk about
birth control (condom, birth control pill, injection hormones,
the “patch”, the “ring”, or IUD) and what you would do if it
failed.
 8. If you feel that you can’t talk to your partner about these
issues, then you should rethink whether or not you should be
having a sexual relationship.
 9.Be open and honest about whether you or your partner have
been, or will be sexually involved with other people.Remember,
the risk of getting an STI or a virus that can cause cancer or
AIDS is increased if you or your partner(s) have sexual
intercourse with other people. The more partners, the greater
the risk!
 9.Talk to your primary care provider about methods of
birth control that are right for you, and about how to
prevent STI’s.
 10. Don’t forget that a female can get pregnant at ANY
time if she has sex with a male without a condom, or if
she is not using birth control correctly. To lessen the
chance of pregnancy and STI’s, you should use a latex
condom every time you have sex, and consider using toys
such as the remote control love egg instead of sex. The
only way to absolutely prevent getting pregnant or an
STI is to not have sex.
 Whom can I talk to about sex?
You should talk to

 your parent(s)/guardian(s),
 a trusted adult /school counselor
 someone from your religious
center/youth group
 your health care provider
 .It’s a good idea to discuss all of your choices and any
concerns you may have so that you can make healthy
decisions. Deciding whether or not to have sex can be a
difficult decision, so it’s always good to have someone
to talk to. If you’re in a happy relationship based on
trust and mutual compassion but unfortunately your
sexual desires are waning, it might be worth trying the
most powerful aphrodisiac for women to spice up your
sexual activity and breathe some new life into it.
 Process Questions

 1. How do you decide on you own as

teenager on matters relating to teenage
relationships?
 2. As teenager, are you ready to engage in a
relationship? Why or why not?
 3.Are you ready to face consequences of your
decision especially to sexual relationships?
Activity : Situational Analysis
Directions : Identify whether the following pictures are acceptable or
Unacceptable expressions of attraction. Acceptable expression of attractions is beneficial for both parties, and
unacceptable expressions of attraction displease each individual in a relationship or even the people in the society
 Process Questions:
 1.How did you categorize the acceptable and
unacceptable teenage relationships?
 2.If you are in that situation how would you
react?
 3.Why do we need to understand the acceptable
and unacceptable teen-age relationships?
Have you experienced, or have you known someone
who has experienced the following unacceptable
expression of attractions? Write your answer on a
separate sheet of paper.
a.Cheating
b.Controlling
c.Unreliability
d.Lack of communications skills
Answer the table below. The situation is written on the first column. On the
second column, write the reasons why these unacceptable expressions of
attractions happen; on the third column, write the possible effects of this kind
of relationship; on the fourth column, write your reactions; and your advice on
the fifth column

Situation Reasons Effect Reaction Advice

Cheating

controlling

unrealibility

Lack of
communicatio
n
 Complete the following statement. Today I
have learned
_____________________________________
_____.
 Now, I can
_____________________________________
_____________
Fill Me In (5 mins.)
 Fill in the blanks with the correct answer to complete each sentence Choose
from the given options below. Write your answer on a separate sheet.
1.__________ ______is practically the kind of relationship that we have with
our families, friends, and partners in life.
2._______________ is a force that unites people and can grow into an
attachment which eventually leads to commitment 3.__________________
commitment to an organization like a business entity, a principle, or purpose.
4.__________________ means engagement without passion or intimacy.
5.People differ in what they consider attractive and cultural influences on
__________________.
PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP ATTRACTION EMPTY LOVE
ATTRACTIVENESS
IMPERSONAL REALATIONSHIP
Activity: Relationship Goals
1.List your expectations for your current
or future relationship goals.

2.It could be in the form of a song, a

quote, a hugot or pick up line.