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hei everyone... i just recently made notes of the ENTIRE 8 hrs of foundations
by tyler... so thought i'd put it up here if anyone is interested... hope its ok
with you rsd boys that i put it on here.. if not.. take the thread away.. notes
go from top to bottem..
enthousiasm towards your wings / friends and girls will want to find out)
- wing rules (continued)
1. getting your wing in with a 2 set "my friend is bored"
2. two set dynamics with 2 on 2 aproaches
3. you and your friend tooling each other as a joke and way to demonstrate
value
- whatever it is that you have going on in your life... be enthousiastic about
it," but dont say it in a bragging way.
- the major two ways that girls will blow you out after bad girl eye-coding
and them feeling uncomftable is "we have to go to the bathroom" or " we
have to go dance"
- everything is feedback," all rejection is learning as your modifying," your
never a victim," every rejection is one step closer to success.... its ridiculous
to care about rejection and its irrational and dumb
- opening single, double and groups of girls:
1. warm versus cold approaches (no eye contact is needed before
approaching the girl is needed)
2. working the room vs sticking to one girl (girl will get the feeling you do
not want anything from them," so eject before they do and then re-open
later.. leave on high-note)
3. no eye contact is necesarry...." you just appeared
4. get attention (tap her on the shoulder if she is not facing you or even
when she is walking by or whatever)
5. establish dominance with your eye contact, voice (deep booming voice
from your chest) and body-language (do not look down or act submissive)
- opening single, double or groups of girls (continued):
1. keep talking untill they open up....."no way out rule" (keep talking untill
something you say hits, do not worry about her reaction)
2. structure opportunities to help them talk (give her a reason to talk to you)
3. if girls ask you questions do not let them take over and tool you
4. if girls are seated then preferably either stand them up or sit down
(always try and get comftable as soon as possible," otherwise you'll loose
value)
- start of your interactions with higher energy and then slowly as you and
the girl are getting to know eachother better... take the energy back to a
normal conversational level
- u can sense the nature of the relationship of the people by examining the
dynamic of the interaction, if the girl is having some fun. they met that
night, likewise, if she looks bored of comftable with the guy, they are dating
- when you start a conversation and she "locks up / becomes uncomftable...
you can then back of a bit / take a few steps back while you keep on talking
to her
- if you open a girl in a " high traffic " situation... " always get her out of
there as fast as possible... you go stand against the wall, snap your fingers
and motion and say " hei come here "
- opening single, double or groups of girls (continued):
1. getting comfortable so you can work (always find a comfortable position
for yourself," if you do not you will loose value)
2. engaging late comers (do not go backwards, but pull her in and engage
em quickly)
3. reinitiating lost or interrupted approaches (go back in but talk about
something else, dont reinitiate the same thread or reinitiate with playfull
stuff like " i hate you " or " you and i would not get along ")
4. determining the relationships within the group (so how do you all know
eachother)
5. getting alone time with the girl (with larger groups they usually ok with it
because they have more people to keep the conversation going)
- if you do what you feel and you come from a position of realness," you will
get a great result and that is always how your gonna get your best results
cos there is gonna be a lot more power behind that then a chess move
- opening single, double or groups of girls (continued):
1. approaching girls facing the bar (go in say " hey guys " and in a tapping
motion take the shoulders of both girls and pull em out, or get in like a
wedge beside em.. tap.. tap and make a " come here motion ")
2. approaching girls on the move (either claw her into you, or tap em on the
shoulder... another great way is to just start talking and keep talking as they
go by... keep your feet planted as they will look if you follow em)
3. approaching girls at a table (is a seat available?, is purse on the seat?)
4. approaching girls alone who wants to find her friends (ok... here," hold out
your arm and you go and find the friends together, when u find them also
talk and joke around with them)
5. approaching mixed guy / girl sets (at the beginning, only talk to the guy..
and the girl will try and get into the conversation.. and just playfully keep
pushing her away)
- hooking a conversation:
1. stand out from other guys as quickly as possible (girls get approached
countless times a night)
2. add value to their night (a good thing that gives them a good experience
to their night, make a comment about them, tell a funny story.... no
interview questions, add playfullness)
3. get them reacting to you for your own amusement (so that means no
impressing girls with stories or ect or entertaining her)
4. cold-reading them
5. teach them something of interest (you have a good girl face, but every
once in a while you make a bad girl mannerism, casper's longer finger
routine)
6. playfull cold-reads (you guys are bad, you guys are fiesty, crazy, you guys
are the most evil girls in this entire place...." these work really well right
after the opener)
- hooking a conversation (continued):
1. future adventures projection (if i did not have to go i would adopt you as
my new little sister," we could go to greece and wear toga's and you could
sell lemonade.. you'd be good.. you and her in dorky scenario)
2. role-playing (my utrecht gf for the next 5 mins... see how you do," danceinstructor for the next 5 mins.. ok show me your moves)
3. conspiracies (walk around the club and tell people you just got married..
she will play along," we are brother and sister.. do you think we look alike?)
