The Fearless Confidence

Action Guide
17 Action Plans for Overcoming Fear and
Increasing Confidence

 Includes 75 fearless confidence quotes

By Scott Allan
www.scottallanauthor.com
 Welcome to the Fearless Confidence
Action Guide!

In this guide, I am going to show you how to level up your game in life

so that fear no longer stops you from doing what you have always

wanted to do. When you take action and do the things that scare you,

you are creating a mindset built for fearless confidence.

Why remain fearful when you can thrive in a lifestyle you’ve always

wanted? My mission is to provide you with the strategies, tools, and

confidence to combat the obstacles holding you back and give you that

edge to step up and play for real.

There is no eliminating fear. We need our fear to grow. But when you

become consumed by fear, it can create a condition of inaction: You

become so fearful of everything that you don’t take action toward

anything.

I’ve put together an extensive list of seventeen strategies for facing fear

and taking steps to succeed despite it. I built this list of strategies to
help you break out of your fear-based mindset and take action toward

creating the lifestyle you want.

By committing to these strategies, you will learn to become

emotionally, physically, and financially confident. When you experience

confidence in one area of your life, it starts to spill over into everything

else.

The Fearless Confidence Model

Learning to handle our fear is one of life’s greatest challenges. By

building a system of action-based habits, you will experience a greater

sense of self-esteem and self-control.

Each of the strategies in this guide are meant to help you take action to:

● Boost your confidence

● Expand your peace of mind

● Reduce your fear and anxiety

● Give you greater control over your emotions

● Give you actionable tools for better productivity

You will have a greater sense of control in your life. With less anxiety

and a fearless approach to difficult situations, you’ll become more

focused on building goals and optimizing your lifestyle for total success.

You will be able to enjoy your life much more while charging toward

your dreams to achieve what you once believed to be impossible.

The strategies you will learn in the Fearless Confidence Action Guide are:

1. Create a system of life-changing goals

2. Destroy your fear-based mindset

3. Focus on deep breathing

4. Build your fearless tribe and avoid the naysayers

5. Optimize your morning routine

6. Ask for something you really want

7. Practice visualization: The new you in five years

8. Create the gratitude habit

9. Fail forward with consistency

10. Break away from perfection

11. Exercise for greater confidence

12. Practice the art of meditation

13. Work on priority tasks first

14. Get rejected on purpose

15. Create a reading habit for continuous personal development

16. Remove the procrastination habit

17. Focus on deep mindfulness

How to Use This Action Guide

The Fearless Confidence Action Guide is set up like an action plan. You can

use the Table of Contents to click on the action plan you want to work

on for the week or month. You can start anywhere in the book. Read

through the action plan and then put it into practice.

Commit to mastering one plan for the next thirty days. If you try

everything at once, you’ll get frustrated and give up. Take small steps

and make notes as you go. When you have a good handle on one

action plan, move to the next.

Includes 75 Fearless Confidence Quotes

For additional inspiration, check out the quotes at the back of this

guide. Following the strategies are 75 of the best fear-busting quotes I

can offer you. Choose from your favorites, write them down on index

cards, and carry them with you.

Are you ready to become fearlessly confident?

Let’s go.
 1. Create a Portfolio of Life-Changing

Goals

Work on one major goal and streamline every effort into achieving it.

A re you striving to fulfill any life goals? Is there a dream you always

wanted to work toward, but the fear of getting started is keeping

you stuck? Do you have lofty goals that aren’t going anywhere?

Confident people have challenging goals that inspire them to work hard

and fulfill their lifelong dreams. They have a set direction and every

action they take, every decision they make, and the level of fulfillment

experienced is directly linked to the goals set for life. People with goals

are more focused, highly motivated, and opportunistic.

Once you know where you are going, it is much easier to reach your

destination when you have a clear line of sight ahead, driven by a

system of progressive steps designed to get you there.

Here is a simple 9-point system to build your life-changing goals.

1. Write down your priority goal. This is your Master Goal. It is the

one thing you must have more than anything.

2. Define your why. Why is this goal important? What would

happen if you didn’t achieve this goal? Write down your biggest

reason WHY you must have this one thing.

3. Mind map the action steps needed to turn this goal into a

tangible reality. You can use the free app SimpleMind Lite or the

paid app Mindjet.

4. Put the action steps you are working on in order. What is the

next step? You can use the Todoist app to track your progress and

action steps.

5. Review your progress at the end of each week. What did you

achieve? What area of the goal process is giving you resistance?

6. Visualize yourself as already succeeding. How do you feel? How

will your life level up after achieving your goal?

7. Set a deadline for reaching your first milestone. You can set mini-

milestones for each action item.

8. Establish your action plan for each week at the beginning of the

week.

9. Find an accountability partner. Work with this person to help

each other reach your goals.

Action Plan: Create Your Goal Portfolio Action Plan

Set aside thirty minutes each day to work on your action plan. By

committing to a specific time block, you can make progress every day,

even in small increments. The little steps add up over time. Reward

yourself for the small steps you accomplish on the way to completing

your goal. Once you have succeeded, decide the next master goal and

continue to build toward your dream.

Now that you have a set of action steps for planning your goals, it’s time

to write about them.

Exercise in Goal Writing

For the next sixty minutes, write down everything that you have always

wanted to be, do, have, and experience in your lifetime. Don’t worry

about how crazy it sounds. If it scares you, that’s even better. Don’t

think too hard about how you are going to accomplish these things, no

matter how ridiculous they may be.

Write down the places you want to go, the skills you want to master,

what you want to learn, who you want to meet, and what you desire to

build and create. Make a list of all the things you have dreamed of
doing but never did because you couldn’t find the time, energy, or

motivation.

Once you are finished, hold on to this list. Tack it up on your wall. Make

it visible. Review your goals at least once a day. Focus on one goal at a

time and when you’re finished, move on to the next one.

2. Destroy Your Fear-Based Mindset

The worst things that will ever happen to you will take place in your

imagination. Imagine the worst possible outcome, and believe that

you can handle whatever comes your way.

O ur fears are a set of self-created fantasies, consisting of the worst-

case scenarios imaginable, believed to be coming true. They are

false perceptions of reality that paint a grim picture of how we believe

the future is going to turn out, and in believing in these fears, they

become real.
We can never eliminate our fear; there will always be fearful situations

that challenge you. However, you can learn to manage and direct your

fear so that you’re not consumed by its power.

Let’s take a look at the action plan for handling our fear-based

mindset.

Action Plan: Winning Over Your Fearful Mindset

Take action. The key to having success over fear is action. Sometimes

the fear of not having or of losing something is a powerful motivator

that encourages you to go after it. Fear is a road sign that points you

toward the actions you should be taking. If you follow it, you will

encounter that fear, and when you do, you will realize it was there to

prompt you to do something.

Believe you can win. What you believe in becomes your reality. If you

believe in the fears that govern your life and control your actions, this is

the reality you create for yourself. The things you positively believe in

are attracted to you. The things you fear the most are also attracted to

you. Change your fear-based beliefs and you can shift the possible

negative outcome of any situation into a positive experience.

Imagine the best outcome possible. You have to believe in the life

you want to own. If it is a habit to imagine the worst possible situations

coming true, we become so distracted that we can’t see all life has to

offer. When all you imagine and think about are catastrophic endings,

you create the exact results and situations you fear coming true.

This stems from one of the great laws of attraction: What we perceive to

be real ultimately is real. When you believe in your fears, you create your

fears. From this moment on, focus on the best possible outcome for

any situation, no matter how hopeless things may appear. Imagine the

situation you want to create, and not the scenario that your fear-based

mind is feeding to you.

