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Module 1: Pushing Her Curiosity Button
In the world of online dating, just like out in the real world, it is all about getting noticed.
You have to stand out and get her attention. You have to stand out in the crowd. You HAVE
to create curiosity for all attraction begins with curiosity. When we become curious about
something or someone, our attention focuses, even if for a brief moment, and it is this
attention that allows attraction to form and blossom. Think about any woman you have ever
been interested in, I guarantee you something about her caught your attention. Even if it was
just her stunning looks. After all how can you fall in love with someone who you dont even
know is there?
There are two main ways you can stand out and push a womans curiosity button online. First
and most importantly is your profile. As you will soon learn, this is the most important piece
of the online dating puzzle. Dont worry I am going to show you exactly what to do and how
to do it. It should only take you about 30 min to an hour to set it up but once you do it will be
working for you day and night. It wont be uncommon for you to wake up with messages
from girls who found your profile and couldnt help but write you! The cool thing is once you
create one, you can use it on multiple sites with only minor adjustments. So make sure you
take the time and put in the effort to set it up right using the principles I am about to show
you.
The second part of pushing a womans curiosity button is the opening message. I am going to
show you the common mistakes that guys make when writing a woman for the first time and
why most of them never get responses. I am also going to show you some different of
examples of successful opening messages and how you can create your own. So lets jump
right in and get started.
Creating A Profile That Gets Noticed
What Most Guys Are Doing Wrong
How to Market Yourself
How to Choose the Right Pictures
Writing Your About Me Section
Displaying Standards
Blogs, Notes, Quizes and Bulletins
Status Updates
A Quick Note on Myspace
Putting It All Together Profile
Breakdown
Wrap Up
Sending Out The Opening Message
What Most Guys are Doing Wrong
Browsing
Spotting a Fake
The Purpose of an Opening Message
The Anatomy of a Successful
Opening Message
To Customize or Not to Customize
Different Strategies for Different
Sites
Putting It All Together

Creating a Profile That Gets Noticed

When it comes to meeting women online there is no one piece more crucial than your profile.
Your profile will make or break you every single time. With a properly set up profile women
will forgive many mistakes. In fact, you will even have women opening you! However, with
a lackluster profile, even girls who would normally be extremely interested in you will not
respond no matter how good your first message is.Look at it this way, your profile is you own
persona commercial. In the online world of dating you only have one quick shot to make a
good impression. Just like a commercial, you have to hit as many points as possible to make
her interested in the productyou!
Your profile is going to be your best friend. It is as if you have a personal promoter working
for you 24/7. It is almost like going into a club/bar where your best friend has gone in before
you and build you up to every attractive girl in the place so that the second you walk in they
are all over you brimming with interest. I am not kidding. When it comes to online dating
your profile is THAT important!
It is crazy. You can send out several messages one day and while you are hanging out with
friends, studying, watching a movie, playing video games, reading a book or even on another
date your profile will be working tirelessly attracting women and setting up dates for you. It
is not uncommon for me to wake up to an inbox full of numbers of new, attractive women
who are excited to go on a date with me. I hope you are beginning to see how crucial your
profile is.
I am going to let you in on a little secret that I have learned from meeting up with hundreds of
women from online. Most of them told me that they paid very little attention to my first
message (although this is important as well and I will teach you EVERYTHING you need to
know about sending out a irresistible first message) but went directly to my profile and it was
my profile that convinced them to write back.
Here is what you ultimately want to accomplish with your profile:
You want to separate yourself from all the other guys out there. Lucky for you, most
guys make the same mistakes and this system will put you way ahead of them.
You want to create intrigue. Once a woman opens your initial message you want her
to go from who is this guy messaging me? to I want to know who this guy is who
is messaging me. That subtle shift make all the difference in the world. And I am
going to show you EXACTLY how to do it!
You want your profile to be so easy for a woman to read through that she cant help
but stay on your page until she is has read it all! By then you will be so far ahead of
the other guys trying to message her it will be a walk in the parkand who doesnt
like a walk in the park?

WHAT MOST GUYS ARE DOING WRONG
So you want to set up an amazing profile that drives women wild and sets you apart from all
the other guys out there spinning their wheels and getting no replies? I dont blame you! But
first of all lets get into what most guys are doing wrong so you can make sure to avoid
turning the majority of women off before you even have the chance to meet them.
What Most Guys Are Doing Wrong
You want to know the #1 mistake most guys are making when it come to setting up their
profile? Here it is: They are marketing to other guys! How silly is that? They cant get
outside their own head and see it from a womans prospective. The think they need to be bad
asses. It is as if their online profile is simply an extension of how they project themselves at
bars, clubs and other social gatherings. They have to be cool and show every other guy
around that they are cool. It becomes a pissing contest that pushes women away.
I dont know about you but I want my online profile to appeal to woman. I want it to catch
their attention and get them excited to meet me! It took me years to figure this stuff out but
after A LOT of mistakes and hard work I figured out what works. If you want the same thing
then listen up.
First of all let go of trying to look cool. I promise you the cool guy online is the guy who
isnt getting dates and isnt getting laid. Here is what the cool guy is doing wrong:
Like I just said, he is trying to impress other guys which is pushing away women.
He chooses pictures that he thinks make him look cool instead of pictures that
demonstrate different aspects of his personality.
He fails to set up his profile in a way that allows for a variety of women to connect
with him but instead appears very one dimensional.
He doesnt take the time to make his profile organized and easy to read so women
give up because it is too much effort.
He adds either too much information and loses all mystery (bores her) or doesnt put
enough to engage a woman properly.

How To Do It Right
So how do you avoid making these mistakes and in the process set yourself apartand by
apart I mean put yourself in the top 1% of all guys out there meeting women online? Let me
break down the most important principles that go into a ridiculously successful online profile.
Market yourself to women not other guys
How do you market to women? First off you have to let go of the ego driven need to be
cool. Not taking yourself too seriously is a HUGE turn on for women. It sub-communicates
a deep inner confidence that instantly sets you apart. One way to do this is by adding in a
damaging admission. Ill show you how to do that effectively in a minute.
Make it as easy as possible for her
When creating your profile make sure to pick a color scheme that makes the text easy to read.
Too often I see guys profiles that are too busy. They have random pictures all over the place
or flashing images that are very distracting. The worst is bright psychodelic colors that make
the text unreadable. With online dating, a woman has no social pressure to respond to you
and no social niceties that encourage her to stay on your profile. If it is hard for her to read or
is so distracting it takes extra effort to find out about you she will just leave. Luckily most
online dating sites set it up in a format that at least separates your text into sections. However,
it is up to you to make sure you have proper grammar, and write clear, concise sentences. As
you will see shortly less is definitely more.
Chose pictures that show the diversity of your personality and paint you in a
favorable light
If the old adage is true: a picture is worth a thousand words, then you better be damn sure that
each picture you choose is speaking volumes about who you are as a person. Here are some
key points to remember when choosing which pictures to put up on your profile:
Tell a story
Make sure each picture you chose tells a story that demonstrates a specific, attractive aspect
of your personality. For example do you love rock climbing?..then have one of you rock
climbing. The positive part of your personality it shows is that you like to be outdoors, are in
shape and are adventurous. How great is that? Are you an avid world traveler? Have a picture
or two of you in exotic places around the world. Most women say they love to travel but have
never really made it happen. Now they have a reason to be envious of you and it insinuates
that you have great stories to tell, are adventurous, and go after what you want. Well done!
Almost anything that is a hobby or passion of yours will work.
Variety is key!
Just as you want each picture to tell a story about you, you also want to make sure each
picture tells a DIFFERENT story. If you like hokey (hey I am in Montreal right now) great
but if every picture you put up is of you playing or watching hokey it paints you as a one
dimensional person. One of the key things women are looking for in a guy is someone who
can teach them new things. When they imagine themselves in your life (which I will show
you how to do later on) they want to know you can add value to their lives. Will their time
with you be full of fun, adventure, growth, new awesome social connections and new
perspectives on life or will it be sitting around watching or talking about hokey all day. I am
not saying some girl out there wouldnt just love that but most will get bored, lose interest
and go in search of someone else who can provide them the variety they crave. If you dont
have any pictures of you out doing a variety of interesting things then get you ass away from
your computer right now, grab a digital or disposable camera and get out there!
Note:One way to ensure you are always growing as a person, have awesome stories and
pictures, be always increasing the value you have to offer other people (including all the cute
women you are going to be meeting online because of this system) is to chose 1 thing each
month that you have always wanted to do and do it. You have always wanted to go white
water rafting.well look up where you can go, get a group of friends together (hey look you
are starting to become the leader of your social circlehow very attractive you are
becoming) and just do it already! No excuses. Dont let your life slip away always wishing
you had done it. It doesnt have to be anything as big as white water rafting either. It can be
something as small as going to a museum, taking a one day sculpting class or learning how to
play chess. I dont care JUST DO IT! In addition, read one book, article or magazine in a
NEW area of interest each month. Dont kid yourself and say you dont have enough time, it
is all about priorities! Do you want to be the most attractive guy you can be? The start right
now. It will pay off in spades I promise you. End of Sermon.
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much stronger if you customize it a bit to connect with the specific types of girls you are
attracted to or that would fit in your lifestyle. Remember birds of a feather flock together. We
are more attracted to people who are similar to us because we can relate to them. Just keep
this in mind when you setting your profile up.
On the same note, it is crucial you have pictures with women of the same caliber as the ones
you are going after. If you are going after models but have no pictures with women who are
of model quality beauty then you are, for all practical purposes, shit out of luck. Like it or
not, our society is divided up by perceived social value. We are all trying to increase our
value to score a better mate. Now it is my belief that your main value comes from within but
why make it harder on yourself than you need to. If you want to get a great breakdown of
how value works, the 3 types of value women look for and how to increase yours in all 3
areas check out the programUNBREAKABLE. (insert link here)
If you dont have any pictures with the types of women you are into it isnt that hard to do.
Just grab a camera, go out and when you see the type of woman simply use this highly
effective opener developed by my buddy Brad Jackson(insert Hiroshima video with affiliate
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Writing your about me section(s)
No matter which site(s) you are using, you are going to have to write an ABOUT ME section
or something similar. In fact, on most sites there will be a bunch of sections where you are
going to have to write about yourself. Here are some essential points to keep in mind:
Grammar and Clarity
Remember how I told you to make your profile as easy as possible for women to read? Well a
big part of that is to actually make sense. If you use poor grammar and run on sentences not
only does it make your profile arduous to read but also says something about you; namely
you are either lazy or uneducated. With modern spell check you have no excuses. Have a
friend proofread it if need be.
As far as clarity is concerned, just use this simple rule: If you can say what you are trying to
say with less wordsDO IT! You are not writing a novel here, you are trying to create
curiosity so that a woman will keep reading and become engaged enough to write you back.
That brings me to my next point.
Less is more
As I have said before, the point of your profile is to intrigue a woman. Two sure fire ways to
extinguish her curiosity is to either giver her too little information or way too much. The best
course of action is to put up just enough info to pique her curiosity to the point she is willing
to dig deeper and find out more about you. Dont worry I will show you exactly how to do
just that.
Diversity = More opportunities
Just like with your pictures, the more diverse you are with your interests and other aspects of
your personality, the more opportunities you create for her to connect with you. If you have
the opportunity to list your hobbies, books, music, favorite movies or tv shows, make sure to
sprinkle in fun ones. Dont be afraid to put in things that seem silly or things your think your
friends would make fun of you for. They wont be making fun when you have beautiful, fun
girls constantly showing up.
One thing we all do is reminisce about our childhoods. This gives you are great opportunity
to connect with a woman and give her opportunities to engage you! Remember what I said
about doing all the work for her so it is as EASY as possible for her to fall for you? Simply
put in popular movies, tv shows, cartoons, music artists, etc from when you were a kid.