4. busting them on their mannerisms (when she touches you to apologize,
lean back.. and when she does it again to apoligize.. do it again)
5. push / pull (your either one of the coolest girls i have ever met or your a
total weirdo.. i havent decided yeat...." its a compliment with a little tease
after it to take it back)
- hooking a conversation (continued):
1. elastic band snapback effect (its kinda like putting a funny lil challenge up
and they will come back at it... are u a good dancer?.. no i dont think your a
good dancer!)
2. disqualification (you know what.. iam a bad man," iam evil.. iam the kinda
guy your mother warned you about.. so watch out ok," you know what i dont
think we should talk more, iam bad for you)
3. pimp talk (your talking sexy but saying something retarded)
4. qualifying and challenging
5. silly games (l.a. vs nyc handshake," handhitting thing," thumbwrestling
thing)
6. imitating them or other people (their accents," anything about them... its
great cos when u do that she knows she cant control you)
- when you walk through the club," do not be the serious.. " james bond "
type guy cos everyone is doing that.. be the guys having fun," be the guy
that doesent give a shit and having the time of his life
- with kino.. for example with hand-holding.. " sometimes you just want to
let go and she will keep holding onto your hand.. and if she does not hang
onto your hand," then just let go of her
- touch (kino'ing the girl)
1. pinging (if she likes you... this is great to test her btw... punch her and she
will punch back, poke her and she will poke back)
2. teaching something physical in nature (transition to it... hei let me show
you something)
3. moving her around (spin her around," or just grab them and physically
move them," but make it as they being led)
4. poking (same as with pinging)
5. high-fiving (good way to see how comftable a girl is with you," just do a
random high-five... if the girl likes you.. she will respond enthousiastically," if
not.. then it will be a weak high-five)
- touch (kino'ing the girl) (continued):
1. tickling
2. wrestling
3. hair pulling
4. neck-biting
5. slow down speaking
6. get closer
7. triangular gazing
8. back scratching
9. smelling hair
10. kissing
and you just shooting the shit with them and just hanging out," with this you
will have a lot of success
- during vibing you have to learn to stop talking and see if she re-initiates
the conversation a little bit...." one way you can do that is just to look at her
with that expectant look in your eyes
- if you can just vibe with the girl...." and not try and impress her in any way,
you will see a lot of times that she will just start asking you questions...
usually the standard interview questions on which you can bust her.
- vibing with the girls (building a conversation to have a great vibe with her)
continued:
1. make her want to find out more about you
2. vibing versus giving advice or having a set purpose
3. essence of nerds
4. building energy in the interaction
5. knowing when to pipe in and understanding hierachies
- in loud venue's you need to plow..." but in more quit places you can have a
nice conversation easly...." in loud venue's just talk.. and talk.. and then give
a generic compliment so it makes sense when u go for the nr
- to be really good with people in general...." you have to treat people you
dont know like old friends (assume attarction.. anyone thats talking to me
likes me)... talk to them completely openly and freely, and not worry
what they think," not trying to impress them and having a good time. they
will then pressume on an onconcious level that you can do that with
everybody... they are curious about how you can do that and wanna talk
to you because of that
- there are two ways to be the anchor of a conversation," one way is to be
the center of attention... but another way is to have everyone qualify
themselfs to you.. so to be the guy sitting there being the judge
- with vibing... just have a lot of fun together... as much as you two can
create... pull her into your world," into your reality.... that is a great form of
vibing
- never play the reassuring game... " just try and move off off that topic as
soon as possible... because if you are reassuring her you are breaking trust
because your going by her world view
- the angles you wanna have during pickup are...." iam not jugemental about
sex...." iam just a guy to have fun with...."
- commonalities you wanna built are things like..." places we would like to go
or been too...." dont really go into the deep emotional connetion road as it
slows things down
- qualification (qualifying the girls):
1. having a standard of what you'll respond to so she wants to impress (if
they are boring... maybe u wanna keep talking to your friend and the girl will
work harder to bring her best self to the table when talking to you)
2. curiosity frame (if something you ask comes from a genuine place of
curiosity to find out about her...."ask in curiosity tone of voice," then your
coming from a place of power and realness)
3. commonalities (you dont need to agree with her on everything..." also let
her show you why her opinion is cool and later when you do find
commonalities it legitimizes those)
4. understanding and demonstrating authority in her world (when you
understand her world..." you understand her)
5. teaching her things that make her feel closer to you
- qualification is the one thing that reduces your flaking rate the most...." its
the one thing that is very importend in every single pick-up.