Challenge the beliefs holding you prisoner. The most fearful events

are those that take place in the imagination. They are the experiences

we have in our minds as we imagine over and over again the terrifying

events that are going to take place. We obsess about them, think about

them, and try to invent ways that will stop the worst from coming true

by avoiding all risks whatsoever.

Take charge and challenge your irrational beliefs and thoughts. Think

about what would happen if the worst event imaginable really did
occur. In most cases it is not the fear of what will happen that scares us

the most. It is self-doubt in our own ability to handle the situation.

You can handle it. Act as if it’s already happened. Instead of being

afraid of it happening, accept that it will happen, and now you have to

confront it head on. Fear is what keeps you immobilized; action is what

mobilizes you.

Find resources about your fears (whether they’re psychological

issues, relating to divorce, medical problems, or something else) and

learn how others have overcome the same fears you are now

experiencing. Adapt the techniques and tools they used in their own

situation and apply them to your life. If one technique doesn’t work

right away, try another, and keep trying different methods of fear

removal until you find what works best for you.

Here are several books I recommend:

Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway®: Dynamic techniques for turning fear,

indecision, and anger into power, action, and love by Susan Jeffers

Fear: Essential Wisdom for Getting Through the Storm by Thich

Nhat Hanh

Empower Your Fear by Scott Allan

 3. Focus on Deep Breathing

Breathing is a natural form of stress relief.

Focus on deep breathing at least three times a day.

I want you to try a simple exercise. Take a deep breath, hold it for four

seconds, and then slowly exhale while counting to seven. Repeat this

process. Now, inhale once more and hold your breath for four seconds,

exhaling slowly again for seven seconds. Feel your lungs fill up with air.

Imagine the oxygen entering your system, moving through the

bloodstream, and being transported to all your vital organs.

Try this three times. Feeling relaxed? Good. Deep breathing is a

powerful exercise that results in less stress, better blood flow, and puts

you into a meditative state. It can reduce your fears and eliminate

worry. Breathing with conscious awareness is a vital aspect of building

a healthy lifestyle.

Surprisingly, most of us neglect the way we breathe. We are not

consciously aware of it as we go about our daily business. Sure, we take

in thousands of breaths every day, but for the most part, our rate of

breathing is controlled by the emotions and thoughts we experience in

the moment.

Taking the time to focus on deep breathing several times a day will

greatly enhance your overall feeling of well-being. Breathing properly

begins with an awareness of your breathing patterns. By breathing full,

complete breaths, you can significantly improve your overall health.

Begin by sitting up straight in a relaxed position. Your hands should be

kept in a resting position on your legs.

Action Plan: Focused Breathing

Here is an easy-to-implement system for focused breathing.

Using the steps mentioned below, start your breathing session. You can

do this in repetitions, or set a timer for ten to fifteen minutes.

1. Breathe in deeply. As you breathe in, think about something that

makes you happy. This could be a target that you are working

toward, a quote that you may have heard, or spending time with

someone you care about. Hold this image in your mind and

continue breathing.
 2. Breathe in deeply for the count of four. Exhale on the count of

seven.

3. Inhale again and repeat the same steps. As you inhale, feel the

oxygen as it enters your lungs. When you exhale, imagine yourself

pushing out all the negative energy and both physical and mental

contaminants that have built up inside your mind.

4. Repeat these steps three to four times in every session. Decide

the time of day you will focus on your breathing. It is

recommended that you do this three times a day—in the morning

after waking up, in the afternoon, and at night before bed. This

puts your mind and body into a state of relaxation.

4. Build Your Fearless Tribe and Avoid the

Naysayers

Be aware of fearful people and naysayers. They worry too much about

their future, and they’re sticking to their fears without taking risks.
M any of our fears are not really created by us; a lot of our fear

originates from others. One person’s low confidence and self-

doubt can rub off on another. The negative words and actions of others

create a deeper exposure to fear.

If you hang around fearful people, you become full of fear as well. You

learn from them to fear the world. You’ll hold on to this fear and carry it

with you well into your old age if you don’t change your company.

We can find those who support our mission by first letting go of the

people who don’t. Before we set out to find our tribe, we should take a

look at the crowd in our lives and ask these pertinent questions: Will

these people work with or against me? Are we working toward a common

goal, or just feeding into each other’s weaknesses?

Foster positive relationships and you’ll reduce your scared factor

exponentially. But stay connected to those negative relationships and

you’ll have fear every waking moment. People who live in fear and take

no action will spread that fear to everyone they meet. Their fear

becomes a contagious virus and we should stay away from them.

They’ll eventually find their own crowd of haters.

You need to observe the people you spend time with. Outside of family,

who are the friends and acquaintances you talk to? Are they just

passers-by, or do you have real relationships with fearful friends? If so,

what can you do?

When you start to move away from your fear-based mindset, you’ll also

be leaving behind the people who are still stuck there. Work on

connecting with people who are positive and have a high level of

influence in your life.

If you are partnered up with someone in your professional or personal

life and the relationship is causing pain and stress, consider your

options. Look for an exit strategy. Get out. Make it your mission to find

the right people, because they are out there. But you’ll struggle to

connect with them if your mindset is focused on staying scared.

Action Plan: Build Your Fearless Tribe

Modeling a mentor’s behavior is a powerful way to leap forward. This

person could be a community leader or a personal development coach.

When you’re stuck in a fear-based mindset, you can break free by

modeling the behaviors and attitudes of successful, positive people. If

you want to act and be a certain way, emulate the behaviors of leaders

and coaches you admire.

Emotionally disconnect from those who fill your mind with self-doubt.

This can be tough if they are coworkers or family, but when we listen to

the naysayers, we become one of them. You may not be aware of it

when it happens.

Don’t let toxicity ruin your chances of living a remarkable life. The

wrong people can hold you back from your journey. The right people

will help you get there. If you’re not helping each other, you’re most

likely tearing each other and everyone else down. Know who you

should focus on, and give that group or person your attention.

Stick With Your Influencers

People in your life not only influence your actions, but also your state of

mind and attitude. The people you spend time with feed directly into

your emotions. They impact your thoughts and affect motivation.

What you feel is how you act. If you are charged up emotionally and

surrounded by positive people, there is no limit to what you can do. But

hang with the naysayers who don’t believe you can do it, tell you you’re
crazy or that what you’re planning is impossible, and you’ll start to

believe it.

Avoid the Scared People Who Spread Fear

Fear is contagious. Avoid these people, and instead spend time with

those who are positive and take action in the face of fear. Learn from

their behavior. Model their attitudes.

Join a Mastermind Group

One of the best things I ever did was join several mastermind groups

online. Depending on what you are into, there are groups for just about

any level of support these days.

A mastermind group is made up of people with similar interests and

objectives. You can work toward your goals and support each other on

your journey.

5. Optimize Your Morning Routine

Wake up early. Get out of bed.

Then, get busy and do something.

E arly morning rising and diving into your work is a great way to get

focused, clear your mind, and set the tone for the rest of your day.

Focus on beginning your day with a set of actions that build a positive

mindset quickly.

When you are in a positive frame of mind, you’ll have no room for fear.

They cannot exist together. To move yourself into this state of fearless

confidence, I’ll share with you my own early morning routine:

Action Plan: Implement a Morning Routine

1. Wake up between five and six a.m.

2. Drink a glass of water or a smoothie.

3. Read an affirmation or one of my favorite quotes for a kick of

inspiration.