When you have a book like the Tao Te Ching next to Harry Potter or If You Gave a Mouse a
Cookieit shows you have depth, even a bit of contradiction. This is a foundational tenant of
intrigue. Any person who is one dimensional robs us of the joy of surprise and thus we
become bored. And boredom is the stranglehold that chokes out all attraction and kills
relationships before they ever get a chance to get off the ground.
Sense of humor
The top reason women write me on social networking and dating sites is because they
thought my profile was fun to read. A sense of humor is consistently rated (along with
confidence) by women as the most attractive quality in a man.
Apparently the possession of humor implies the possession of a number of typical habit-
systems. The first is an emotional one: the habit of playfulness. Why should one be proud of
being playful? For a double reason. Frist, playfulness connotes childhood and youth. If one
can be playful, one still possesses something of the vigor and the joy of young life.. But there
is a deeper implication. To be playful is, in a sense, to be free. When a person is playful, he
momentarily disregards the binding necessities which compel him, in business and morals, in
domestic and community life What galls us is that the binding necessities do not permit us
to shape our world as we please What we most deeply desire, however, is to create our
world for ourselves. Whenever we can do that, even in the slightest degree, we are happy.
Now in play we create our own world..
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As you have learned in the beliefs section, not taking yourself too seriously is incredibly
attractive. One fun way to do this is to add in a damaging admission. A damaging admission
is something that shows you are human like the rest of us thus making you infinitely more
relatable. Often on dating sites people are trying to seem like they are this perfect person. It
makes sense, they want to come across as best they can. But we all know that no one is that
perfect. So put up an embarrassing fact about yourself or talk about a fault you have in a fun
way.
One I often put up is how I got a perm in the 5th grade because my mom had one and I
thought it would be cool. I got mercilessly made fun of and cut it 3 days later but the point is
it is a funny admission that gives women a chance to poke fun at me. It is a great
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Probably the easies way to do all of this is to just create and answer questions that allow you
the opportunity to display your personality. I do this no matter which site I am. Here are a
few questions that I typically use:
If re-incarnation is real, in my past lives I was most likely:
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The fasted ways to my heart are:
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Important things I have learned from my past relationships:
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What I am doing with my life:
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6 Things I could never live without:
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What I am looking for in a Woman:
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Message me if:
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6 things I still want to accomplish:
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As you can see all of these questions allow you the perfect opportunity to display your
personality and set yourself apart. Some of these I have picked up from various dating sites
and some I have come up with on my own. Feel free to experiment.
Blogs, Notes, Quizes and Bulletins
On social media sites and some free/pay dating sites there are options to write a separate
blog, note, or bulletin. These are great ways to allow girls to find out more about you. As I
mentioned earlier, keep you About Me section short, easy to read and chalk full of fun
aspects of your personality. This is just to get a girl interested enough to write you back or to
even initiate a conversation with you. Here is whats cool about blogs/notes/bulletins, a
woman whos curiosity button is pushed and is now intrigued will want to know more about
you. She will go back to your profile and snoop around to see if there is anything she missed.
When she finds your blog/note or bulletin she will be sure to read it. Here is a great
opportunity for you to add more information to further boost her attraction and move forward
to the next button. Just look how powerful these can be:
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comments.
Comments. One of the reasons you need to constantly be uploading new pictures and
updating your status is to get comments. Comments show that you are social and that other
people accept you. This is essential for a woman on facebook to see when she is judging if
you are a real, attractive and worth her time.
For these reasons, I use facebook much more to befriend and keep in contact with girls I
either meet in person or meet online and have already dated or are currently dating. This in no
ways means you cannot meet new women to date on facebook. On the contrary, I have met
many and still do to this day. However, free and paid online dating sites, along with social
networking sites where you can search, make it so easy to meet an unlimited amount of hight
quality awesome girls that I use them much more often.
A quick note on Myspace
No Myspace is not dead and yes I still meet women on there. With that said, my Myspace
profile is set up a little different. Instead of writing an about me section, I just embed pictures
that show my life and my interests. This is because Myspace allows for html code to embed
elements directly on your page.
You can check out my profile here: http://www.myspace.com/racedepriest
I will do a total breakdown of setting up an awesome myspace page in the Insiders Club so be
looking for that. But here are the two main codes you need for embedding pictures and hiding
you friends list (which is especially helpful if you are just starting off and it comes off as
mysterious)
embed pictures:
First you have to upload your pictures to an image hosting site like www.photobucket.com or
myspace itself.
Next, paste the following HTML code into any section (i.e. About Me, Interests, Who Id like
to Meet):
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Where http://www.imagehost.com/images/pic.jpg will be re- placed with the URL pointing
to your image and Picture caption will be replaced with your caption.
By specifying the width property in the<img> tag you ensure that your photos will have a
consistent width (the height of the image will be adjusted automatically to maintain the
original aspect ratio). This technique will ensure that your images are not too large and that
theyre easy to view.
Hiding Friends list:
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And here is the site I used to make my profile layout:
http://www.my-myspace-layouts.com/thomas-myspace-editor
If you have any questions feel free to ask and be sure to check out the video in the Insiders
Club
Putting It All Together
So you can get a clearer picture of what this all looks like put together I am going to show
you my actual plenty of fish profile and my OkCupid profile. Please do not copy it word for
word but do notice how all the elements come together to make a profile that sticks out and
gets noticed by women.
OkCupid
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Wrap Up
So I hope by now you understand all the elements that go into making a truly stand out
profile. The cool thing is you only have to put in the work once and then your profile works
for you indefinitely. However, if you fail to put in the time and effort to set up your profile
right you might as well stop right now. It might just be the single most important piece of the
puzzle. AS one blogger puts it:
Only 10% of people who join Online Dating sites actually get any replies and that is a truly
sad fact.
The reason is that 90% dont bother to write an interesting profile or upload pictures of
themselves.
Thats a lot like fishing without baiting the hook. I wonder what they expected. The 10% who
do get noticed have posted upbeat profiles and pictures.
I have given you all the tools and principles here to be the 10% so to speak so stop reading
this right now and go set up your profile right. Seriously, dont even bother going to the next
part until you apply these principles to your current profile or create a new one on the social
networking or dating site(s) of your choice. Go ahead Ill wait.

Sending Out the Opening Message
The second part to pushing a womans curiosity button and creating engagement is the
opening message you send her. Although not NEARLY as important as how you set up your
profile, if you do it wrong you will be shooting yourself in the foot. Image the opening
messages as the tasty bait and your profile as the hook. Before I get into how to make your
bait irresistible I need to explain what most guys are sending out so you can see why a
majority of them are having little to no results with online dating.
What Most Guys Are Doing Wrong
When I was first starting out learning how to meet women online, I would have the girls I
was meeting send me over typical messages that guys were sending them. I discovered
something startling; almost every single guy was sending 1 of 2 types of messages.
Message type #1
A short message that tells her how attractive she is and then suggests they hang out (usually
with a tremendous amount of grammatical error).
wat up momma u look hot. we shud hang sum time. holla at me.
I am seriously not joking.
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Message type #2
A guys writes a LOOOOONG message explaining all the reasons why they are perfect for
each other. In other words, he tries to sell himself to her usually while pining on about how
gorgeous she is, how well he would treat her and how successful he is.
Is it any wonder these guys are not getting responses? Dont worry if you have done a
variation of either of these. I am going to show you how to do it right. But first lets go over a
few things to keep in mind when searching for girls to message.
Spotting a Fake Profile
There are many fake profile on Social Networking sites and free dating sites. There are less
so on payed dating sites but still you will want to know what to look for to keep you from
wasting your time.
Sure signs that the hot girls profile you are looking at is fake are:
only one picture (probably the biggest indicator)
hasnt filled out her information or the grammar is way off
has a link to naughty pictures she couldnt put on MySpace/Facebook/Etc
has no friends or way too many friends (social networking sites)
the only comments she has are from lame ass guys saying, Hey sexy, Happy
Humpday or Hey babe thanks 4 the add (social networking sites)
her location is set to China or USA instead of a specific city
If you see any of these signs, just move on as it is a fake profile and you are wasting your
time.
The Art of Browsing
Every free and paid online dating site lets you search for woman based on a variety of
criterion (eg. location, age, height, ethnicity, religion, body type, hair colore, eye colore, etc).
You can literally search for exactly what you want in a woman. Many social networking sites
allow you to do this as well. My personal advice on browsing on Social Networking sites is to
always select single or divorced from the options. Why waste your time messaging woman
who are not looking?
Once you have figured out what you are looking for do the search. There will be a list of
women with pictures and a brief intro to their profiles or basic information. If you want to
maximise your time simply hold down the CONTROL key (APPLE OR COMMAND on a
Mac) and click on all the women that you might want to message. This will open them all up
in new tabs. Now you can go through and message all the ones you want without having to
go back and forth searching every time.
Facebook and Browsing for New Women
You can no longer search from woman on facebook. If anyone figures out a way please let
me know. The best work arounds I have found to meet new women on facebook are as
follows:
-Find friends of friends
-Search for a random name (such as typing in Jessicafacebook will give you all the
Jessicas in your area first)
-Go to groups and find one in your area (eg. local university or museum)
None of these are perfect since you cant always tell if she is single. There is a definite
delicacy to contacting friends of friends but I will show you how to do it in a bit. Facebook is
FAR better as relationship management tool with girls you meet on other sites.
The Purpose of an Opening Message
Ok now that you have a bevy of beautiful woman to message lets go over how to send out a
successful opening message that sets you apart from the pack and piques her curiosity. Let
me start with the main purpose of the opening message.
The primary goal of an opening message is to be read and to receive a response. Nothing
more. You just need to make it through all her shields and generate enough curiosity to go
check out your profile and then, thanks to having the coolest profile ever, receive a response.
Once you receive a response, you can transition into a conversation that demonstrates what a
great, fun and exciting guy you are, but without the initial response, you have no
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creativity?! i am not creative that sucks! About me.my favorite subjectnot!! I work a lot
(like 7 days a week) and party almost as muchwhat about you Mr. Victim of my
molesting?
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As you can see, in both examples the conversation has got to the point where I can take it on
many different conversational threads. Soon she will be having so much fun talking to you
she wont even care what started the conversation.
Facebook, Openers and Friend Requests
Facebook is unique because, as far as I can tell (and believe me I have tried) there is no way
to easily search for women based on criterion you choose. This makes it tougher since you
cant always tell if she is single and if she is a friend of a friend you run the risk of spoiling
your social network by gossip if you mess up too badly. For most cases using a My
Mistake opener keeps you in the clear. But what do you do if she is already a friend?
It is quite simple actually. If she has been a friend a friend for a while you can simply start
out by saying something like, how do we know each other again? This puts you in a great
position. First off, she will go check out your profile to see how she knows you. If you have it
set up correctly (awesome pictures, plenty of friends, fun updates, comments, etc) then you
already started shifting in her mind from how do I know this guy to I am curious to know
who this guy is. Secondly, since you are the one asking the question it is as if you are the
suspicious one who doesnt just let anyone be their friend. You will learn more about
displaying standards later.
In Action:
Race June 12 at 12:10pm
hey how do we know each other btw?
-
Alexis June 16 at 6:21pm
hey
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No matter what she says I will guess where I thought I knew her from. Make sure to make
it something fun that she would want to do so that you could invite her to do later on in the
conversation.
If You Get Caught Using The Same Opener
It is bound to happen. Youve messaged a girl and she replies that either you or some other
guy sent her the same message. There are several ways to handle this. The easiest is to just
click next and move on. However, the fact that she responded means she is still interacting
with you. As long as she is doing that, it is possible to bring her around. Remember, the
opposite of love is not hate, but indifference.