- if she has the impression that she is a better person when she is around
you," its going to result in her wanting to be around you more... people dont
value what they dont have to work for
- girls love a guy who will just speak his mind...." who will say what he really
thinks and who is not trying to agreeable (what.. you like apples," i hate
apples)
- qualification gives you a reason to call her the next day," qualification
gives you a reason to get to know eachother better
- qualification (qualifying the girls continued):
1. qualification and how it makes you showing intrest ok
2. psychology behind qualification
3. qualifying and then backpedding
4. using the emotionally unexplained (if you cant find anything you can
qualify her on.... i feel good around you," i feel comftable around you," i
wanna hang out with you more)
- qualification (qualifying the girls continued):
1. showing her unique value to you (whenever a girl says something that
truly impresses you... be impressed)
2. giving your criteria and having her try to reach it
3. misdirection (do you have a belly-button ring?. yes / no... good cos i cant
stand when girls dont have a belly-button ring / good cos i hate it when girls
have a belly-button ring)
4. a good vibe is truly the best and most natural qualifier
- there are two real qualifiers... " the first one is having standards (give them
and she can work towards showing to you that she has those qualities....
frame it to her as in " what i think is cool in a person ")
- phone numbers (getting them):
- (in breaking rapport tone).... you know what?.. you're drunk aren't you?. we
could have hung out and had fun, but you're drunk and you'll forget about
me. are you drunk right now?... if i call," will you remember me
- you are either one of the coolest people i ever met," or you are like a total
weirdo. where you ever a fat kid in high-school? reason i ask is you have
these funny little things and i thought only a fat kid could develop that
1. over hype wherever you're going (giving her those logical reasons to do
what she emotionally wants to do)
2. meet your friends (iam here with some very cool people," you wanna join
us?)
3. meet new people in the club (pretend like we just got married and then
introducing her to other people in the club)
4. take her to dance
5. take her to go get a drink at the bar
6. see different parts of the club (over hype the different other parts of the
club and then take her there)
7. checking out a different venue
8. go to an afterparty (do it at your own house if you have too)
- the more venue's you have been with her..." the more experience she has
with you so you just also addressed your flaking problem as you have all
these fun little experiences together
- the best moment to venue change is on a buying spike.... " if you say
something that is completely hysterical and while she is cracking up
laughing you say... come here," you gotto see this its so cool or venue
change
- venue changing (continued):
1. go to eat
2. go back to your house (give a fun or interesting reason to go there)
3. go back to your room (give a fun or interesting reason to go there)
4. get on your bed (give a fun, interesting, nonchalant or commanding
reason)
- a great and dominant way to get a girl into bed is to just throw her over
your shoulder," carry her like a caveman and throw her onto the bed. a lot of
times a great way to move things forward is to command them, just say it
- sex:
1. slow escalation (depending on the girl afcourse)
2. teasing by moving forward and pulling away (elastic snapback effect)
3. dominance (some girls like dominance," some girls dont so see what
works)
4. playing hard to get (jump into bed," escalate a little bit.. get her hott and
then jump out of bed and show her your t-shirts / the view or whatever)
- sex (continued):
1. wash rinse repeat (if you move it forward and its not going forward," keep
going and try again later... if you try moving forward and she says "no no..
all it means is..." not yeat)
2. not arguing with token resistance
3. stopping and joking around to make it not a big deal (tickle a girl," blow
and make funny noises on her belly-button.... remember the girl in indonesia
at the hotel)... try and alternative between sillyness and going for it
4. going for it when its right
- one of the biggest things with sex is... if the girl understands that she can
leave at any moment and you dont care is she leaves...." she is going to feel
a lot more comfortable with the sex thing....