4. Write down three things for which I am deeply grateful.

5. Do twenty minutes of exercise consisting of stretching, lunges or

squats, and five minutes jumping rope.

6. Write for thirty minutes.

7. Read for ten minutes from a personal development book.

 8. Go over three top tasks for the day. These tasks are focused on

achieving my goals.

Try this for thirty days and you’ll be more energized, positive, and filled

with renewed passion. You will have less stress, reduced anxiety, and

be able to approach the day with a vigorous sense of inner confidence.

Waking up early and getting active right away is a fearless confidence

approach to better living.

If you want to know more about this, check out Hal Elrod’s book, The

Miracle Morning: The 6 Habits That Will Transform Your Life Before

8AM.

6. Ask For What You Really Want

If you ask, you may be rejected. If you don’t ask, the risk is greater:

You are rejecting yourself first.

A sking for what you want is one of the best strategies and habits for

developing personal freedom. Most people fail to ask for what

they want, so they never receive what makes them truly happy. They

don’t have what they want, and they go without it because they haven’t

asked for it.

The bottom line is: If you fail to ask, you fail to receive.

By not asking, you are taking a big risk. You are making a decision to be

less, have less, and ultimately, want less. You will eventually make

excuses and say, “Oh, that’s okay, I didn’t really need it anyway,”

whether it relates to a job offer, a favor, a pay raise, or anything else.

When you ask for something you want, your confidence gets a massive

boost and you prove to yourself that the fear you had was just an

illusion keeping you trapped. The reason we don’t ask in the first place

is because we are afraid of hearing one word: No.

If you could ask for anything you wanted today, what would you ask for

first? What is the one thing you’ve always wanted but lacked the

confidence to ask for?

Make a list of all the things that would improve your situation

drastically. Here are some ideas:

● What would you ask for at home?

 ● Would you ask for a price reduction on an older item in a shop?

● Would you ask someone to loan you money on the promise that

you would return it within a specified time frame?

● Would you ask someone to treat you with more respect and stop

criticizing your faults?

Action Plan: Ask For What You Want

Here are 10 action steps you can take to ask for what you want:

Step 1: Start thinking about a positive outcome. Push aside any

negative possibilities. If you don’t ask, you’re rejecting yourself and

you won’t get anything anyway. If you are focused on the outcome not

turning out the way you desire, turn it around so that you visualize

yourself getting that YES.

Step 2: Visualize the action of ASKING, not the response; it is not

important that you receive a YES. Of course that is what you want, but if

you bank everything on it and you are told NO instead, you’ll revert

back to thinking about the negative outcome.

Step 3: Ask yourself, “What is the worst that could possibly

happen?” You have to remind yourself that life will go on. You’ll live
through it. You have nothing to lose except pride and ego, so why not?

If you don’t ask, you’ll lose anyway.

Step 4: Remember that rejection is an illusion. It is the ultimate lie

that keeps you trapped. As long as you believe that you have everything

to lose, you will be paralyzed by fear every time you want to ask for

something. You can convince your subconscious mind that rejection

doesn’t exist, except in your own fear-based mind.

Step 5: Keep asking. Success is in the numbers; the more you ask, the

better you’ll get at asking. It is a skill you can master with practice. You

might only get one YES out of every fifty rejections, but it’s better than

nothing. And nothing is what you’ll get if you don’t ask.

Step 6: Know WHO to ask and stop complaining about not having

what you want. There is no point in asking a person who is

unemployed for a job; they can’t give you what they don’t have. You

have to ask the right people. Don’t waste your time asking the people

who have nothing to do with what you are going after. Once you

identify what it is you want, you’ll discover the confidence to approach

the right people.

Step 7: Know WHEN to ask. Your timing can have a lot to do with the

outcome. You wouldn’t want to ask someone for a loan if they were in

the middle of a personal bankruptcy. Know what you want to ask for

and then watch for the opportune moment. You have to ask the right

people (step 6) at the right time. If they say no, it may not be the best

time for them at the moment.

Step 8: Know WHAT to ask for. One of the biggest reasons people go

without is because they don’t know what they want in the first place.

You have to be clear about what you want, or you’ll end up asking for

the wrong things. Worse yet, you’ll just take what anyone is giving away.

Step 9: Believe you’re worth receiving it. When you ask for

something, you have to believe it’s yours to begin with. If you don’t

believe in it, then who will? Lacking confidence and believing we don’t

deserve to get what we want is a formula for being rejected. Believe it’s

yours and approach the right people at the right time with fearless

confidence.

Step 10: Project your confidence. You will have a much better chance

of succeeding if you ask with confidence. Ask as if you really mean it—
as if you’ve already gotten a YES. You can deliver this confidence before

you even say anything.

In their groundbreaking and bestselling book, The Aladdin Factor,

authors Jack Canfield and Mark Victor Hansen (Chicken Soup for the Soul)

tell us that nothing comes without first making the decision that you

deserve it, you want it, and you are going to have it.

7. Visualize Your Life in Five Years

If you have no vision for your life, rest assured, somebody else does.

Build your vision and take charge of your life.

O ne of the most powerful strategies for developing self-confidence

and creating the life you want is mentally rehearsing the steps

required to get you there: This is where visualization plays an important

role. When you can map out the plan in your imagination, you will

effectively figure out the actions needed to take you to your goal. By

focusing on your vision, you can ignore the noise that otherwise

distracts you from achieving your mission.

By tapping into the creativity of your unlimited imagination, the forces

of the universe are triggered and immediately go to work to grant you

all the things you can imagine, and much more. In fact, more often than

not, the things we create through the visual consciousness are those

things we couldn’t imagine for ourselves. The possibilities are endless.

Visualizing the life you intend to lead is setting up all future actions to

pivot toward making it happen. You are not just visualizing what you

want to achieve but how you are going to get there. It is about

imagining the actions so that you know what to do.

Envisioning your day-to-day activities enables you to take intentional

action when needed. By visualizing your success in anything, you create

the framework for making it happen. When you envision yourself doing

it, you eventually begin to do it.

Without a vision of what you want, you will always be at the mercy of

circumstances created by others. But with your plan firmly in your

mind, you can be confident that the road you’re on is the right one.

Every great success story began with an idea, a vision, and a plan of

action that consisted of concrete steps.

The experiences you have are directly connected to the vision you

create for yourself. So, let’s get to it and design a vision that speaks

volumes about the person you want to be.

How to Visualize

Follow these steps:

1. First, know exactly what you want and what you have to do to get

it.

2. When you see the object of your desire, hold it in your mind until

it develops into a crystal-clear image of what it is you’re going

after.

3. Feed your imagination every day. Develop your vision of the life

you want and pursue it relentlessly until it’s yours. Don’t stop

thinking about it until it materializes. Focus, persist, and push your

imagination to the brink of mental exhaustion.

4. Think positive thoughts and utilize clear, intense emotion. Be

passionate about your vision, and you will develop the ability to

manifest what you desire.

5. Believe in your vision. You must have complete faith in the

visual imagination of your dreams. Erase all doubt and use

 affirmations to build a foundation of faith and positive energy.

People who doubt the power they have within eventually fail to

produce the results they want.

Action Plan: Visualize Your Future In the Now

1. Visualize your life ten years from now. Visualize the person you are.

See yourself surrounded by friends and family. It is your birthday

and they are celebrating with you. Someone has to give a speech

about you. What are they saying?

2. Think about something you have always wanted to do. Is it a trip

that you want to take, a change in jobs, or are you building your

own online business? Do you visualize yourself becoming a

successful entrepreneur? A published author? A researcher who

discovers a new cure?