Here are some examples of things you could say if you sent her the same message twice on
accident:
-I must have really wanted to talk to youhaha {change subject}
-My mistake. I hit my head while {something silly i.e. mud wrestling, cliff diving, etc.} Let
me make it up to you. Here is a joke my nephew told me today
-I just wanted to give myself a second chance to make a better first impressionhahaj/k
{change subject}
If she received the same message from someone else you could use any of these:
-I cant help it that so many people want to be like mehaha {change subject}
-Really? Which one of us is cuter?haha {change subject}
-That was my evil twin. I swear Im the good onehaha {change subject}
Wrap Up
And there you have it. With a kick ass profile and an engaging opening message to set you
apart you are ready to start messaging women. So get out there and start doing it right now!
When you get an inbox full of beautiful women excited to talk to you move on to the next
section, Pushing Her Playfulness Button.

Module 2: Push her playfulness button

So you have sent out some awesome opening messages that have caught a womans attention
and got her curious enough to check out your profile. After looking over your profile she was
so intrigued she couldnt help but write you back. Congratulations, you have just successfully
pushed her curiosity button enough to bring you to the next phase of the interaction. Here is
where you are going to transition into a fun and playful conversation, allowing the spark of
curiosity to turn into full on flirting. This is where it starts to get fun!
Note: No matter what, in the initial stages of your interaction you want to direct the
conversation in a playful manner. It is much easier to knock down peoples barriers with
humor than to be serious. Being serious has a tendency to cause people to be defensive or
bore them. This is the opposite of pushing her Playful Button.
Messaging Fundamentals
Before we jump in on how to transition from the opening message into a full blown
conversation full of flirting and fun there are some fundamental guidelines that you will want
to keep in mind as the interaction progresses. These are guiding principles not law.
Its Not a Big Deal
Remember at all times ITS NOT A BIG DEAL. If you ever open your inbox and see a
message from a girl youve been talking to and start to get nervous (Ive done it too), take a
deep breath, and remember ITS NOT A BIG DEAL. Her response says nothing about you.
She cannot hurt you, upset you, reject you, or even make you happy. That is up to you. You
are in control. She is a picture and a few lines of text. Nothing she says has anything to do
with you. It is her response to the fun, playful, and charming messages you are sending. If she
doesnt want to be fun and playful back she is not the type of girl you would want to meet up
with anyway. There are millions of girls on Match, OkCupid, PlentyofFish, MySpace,
Facebook and other social networking sites. Just click next.
Part of having the attitude of a powerful, attractive male is not to be affected by other
peoples opinions or responses. You know who you are and what you want. If you do get an
apparently negative response, just use phrases like, Wow you sure are a feisty one, Calm
down there cowgirl, Im just having some fun. Youre kinda cute when youre all riled up..
haha etc., and then just push on towards your desired outcome. Every now and then, you
will receive a blatantly angry response with something like, Why are you writing me?, I
have a boyfriend, I hate guys like you, etc. This has nothing to do with you. It is her
personal problem. Delete the message and move on. However, if you get a significant number
of messages like this, then you may need to re-evaluate what you are doing and fine tune it.
Use Emoticons and Short hand in Place of Non-Verbal Communication
Since most in-person communication is done through non-verbal cues such as body language,
vocal tonality, facial expressions, etc. it is critical to use emoticons, acronyms and initialisms
(words that describe bodily reactions ie lol, haha) to create the mood youre intending to
communicate. As you will see in many of the examples, we will end a statement with:
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At the same time, have fun with the conversation. Enjoy the uniqueness and spontaneity that
each new girl brings. With practice, youll quickly learn to guide the flow of the interaction
like a pro.
Conversation Hooks and Multiple Threads
The goal is to engage her in a conversation within the first three messages totally independent
of the opening message. A typical mistake guys make is sticking to only one conversational
thread. This quickly gets played out and shows lack of conversational skills. You want to use
conversation hooks to open multiple threads of conversation. The more conversational
threads you have going the more you have to talk about and connect on. This is going to be
crucial for pushing the other buttons.
Conversation hooks are statements or questions that create an opportunity for her to engage in
conversation. Make sure to use hooks that she can relate to. The easiest way to introduce a
new conversational hook and open up a new conversational thread is by using Transitional
Phrases.
Transitioning Phrases
Transitional phrases are the single most important tool used in keeping control of the
conversation. Phrases such as Guess what.., Check this out, I have to say.., Youll
never believe what happened today, or simply so, allow you to redirect the
conversation onto any topic you want. Usually, these will be used to tell stories that make her
laugh, ask her questions that create more thread topics or to play fun games that encourage
her to stay engaged in the conversation and even subsequently provide you with an
opportunity to compliment her based on how well she performed.
In Action:
Race
10:11am Feb 27th
you took a white belt? tisk tisk you should have explained the rice rule! haha
so we agree on sushi but do we agree on surprise adventure? If you were to take me on a
surprise adventure where would we go and what would we do?
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2:39pm Feb 27th
white belt? (im guessing thats a no rice leftover/sushi rule?)
hmmmm suprise adventure?? well if i told you it wouldnt be a suprise!
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2:54pm Feb 27th
ok not a surprise but a random adventure . go!
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6:07pm Feb 27th
i was thinking more of cliff jumping in chile or snorkeling the great barrier reef in australia
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8:43pm Feb 27th
haha ok if you wanna go that route then
parasailing in Hawaii,white river rafting in Colorado, and bannana boats in the carribiian!
By simply saying so we agree on sushi but do we agree on surprise adventure? I was
able to open a new thread independent of the opening message that had to do with sushi. It
cant get much easier than that.
Answering Questions
It is generally a good rule to answer any questions she has early on in your interaction;
avoiding them looks shady. However, you dont have to answer the full question, or spend
more than one sentence on it, depending on the question. A lot of times girls dont know what
to ask so they ask questions like what do you do? or why are you on this site?. Dont get
sucked into a typical boring conversation but it is better to take control of the conversation
and move it towards more engaging conversation for both of you.
Making Up Memories with Roleplaying
Remember when you used to play house with a girl you like in elementary school? You
were the husband and girl you had a crush on was the wife. Or perhaps it was doctor and
patient or Kind and Queen of the castle (a.k.a. the slide). Although it may have just seemed
like a fun game at the time, there was some very powerful psychological principles of
attraction going on there. The best part is those principles are far more effective now that you
are older. In fact, the affects of successfully role-playing with a woman you are interested in
are so astounding you will wonder why you havent been doing it all along.
The human brain has trouble distinguishing between imagined events and real memories.
This is significant because every time you create an imagined event with a woman using role-
playing, she is in essence creating a memory with you. The more memories you have with
someone the more comfortable you feel around them. After all, are not all the relationships
you have in your life formed from the feelings and bonds created through shared memories
together?
When role-playing with a woman the devil is in the details. The more vivid she can imagine
herself experiencing the events you describe the more powerful and real the memory will
become. You want to pick roles where you do things together or where she is the one who is
looking up to or chasing you.
Here are a few examples of role-playing ideas:
-Husband and Wife (or exs)
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-Stalker and Victim (she is the one stalking you)
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This takes a little practice but one of the many beautiful advantages of online dating is you
have as much time as you want to think about your response. Start thinking of fun ways you
can misinterpret (albeit always in a fun way never in an offensive way) something she said.
How to Ask Questions the Right Way
Be curious. Asking questions allow you to move the conversation forward to where you want
it to go while gathering information you can use for flirting. The types of you questions you
want to ask are OPEN ENDED questions that are preferably unusual. That is to say dont ask
questions that can be answered with either a yes or a no such as do you like music?. A
simple way to turn that into an open ended question is by asking what types of music do you
like?. This cannot be answered with a yes or no. To make it more unusual you could ask If
you could date any rockstar who would it be and why?.
Here are a few of my favorites:
-If a genie grants you one wish what would it be?
-What is your favorite thing to do to have fun?
-In your opinion what is the one thing the opposite gender needs to learn?
-Have you gone on any adventures this summer?
-What is the silliest thing you own?
-What is the one place you havent visited by would love to see?
-If you could have any music group alive today play at your birthday party, who would you
want?
For now keep them light and playful but in the next 2 Modules you will learn how to ask
questions that will build a deeper connection and gauge her sexual radar.
Note: You dont have to necessarily have to answer a question she asks you immediately, but
can answer it with a question of your own. Simply say, Wow, nobodys ever asked me that
before. What made you ask me? or Great question, but before I answer can I ask you.
Passing a Womans Tests
Using all the techniques in this system you will begin to build attraction really quickly with
women. They are not used to this happening. Because of this, they will often test you to see if
you really are the fun, cool, high value guy that you are portraying yourself to be. Based on
how you react, she will either become far more attracted to you or realize that it was just too
good to be true and move on and stop responding to you. This does not mean she is being
bitchy or mean or doesnt like you. In fact, it is the exact opposite.
IF SHE IS GIVING YOU A TEST, THAT MEANS SHE IS STARTING TO LIKE YOU!
Cherish the moments a woman suddenly gives you resistance or gives you hell about
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have to be is be genuinely curious. Think about the last time someone was talking to you and
was genuinely curious about something that you were really passionate about. Chances are
you lit up like a 1000 watt light bulb and talked excitedly for as long as they would listen.
You can provide the same thing for a woman online by being genuinely curious about what
makes her tick.
You might wonder why I didnt just bring this up sooner. Quite simply because she wasnt
ready for you to dig deeper. You MUST first Push Her Curiosity Button and build attraction
by Pushing Her Playfulness Button before you can start making a deeper connection. If you
had just jumped in and tried to make a deep connection with a woman you didnt know and
who didnt know you she would have lost all attraction. After all, why would you want to
know the inner most workings of a woman you dont even know is fun? More importantly,
since this is a two way street, why would you want to share YOUR inner most thoughts and
feelings with a a complete stranger?
Look at it this way. The first two buttons are a way of feeling out if you guys would be a
good match. It is a way of determining if there is sufficient attraction between the two of you
to invest more time and energy into the relationship to see where it goes. The good news is,
that if you are at this point you are ready to dig deeper and make a genuine connection with
her.
Sample Rapport Questions
Rapport is a relationship of mutual understanding or trust and agreement between people.
You form rapport by connecting with people on their passions and values. Think about all the
reasons why your best friend is your best friend and you will begin to understand what I
mean. At some point you two connected over something you had in common and it grew
from there. Here are a few rapport questions to get you both opening up and connecting on a
deeper level.
-Whats the funniest thing that ever happened to you?
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-Who is the person who has most influenced your life?
-Appearance aside, what do people notice about you after meeting you for an hour?
-How important is family to you? Why?
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-What was your favorite vacation and why?
-Whats the best piece of advice youve ever received?
-What are your all-time favorite movies?
-Wheres the place you long to go but havent been to yet? Why there?
-Whats your favorite quote or saying?
You can present these when it is time by using a transitional phrase. After she answers be
sure to dig deeper using the technique above until you get down to what really makes her
tick.
Accept and Relate
After she opens up and you dig deeper (sometimes you wont have to, she will just spill the
beans) it is your turn to reciprocate. She just shared with you something that is very important
to her. It is crucial that you accept her for this. After all what if you were very passionate
about your college football team and as soon as you shared a story about it with a new
woman you were talking to, she said: football is stupid. That would hurt right? You just
opened up and she shut you down. It will be a long time until you would trust this woman
enough to open up again. The same thing will happen if you do not accept what she is saying
or try to tease her about what she just said.
Instead start of with a compliment and then proceed to share something of equal importance
from your life. The compliment could be something as simple as, how cool! that reminds me
of. What you share doesnt even have to be on the same subject. Think, instead, about
what the feeling is underneath it.
Another cool thing about her being into/passionate about something you know nothing about
is that you can ask her to teach you. So say if she is into art, you can ask her to be your guide
at the museum. She will love being able to share her passion with someone else who is
interested.
A Fun Game I Learned in Psych 101
Here is a fun little game I learned way back in Psych 101. You are going to have to use some
of your cold reading skills and intuition but it is well worth the effort for what you learn
about each other. The easiest way for me to show it to you is to just show you an interaction
where I played it with the prom queen of my high school who I hadnt talked to in years.