good talking to you, iam hanging right now by the pool relaxing. give me a
call back when u get a chance.. seeya
- you need to have the " dont take it personally " mindset... also on the
phone... as you never know which ones will call you back and witch ones
wont," or which one will flake you off and which ones wont
- day 2's:
1. bring her somewhere that you enjoy," dont go out of your way because of
the girl (and make it a casual thing)
2. draw her into your world. make it cool (club jeffy)
3. a day 2 should be casual, and if you can do something fun that does not
involve money then all the better (take her out shopping.. try out funny
clothes together," take her to a bar where everyone knows you)
- sometimes with a day two.... " you can break "the rules " and still have
success... its sometimes a bit illogical (hei you came to see me," ill grab us a
bit to eat)
- day 2's (continued):
1. its ok if she brings her friends
2. its ok if you bring your friends
3. its a great idea to have her meet you at your house," then leave and
come back later
4. have a repeatable plan that works for you
- personality:
1. nice guy - too supplicating
2. macho guy - too arrogant
3. both are coming from a place of reaction and overcompensation
4. good guy - a good mix between the two. you have a strong sense of who
you are. you do not let people walk all over you but your willing to be
friendly to people
- being a friendly guy when you go out anywhere is huge... talking to people
everywhere you go is fantastic
sets)
2. make a choice just to get out there, even if conditions aren't ideal
(whatever happens," just go out anyway)
3. just show up (dont give yourself an exuse not to go out)
- implementing a habit (continued):
1. progress feels directionless at times
2. progress is like a j-curve. it takes a long time to get going, but once you
get somewhere you progress goes off the chart
3. you must have blind faith that if you keep working at it you will get it
4. get an idea of what you want
5. formulate a plan of how often you need to show up to get there (do i need
more inner-game," do i need a bootcamp... ect.. ect..)
6. accept that your new activity is a part of your life for the duration of the
time you've decided, and never decide based on emotions if you're going to
show up or not
7. dont worry if you're not getting results," just stick to the plan with blind
faith, and make your criteria for success just to show up
8. make it a hobby, look at all the details critically without taking advice
dogmatically, and take then initiative to shift the focus of your training when
your intuition tells you that it might help
- make a plan of action..." write it down and then commit to it also... also try
and get it together with other people so you stick and commit to it.
- where do you get your state from (state control)
1. when in-state... " people respond better to you... girls actually come and
talk to you.... interactions flow better. when your in-state, you are the
person that you wanna be," and your acting in the way that you wanna act.
2. when you first get good with woman," you will find ways to get yourself
in-state which are called "the warmup sets".... first 3 approaches do not
count and as you get talkative you get into state
- when you fully come to a point where woman's approval does not matter
to you," when you know that you've talked to loads a woman," you've had
loads a great reactions in the past.. this one isent going to affect you one
way
or the other... " thats going to make a huge difference for you.
- if woman are going to have sex with a guy," then she will need discrection
and a non-judgemental view from your point.
- the concept of your identity and what you deserve out of live will always
affect you," and in many ways will also try and undermine what you are
trying to do... " as your mind always looks for the easy way out
- when you go out a lot...." you know that when you hit "state" you can drop
every technique... when you are so on you can look at a girl from across the
room." point and say "come here" and she will come over without a hitch
you can say "whats your name," make out with her," throw her over your
shoulder in literally seconds.
- different ways to find your state:
1. you have to think that you are allowed to be in state," your allowed to
dominate
- social strategies:
1. value givers (someone who offers value not with favors, not with
entertainment but someone who offers value with their presence and their
individuality)
2. value takers (doing things to get approval or a reaction from other
people," or that people will be indebted to you)
- the reason that you care what other people think of you can only come
from one place," and that is insecurity... it comes from a position of scarcity
and insecurity because otherwise you wouldent care about it so much
(real social dynamics... foundations part 8 notes)
- when girls start asking you if you are a player (thats a shit test btw)... it
means that your going in the right direction. (are you a player... smile.. why,
you buying?)
- with store clerks to close em well for the nr and ect.... you can say stuff like
"you know what.. i gotto go and you gotto do what you gotto do," if we
werent so busy people we could have hung out more
- the shorter the pickup.." the more non commital and non-threatning you
wanna make the phone nr exchange.
- when you in a coffey bar or something simillar open you want to be quite
loud as that other people can hear you too.." and that not only the girl but
the entire room will respond to you," and then when you stay fokused and
normal in that situation and remain unpressured and unstiffeled to people's
reactions.... " thats where a great boost of attraction will come from with the
original girl your talking too.
- same situation with busses or trams," when you get into the thing just start
immediately joking with the driver (you will see everyone looking)... and as
you walk on you kinda strut / flaunt it. you notice everyone is looking
and they see it also," you make a little joke with one person. and then you
can decide what girl to sit beside.. she will either open you or you say one
little thing like "whats up" and bang you've got attraction
- offering value is about adding to the room and about dictating the vibe
around you," when you approach a woman and you joke around with her... it
has to be the case that its something that you like to do. when you do that
and when you're joking around with that girl she knows its real.
- in any social interaction, there are 3 spaces.. you, other person and that
empty emotional space in the middle where both of your value dangles. say
you would look a a hot girl," she has always got that value of sex dangling
in front of you. but what is interesting is that if you are completely
unaffected by that person's value (for girls its sex) and interact with her as a
person then you have a far higher chance of that person liking you
- a good way of thinking especially for newbies in the seduction game is that
if the girl is talking to me," its on... its really as simple as that.