3. Now, choose the goal you feel most passionate about. Imagine the

action steps you would need to take in order to reach this goal. How

would you turn your vision into a reality? This is the stage where

you mentally rehearse the steps you’re taking to get to the

inevitable outcome.
By doing this exercise, you can effectively walk through the steps

before a single action is taken. You are setting up your mind to move

forward and take action.

Let your imagination run wild with all the things you have always

imagined doing. Let go of the idea that you have to be realistic about

what is possible; this is where our limitations exist. Remember that

people who live in fear of existing outside their comfort zone are

limiting themselves. If you want a life that makes a difference, you have

to live differently.

Become unconventional in your thinking. You have to “be” who you

want to become. You have to run through the mental process while

taking action to move closer to your goal.

8. Create the Gratitude Habit

An attitude of gratitude is the cure for anxiety, stress, worry, and fear.

Without it, you are an easy target for all these negative vices.
F orgetting the things you have and focusing on what you don’t is a

common cause of depression, stress, anxiety, and unhappiness.

You can overcome your internal fears faster by creating a list of all the

things you are grateful for in your life today. By recognizing the good in

your life, you can stop focusing on what you lack.

When you ignore the things you have, neglecting the wealth in your life,

you are missing out on a big piece of the gratitude puzzle. Stay

centered on what you have today and you will stop worrying about

what you don’t have.

Focus on what you love—your family, a good friend by your side, your

health. Sadly, many people are discontent, always wanting more. When

they get more, they want more of what they’ve gotten. Never satisfied,

they go through life feeling incomplete.

Right now, make a list of everything you’re grateful for. By realizing the

things you have in your life, you stop thinking about what you don’t

have. You feel worthless and unlovable? Try giving it away instead of

wanting it all the time. Do you wish you had more money? See the good

in having just a few dollars to spare.

Making a gratitude list switches your state of mind from one of scarcity

to abundance. Instead of suffering through that fearful state of

believing you don’t have enough, you realize you have everything you

need. It switches your mindset from bottom zero to abundance.

Focus on lacking and you will have fear no matter where you go; it will

consume you. Stay fixed on what you love in your life and you will have

abundance in everything. This is the secret to living with gratitude.

Now, here is an action plan for bringing the power of gratitude into

your life and elevating your confidence at the same time:

Action Plan: Practice Gratitude

Make a gratitude list. In the morning, write down five things you are

grateful for in your life. This can be something you own, an

achievement, or a person in your life. Why do you feel gratitude for this

person, object, or situation? How would you feel if you lost this?

Visualize this for ten minutes right now. How would you really feel if

you lost the one thing you are most grateful for?

Appreciate the little stuff. My mother once told me that you can only

find real comfort in appreciating the small things you experience every
day. She said that people are often so focused on achieving big victories

that they lose sight of what really matters. Look around you and see the

little things you’re grateful for. Is it a kind gesture from someone? A

smile? The air you're breathing? Often, the things we take for granted

are the things that provide the most joy. Look for the gratitude and

embrace it in the moment.

Pay it forward. This is an exercise that can change your life. For one

day, you will dedicate everything to making the world a better place. For

the next twenty-four hours, every action you take, every thought you

have, will be directed toward someone else.

If someone has an issue or a worry and they need help, you will think of

a way to help them. If they needs someone to talk to, you will be willing

to listen. Spend the next twenty-four hours dedicated to helping other

people. This is the pinnacle of practicing gratitude.

9. Fail Forward With Consistency

Forget about the consequences of failure. Failure is only a temporary

change in direction to set you straight for your next success.
 – Denis Waitley

F ailure is inevitable. We can’t avoid it. We shouldn’t try to escape

from it, either. In order to succeed, failure must be the catalyst that

paves the path to success. To use failure to your advantage, you have to

embrace it as a daring teacher. You are here to learn, and failing in life

will be your greatest lesson if you let it. In fact, the world's most

successful people have all failed, some of them in many ways, before

achieving their ultimate goals.

If you are expecting to do poorly because you have always failed in the

past, you will continue to fail in the future. By fearing failure, we grow

reclusive. We avoid risks. We take the easy way and the path of least

resistance.

We become accustomed to the mediocrity of living beneath our true

potential because success is reserved for those who can perform well.

The greatest path to take is when you condition yourself to embrace

fear as your greatest teacher.

We have to recognize within ourselves that it’s okay to fail. It’s the only

way to learn. By not doing it right, you end up doing it really well. By
learning to fail, you can make improvements in your approach and

strategy.

Failure is just in your perspective.

All the great success stories failed to get there. There are no one-hit

wonders. Here are a few examples. These people were all failures at

one time.

Walt Disney was fired from his job at The Kansas City Star and told he

lacked imagination. He then created such animation masterpieces as

Snow White and Peter Pan. The Walt Disney Company is now ranked

#11 of the world’s most valuable brands.

Author J. K. Rowling failed for years as an author. She was rejected

twelve times by traditional publishers and told not to quit her day job.

She kept going. The Harry Potter series has sold close to half a billion

copies worldwide. J. K. Rowling also quit her day job.

Milton Hershey, the founder of the Hershey Company, started out

with nothing when he tried to set up his chocolate empire. He set up

three candy businesses and they all failed within several years. When

he opened the Lancaster Caramel Company, it paved the way for the

Hershey Company.
Failure is an attitude. It doesn’t mean you’re falling back. You might

stumble, but you’re always moving forward as long as you’re doing

something.

Failing is part of the process and a necessary one. Learn to fail and do it

as often as you can.

Don’t let failure be an excuse for giving up.

Action Plan: Fail Forward

1. Be aware of your excuses. Our excuses for not trying something is

our fearful mind trying to back out of taking action. Notice when you

are making an excuse and then trying to validate to yourself all the

reasons you can’t or shouldn’t do something.

2. Identify what scares you. What are your fears? How can you start to

work on overcoming these fears? Write down your top five fears. Now,

next to each fear, write down two actions you can take to try to

overcome these fears.

3. Pinpoint what you’re resisting. What you resist persists. It is here

that our procrastination habit takes control. When we resist to do

something out of fear or laziness, we are setting ourselves up for

failure—failure to succeed, failure to change, failure to take action. In

most cases, what you are resisting is the one thing you should be doing.

4. Reward the small victories. As you grow, change, and develop,

remember to focus on the small gains. Measure your success with the

little stuff you accomplish every day.

When you do something that challenges a fear or pushes you closer to

your goal, that mini-victory is big. No matter what you’re striving for,

you can only get there by taking a series of small leaps and bounds.

10. Break Away From Perfection

Perfection is the illusion that you are protecting yourself from failure.

But actually, it is the one thing holding you back from setting yourself

free.

L earn to disempower your state of perfection if it is blocking you

from moving forward. Perfectionistic thinking is a mindset that

states, “I’m okay as long as I get this right the first time.” However,

nobody gets it right the first time. Perfection has its power in the fear-
based mindset. Perfection keeps more people stuck than any other

form of resistance.

You can disempower your perfectionistic ways by putting stronger

emphasis into achieving simple steps. If you’re writing a book and you

fear your writing isn’t perfect, write a sentence and let it sit for a while.

Then do it again and again. Break down the action into the smallest

task possible.

The more you do, the easier things flow. You’ll reduce your fear by

carrying out the task and forging ahead. Create a list of tasks focused

on a goal you’ve always wanted to achieve and take action toward

something you feel driven to accomplish.

Decide to focus on one thing today that’s moving you closer to your

goal. Every little step counts.