From: Race
Date: Apr 26, 2007 10:48 AM
so u and I really need to play soonwhats with all this separation?
Lets play a psychology game right now!:
what is your favorite color? Now give me three reasons/descriptive words why you picked
that one
what is your favorite animal? dido
if you could live by one body of water what would it be: an ocean, a lake or a river? once
againthree reasons why you picked what you picked
oh ya you happy?
-race
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From: Girl
Date: Apr 26, 2007 4:04 PM
Okay heres the answers
1) White is my favorite color.
a) When I think of white & when I see white, I think clean, simple, fresh, and beautiful.
b) Most people think its the absence of color, but really, in the visible light spectrum it is all
colors combined. So really this is like saying my favorite color is the rainbow, and who
hasnt looked at a rainbow and sighed in awe of its beauty?
c) It reflects light the best, so theres a sense of luminosity to it. Basically, it makes the world
glow.
2) My favorite animal is a manatee.
a) They like a cross between a fish, a bear, an elephant, a sting ray, and a sea lionhow
amazing is that?!
b) They are non aggressive herbivores. Basically sweet and friendly, and they look it. Ive
always thought of them as the teddy bears of the sea.
c) They may use taste and smell, in addition to sight, sound, and touch to communicate.
Manatees are capable of understanding discrimination tasks, and show signs of complex
associated learning and advanced long term memory.
-http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Manatee
Thats just incredible, plus they get to swim all day.
3) Im happiest when Im next to any body of water, in any form, but if I had to choose it
would be a river.
a) Its a combination of the ocean and a lake. It makes the same glorious sound as the ocean
hitting the sand, and has the beautiful white wash like the ocean, but its not salt water so you
can drink it (if its fresh).
b) You can play in it! You can play in all three, but with a lake you normally need an engine,
but with rivers you canoe, raft, & innertube (oceans do have surfing and sailing though) and
your scenery is constantly changing. The scenery on the ocean is normally the same.
c) Lastly & most importantly, rivers normally arent crowded like lakes and beaches. When
youre in a river (or by) your surrounded by amazing trees and rocks, and normally not a lot
of people, with the exception of friends.
So Dr. Race just exactly how crazy am I?
O..and the happy question. Yes, I am happy. I really reallly am enjoying school, and Im glad
Im mature enough now, to really appreciate and treasure learning, knowledge, and the
enviornment Im in. Im slowly and surely meeting peoplesometimes its a little lonely
though, but nothing unbearable. I really love the fact that Im poor, haha. Its true. It makes
me appreciate what I have, and get creative when it comes to having fun, and I love my little
ghetto 1 bedroom. Its in downtown so I can walk to school, the art museum, the library, 16th
st mall, clubs, lots of bakerys, restaurants, and other food joints. However, I do like walking
with someone more then by myself, but none the less, I still enjoy it!
Now its your turn. First of all, are you happy? Hows Vegas and what happened that made
you decide to move there? Lastly, what are/were your answers to these questions?
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From: Race
Date: Apr 27, 2007 2:49 PM
i moved to Vegas to help my buddy become a rockstarand I am totally having a blast that is
not to say I am completely fulfilledstill looking the right girl who will compliment me
nicelynone match up completely so far
About the Psychology Test: u r definately crazyj/k i actually just made it upit doesnt
mean anything haha
o u like being poori like being poor when i travel but not as much when i am in one place
for a long time..but i hear ya about forced creativity u should see the things i have done to
stay entertained!
ok so your favorite color is how others percieve u:
so others see u as gay (the white=rainbow) haha
no they see u as bright, fresh, beautiful..you make the world glow from what i remember
about you..i would agree
ur favorite animal is how you see yourself: so you are sweet and friendly, express yourself
through many different modes/senses, are a complex combination of many different amazing
partsoh ya and you are fat..haha j/k..just fluffy in an adorable teddy bear of the sea kinda
way you know i love u
now as for ur choice of the river, this is a reflextion of your sexualitylets take a closer look
shall we?!
once again we see a combination of what you see as the best aspects of several optionsin
fact, this lets me know you have a both mentality instead of an either oryou find ways
to get all of what you want instead of just settleing for one or the other
the fresh water analogy tells me you find your sexuality as a source of
refreshment/nourishmentand if you go too long without expressing it you can get parched
also you chose a place that is secluded (not many people/only your friends) tells me you are
highly selective who you share your sexuality withalso it is a place of refuge for you.
you like how you can play in it and how the scenery always is changingso you like
diversity and sense of playfulness to be incorporated in your sexuality
wow this is by far the longest one i have ever doneu must slightly facinate me
now as far as my answers goit was a long time ago and all i can remember is this:
red passionate, life giving, contrasting
tiger -independent, powerful,
ocean teaming with life, deep/endless/mysterious, awe inspiring
whatchu think about that?
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From: Girl
Date: Apr 28, 2007 12:30 AM
whoaits basically scary how accurate that is. Im glad youre having fun liven the rock
star dream with your buddy! It sounds like a blast. I wouldnt worry about you finding a
complimenting woman, Race. Im actually surprised youre single. Let me boost your ego a
second. First of all, the one thing I always liked best about you was the way you challenged
me, which sometimes was annoying cause it was just thatchallenging. In you, I always saw
a guy that was willing to challenge the normal way of thinking & living. Basically you
had/have a brain of your own and youre werent afraid to use it, and you would call people
out if they were doing something wrong, but you were never a jerk about it, which brings up
the second thing. The second thing that I always thought was amazing about you was that
within all of your leadership qualities, you were always so gentle and kind with people. Not
only are those 2 very rare qualities to find in any man, but to find both of those characteristics
in one man is just basically unheard of. So, dont worry I have no doubt that shes out
thereand come on youre in Vegas, theres tons of fun loven woman out there!
So theres your ego boost, and its all true.
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As you can see this spikes her curiosity through the roof, allows you to playfully tease her
and at the same time get insight into what type of person she is thus forming a strong sense of
we get each other.
Future Projections
Future Projections are a great way to get her to start imagining herself spending time with
you. As you already learned in the roleplaying section, an imagined memory is almost as
powerful as a real memory. But what is more important with future projection is it
ACTUALLY starts her fantasizing about spending time with you. The best types of future
projections have to do with exotic, out of the ordinary adventures. Most women (and people
in general) feel stuck and in a rut. They yearn for adventure, for something to escape out of
the mundaneness of their lives. Be her escape by having her imagine herself doing something
she has always wanted to do, something out of the ordinary. Tap into her secret wishes. You
can get ideas by going through her profile and seeing what she said she liked or love.
The key to a good future projection is to add in as much detail as possible. Make it feel real.
Spend time writing it out in vivid detail so she cant but help but imagine what it would be
like to go on this adventure with you. Unlike a role play, you want her to imagine herself
there as herself, not some made up role.
In Action:

Race
May 5 at 11:47am
good idea! where we would go if you took me on an impromptu adventure anywhere in the
world and what would we do? money is no object.
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Girl
May 6 at 8:09pm
Well we would go sit in the seats in this picture!
http://www.travelwizard.com/southpacalauresort.jpg
Its in Palau, aka Jellyfish Island because you can go scuba diving with 100s of tentacleless
jellyfish..its by Guam, my manager is from there and he talks about it all the time, now Im
dying to go there..
http://www.seerious.com/Palau%20Jellyfish.jpg
So it would all look just like that..how about you?!
www.travelwizard.com
http://www.travelwizard.com/southpacific/media/big
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Race
May 7 at 9:29pm
Not bad at all..thats sounds most delightful..
I would probably take you to my second favorite place. First we would hop on a plane from
vegas to New York. We would go to museums, watch a broadway show, eat some pizza at
Rays,go shopping, and play tag in central park. From there we would fly off to Jukkasj?rvi
Sweden where we would spend the night in the Ice Hotel having drinks in ice cups at the
Absolute bar, then relax in the ice jaccuzzi, and then retire to our suite carved entirely out of
ice. We would snuggle up in our reindeer fleece and watch the light play on the ice walls (no
funny business missy) Well rested we would be ready to shake off the cold and grab a flight
to Athens. Here we would jump on a boat and cruise out to Mykinos, Milo, etc where we
would go on hikes, snorkle in the sparkling blue ocean, eat at a little open air cafe and
eventually end up at Santorini just as the sun is setting. We would sneak down a little path
and have delicious wine on one of the rooftops of the little white washed houses overlooking
the ocean and for a second remember in absolute certainty why the heart of life is good. Then
we would head back into town and dance all night at a sand bar to Greek fold music while
sipping ouzo.
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pee your pants? (ok dont actually pee your pantsthats grosslol)
Implying the InviteImplying the Invite
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suggesting the possibility of inviting her to hang out you not only show you are still uncertain
about hanging out with her, but can also find out if she is able to make it before you actually
invite her.
Examples:
I was gonna invite you to
I was considering inviting you
There is a possibility I might invite you
This is the perfect way to lead into using a false disqualifier or hang out requirements.
Using Absurd Disqualifiers
It is helpful to use an absurd disqualifier while dangling the possibility of an invitation before
her. It insinuates that she can only meet up with you if she meets certain criteria and will
enhance her safety level even more because it communicates that you do not invite just any
girl. Behind the scenes you should hold the belief that only girls who are fun, exciting and
have something to add are worthy of an invitation to hang out with you. Remember, a girl
likes a guy with standards. Here are a few examples:
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Ill invite you as long as you promise not to be some crazy MySpace/ Facebook stalker chick
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May 13 at 1:14pm
haha now how can I trust you just yet with my number?! I think you should give me three
reasons to do so, and maybe then I will! haha :]
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haha hmm.. idk still! Do you ever shop at Urban Outiftters?!
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u r funnyhope you have a great weekend
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May 20 at 6:27pm
Sooooo how was your weekend?! And Im glad to know that you find me so amusing! :]
Maybe we should get to know each other before you judge so quickly eh?! haha P.S. I like
your profile picture.. I was her (ariel from the little mermaid) one year for Halloween.. Text
me! xxx-xxx-xxxx

In this situation I gladly went along with her qualification but when she still refused I simply
responded u r funnyhope you have a great weekend . If you recall this is one of the ways
I taught you to respond when a woman tests you. As you can see it worked like a charm.
Congratulations You Set the Date and Have Her #Now What?
You meet up, fall in love and live happily ever after duh! j/k There are some definite things
you need to do in order to keep the momentum going.
Keep the Momentum Going
Succeeding in getting a girls number online is a major indication that she is interested in
you. It means she is comfortable and attracted enough to accept you as a normal part of her
everyday life. Now it is up to you to maintain that interest and meet her as soon as possible! It
is best to meet her within a week of getting her number. The target is to meet her within two
to three days, but sometimes people are legitimately too busy and you need to continue
interacting with her to maintain the excitement about meeting up. When she sent you her
number, she wanted to meet you. If you let too much time pass, she will no longer be excited
about meeting you, and you might as well forget about her. Always keep the momentum and
excitement you have built up going, or another man will. You are not the only man pursing
her. This is why you must continue to differentiate yourself through the beliefs you hold, the
attitudes you portray and the words you use. Lets see briefly how to do that through texting
and phone calls.
How to Keep Her Excited Until the Meetup Texts and Phone Calls
So how do you transition from online communication to the first meeting? Your new best
friend is your phone. Most modern phones provide a text messaging feature which I
recommend using first for several reasons:
Its a more natural transition from messaging online;
Its not as intrusive as a phone call;
Youre not as likely to freeze up or come off as needy or too strong because you have more
time to formulate your responses without the pressure of realtime conversation.
I recommend you add unlimited texting to your phone plan, as you will quickly be sending
and receiving hundreds of texts. If your phone doesnt have texting capabilities, dont panic. I
included an entire section on how to handle phone conversations.