- always have a better answer ready to her questions of shittests," does not
matter sometimes if its a retarded answer (if you believe it.. it doesent
matter).
- take on good healthy habits like going to the gym," building a social circle..
building a live. these are the things that are going to contribute to your
general happyness.... you do this for yourself and the thing with woman will
be a part of that overall picture.
- the positivity challenge: for 2 weeks you will only allow yourself to dwell on
a negative thought for 30 seconds and then you cut it off... " while your
doing this," view everyone in a positive way.. no matter what obscure
positive quality that person has inside him.." make sure that you see this
and decide to focus on the positive in them. when you view everyone in a
positive way your worldview changes to assume that everyone sees you
that way
Hey guys! Just watched the Julien World Tour webinar this morning and thought I
would share my notes with those who missed it and/or are just interested. Thanks again
to Julien and crew for taking the time to record and answer questions today! [If for some
reason you don't want this content posted, I apoligize and feel free to take it down]
Re-frame things to make them more relatable to the girl
Coca-Cola polar bear analagy: Soda is nasty chemicals and sugar that is bad for your
health, but when your watching the Coke polar bear commencial it frames
the experience of drinking Coke as looking happy and fun!
Be relatable by being aware of her goals
Your goal: To fuck.<---> Her goal: To not look like a slut
How to re-framing a "fuck-buddy"
-No girl is going to want to say yes to "Would you like to be my fuck buddy?"
*Re-frame* this into "Would you like to be in a relationship in progress?"
Make the girl think shes special and different
"I don't usually talk to anyone like this, I actually really like you"
Don't always be so stubborn
-If you love physics and keep talking to he about that but she just doesn't "get it" move
on to another topic
-If your trying out some move (ex spin handshake) and she won't do it, move on. Don't
get so stuck if she doesn't comply to one thing; Be adaptive.
Go easy at the beginning of the night, its really just practice. Conserve your
energy.
Having a "State Crash" is like hitting turbulence while flying
A noobie will freak out ("Oh my god" "What do I do" "This shit sucks")
An advanced guy will be like ("Click, click, adjust this, adjust that, ok and we're
good!")
Memory is state access dependent
If you're in a "bad state" you're going to remember all of the shitty reference
experiences you've had.
Vise-versa with being in a "good state"
While in the slippery slope of "State Crash"
1. Have blind faith that you will snap out of it.
2. Follow a process
The process, Julien's 4 mantras
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1. Theres nothing to win nothing to loose
-There is no "doing well" just do to do. Act for the sake of acting.
2. The more I do, the less the enviromnet does to me
-You're either reacting to the environment, or the environment is reacting to you.
-If you stand still, you are on the recieving end of the enviroment and will spiral
downward.
-STATIC == DEATH (write this on your hand to remind yourself) JUST DO
SOMETHING.
3. Don't force it, let it arise.
Do something, but do it at a congruent pace. (open girls saying "I have a state crash" oir
"im sad" or "I used to be sad, but im a little less sad now")
4. How can i make myself laugh?
That's your goal. Thats the key to success
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Open and talk to fucking everyone.
Committing to a set
-This happens toward the end of the night
-First part of the night, just building leads
-Progressively have longer and longer sets
-Second part then you commit
-You have to have long interactions
-Once you commit, stick to the girl you committed to (Don't fall into grass is always
greener syndrome)
-stick to the decision you've made
Plant the seed
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[Girl says shes going to x place later tonight]
Step 1
"Oh that's cool! I have a friend who lives near there. I think he's throwing a party later."
*Later on in the night*
"Hey we're going to the same area lets split a cab"
This conveys:
A) It's not completely out of the blue
B) You made it relatable to her. (She has a logical excuse that she's not acting like a
slut)
Step 2
Try to find a logical excuse to let you use her apartment "Can i use your bathroom"
(Plant the seed before hand.
*During cab ride*
"Man i need to pee!"
"Man my friend with the afterparty is not answering his phone, thats weird,
anyways...blah blah)
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Alcohol is retarded
-Pickup is basically doing personal development on steriods.
-Your working on the drunk you, not your sober self. Work on your sober personality.
Be who you wanna be at, work, with friends, all the time instead of just when drinking.
Still interact with women while in a relationship
-Different levels (just flirting, or Pulling, or make it relatable to the girl youre dating)
Have a gf and want to sleep with other girls (do this from the start of the
relationship):
"I love you, I love you i wanna be with you, exclusivly with you. I wanna marry you,
have children with you, grow old together, die and go to heaven together, BUT..