Action Plan: Breaking The Perfection Mindset

Learn from what doesn’t work. Nobody does it right the first time.

That’s what learning’s all about. It’s our expectation to get it right the

first time that holds us back from succeeding. If you expect perfection,
you’ll end up thinking about doing it, but you won’t actually attempt

anything.

Learn from what works. Learn even more from what doesn’t. Adjust

your strategy and try a new one. Keep adjusting. Keep trying. Keep

pushing through.

Build up a resistance to making mistakes. You can learn to fail by

doing it. People who give up after the first few bumps are conditioning

themselves to give up when it gets tough. To succeed at anything, be

prepared to not succeed.

You will succeed at whatever it is you desire if you stick with it and

move. Be like a boxer in the ring; don’t just stand there and wait to get

hit. Roll with the punches. You might get knocked down, but you only

lose if you stay down.

Everything is flawed, and that’s okay.

The people, places, and things around you have flaws that are real.

When you are shopping for a new car and admiring the beauty of the

paint, the sound of the engine, and the smell of the fresh interior,

remember this has flaws even as you’re forking over thousands of

dollars for it.

No matter how clean it looks or how much it costs, there are flaws. No

matter how sophisticated and intelligent someone appears to be, they

are also flawed. Look for the good in these flaws. This is how you will

break the trap of perfection. It is in recognizing our imperfections that

we become accepting of ourselves and the world around us.

11. Exercise For Greater Confidence

Walking is the best possible exercise. Habituate yourself to walk very

far.

— Thomas Jefferson

A consistent exercise routine builds confidence and contributes to

the quality of your life. A balance of aerobic activity, light muscle

training, and regular stretching with focused breathing techniques is all

you need to build a solid physical foundation. You will feel better when

you exercise.

I hear many people say they don’t have to exercise, not even for twenty

minutes a day. But the truth is, we can’t afford not to do this. If we don’t
put in at least ninety minutes a week for exercise, our bodies get older

quicker, and we lose our mobility much faster.

Exercise will boost your mental and physical confidence while giving

you the motivation to eat better foods. Exercise is a way for you to feel

great. Working out in short bursts gives you an energy boost, and you

will feel refreshed and more alive.

When it comes to struggling with confidence, getting your body into

shape stimulates your mind to form a more positive image of yourself.

That self-rejection you struggled with will be stamped out. By not

exercising, you are leaving yourself prone to weight gain, stress, and

increasing your chances of getting sick.

Now, here is an action plan to get you exercising for less than twenty

minutes a day. You don’t have to go the gym or spend huge amounts of

cash on memberships.

Action Plan: 20-Minute Exercise Routine

1. Take a walk.

Walking is one of the best forms of exercise there is. By scheduling a

brisk fifteen to twenty minute walk each day, you will:

 ● Reduce stress and decompress

● Clear away any negative thinking built up during the day

● Shed some weight

● Increase your confidence because you’re doing something active

Walking isn’t a strenuous exercise and you have far less chance of being

injured. It doesn’t cost anything and can provide loads of health

benefits, both physical and mental.

Schedule your daily walking habit for at least fifteen minutes. You can

increase it as you go by five minutes per week.

2. Jump rope. This is the best alternative to running, and one of the

best exercises there is. Jumping rope:

● Greatly impacts your cardiovascular system.

● Burns ten to sixteen calories per minute.

● Improves bone density. Jumping is far less stressful on your joints

than running.

● Makes you more agile, improves flexibility, and improves balance.

● Increases brain functions.

 ● It is affordable. Why pay hundreds for a gym membership? You

can buy a decent rope for less than $20.

● You can jump anywhere.

I carry a rope with me when I’m away for the day. Jumping rope

increases your blood circulation and is much better than running with

less impact on your joints. You can try one set of fifty and then work

your way up. If you can do four sets of one hundred every morning, you

are giving yourself a tremendous start to the day.

Lunges: One set of 20. Increase your sets/reps as you go.

● Keep your upper body straight, with your shoulders back and chin

up. Don’t look down. Pick a point directly in front of you to stare at

so you don't look down. Always engage your core.

● Step forward with one leg, lowering your hips until both knees are

bent at about a 90-degree angle.

● Repeat until your set is complete.

For up-to-date strategies on getting into shape, check out

NerdFitness.com. You can also read these books for exercising while on

the run by Lise Cartwright:

No Gym Needed - Quick & Simple Workouts for Busy Guys: Get a 'Fit' Body in

30 Minutes or Less!

No Gym Needed - Quick & Simple Workouts For Gals On The Go: Get A

Toned Body In 30 Minutes Or Less!

12. Practice the Art of Meditation

If you want to conquer the anxiety of life, live in the moment, live in
the breath.

– Amit Ray

W hen was the last time you stopped, sat down, and just did

nothing? In today’s world of being constantly active, the idea of

doing nothing or just allowing yourself to be bored is a rarity. You are

surrounded by more distractions, more entertainment, and more ways

to escape from reality than ever before. This is why we need to take

time out during the day to connect with ourselves, to tap into the

‘higher self’ even if for a brief moment.

Years ago, I learned the importance of having a fifteen minute break

from the world. I looked for a quiet spot where nobody could interrupt

me and then I disengaged from the noise. This meant putting away the

distractions and letting myself just be.

Meditating for short spurts every day is a great habit to make you more

relaxed while reducing stress levels. You will build increased

concentration and focus. By letting your thoughts go and clearing your

mind until you feel totally relaxed, you can bring greater balance into

your day.

Meditation can be difficult at first if you’re not used to it. But you can do

it anywhere regardless of how much noise pollution surrounds you.

Meditation is nothing more than training your mind to move into a

silent place that already exists. You just have to find it and then, once

there, focus on staying in that place for as long as you can.

It’s easy to start meditating. Here is a simple process I use that works:

1. Situate yourself in a secluded location. This can be a room at

home or if you are in the middle of a workday, you might have an

empty room or space not being used at the office.

2. Turn off devices and anything else that could distract you.
 3. Sit comfortably, close your eyes, and begin deep breathing.

4. Observe your thoughts. You don’t have to do anything about

them. Just let them go.

5. Stay focused on breathing. Absorb the sounds and sensations

around you.

6. Focus on your awareness of the environment.

7. Try meditating twice a day. It has so many positive health benefits

for both your mind and body.

If you want to check out a way to get started on meditation, I

recommend these resources:

Calm

Headspace

The Mindfulness App

Once you become experienced at meditating, you will be able to do it

anywhere, even on a crowded train or bus. You can focus on your

breathing at any time and move your mind into that quiet space. And

yes, meditation is a great practice for dealing with rejection, too!

Action Plan: Practice Short Meditation Sessions

1. Make a habit of disengaging for ten to fifteen minutes a day several

times a day if possible. Just do nothing for that time you are in the

zone. Get comfortable with yourself.

2. Turn off and tune out all distractions. You will find your mind

making mental to-do lists and thinking about what needs to be

done the next day. Maintain focus on your breathing. Concentrate

on every breath you take and then exhale. Do this for fifteen

minutes and follow up with some light stretching.

3. Do this twice a day. Once in the morning after waking up, and then

in the evening as you start to wind down for the day. At the end of

the day, our mind and body start shutting down. You should

mentally switch off after nine in the evening.

4. Put yourself into a quiet state for five minutes before and after

meditating. If you have a family or children, wait until they’re asleep

and then take time out for yourself instead of just wrapping up the

night with TV or mindless games.

Daily mediation sessions is a great habit that will pay you back tenfold.