How to Know if You are Texting/Calling Her Too Much
One of the biggest mistakes guys make when texting a new woman they are interested in is
texting or calling her way too much. Just because she doesnt respond immediately to your
text messages or answer every call doesnt mean you should just text or call her again.
Persistent text messages when there is little or no response communicates neediness and a
scarcity mentality. This is a guaranteed way to kill attraction. So how do you know when you
are texting her the right amount? Here are some key indicators that will help you calibrate.
Youre havent build enough attraction and are texting/calling her too much if:
her response time is consistently slow
she doesnt engage you in conversation or latch onto your conversational hooks
she consistently gives you one word/super short replies (ok, sure, yep, etc)
she doesnt initiate text/phone call interactions
Youre texting/calling her the right amount if:
she initiates text/phone call interactions
she responds to text/phone calls quickly
she readily engages you in conversation, latches onto your hooks
She answers your questions
she propels the interaction forward by asking questions of her own
Keep these in mind so youre in tune with whether you are texting or calling her too much.
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Not everyone is like me but I HATE talking on the phoneunless it is to a long term
girlfriend and we have been apart for a while. Otherwise I would much rather text or even
better hang out in person. But even so, there are times when calling a girl on the phone is not
only a good idea but if you dont you run the risk of losing her. Here are the main reasons for
calling instead of texting:
- She Needs To Hear Your Voice To Feel Safe
You have done everything in the GETTING HER TO MEET UP section and yet she is still
hesitant. Sometimes a woman just need to hear your voice to triple check you are not really
some weirdo and that she is making the right decision to come meet up with you. She wants
to make sure you are really the guy she is having so much fun with over online
messages/texts and it isnt just a show. Often times she will call you when you are making
plans or she is on her way to meeting you. This is usually an indication she just needs to
reconfirm in her mind that she is making the right choice to meet up with you. Dont worry I
will be going over the principles to keep in mind so she will leave the conversation excited to
see you.
-Plans Keep Changing or She Needs Directions
Sometimes when you are coordinating a meet up plans can keep changing. Maybe either her
or you are running late or your friends decide to change venues last minute or perhaps it is
just a hard place to find. In this instance you dont want her to get frustrated trying to figure
out or wait on texts. The last thing you want is her to show up flustered and in a negative
mood. If she is lost or you are running late or changing venues simple call her and guide her
through it. Often times she will call you. Make sure to answer. Remember we want to make
this as easy as possible for her to meet up with you.
-There Is Too Much To Explain Over Text
Hey lets face it, sometimes there is just too much information to relay across the limited
platform of text messaging. In this case, simply shoot her a text saying, hey too much to
text..you around to chat real quick?. It is important to throw in real quick so she wont feel
obligated to be stuck on a long boring phone call. Remember, she doesnt know yet if you are
going to be like most other guys who call her: awkward and dragging out a conversation.
Follow the principles in this section and you will rock it!
Vocal Tonality and Tempo
There is a lot more that she can read into through your vocal tone, tempo and inflection you
use. You need to make sure that you have energy in your voice. DO NOT BORE HER! Your
goal is to lift her up not drag her down!
Your vocal tone can insinuate a lot of things. Through your vocal tone alone, you can make
sexual implications, turn an otherwise serious statement into something playful, and even
imply questions through statements. It is important that you vary your tonality when speaking
to express your points and keep her interest. No one wants to talk for very long to someone
who sounds like Ben Stein (the economics teacher in Ferris Buellers Day Off ).
In addition to your tone, be conscious of the speed at which you are speaking. When people
are nervous they have a tendency to speak very fast. Take a deep breath. Speak slowly and
pause often. Pauses are very powerful conversational tools. Pauses give the other person cues
as to when to chime in to the conversation and can cause her to anticipate what you are going
to say next.
Note: Try looking in the mirror when you talk to her and smile. You will be surprised at how
your smile comes across in your tonality.
Speak up! You dont want her to become annoyed with trying to figure out what you are
saying as you mumble. Speak clearly and audibly she she can easily understand what you are
saying. Dont give her a reason to want to get off the phone or dread talking to you.
If you are making plans together, be the one who is actively making the decisions Tell her
what you want. Dont be constantly asking her what she wants to do. Show leadership skills
and dont put the pressure on her to decide what you two are doing.
In the same vein of thought, often times people dont know how to get off the phone
gracefully. As the leader simply say something like, well I gotta run but I will see you soon
of hey I gotta run but I will chat with you soon.
One last note, make sure to keep up your playful tone, teasing her and having fun.
Leaving a Voicemail
If she doesnt answer, only leave a one-line voice message such as, Hey {pause} its {your
name}. Will chat with you later girly! DO NOT go into detail about what you were going to
chat about.
Keep it short with no information and imply that you will talk with her later. You can also
use a tactic of creating urgency for her to call back by adding I have the craziest story to tell
you.. omg.. ok chat soon, later gator!
Now you are giving her an exciting reason to want to call you back and hear this story. It
doesnt matter if you have a story or not. You can make something outrageous yet SILLY
when she calls back, and then let her know you are joking. The only goal here is to make her
want to call back on her own when she hears this. And remember your vocal tone, inflection,
and tempo are all equally important when leaving voice mails as well!
The Meet Up Location and Environment
The environment that she is exposed to, the one you invited her to, must be exciting,
comfortable, and fun. If you have a bunch of boring people there and nothing going on when
she arrives, it will translate to you being boring. Even if you need to start out by doing group
activities at events that are already taking place (i.e. concerts, festivals, other peoples
parties), that is fine.
If you are meeting her out 1 on 1 (much more likely for paid online dating site women), then
make sure to pick a place that has fun activities (pool, ping pong, shuffleboard, etc) or an
engaging ambiance (a live band, flair bartenders, etc). Another important thing to keep in
mind is location. You want her to feel safe arriving and walking in so avoid a dive bar in the
middle of no where.
If the initial meeting is taking place at your house there are additional things to consider.
Everything that she experiences and encounters in your home will reflect positively or
negatively on you. Take care to invite the right kind of people there (if it is a group event you
invited her to), set the appropriate mood with activities, and ensure that the house is clean and
has a decent smell throughout. The following is a list of some activities and mood enhancers I
use at my house:
Hookah and tobacco
A Beer Pong table or some collection of material that can be
used for a makeshift Beer Pong table;
A party playlist on that helps to set mood (something unique I do is include funny movie
quotes at random times throughout the playlist);
Dimmers on the lights to set the appropriate mood;
Fun games like Catch Phrase, cards for fun drinking games, and other games that can
engage her/everyone in a fun group activity;
Fun reading material on coffee tables and in the bathroom such as Guide To Getting It On,
If, The Cosmo Kama Sutra (which is great to use to play sex charades), and other fun
reading material.
The First 5 Seconds of Meeting Up
The first five seconds when meeting a woman from online are critical. During this period of
time she is consciously and subconsciously scanning you and the environment for all sorts of
things. In analyzing this minutia she will validate or invalidate any feelings you and her had
built up in the previous stages.
You must not introduce yourself to her. Again, YOU MUST NOT INTRODUCE
YOURSELF TO HER! Doing so will destroy the veil of comfort you worked so hard to
create when building shared memories through role-playing. Even though these memories are
fake, the fact that she has an imaginary history with you will make her much more
comfortable when meeting you.
The way you present yourself in the first five seconds will dictate her comfort level. She will
wait to see how you act in order to gauge how she should act in this situation. If you act
weird, she will feel awkward and therefore act weird as well. Instead, act as if you are old
friends. Give her a big smile and a hug. Start joking with her from the get go. She will feel
more comfortable because youre communicating that you arent taking the interaction too
seriously and without that pressure she can open up and have fun too.
Be Busy When She Arrives Group
When she arrives, greet her by saying, Hey whats up {stupid nickname}, give me one
second but then go back to being busy with something you were doing for a moment. Busy
yourself with anything, even if its finishing up in the kitchen, telling a funny story to a group
of people, acting like you are fixing the stereo/campfire/hookah, talking to the bar tender,etc.
The point is to make her wait between thirty seconds to a minute to get your attention when
she arrives. After that, give her your undivided attention for a small period of time. The idea
is that you dont want to be immediately available to her. This starts your physical interaction
with her wanting your attention, which is a great frame to begin with.
Introducing Her to Other People Group
Its a good idea to have friends at the event so you can introduce her to people who already
know you and think you are cool. This enhances your social proof. You do not want to
introduce her as the girl I met on MySpace/Facebook/Dating Site. You need to introduce
her to people as someone who is and has been a part of your life. A good way to do this is to
come up with a funny backstory with her before she arrives (just let her know you dont
want to introduce her as the girl that totally picked you up online) or you can just make up a
story on the spot. Here are some examples:
Shes your ex-girlfriend, but you had to break up with her. She just wasnt providing for
you sexually. Dont get me wrong. Shes wild. She was just into different things, and I mean
different things
You two were in a River Dancing class in the 6th grade together and she would always try
to hit on you, but you thought she had cooties, so she finally got tested. Thank God no
more cooties.
The point is to make it kind of funny (obviously not true) and tell the story in a very
lighthearted, fun manner. In addition to having a funny story to how you know each other,
add a fun little tag to the end of the introduction. Heres an example of how an introduction
may go:
You:
Hey Mike, this is {her name}. {Her name}, this is Mike.
Both:
Nice to meet you {blah blah}
You:
Its so funny how we meet. We were in River Dancing class together in 6th grade. She
always tried to be all over me, but obviously, shit, I thought she had cooties! Well, she finally
got tested, and thank God no more cooties. Haha.
Anyway, we have to show her a good time. She just got out of the slammer! lol!
When you introduce her to other people it demonstrates you have social savvy and are a
social leader. Not only that, you become the social hub through which people know each
other. All very attractive qualities.
If She Brings a Friend Group
From time to time, especially if you met her on a Social Networking site, she will want to
bring a friend to the group event you invited her to. This makes her feel safer and should be
encouraged. That is one more person you can add to your social group. In addition, her friend
can help you out dramatically by giving you her stamp of approval.
It is important to give her friend attention in order to win her over. Do not attempt to separate
her from her friend until 1) you have won her friend over to liking you and 2) another person
or group at the meeting location is engaging her friend. These dynamics are important
because the length of time she stays is not only dependent on her own fun but on whether or
not her friend is enjoying herself. Her first priority is to her friend and if her friend is bored,
they will both leave.
Know that if she came with a friend, she will leave with a friend, so her staying the night is
probably not in the cards. This is ok. Just make progress and plan to meet up again.
A Few Social Fundamentals
Now that you have a girl youve met online at the meeting location, it would be negligent of
me to leave you without some further guidance. Here are a few fundamental principles that
will help you in any social situation. These are guiding principles that physically build
attraction between women and men, as well as help you secure a second meeting with her.
This list is in no way exhaustive. There have been many books written on these subjects that
go into far more detail. I highly recommend you read them. I have put up a list of the ones
that have helped me the most in the private members forum.
Body Language and Vocal Tonality
Now that you are with her in person she will subconsciously take note of visual and tonal
clues to piece together your personality. Here are some things to keep in mind so that you
come across as a cool and confident guy:
When you speak, be sure to look people directly in the eyes;
Be a little over-dramatic when telling stories, use your facial expressions;
Use big hand and body gestures when speaking;
Stand up straight with your shoulders back;
Do not put your hands in your pockets or cross your arms. These are visual signs of
weakness and you close yourself off to the people around you;
Loosen up. Anxiety makes your muscles tighten and give you a stiff uncomfortable
demeanor. Take a deep breath and shake it out
Speak loud and clear, but dont yell. What you have to say is important;
Speak with a deep, firm voice, and do not get over excited and speak a million miles an
hour;
If it is a group event, move around from group to group. Be social.
Notice and stop any fidgety movements.