Right now in order to really explore and know who i am / become who i am, i have to
go talk to other women / get this out of my system. If we are exclusive right now it
would feel forced and you shouldnt force love right? I dont want pent up resentment,
look at so and so couple, I dont wanna be like them. I want us to last forever. This is
something I have to do for "us" (Frame: Its something you HAVE to
do, not something you want to do) (It's like you're adding on more coke-a-cola polar
bear)
To get better at pickup
-Go out every day! 30min minumum.
-Going out only on the weekends and you will loose the momentum.
-It's not something that you "go do" its something thats a part of your being, that you are
all the time.
Julien's most important things learned about life
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Hey guys,
I took notes while watching the 'Truth about Success' videos that Tyler put out. Thought
I might share them with you. I think it could come in handy if you prefer to read in
stead of watching/listening. Or, if you already watched the videos and want a quick
refresher of the main points.
To make sure you'll get most out of this post, I put the links to the videos in the post as
well. So you can watch the whole video if my notes aren't sufficient. (EDIT: I can't yet
post links, so I put just part of the url there)
{C}
Truth about success - Part 1
Why to never skip a training:
When you skip one day, you know you will skip the next as well. If today is not a
convenient day to go to the gym, there will never be a convenient day.
When I make the decision to, I will stick to that decision. Because when I fail in that
decision, I fail in my larger scale goals.
When you have a shitty job, still do it 100% at your best, because everything is a test for
the 'big show'.
We are all cut from the same cloth. That means that anyone who has more success then
you, just works harder. Successful people are just regular people that were super
decisive.
Only if you can stick to your decisions, you can live your dreams.
Work ethic is cultivated over time, and you are your worst enemy. You can always quit.
Talent cant blossom without execution.
When your brain tells you that today you are not going to stick to the decision you
made, your brain is working against your dreams.
In order to be the best you can, you must challenge yourself to be the best person you
can. You do that by pushing your comfort zone and to love what you do.
Whatever excuses your brain comes up with, are irrelevant. (This is the first world, we
have so much possibilities!)
Make sure that all desires are lined up towards the same goal.
Taking action and getting new experiences will keep you getting closer to a perfect
understanding of the world. This wil help you to view the world as it is (reality). The
journey helps you get grounded and be in the moment.
Motivation is an art, learning this art is needed to play at the big boys level.
Only you yourself wants you to succeed, no one has sympathy for you. If you have a
dream, then you can choose to find your own motivation and use it.
You must burn the boats. Play to win. Throw your hat over the fence.
You have the power to transform, to become something else. If you want to become
someone who cant be tired down, you must be able to become something else than you
are right now. You must go to any length to transform.
Dont overestimate the importance of networking: no one is going to help you. You got
to do it yourself. Success is a slow progress of doing the right things (habits).
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Truth about success - Part 2
Make sure you have a bigger plan for yourself
Success is challenging to obtain and fleeting when you have it.
Success is something that has to be earned and re-earned.
Dont try to minimize time and effort, it will cause failure.
Duality
On the one hand, you must have faith that things will work out and that bad things that
happen, in the end are helping you.
On the other hand, never forget to take action. Failure is the default if you dont have
rational paranoia towards failure. You must have the rational paranoia for failure.
Success is being focussed on what you want, not on what you not want. (What gets
attention, grows).
When you fuck up, take lessons from it and correct course afterwards.
Laziness is a very addictive habit. For that reason, the natural urge to minimize time and
effort has to be supressed. It is also very hard to get away from, because lazy people
will always rationalize their lazy habitual and emotional addiction. In other words, they
lie to themselves.
Hard work brings you back to reality again and again. It is hard to tell lies and
rationalizations to yourself when you are in constant action, and therefore you are closer
to reality when you do so.
You must have some humble appreciation to what you achieve and want to achieve. You
know you can do it, but also that it is not easy.
The right way to do things and the wrong way to do things:
usually, gradual progress is the kind of progress you want. The magic pill solutions
have so many downsides. For instance, if it is easy to get the results that you want by
using a magic pill-method, it is probably also very easy to lose it again.
You must be an executor. If you say you will do something, and then a problem occurs,
find a solution to the problem. And then do the thing you said you would do within
the deadline. No excuses!
Get out of your comfort zone. Why? Because pressure is needed to grow.
Read good books, so you know what to do when bad shit happens.
Even when you are in pain, you must know that it is somehow a lesson that will help
you grow and become a better person.
The path to success is a narrow road.
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have again.
Because a lot of people who are successful are willing to share their knowledge, you can
study success easily. Most successful people write books about their success!
-Mainstream media spread an idea of endless possibilities even for mediocre people who
dont put any effort in becoming a better person. This is a false belief!
-Another false belief: I cannot make an impact.
I can make an impact on major events, but most people think you cant because our
brain can not take up more than 150 people. So when you think of the end of apartheid
in South-Africa, you think of Nelson Mandela. When you think of the freedom of India
from the British, you think of Ghandi.