It increases focus and sharpens your mind. You will feel alert and ready
the next day. It improves sleep and increases the quality of your life in

every way.

13. Work on Your Most Important Tasks

First

Begin the success of your day with a streamlined focus on your three

most important tasks.

S etting up your most important tasks—MITs—at the beginning of

the day aligns focus with your goals. You should make it a habit to

write down two to three first priority tasks to focus on. Keep the list

short.

Before you go to bed or first thing in the morning, write down the three

most important tasks you’re going to do that day. Then choose the first

task that is the most important of the three and get to work on it. Are

you writing a blog post? Exercising? Starting a new project? Filling out

your tax return?

Your MITs are the critical tasks that must be done for today. Anything

else is just a distraction.

Action Plan: How to Set Your MITs

1. Write down your three MITs for today. Your MITs ideally should be

related to your current goals for maximum effectiveness.

2. Do your MITs first thing in the morning. If you cannot do everything

in the morning due to time constraints, choose the one that you can

do. Then, throughout the day, schedule time for tackling the

remaining tasks.

3. If you cannot finish everything today, move the unfinished tasks to

the next day. Then, pick up where you left off the next morning.

Keep tackling your list and do what is difficult first.

4. By focusing on your most important tasks, you eliminate the need

to procrastinate and waste time. When we are focused on what

matters most, we can cut out the things that matter least.

5. When working on your task, reduce the possibility of being

distracted by email or other interruptions. Set a timer if you have to

and allocate a dedicated block of time to your work. This exercise

 takes a few minutes to set up, but can have a massive impact on

your goals and confidence.

14. Get Rejected on Purpose

Desensitize your fear of rejection by pushing yourself out there. Make

rejection hurt for a change.

O ne of the greatest illusions about rejection is that we’ve convinced

ourselves we’re being personally rejected—as if someone is doing

something to us. But, in fact, rejection begins on the inside.

So, how about you? In what ways could you put yourself out there and

get rejected in order to numb yourself to the fear? We put more effort

into avoiding fear than encouraging it. So when rejection happens (and

it will) it hurts and we remember the pain as something we’d rather not

repeat. As a result, we stay away from it as much as possible.

There are two massive fears that keep you trapped. The first is the fear

of people. Being judged, criticized, or laughed at. To some degree, we

go to great lengths to protect our ego. So we play it safe, stay low, and

do what the world expects.

Taking a risk is like skating on a lake that has thin ice. But in this case,

we want the ice to break. That ice represents a level of your fear that

you have to crack before you can feel comfortable.

Maybe you’re afraid of public speaking, but you have to give a

presentation. Maybe you have to ask a favor of a stranger. Maybe

you’re a salesperson and you’re afraid of being rejected by potential

customers.

How do you bust that fear? By putting yourself in a position in which

you have to skate on thin ice.

Don’t let the fear hold you back. Embrace rejection as a learning

platform, and think of it as an opportunity instead of a setback.

But remember: Everyone else is afraid, too. You are not the only one

who thinks rejection is unique. We all believe that rejection has a stake

in our lives.

This brings us to the formula for getting rejected on purpose. For the

next thirty days, you are going to take one action per day that gets you
rejected. The idea behind this challenge is to get rejected on purpose.

By pushing the boundaries, we can broaden our circle of fear and

become less scared when fear is what we are after.

To get you started, I have included a list of actions you can take starting

today.

Action Plan: Get Rejected On Purpose

1. When you’re out walking, ask someone if they’d like to have a

race to the end of the street.

2. Reach out to a podcaster who has a popular show and ask if he

or she would interview you.

3. Put on a goofy costume or outfit. Ask twenty people to give you

their thoughts on how you look. Caution: Opinions may vary.

4. Send your résumé again to a company that has already rejected

you as an applicant.

5. Go to a furniture store and ask if you can take a twenty-minute

power nap on one of their model beds.

6. Meet with your boss at work and ask them if you can finish

working thirty minutes earlier from now on to spend more time

at home with family.

 7. Tell someone it’s your birthday, and ask them to sing Happy

Birthday to you.

8. In a supermarket or café, ask if you can “skip to the front of the

line” because you are “patience intolerant.”

9. Ask random people whether it’s their birthday. If someone says

yes, make an offer to buy that person a coffee or even lunch.

10. Sign up for an aerobics or yoga class and then, in one of the

sessions, ask the instructor if you can lead the class today.

What you can do right now is make a list of all the crazy ways you can

get rejected. This can be a simple request; start out small if you want to.

Build up to it. Let yourself get desensitized in small steps each day.

Every day, try to push the envelope a little further.

Once you are feeling scared enough, try your own rejection attempts.

If you want to know more about this challenge, you can download

Rejected On Purpose, right here, for free.

 15. Create a Reading Habit for

Continuous Personal Development

Read for pleasure or read to learn, but

read...read...read.

R eading is a great way to stimulate your mind. Reading personal

development material keeps you motivated while leveling up your

skills in new techniques and strategies.

If you are not working on self-improvement a little bit every day, then

you risk falling into the habit of doing the same things again and again

and probably getting the same results.

Reading the kind of books that make you better today than you were

yesterday increases mindfulness and sharpens your overall mental

health. This is a solid investment in personal growth.

My top twelve reading recommendations are:

1. The One Thing by Gary Keller

2. Do It Scared by Scott Allan

3. Awaken the Giant Within by Tony Robbins

4. A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life’s Purpose by Eckhart Tolle

5. Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less by Greg McKeown

6. The Miracle Morning: The 6 Habits That Will Transform Your Life (Before

8AM) by Hal Elrod

7. Living Forward: A Proven Plan to Stop Drifting and Get the Life You Want

by Michael Hyatt and Daniel Harkavy

8. The Art of Work: A Proven Path to Discovering What You Were Meant to

Do by Jeff Goins

9. The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal

Change by Stephen R. Covey

10. The Power of Positive Thinking: 10 Traits for Maximum Results by Dr.

Norman Vincent Peale

11. The Success Principles by Jack Canfield

12. Habit Stacking by S.J. Scott

Action Plan: Develop the 20-Minute Reading Habit

Choose a personal development book that you would like to read from

the list above, or you can check out this list by clicking here. [Link later]

Spend twenty to thirty minutes per day reading. I like to use the

Pomodoro Technique for time blocking in twenty-five minutes with a

five minute break.

Read first thing in the morning and before bed. This can be in the

morning or any time throughout the day. Read for fifteen minutes in

the morning and then again before bed to wind down. Set your timer

for fifteen minutes, choose your book, and go.

Choose material that is in line with your goals. There is no point in

reading something you don’t like. Choose a topic that fits your current

objectives.

Take advantage of small pockets of time. I am never bored when I

have to wait for someone else. You can carry a Kindle reader with you,

or put the Kindle app on your phone or tablet. In many cases, you can

also check out free e-books from your local library with an app and a
library card. You now have an instant library available for reading any

time.

For learning how to read more books faster, check out these articles:

How To Read More Books by Scott H. Young.

How to Read More: The Simple System I’m Using to Read 30+ Books Per

Year by James Clear

16. Eliminate the Procrastination Habit

With the Bite-Sized Chunk Method

What you put off today is still on your mind tomorrow. If you put off

enough tasks, eventually you’ll fill up your mind with heaps of

unfinished work. This is a recipe for stress and mental disorder.

P rocrastination, also known as task avoidance, is a disagreeable

challenge, task, problem or work that is put off for an

undetermined length of time in order to avoid the pain or discomfort of

having to work through it.