Be Social Group
Now that she is there with you in person, she can take note of how other people respond to
you. This tells her a great deal about you as a person. Do people respond to what you say? Do
they laugh at your jokes? Do they seem closed off after you enter their group? Make sure that
she sees you talking to most of the people there and that people respond positively to the
things that you say. Another good reason to have your friends there. This also transfers over
to everyday social situations.
Spread Out Your Attention Group
Like I said before, do not smother her with all of your attention now that you are around her.
Spend a few minutes with her and then give some other people your attention. Even if you are
in a situation where she is the only person you know there, branch out and meet new people.
This demonstrates confidence, social savvy, and strong leadership skills. Women find this
very attractive. In addition, this leaves her actively seeking your attention and builds your
social proof.
Maintain Your Own Identity
Do not agree with everything she says. She might be testing you. Many girls do this to see if
a guy will stand up to them. Guys often disregard their own beliefs and preferences by
agreeing with the girl they are pursuing in an attempt to create a fake commonality. They
believe this will make her like them more. This is not the case. She will find you weak and
assume she can walk all over you. It is better to disagree with her sometimes, and there is no
need to apologize for it. However, do not disagree with her just for the sake of arguing
because then you become annoying.
Her:
Do you like U2?
You:
Not really
Her:
Really I LOVE them!
You [incorrect response]: Yah I guess they are pretty good
You [correct response]: Oh you are a U2 girl huh? Whats wrong? You still havent found
what you are looking for? Im right here sweethearthaha
As you can see in the example above, maintaining your own identity also creates
opportunities for you to tease her.
Playfully Tease Her Sporadically
Be sure to tease of her periodically in a very playful manner.
For example:
You:
You are a rich girl, right?
Her:
Haha no, but I sure am nice.
You:
Thats too bad. Ive been looking for a sugar mama. Haha.
This keeps her laughing, lets her know youre not being too serious, and is a fast way to
continue building attraction.
Another way to use playful teasing is to intentionally misunderstand her in a playful way.
What this means is to outwardly assume that when she says something good, she is directing
it towards you. For instance, if she is looking at another object or person and pays it/them a
compliment you should just respond as if she was talking to you. Here are some examples:
Example 1
Her:
Oh! How cute! {looking at a little puppy, or anything really}
You:
ahThank you, but this is actually my better side
{turn your head and make a silly face, or do a playful pose}
Example 2
Her:
Im going shopping later
You:
You are so sweet! what are you getting me!?
Example 3
You:
How was your day?
Her:
Ive had such a good day today
You:
You must have really thought about me a lot today then huh?
When using these misinterpretations always smile big and laugh at the end of them. As you
can see a lot of the same principles that you used online to build attraction work just the same
in person.
Changing Locations
By changing locations you can make a short period of time seem like a significantly longer
period of time. You want to make the woman feel as comfortable as possible with you, as
soon as possible. Your goal is to have the girl tell you that she feels like she has known you
for so long or forever.
When you move around to several different locations quickly with someone youve just met,
it blurs the timeline in their head. Simply think of a weekend when you did a bunch of
different things. On Monday, Friday seemed like ages ago. On top of making short periods of
time seem significantly longer, it forces them to build trust in you almost immediately,
because they are trusting you to take them to other locations safely. This even works when
moving between different rooms in the same house or different parts of the venue. The fact
that they have been in several different rooms/bars/areas with you makes the timeline in their
head seem much longer.
A quick way to time distort someone is to have them go to the store with you to get more
food and drinks an hour or so after they show up to the event.
Getting Her Alone and the Connection Cycle
If you have been paying attention, when you meet up for the first time with a woman you met
online you follow almost the exact same progression as you did meeting her online. You start
off light and playful, build up the attraction and then move towards fascination and making
the deep connection. Now the fascination can occur while in a group by how you interact
with others, stories you tell etc. However, when it comes to making a deep connection you
must do it one-on-one.
Simply go to a place where she can easily hear your voice, or where you two can carry on a
one-on-one conversation. If you are in a group, at first it is better to keep her within eyesight
of her friends or other people to help her ease into the idea of being alone with you. You can
isolate her by simply telling her you have something cool to show her, teach her or just you
think she is interesting and want to and you want to learn more about her. Another easy one is
to go outside to get fresh air or simply turning your body language so that you two are facing
each other. This is when the true magic happens.
When you are to the point where you two are in an exclusive conversation it is time to go
through the Connection Cycle. The Connection Cycle is where you go from light topics to
deep meaningful topics, connect then release and move back to light topics. Each time you go
into a Connection Cycle you build a deeper and deeper connection. The reason your best
friend is your best friend or you last girlfriend was your last girlfriends is because you have
been through many of these cycles over time.
Note: this will only work if you are GENUINELY CURIOUS about her and if you actually
listen to what she is saying instead of just waiting for your turn to talk.
Step 1
excitment you feel
Wrap Up
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Module 5: Push Her Arousal button
If you have made it this far you know how powerful this system is and have several if not
many dates set up. You have successfully piqued a womans curiosity, had fun and flirty
banter, got her fascinated in you and made her feel safe enough to meet up. You have even
made a deep connection with her. There is only one last thing to do if you want to take this
from a pleasant friendship and turn it into a sexual relationship. You have to push her Arousal
Button and spark her desire for you.
Creating a Sexual State Before You Ever Meet Up
Wouldnt you love to be able to turn a woman on to the point of orgasm using only your
fingertips? Not only is creating an intense sexual state possible but it is one of the most
powerful applications of digital messaging. Here are just a few of the benefits of using digital
media to create and amplify a womans sexual desire for you.
Lack of Social Pressure
A woman is much more likely to open up about her sexuality with you for the first time over
online messaging, IM and text messages due to the lack of social pressure. A persons
sexuality is often a very personal subject and held even more so by the unspoken taboo
underlying our society. Fortunately, over online messaging/IM/text she does not have you (or
anyone else) right there in front of her to judge her. You cant look at her weird and
embarrass her. She is hidden behind the veil of her computer or phone. It is the same reason
why people are able to write out a letter saying what they were unable to say in person or
why people do crazy things on Halloween behind a mask that they would never regularly do.
This is the foundation for why creating a sexual state over online messaging/IM/text is
possible and so effective.
The Power of Words
The most potent sexual organ in the female body is her mind. The most effective way to
stimulate a womans mind is through the power of your words. The school-yard saying,
Sticks and Stones may break my bones but words can never hurt me couldnt be further
from the truth. The truth is, words can cheer up someones day, break someones heart,
encourage a friend and even evoke powerful feelings of desire and arousal. Just as men have
an affinity towards visual stimulus (a.k.a are easily aroused by a womans physical
appearance) women have a natural indulgence to the power and charm of intricately woven
words. Descriptive words engage a womans imagination allowing her to envision, and most
importantly feel, what you wish to express. Painting a vivid picture with words is the ultimate
form of foreplay.
A Longer Build Up
The bigger the build up the more powerful and pleasurable the release. Because you can
begin to build a womans sexual state hours or even days before you meet up with her when
she shows up you are already that much closer to having amazing sex with her. The best part
is the sex will be far more rewarding and intense than if you have to start from scratch when
she shows up. It gives her time for her imagination to run wild. After all anticipation is half
the fun!
It Sets Up a Marker
Once you successfully build a sexual state with a woman it sets a marker in place so you can
easily return to that point. It is impossible to go backwards in a relationship. It is just like
building a bridge. You may stop using that bridge to cross over to the other side but now that
that bridge is there you know how and where to get across. This means you just made
progressing sexually with the woman you are interested in much easier for both of you.
Intensifies Her Arousal
Creating a sexual state with a woman over online messaging/IM/text is something you can do
at any time. Often she will be in a social setting where experiencing those feelings is
inappropriate. Maybe she is at bored at work, school, the airport, a meeting, or the library.
These are places she is not used to feeling aroused. This significantly intensifies those
feelings. Just like the desire to do something exponentially increases when we are told we
cant do it, leading a woman to become aroused and indulge in sexual thoughts in these types
of settings becomes a secret thrill. This is a key to unlocking her secret fantasies.
You Feel Like a Man
Last but not least it is incredibly fun and makes you feel like a man. Leading woman to
explore and express her sexual desires is one of the most rewarding and affirming things you
can do as a man.
As you can see this is some powerful stuff. Some of the concepts in this section are on the
advanced side. It takes a certain amount of calibration to pull them off. Dont worry practice
makes the master. Be sure to read over this section several times, take tons of notes, refer
back often and most importantly when you see something you want to try stop and do it right
then.
Note: One thing to remember is you must make sure to carry on the sexual vibe and
undertones you created through online messaging/IM/text when she shows up. Otherwise you
lose all your progress and she will be disappointed. If you are unsure how to do this be sure to
check out Unbreakable and Irresistible over at www.thesocialman.com or take one of our
many individual coaching options.
The Importance of Telegraphing Your Sexual Interest
Chances are you have missed many opportunities to become sexual with women because you
were not sure if you would offend her and ruin your chances. Guess what? The exact opposite
is true. By not telegraphing the fact you are a sexual being you actually have ruined your
chances with her. She will forgive you for being a man but not for being a pussy. In other
words, when you fail to express your sexual interest in a woman she loses interest in you as a
sexual option. Women are not stupid. They know that as men we have sexual desires. When
we try to hide it one of two things happens:
1. She knows she cant trust you (because you are hiding your true feelings) and that you are
not comfortable with yourself very unattractive
2. She concludes you are not interested in her as a sexual partner and starts looking elsewhere
for the fulfillment of her sexual urges.
But dont worry you are not going to do this anymore. This section will give you many tools
you can use to display your sexual interest with a woman. You will be astonished at how
receptive women are to your sexual advances when done correctly. You must be willing to
push the envelope and try new things. I too were nervous the first time trying some of this
stuff out. Often you dont know what is possible until you just jump in and try. This is how
you learn.
Be Bold Not Brash Own Your Sexuality
Be bold not brash. You must not be pushy, rude or overbearing. You cannot be the mindless
horndog desperate to have sex with anything that walks. When considering how to express
your sexuality to a woman try adopting the perspective of appreciation and awe combined
with overwhelming raw animalistic desire for her. Check out the examples throughout this
book to see what this looks like.
When you create and are in a sexual state with a woman, especially over text, you will be
amazed at what you can and will say. Say what you really like. Tell her what you really want
to do with her and to her. The secret is to OWN what you say. No matter what her response
these are your desires and you do not need to apologize for them. They are completely natural
and are a part of who you are.
Wednesday, Nov 19 2008 at 3:12:48 PM
Race: Hmm I sure could use one of your wonderful blow jobs about now
Wednesday, Nov 19 2008 at 3:36:04 PM
Amber: no massage to go with it? *A
Wednesday, Nov 19 2008 at 3:36:10 PM
Race: Well if you are offeringheck yes!
Wednesday, Nov 19 2008 at 4:10:55 PM
Amber: ill be sure to keep in mind how fond you are of those *A
Wednesday, Nov 19 2008 at 4:12:51 PM
Race: Why thank you my dearI definitely want to fuck you In the ass again soon too . That
is if you dont mind getting ridden a little rough
Wednesday, Nov 19 2008 at 4:14:45 PM
Amber: i cant remember last time some1 texted me so upfront haha i kind of like it! *A
You cannot always be filtering what you say because of how you THINK other people are
going to respond to it. This is not only selfish but also very draining. Selfish because you are
cheating people out of he opportunity to get to know the real you and draining because you
have to always be on guard and in your head worrying. On top of that it is impossible to be in
the moment, which is the most meaningful gift you can give to anyone. When you are not in
the moment you cannot notice all the subtleties that go on in a conversation. You will miss
out on the clues she is giving off and all subtext of what she is saying. This is the foundation
to being successful with women.
Owning what you say without apology demonstrates you are solid in your own identity and
do not rely on others to define who you are.
7/8/08 5:17 PM
Tayla: Hey my darling gutter floater lol.
7/8/08 5:23 PM
Race: Yes my little cock weasel?