But those people were not operating alone.
Of course not. There were so many people involved in those big events that all
participated and had impact.
Only because our brain is hardwired to link one person to one event (or brand, or
business), you think only a very small amount of people make a difference.
A good thing to do is meet very important, very successful people in order to see that
they are regular people that work very hard.
Also presidents get asked questions they dont know the answer to.
Also major business owners sometimes have a headache. Also diplomats make
silly jokes sometimes and then laugh about it alone.
With the same people, you want to see how they made a list of things to do, how they
checked of certain things, how they made a small goal and then a bigger one, how they
persisted when something seemed very hard to do.
This way, you see that you are in essence the same, but you behave differently.
-Study failure just as well as success
Study failure so you know it very well. Get to know the universal principles of failure
and success. Surrender to them.
Choose a roll and then play it as good as you can. It is actually simple.
You must believe in abundance. Trust your faculties. There is abundance of ideas and
energy.
Good example: be a good tipper. The world is not a scarce place. Give abundance, and
in the end you will gain abundance. What you put in to it is what you get out of it.
Thats also why you must work hard.
At first when you work hard you think: this sucks, it doesnt make me happy. But when
you do it for two or three months, you will like it and it is no big deal anymore. This is
the same thing with eating good food. When you taste some crazy healthy salad for the
first time, you think: this tastes shit, it wont make me happy. Id rather die a few years
earlier and be happy then to eat this shit.
But when you eat healthy for two or three months, you will like it.
(This is growing into a flow-state).
When you make a habit out of something, you start to like it and look forward to it. This
is a universal principle of life. People who fail are not aware of this or they know it but
are not willing to put the effort in that is needed to make something a habit.
Examples of universal principles:
Work to give, not to get
Become present to the moment, dont get stuck in your head
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Truth about success - Part 4
Use your time to help you grow. Use time to reach goals. If you have commuting time,
use it effectively by listening to audio books.
When you come home from work, go to the gym and do a workout (or go for a run in
the park).
Eat healthy. Good foods are: spinach, broccoli, kale, turmeric, rosemary, oregano, basil.
You can buy em cheap at the farmers market (way cheaper than go to wholefoods).
Then, after working out and eating healthy, spend time working on whatever goal you
have. If this is pick-up, make sure you go out every night. If the goal is to write a book,
then write every night. If the goal is to learn French, then listen to French hiphop every
night and figure out the meaning of each word.
After doing that, make sure to get good sleep.
Dont forget that everything is intertwined. If you dont get enough sleep today, it might
affect your behaviour the next day. Maybe you dont work out because you dont feel
well. Now because you dont work out, you start to feel bad about yourself. And
because of that, when you go out, your game sucks (girls see that you feel bad about
yourself/have low self-esteem). So realize that every choice you make in one area of
your life, affects other areas in your life as well.
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Drugs, television and booze are all examples of short term happiness. You smoke a joint
and feel good for a minute. Next minute: not anymore. You watch some show on TV
and will happy for a minute. Next moment: not anymore.
What can bring long lasting happiness: feeling happy about yourself. When you do
everything in your power to become a better person, when you work on yourself and on
your goals, thats when happiness is long(er) lasting.
In the end life is not easy, not fair. Some people have unfair advantages, others dont.
Its not fair, but dont bitch about that. Accept it. Embrace it. And go with it.
About unfair advantages:
Almost everybody has unfair advantages, but everybody has them in different areas.
You have to find out what your unfair advantages are, and if you do that, you focus on
those. You should play to your strengths. In general, people can become very good in
only one or two things.
Tylers unfair advantages (as an example):
Couldnt read social cues when he was young, so he had to watch peoples
behaviour very, very carefully to understand them when learning game
Was ridiculed in the book The Game by Neil Strauss, so he didnt have
anything to lose anymore.
Me :
What are the excuses that you cant approach in street sets, bus sets, train
sets, club multi sets?
-enter in a fight
-being rejected
-people will hear me
-people will look at me
-shes with her friend or boyfriend
-shes on the other side of the street
-shes too far and people will see me running to her like a weirdo
-shes living in my town
-I dont have logistics
-shes not so hot
-people are watching
-shes with a group of friends
-shes watching me
-theres too much people around watching
-theres people I know around
-fear of expression
-fear of not being liked by other people
-fear of standing out and imposing myself
-fear of being to selfish
Here are also some notes Ive taken from different videos of different RSD
instructors, a good reminder. I put everything I wrote, No news, it does still
apply.