Procrastination costs you valuable time, money, and self-esteem, and if

the habit continues over a lifetime, the end cost is the life you could

have had but never did. Procrastination is a self-destructive form of

fear that keeps us stuck, stripping away our confidence every time we

prolong tasks that need attention.

Procrastination is a coping mechanism for dealing with the fear and

anxiety you have when either starting something new or completing

something that needs to be done.

People who are in the habit of putting off work pay for this in the end. It

could cost money, time, and worst of all, our self-confidence suffers.

The things that aren’t completed result in a deeper form of self-

rejection and internal criticism.

Break the task down into bite-sized chunks.

One of the reasons we procrastinate is because we view the task as an

insurmountable obstacle. The strategy that works is when you break

the task down into bite-sized actions.

For example, if you are procrastinating on filling out a four-page

application, break it down into small sizes. Work on it in ten minute

chunks. Fill in your name and address. Take a short break. Come back

again and fill in the next section.

This sounds like a very basic approach, but I had a particular application

form I procrastinated on for a full year. When I broke it down using this

approach, I was finished in a couple for hours. One year of putting it

off!

Breaking past our barriers of resistance is a sure-fire way to build

confidence. Your mind is resisting knowing that you can get through

anything. We have to do what is uncomfortable in order to move

forward.

Let’s take a deeper look at an action plan for getting things done using

the bite-sized chunk method.

Instead of being overwhelmed by a project or task, break it up into

small pieces and tackle each piece of the project in stages. Consider

each part of the task as a piece to a much larger whole. People have

achieved their dreams through this easy process of breaking down

difficult, lengthy tasks or work-related projects.

You can, too.

Action Plan: Make a Task Avoidance List.

1. Take a moment and write down a task or project that you have

been avoiding. Write it out in big letters at the top of the page. This

might be something that’s been on your to-do list for months, or it

could be an errand you’ve been putting off.

2. Next, brainstorm a list of small actions you are going to take to start

working on this project. Is it a phone call? Filling out a form? Doing

research online? Decluttering your home? Setting up an online

business?

3. Write down as many steps you can think of that will start things

moving in a positive direction.

4. Next, choose one of the actions on the list. This is the first step you

are going to take right now. After it has been completed, cross it off

the list and choose another task. Remember, the more action you

take, the more momentum you create.

Now, try these steps and implement the daily habit of getting it done in

bite-sized chunks.
Create your master task list.

Make a list of all the jobs, tasks, or projects you have been meaning to

“get around to,” but just haven’t found the time. Write down everything

you possibly can, no matter how big or small, and create a list of

activities, chores, jobs, and tasks that have been piling up.

Focus on one task at a time. Remember, if feeling overwhelmed is

one of your avoidance triggers, you don’t want to start several things at

once. Choose a task, stick with it, get it done, and move on to the next

one.

Time it in small increments. Set a timer for ten minutes and work on

this task during that time. Work on only this task and nothing else.

Don’t check email, stay off social media, and do what you have to do in

order to avoid interruptions.

17. Practice Deep Mindfulness

Begin the day with ten minutes of deep mindfulness.

M indfulness is the state of your mind existing in the present

moment. When you’re focused on the now, you’re not caught up

in worrying about the future or regretting the past. You’re here in the

present moment. With mindfulness, you’re reducing your thoughts to

simple concepts and creating an “in the moment” existence.

You can focus on your inner power right now and make it a habit to

stay present. When you find yourself drifting back into memories of the

past that trigger your state of inadequacy, bring yourself back. Create a

trigger symbol that keeps you present. A friend of mine wore a colored

band around his wrist. When he looked at it, he remembered to stay

present.

Mindfulness is a powerful way of living. It isn’t just a technique that you

put into practice when you feel like it; rather, it is a pathway to

developing excellence in everything you do. If you practice being in the

present moment, your fear-based mindset and obsession with past and

future events will dissipate.

When you’re pulled into the events of the future, mindfulness loses its

power. You’re now living in a state of war with your mind. This is a

never-ending loop that’s supported by the belief that you’re going to be

happy someday, but not today. Until that day arrives, you’ll be stuck in a

fearful mindset.

Action Plan: Tap Into Mindfulness

Start practicing mindfulness today. Make it a continuous part of your

day and not just something you do sparingly when you have time. You’ll

cultivate a deeper level of thinking focusing on actions that build a

better tomorrow. The past is important, but serves as a reminder of

how far you’ve come; there’s nothing to do in the past anymore.

● Be mindful of your present moment. What habits are you building

now?

● What words of power are you using to communicate right now?

How are you thinking about things?

● Are you spending time doing something you love?

● Are you focusing on a goal that’s giving you happiness in the

moment?

Being mindful is building awareness of every action, every task, no

matter how small, so that we can stay centered, focused, and present.

To practice mindfulness, you can:

 1. Meditate for fifteen minutes in the morning.

2. Practice concentrating on just one task for ten minutes.

3. Think about what you are doing in the now. Move your thoughts

into the present moment and hold them there for as long as you

can.

4. Be aware of the distractions that pull you into past memories or

regrets, such as negative thinking.

5. Observe the world around you. Focus on the people you see in

the moment and watch everyone with interest. Observe how they

move, what they are doing, and slow down your mind so that it

stays in the moment.

6. Turn off all digital devices and shut down one hour before bed.

No TV or Internet. Spend time with your thoughts. Think about

what you did today and how you could have performed better in

your relationships or with yourself.

7. Count your blessings. What are you feeling grateful for right now?

For a greater experience in practicing mindfulness and embracing the

power of the moment, you can check out the book 10-Minute

Mindfulness: 71 Habits for Living in the Present Moment by Steve Scott

and Barrie Davenport.

 Conclusion: Fearless Confidence Action Guide

Now that we’ve reached the end of this guide, I hope that you can take

these action plans and use them in your daily life.

Remember this: what we do in the moment defines our destiny. Your

actions today bring you closer to your goals and the life you are striving

to create.

You can tackle one action plan a day, or focus on one per week. But I

encourage and support you to do something every day that makes your

life better.

You can check out my blog at scottallanauthor.com where I drill down

into these strategies in greater detail. You will also find information on

overcoming tough obstacles and living a fearlessly confident lifestyle.

I wish you all the best on this journey wherever you are and wherever

this path takes you.

And remember—keep pushing forward, no matter what.

Cheers,

Scott Allan
 Fearless Confidence Quotes

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Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are
powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.
We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?' Actually,
who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve
the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't
feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born
to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in
everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people
permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence
automatically liberates others.

— Marianne Williamson

[2]

Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear, not absence of fear.

— Mark Twain

[3]

Fear keeps us focused on the past or worried about the future. If we can
acknowledge our fear, we can realize that right now we are okay. Right now, today,
we are still alive, and our bodies are working marvelously. Our eyes can still see the
beautiful sky. Our ears can still hear the voices of our loved ones.

— Thich Nhat Hanh

[4]

I have learned over the years that when one's mind is made up, this diminishes
fear; knowing what must be done does away with fear.

— Rosa Parks

[5]

Fear stifles our thinking and actions. It creates indecisiveness that results in
stagnation. I have known talented people who procrastinate indefinitely rather than
risk failure. Lost opportunities cause erosion of confidence, and the downward
spiral begins.

— Charles Stanley

[6]

What is a fear of living? It's being preeminently afraid of dying. It is not doing what
you came here to do, out of timidity and spinelessness. The antidote is to take full
responsibility for yourself—for the time you take up and the space you occupy. If
you don't know what you're here to do, then just do some good.