7/8/08 5:24 PM
Tayla: Ew dont call me that.
7/8/08 5:25 PM
Race: Ill call u whatever I want my love
7/8/08 5:27 PM
Tayla: Oh no you wont. Ill hurt you
7/8/08 5:29 PM
Race: I will pin u down on my bed and make u moan
7/8/08 5:30 PM
Tayla: Promise.
7/8/08 5:32 PM
Race: All u have 2 do is show upill take care of the rest
7/8/08 5:34 PM
Tayla: I believe it sweetheart. Sorry Ive disappeared lately just going through alot.
7/8/08 5:35 PM
Race: Thursday work 4 u
7/8/08 5:40 PM
Tayla: Yeah
7/8/08 5:40 PM
Race: Well make up then:-)
7/8/08 5:45 PM
Tayla: Sounds amazing
If you happen to truly offend a woman do not make a big deal of it. Simply apologize and
move on with the conversation.
Now that you are ready to man up and communicate your sexual desires to the women in
your life that you are interested in lets learn the tips and tricks to smoothly transitioning into
a sexual conversation.
How To Use Descriptive Language Get Good at Being Oral
Mastering the art of using descriptive language is one of the most valuable assets you can
ever learn. Not only does it allow you to tell more engaging stories, more effectively
communicate your ideas and enrich your day to day experiences but it is the key to leading a
womans imaginations and ultimately driving her wild with desire.
The easiest way to begin training yourself to use more descriptive language is to start
describing things according to how they feel. This can be both emotionally and sensationally
what you are experiencing with all five senses. Read the following two statements:
This coke is good
Oh my this coke is delicious. The bubbles are like little baby angels dancing on my tongue!
As funny as that seems, which statement engaged your imagination? Which one did you
visualize? Which one made you smile? Which one are you likely to remember?
Women take notice to how you describe experiences, events, people, etc. Remember that a
womans imagination is the key to powerful arousal and amazing sex. The mind cannot
differentiate between an imagined experience and a real experience. This is why sometimes
you wake up from dreams confused and unsure if it really happened. When you can lead her
to imagine kissing, touching and even having mind blowing, awesome, passionate sex with
you guess what? She has actually done those things with you and has the memories to prove
it. Now when it comes time for the real thing it will be a much easier and comfortable for her
to do it since she has already rehearsed it in her headand it was amazing!
The more vivid you can make her imagine something the stronger her experience and the
more permanent her feeling associated with it become. These are feelings you can now have
her recall at any time causing her to go into a sexual state much quicker. This is awesome for
her! Are you starting to see how powerful descriptive language can be?
Take a look back through the examples I have been giving you and notice how the way we
word things make what we are describing much more vivid, memorable and engaging.
Introducing Sexuality with Sexual Innuendos
Sexual Innuendos are the foundation to creating and building sexual states easily and
comfortably with a woman. Because of their effectiveness and ease of use I recommend you
begin to incorporate them into your texting/IM/messages and real-time interactions with
women immediately. Lets begin by defining a sexual innuendo.
Sexual Innuendos statements that talk about or describe something non-sexual in a way that
alludes to something sexual.
Sexual Innuendos are amazing because they introduce sexuality into a conversation in a fun
way. Talking about sex is in many ways taboo in our culture so when you bring it out in a fun
way women love to hook onto them. Remember, women think about sex just as much as we
do. It also shows you are confidant and can talk about potentially embarrassing topics without
fear. It subconsciously puts her at ease because you are giving off the signals that sex isnt a
big deal. This does not mean it cant be special, meaningful or important but that you are
comfortable when it comes to sex and arent going to be nervous or freak out when you get
into a sexual situation with her.
Example #1
2/4/08 8:46 PM
Sara: I have some super exciting news! But u dont get 2 know until thursday cause it is more
fun 2 tell in person
2/4/08 8:51 PM
Race: Aww mannow u got me all excited and anticipitory!!! (seems like a word to me)
2/4/08 8:58 PM
Sara: It is a word! Only spelled anticipatory. Nice work but now u have something 2 look
forward 2 besides the noodles and mindblowing sex
2/4/08 9:02 PM
Race: Noodles would have been enough to get me excitedbut now I am just brimming with
enthusiasm!
2/4/08 9:05 PM
Sara: Glad i can make u brim
2/4/08 9:11 PM
Race: I doubt that is a sexual inuendo coming from u but I am going to take it as one and get
a nice big smirk on my face
2/4/08 9:14 PM
Sara: U dont think i am capable of sexual innuendos? I am hurt!
2/4/08 9:20 PM
Race: In that case I look 4ward to hearing many many more who knows, maybe someday u
will be able to keep up w/ me
2/4/08 9:25 PM
Sara: U r the the S.I. master. I can be ur pupil
2/4/08 9:29 PM
Race: Studying under me can be a lot to swallow sometimes (lesson one)
2/4/08 9:31 PM
Sara: I bow down before u Oh! Two in one night!
Example #2
Wednesday, Dec 17 2008 at 11:12:33 PM
Nikki: 7 inches of snow today crazy huh
Thursday, Dec 18 2008 at 12:05:15 AM
Race: 7 inches is quite fulfilling I hear
Thursday, Dec 18 2008 at 12:06:41 AM
Nikki: Haha nice
As you practice using Sexual Innuendos, you will notice that you begin to see the world in a
more sexual way. Certain words will jump out you, making it easier and easier to come up
with new ones on the fly. If you often have trouble moving an interaction with girls in a
sexual direction, this is going to do wonders for you.
Turning the Conversation Sexual Through Directive Misinterpretation
It is your job as the man to lead and escalate the conversation. The problem guys often have
is how to turn a seemingly innocent conversation into something sexual. Through every
message a woman sends you or any bit of conversation you have with her, there are ways to
grab onto something she says and purposefully misinterpret what she is saying and turn it
sexual. I call this directive misinterpretation.
Tuesday, Jan 6 2009 at 2:00:10 PM
Torri: guess what?
Tuesday, Jan 6 2009 at 2:01:59 PM
Race: You want to come have drinks with me and get me drunk so you can take advantage
of me?! Girl you are naughty!
Tuesday, Jan 6 2009 at 2:03:16 PM
Torri: Oh man! You totally read my mind haha. Im back in new york
Simply find ways to take what she is saying and change it so that it seems like she was
insinuating something sexual. Your mindset should be that everything she says and does is
trying to seduce you. Thinking this way will help you begin to see what she says in a
different light and allow you to easily misinterpret what she is saying and direct the
conversation in a sexual direction.
Using Directive Misinterpretation to Start Roleplays
You can use almost any situation to start off the creation of a sexual state. Just use directive
misinterpretation to transition the conversation into something sexual. A simple and fun way
to do this is roleplay that she is secretly stalking you. This automatically puts you in the
position where she is chasing after you. This is a fantastic position to be in. Girls find it
incredibly fun and it is almost effortless to transition into it.
Saturday, Dec 27 2008 at 8:17:14 PM
Race: Did I just catch you spying on me as I was changing into my gym clothes my little
stalker?!
Helpful tip: Instead of just saying that I was changing in general, I was more specific and
said gym clothes. This subtly shows off an attractive element of who I am as a person. I
take care of my body. Try adding in small things like this that allude to some positive aspect
of who you are as a person.
Saturday, Dec 27 2008 at 8:17:59 PM
Selma: Yes im watchin u
Saturday, Dec 27 2008 at 8:19:46 PM
Selma: Nice ass.
Saturday, Dec 27 2008 at 8:20:45 PM
Race: Hey thanks Ill let you grab it next time we are making out
Saturday, Dec 27 2008 at 8:23:24 PM
Selma: K im soo goin to grab it now
Saturday, Dec 27 2008 at 8:29:27 PM
Race: In that case I might have to slowly slide my hands down your cute little back and return
the favor
Saturday, Dec 27 2008 at 8:32:40 PM
Selma: Go right ahead
Saturday, Dec 27 2008 at 9:22:50 PM
Race: Im not sure if thats a good idea cause then I might be tempted to slide my hands back
up your ribs, firmly grab your hair and pull your head back as I gently kiss your neck
Saturday, Dec 27 2008 at 9:26:56 PM
Selma: Sooo. What time r u comin over
You can use this to start all kinds of different roleplays.
Sexual Roleplays
Sexual Roleplays are a great way to get a woman thinking about you sexually while also
allowing her a safe way to let her sexuality out of the bag.
Magen
ARE YOU STILL IN NEW YORK!
9:31pmRace
yes mam i amuntil wed then back to good ol vegas where you are going to be waiting for
me right?
9:32pmMagen
lol
ill be waiting for you in texas
houston
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dont you have a job to tend too ?
9:33pmRace
hahagross. who wants a job? i do consulting work so i can do it from anywhere on my own
time
9:33pmMagen
hmm thats nice
OH!!!!!
i might be moving into these lofts that use to be a old hospital
creepy
9:34pmRace
are they super cool?
9:34pmMagen
YES!
9:34pmRace
well i could come and you could dress up like a nurse
9:34pmMagen
its the artist lofts
its mainly for artist but im getting in
so the hallways and front yard and back yard are littered with art and sculptures
you could
that sounds like fun
i have the outfit for it
and the straps
under bed restraints
and!!!!!!!!!! I DO HAVE MEDICAL SUPPLYS TOO!!!!
9:36pmRace
way to one up me lolok i will try anything twice
9:36pmMagen
I FORGOT
thanks to Stockroom.com
thats my online sex store
you should go to it some time
i really want to get the rubber sheets
9:38pmRace
i just checked it outdid you participate in their easter sale?
you would look quite cute as a bunny rabbit
9:38pmMagen
lol i have only met 2 people that were willing to put up with what i like sexually
9:47pmRace
wow you need to find people that are more adventurous lol
9:48pmMagen
I KNOW!!!!!!!!
i just get off to my self
all i need is my vibrator and a few other things and im good to go
You never know what is going to come out when you start a sexual roleplay so be ready to
get some surprises. You never know until you try so simply throw it out there and get ready
to have some fun.
Gauging a Womans Sexual Radar
Often times guys are unsure of where a girl is in regard to her sexuality. Is she reserved?
Does she have hang ups with sex? Is she a straight up nympho waiting for you to bring it
out? Knowing where she is at and how she views sex allows you to tailor your approach to
make it the best possible experience for her. In addition it allows you to figure out if this girl
is compatible with you sexually. This is HUGE.
You can gauge a womans present sexual radar by sporadically throwing out little sexual
innuendo hooks to see if she bites on or if they go over her head.
Race: I just saw the cutest little squirrel in the park gathering nuts and it made me think of
you (Wednesday, Dec 3 2008 at 2:17:31 PM)
Janiece: lol! ur the best! saving that message! too cute! (Wednesday, Dec 3 2008 at 2:19:04
PM)
Danielle: Why cause We both like nuts? (Wednesday, Dec 3 2008 at 2:20:12 PM)
As you can see the same text was sent out to both girls but the way they responded was
completely different. While Janiece thought it was cute, Danielle definitely picked up on the
sexual overtones of the text. It is apparent that Danielle is much more in tune with her
sexuality and comfortable expressing it.
Constantly be dropping these little hooks to see where a girl is at. You will often notice as the
interaction progresses and you continue to use the techniques in this book to make a girl feel
more comfortable with you her sexual radar will amplify and tune in to you.
Note: Just because a girl catches on to your sexual overtones does not mean she is easy. It
often just means she is more in tune with her sexuality and comfortable expressing it. This
can be a sign of maturity.
Providing a Safe Space for Her to Explore Her Sexuality
When you begin creating a sexual frame with a woman it is important to make sure you
provide a space where she knows there is no judgment. Because a womans sexuality can be
such a personal thing it is much easier for her to hide it and be safe than share it and get hurt.
You must rid yourself of moral judgment, indignation or immaturity. This also includes her
knowing that you will not go behind her back and brag to all your friends or make fun of her.