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Julien
Treat every girl like a ten
Sharpen the blade
-have fun talking to unattractive girls
Create the value : create the party
Use girls as a wingman, use Bases
Basically : Open ALL. Do it for the references. Done.
Comittement and Buying in :
Would you like to make it happen?
OR
Would you want to make something happen and you will die to make it
happen?
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Todd
Develop a motivation for pain. That strong push.
Find the excuses so Disgusting that you will Never reconsider them again.
Find so much pain in them.
I buy in no matter what.
Judgements are bullshiting you
Be okay with wherever you are. Accept the world as it is But you can make
something positive to change or step up.
Resisting the Truth will waste your time and energy
Ozzie
Taking fears, multiplying by 10.
Take action with 50% of the information and you can still be successful,
youll never going to have 100%, its to late, the opportunities are gone.
In business, you have to take action quickly.
Guys have couple of lines and they use them all the timeyou want to be
successful, you gotta be dumb.
You dont need to know everything.
Guys need to be fully prepared to do somethingBullshit.
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Brad
Funky productivity tips
1. Structure to create free time. Writing goals. Planning days. Planning
weeks.
2. The more success I want to have, the more time Ive got to put in. Plan
more on the week to move ahead
3. Confident Goal planning. Need to create ways and plans to the end
result. Get the structure. Start small. Start with baby steps.
4. Focus. The more success you have, the more opportunities come to
your way. Successful people have Intense Focus.
5. Synergy. Do things in the same time. Save time by gaining more
information for e.g.: audiobook in the morning or in the gym.
6. See where youre wasting time. Measurement. Stay productive. (no
youtube, no facebook!)
7. Brainstorming defragmentation. Meditation. Break back. Snaps if
necessary and Get back to work.
8. Realisation. Goals of wolf. The lifestyle changes. Whatever something
shift, you need to step back and re-analyse to get on the flow and be
balanced.
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Todd
Develop dancefloor game
Develop verbal game
Get of your Ass! Now!
You can get yourself at a pretty good level but if you want true greatness,
you need to find something deeper than that. Find something intrinsic,
deeper drive, a real cause, a real purpose.
The things that are the most important to you are what you focus on.
-Owen
Being truly dedicated, every little thing you see, you relate it to your field,
find ways, create ways to improve.
You will be constantly challenging yourself.
Challenge yourself step-by-step you give yourself these little building
blocks along the way so that you can actually see the progress.
Be aware of creating new obstacles by trying to find girls and losing
moment. Losing fun etc
1. Push through, game your head
2. Game without talking, try not to be funny, try to make it awkward, find
the Hard way.
Keep something, find the why. Keep yourself motivated, keep yourself
disciplined. If its hard, baby step it, if its easy make it complicated.
The way you do one thing, is the way you do everything Brad
Nihilism
Theres a lot of power in life to have nothing to lose.
People will sense you try to play it safe. Burn your ships before the battle,
and shoot deserter!
You want to be truly in the moment and play it to Win.
You really have should have nothing Held back. Dont get attached.
As soon as you have a tiny neediness, as soon as you dont want to lose
her, youre fucked!
You cant negotiate unless you are able to walk away. Must have the ability
to walk away.
Theres nothing to Lose.
It has to go Down or it will never happen!
Youre not going to live for ever (nor will your legacy), so you may as well
have some fun
Taking no Risks ensure mediocrity
Anything you have can be taken away Dont get attached.
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Tyler on what women really want but will never admit.
Girls are testing you. She sends you something, you must know what to
respond. Something funny.
-Be able to mentally and emotionally dominate over her. Care less than her.
-Lack of reactiveness
-Be the fucking Caveman who got the meat and the fur and the heap of
bitches sucking titties
-To get a girlfriend, hang out a lot
-Forget excuses
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Todd Method
I dont try to make anything special, I dont try to be overly amazing.
I just try to be 10% cooler than the normal guy and have a fairly normal
conversation and then I pepper in little statement of intent, I pepper little
attempt to escalate, depend how is it received. I either escalate more or I
back off and go back to normal conversation.
There is a continuous cycle, this inevitable cycle where I dont make
massive mistakes, I dont give girls a reason to reject me or blow me out
and then I gradually and inevitably move it forward and never backward.
I just let you say something wetty enough to repeat, I just want wetty
conversation.
It just cant happen if theres no sexual dialogue.
Look good sets and see what happen. Look really bad sets and see what
happen. Look the extreme cases and Learn. Do great or Fuck up royally.
Todd and a girl
They sense game at miles and miles away. Intense.
Guys cant be normal until they have sex A lot.
Persistence is Sexy.
Believe in your level of CAN but not your level of CANT.
Whatever the level youre at this is OK.
Any girl is attainable giver the Right circumstances.
Pain is a fundamental part of the game.