If you still do this it is time to grow up.
Sunday, Aug 31 2008 at 6:16:52 AM
Brenda: Hey i heard a jokei wish you were homework cuz you would be hard and i would
be doing you on my desk right now lol
Sunday, Aug 31 2008 at 6:18:53 AM
Race: Hahalets study tomorrow then;)
Sunday, Aug 31 2008 at 6:19:50 AM
Brenda: Maybe after i beat you at chugging contest
Sunday, Aug 31 2008 at 6:22:16 AM
Brenda: Hey lets play carpenter First we get hammered then ill nail you lol
Sunday, Aug 31 2008 at 6:28:36 AM
Race: That sounds like a fun game But Ill win
Sunday, Aug 31 2008 at 6:29:12 AM
Brenda: I hope you would i have to tell you something though
Sunday, Aug 31 2008 at 6:30:17 AM
Race: So tell me
Sunday, Aug 31 2008 at 6:32:10 AM
Brenda: I have only been with one guy i dont know how you feel about that i was with him
for 3 years but now i feel like i dont have enough experience :/ You know for you
Sunday, Aug 31 2008 at 6:36:57 AM
Race: Experience has no standing in my bookan open curious mind with a sense of
adventure and willing to explore who you are is what I value
Sunday, Aug 31 2008 at 6:38:22 AM
Brenda: Thats good to hear Im always willing to try new things:-) i hope you are as
amazing as you sound
Sunday, Aug 31 2008 at 6:39:35 AM
Race: Me too lol
Sunday, Aug 31 2008 at 6:40:47 AM
Brenda: Im sure you will be:-) ill talk to you tomorrow
When providing a safe space for a woman to open up sexually you will be surprised at some
of the sexual fantasies women have. This does not mean you have to be the one who fulfills
her fantasies (it is fun when you do though) but it does mean you have to accept her. By
providing a safe, judgment free space for women to explore their own sexuality you will not
only make it infinitely easier for her to open up to you sexually but also set yourself apart as a
world class lover.
The Le Skratch
If any physical attribute is crucial to seduction it is the eyes. They revel excitement, passion,
tension, or detachment without ever saying a word. Let me tell you a story to illustrate just
how powerful the way you look at a woman can be.
Last summer I was up in Montreal with my roommate visiting some of his family. After a
nigh on the town we arrived back at the house his great great grandfather had build with his
own hands to find his uncle in the kitchen still awake. After talking with him for a bit he
convinced us to go play pool with him at a local pool hall know for its attractive servers. It is
pretty much the hooters of pool halls. We arrive at around 2:30am and grab a table. We order
a bucket of beers and get set to start our first game. When I look up I am instantly
mesmerized by the most stunning woman I have ever laid my eyes on.
I lock eyes with her, she drops off our beers and walks away. Less than a minute later the
other waitress who took our order comes up to me with a piece of paper and tells me that the
girl who dropped off our beers wanted me to have it. Much to my surprise, I open it up to see
her name and number written on the piece of paper.
My roommate couldnt believe it. Being a Master Practitioner of NLP, he spend the next 3
days helping me break down what I had done.
After lengthy discussions and watching me out with many more girls he helped me begin to
understand what I had done. From this has come the most powerful technique I know yet to
date when it comes to spiking a womans attraction.
Here is the secret: it is all about what is going through your head when you are looking
at her!
Sounds simple right? But you will be so surprised how many guys are unaware of what they
are thinking at the time when they are looking at a beautiful women. Often times negative
beliefs creep in and start running through your head. You could be thinking, wow why cant
I ever get a woman like that or I hope I dont look stupid right now or even simply man I
want to have sex with her . Do you know what all of those statements have in common?
They are all about YOU and not about HER. Your whole focus is inward towards you and not
outwards to connect with her. And when you are stuck in your head, not only can she read
that all over your body language but all of your energy and focus is tied up so you have none
left to use to attract and connect with her.
Does that makes sense?
So what do you do instead?
Next time you find yourself coming in contact with a beautiful woman try this. Stand up tall
(walk as if your chest is leading your whole body), pick one eye (left or right hopefully she
doesnt have a middle eye) and give it all your focus while running through the following
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because in truth I dont. Next, I actually lay down some detail but without actually inviting
her. This way she has no way of saying yes or no, only if she has ever been. This also lets
me gage how interested she would be in meeting up.
Original Message
From: ..dani.
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Date: May 7, 2009 12:47 PM
i have. once. awhile ago. you should let me know when your going and then maybe ill
accidentally bump into you.
It is VERY clear she is interested in meeting up. Not only because she suggest the possibility
of an accidentally meeting but she is asking me to let her know when I am going.
Original Message
From: Race
Date: May 7, 2009 4:01 PM
well I just might go tomorrow night so to improve your accident rating shoot me over your #
and Ill txt you the details. Plus we get to join txt-aholics together..lol
With all these clear signals from her and a date idea already set up, I know it is time to get her
phone #. I let her know I might be going the next night but do so in a fun way. There is the
added connection of becoming text-aholics together because most girls can relate to that. I
understand her world which makes it even more comfortable for her to give me her #.
Original Message
From: ..dani.
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Date: May 7, 2009 7:47 PM
oopsy. forgot to give you my number. i heard sometimes that helps when you want someone
to call you. im heading out and about tonight, i have a crackberry addiction so text messages
are my favorite. xxx xxx xxxx
Not only does she give me her # but tells me she WANTS me to call her. This is what will
happen when you do everything right. She even states she is out and about tonight which is
an invitation to meet up right away. She doesnt want to wait until our date the next night lol

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IF YOU GO JUNE-AUG. PERFECT WEATHER..
HAVE YOU EVER BEEN TO ALASKA??
ITS ONE OF THE COOLEST PLACES IVE EVER BEEN!
WHERE WOULD YOU TAKE ME??
Within a few messages I have gone from complete stranger to her planning out a vacation for
us while opening up and sharing things that she is passionate about. Incredible wouldnt you
say?
From: Race
Date: Jan 5, 2008 3:49 PM
wowkinda funny that I have never been to alaska but have always wanted to go and you
want to go to Greece and I have already been.
so I would take you to Greecewe would need to stop by
New York. We would go to museums, watch a broadway show, eat some pizza at Rays,go
shopping, and play tag in central park. From there we would fly off to Jukkasjrvi Sweden
where we would spend the night in the Ice Hotel having drinks in ice cups at the Absolute
bar, then relax in the ice jaccuzzi, and then retire to our suite carved entirely out of ice (but
you would have to stay on your side of the reindeer fleece bedno funny business). Well
rested we would be ready to shake off the cold and grab a flight to Athens. Here we would
jump on a boat and cruise out to Mykinos, Milo, etc where we would go on hikes, snorkle in
the sparkling blue ocean, eat at a little open air cafe and eventually end up at Santorini just as
the sun is setting. We would sneak down a little path and have delicious wine on one of the
rooftops of the little white washed houses overlooking the ocean and for a second remember
in absolute certainty why the heart of life is good. Then we would head back into town and
dance all night at a sand bar to Greek fold music while sipping ouzo.
Dont even get me started on the trip back, Paris, Italy, Spain, Morocco, etc
Speaking of Morocco Morgan, do you like hookah?
Not only have I made this future projection of our adventure together rich with detail so that
she can actually imagine herself there with me, I have also began to seed the invite by asking
her if she like hookah.
From: Morgan
Date: Jan 5, 2008 4:30 PM
WOW..I WANNA GO RIGHT NOW!! HAHA..YOU SOULD SELL TIME SHARES WITH
ME..LOL
AND YESHOOKAH (LOVE IT) MY ROOM MATE HAS A HOOKAH..
UMM AND AN ICE JACUZZI, YOU SAY?? HOW IS THAT POSSIBLE?? AND HOW
CAN A SUITE BE CARVED OUT OF ICE?? HUH?? ..IS IT A IGLOO OR WHAT??
SOUNDS A BIT COLD..BUT WELL WORTH ITSO WHEN ARE WE GOING?
HAHA.
WHAT DO YOU DO HERE IN VEGAS? HOW LONG HAVE YOU LIVED HERE?
You can tell by her reaction that I was successful in painting a vivid picture. Also she said
yes to liking hookah wich will make the invite that much easier in the next message.
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I rather meet you not at your house for the first timeduhhhh..haha.. no killing Morgan..
please!
Ohhand summer camp.. hahano one is going to believe that i went to camp.. haha thats
funny!
sushihuhhuh?? wanna.. wanna??
The cold bit is just a safety net. It allows her to be polite and suggest she really wants to but
shouldnt. Translation= I am not completely comfortable with the idea yet. You can see she
has agreed to Monday (you dont get over a cold in 2 days). Translation= A few days will
give me time to become ok with the idea of meeting a total stranger off MySpace.
As you will notice though she does invite me out to sushi (you cant catch a cold at sushi?)
Translation = I really do want to meet you tonight but can we do it at a place I know so I feel
more comfortable and safe?
From: Race
Date: Jan 5, 2008 6:17 PM
I LOVE sushi! well I probably wouldnt marry sushi but I do enjoy it quite a bit.
Well tell you whatthere is a fabulous sushi place right by my house Sushimon that we
can go to if you really cant tell by now that I am an awesomely safe and totally kick ass
person. Ill try to convince my roommates and their girlfriendsthey all wanted to order
pizzaunless you happen to love pizza too! Dont worry I live in a gated community.no
weirdos allowed..lol
Here I add in a few elements that help make her more comfortable with the idea: 1. there will
be other girls present 2. make her feel bad for not thinking I am a awesomely safe person
3. We live in a gated community (upper class) w/ no weirdos allowed
I keep it all light hearted and fun. I also show that I am on her side and trying to convince my
roommates to do what she wanted. At the same time I plant the fact that there is a great sushi
place right by my house.
From: Morgan
Date: Jan 5, 2008 6:21 PM
Well.not only do i get to meet you for the first timebut i get to meet all your roomies and
girlfriends toowoahhh overload..hahaokay..
where do you live? Im in southern highlands
She is at least now ok with doing something with me that same night
From: Race
Date: Jan 5, 2008 6:24 PM
Well I am in around Silverado Ranch area off Silverado ranch and Maryland Prkwydo you
know the area??? There is a 24hr fitness and albertsons etc
From: Morgan
Date: Jan 5, 2008 6:27 PM
Thats pretty close to me I dunno..kinda weird showing up and meeting all these people for
the first timei think im nervous.. tell them we should all go to sushi and then board
gamesi just ate a whole pizza to myself(kinda) yesterday tell em they should umm
sake bombs and fun! lots of fun!!! woooo hoooooooooooo..
if not ill grab sushi and maybe meet up with u guys
whatever is easier
We are getting closer.
From: Race
Date: Jan 5, 2008 6:32 PM
you live closethats perfect! come over in about an hour and help me convince them if not
we can go grab some sushi.
Just mapquest my address
1111 park place
Now I am turning it into something we will do together. She can come over and help me
convince my room mates.its us against them.
From: Morgan
Date: Jan 5, 2008 6:38 PM
how about this is there a bar by your house that we can me at.. for a drink and then go to
your house.. it might be a bit odd just crusin in and not knowing anyone..a bit
uncomfortable. ya know..
We compromise on a bar and of course I pick one within walking distance of my house.
From: Race
Date: Jan 5, 2008 6:44 PM
haha ok.lets meet a fireside
wow I sure am doing a lotyou better be as fun as you seemlol
Note: One last qualification to show I dont usually do this much work so she had better be
worth it. I dont do this in a mean way but add the lol to show I am kinda kidding. Note:
when she calls me an hour later she mentions that she is super fun and totally worth the
trouble
From: Morgan
Date: Jan 5, 2008 6:49 PM
haha okaydont know where that is but ill find it!
st. rose pkwy>?
lets meet at 8?
i havta shower.. been in bed all day..just text me from here on out
k?
She ends up coming directly to my house