— Maya Angelou

[7]

One of the greatest discoveries a man makes, one of his great surprises, is to find
he can do what he was afraid he couldn't do.

— Henry Ford

[8]

So then learn to conquer your fear. This is the only art we have to master
nowadays: to look at things without fear, and to fearlessly do right.

— Friedrich Durrenmatt
[9]

Power is of two kinds. One is obtained by the fear of punishment and the other by
acts of love. Power based on love is a thousand times more effective and
permanent then the one derived from fear of punishment.

— Mahatma Gandhi

[10]

You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really
stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, “I lived through this
horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.”

— Eleanor Roosevelt

[11]

The key to success is to focus our conscious mind on things we desire not things we
fear.

— Brian Tracy

[12]

Don't let the fear of the time it will take to accomplish something stand in the way
of your doing it. The time will pass anyway; we might just as well put that passing
time to the best possible use.

— Earl Nightingale

[13]

Fear seems to have many causes. Fear of loss, fear of failure, fear of being hurt, and
so on, but ultimately all fear is the ego's fear of death, of annihilation. To the ego,
death is always just around the corner. In this mind-identified state, fear of death
affects every aspect of your life.

— Eckhart Tolle

[14]

Courage is being scared to death…and saddling up anyway.

— John Wayne

[15]

When you're scared, when you're hanging on, when life is hurting you, then you're
going to see what you're really made of.

— Sylvester Stallone

[16]

A lot of people don't want to make their own decisions. They're too scared. It's
much easier to be told what to do.

— Marilyn Manson

[17]

I tend to think you're fearless when you recognize why you should be scared of
things, but do them anyway.

— Christian Bale

[18]
I was probably more scared of my high school exams than I was of the Oscars. At
the time you think it's everything and if you don't do well, your life's over.
Opportunities are gone. So the more you do it, the less the fear is present.

— Hugh Jackman

[19]

The fears you do not face become your walls. Most people in business, and in their
personal lives, design everything so they can avoid doing what makes them feel
uncomfortable. Yet any good business person knows we are not only paid to work,
but also we are paid to be scared.

— Robin S. Sharma

[20]

Successful people maintain a positive focus in life no matter what is going on

around them. They stay focused on their past successes rather than their past
failures, and on the next action steps they need to take to get them closer to the
fulfillment of their goals rather than all the other distractions that life presents to
them.

— Jack Canfield

[21]

Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want
to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.

— Dale Carnegie

[22]

For every failure, there's an alternative course of action. You just have to find it.
When you come to a roadblock, take a detour.

— Mary Kay Ash

[23]

A real decision is measured by the fact that you've taken a new action. If there's no
action, you haven't truly decided.

— Tony Robbins

[24]

Too many of us are not living our dreams because we are living our fears.

— Les Brown

[25]

Procrastination is the fear of success. People procrastinate because they are afraid
of the success that they know will result if they move ahead now. Because success
is heavy, carries a responsibility with it, it is much easier to procrastinate and live on
the “someday I’ll” philosophy.

— Denis Waitley

[26]

There are four ways you can handle fear. You can go over it, under it, or around it.
But if you are ever to put fear behind you, you must walk straight through it. Once
you put fear behind you. Leave it there.

— Donna Favors

[27]

Somebody should tell us…right at the start of our lives…that we are dying. Then we
might live to the limit, every minute of every day. Do it! I say. Whatever you want to
do, do it now! There are only so many tomorrows.

— Michael Landon
[28]

Obstacles are like wild animals. They are cowards but they will bluff you if they
can. If they see you are afraid of them…they are liable to spring upon you; but if you
look them squarely in the eye, they will slink out of sight.

— Orison Swett Marden

[29]

Thinking will not overcome fear but action will.

— W. Clement Stone

[30]

Always do what you are afraid to do.

— Ralph Waldo Emerson

[31]

Your timeless self does not age and has no fear of the future. Contemplate your
physical self and all its possessions, and practice laughing peacefully at it all.

— Wayne Dyer

[32]

Both old and young alike ought to seek wisdom: the former in order that, as age
comes over him, he may be young in good things because of the grace of what has
been, and the latter in order that, while he is young, he may at the same time be
old, because he has no fear of the things which are to come.

— Epicurus
[33]

In boxing, I had a lot of fear. Fear was good. But, for the first time, in the bout with
Muhammad Ali, I didn't have any fear. I thought, “This is easy. This is what I’ve been
waiting for.” No fear at all. No nervousness. And I lost.

— George Foreman

[34]

I’ve come to believe that all my past failure and frustration were actually laying the
foundation for the understandings that have created the new level of living I now
enjoy.

— Tony Robbins

[35]

You’ll always miss 100 percent of the shots you don’t take.

— Wayne Gretzky

[36]

You build on failure. You use it as a stepping stone. Close the door on the past. You
don't try to forget the mistakes, but you don't dwell on it. You don't let it have any
of your energy, or any of your time, or any of your space.

— Johnny Cash

[37]

No man ever achieved worth-while success who did not, at one time or other, find
himself with at least one foot hanging well over the brink of failure.

— Napoleon Hill
[38]

Do one thing every day that scares you.

— Eleanor Roosevelt

[39]

I can accept failure, everyone fails at something. But I can’t accept not trying.

— Michael Jordan

[40]

"Try a thing you haven’t done three times. Once, to get over the fear of doing it.
Twice, to learn how to do it. And a third time to figure out whether you like it or
not."

— Virgil Thomson

[41]

Remembering that I’ll be dead soon is the most important tool I’ve ever
encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything—
all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure—these
things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important.

— Steve Jobs

[42]

Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want
to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.

— Dale Carnegie

[43]
I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times,
I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and
over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.

— Michael Jordan

[44]

Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.

— Winston Churchill

[45]

Develop success from failures. Discouragement and failure are two of the surest
stepping stones to success.

— Dale Carnegie

[46]

Our greatest fear should not be of failure but of succeeding at things in life that
doesn't really matter.

— Francis Chan

[47]

Thinking will not overcome fear but action will.

— W. Clement Stone

[48]

The amateur believes he must first overcome his fear; then he can do his work. The
professional knows that fear can never be overcome. He knows there is no such
thing as a fearless warrior or a dread-free artist.
 — Steven Pressfield

[49]

Fear is only as deep as the mind allows.

— Japanese Proverb

[50]

If you are distressed by anything external, the pain is not due to the thing itself, but
to your estimate of it; and this you have the power to revoke at any moment.

— Marcus Aurelius

[51]

The enemy is fear. We think it is hate; but, it is fear.

— Gandhi

[52]

If you knew that you could handle anything that came your way, what would you
possibly have to fear? The answer is: NOTHING!

— Susan Jeffers

[53]

Every time you encounter something that forces you to “handle it,” your self-esteem
is raised considerably. You learn to trust that you will survive, no matter what
happens. And in this way your fears are diminished immeasurably.

— Susan Jeffers
[54]

All my life I have never heard a mother call out to her child as he or she goes off to
school, “Take a lot of risks today, darling.” She is more likely to convey to her child,
“Be careful, darling.” This “Be careful” carries with it a double message: “The world is
really dangerous out there” … and … “you won’t be able to handle it.” What Mom is
really saying, of course, is, “If something happens to you, I won’t be able to handle
it.” You see, she is only passing on her lack of trust in her ability to handle what
comes her way.

— Susan Jeffers

[55]

There is only one thing that makes a dream impossible to achieve: the fear of
failure.

— Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist

[56]

There are two basic motivating forces: fear and love. When we are afraid, we pull
back from life. When we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion,
excitement, and acceptance. We need to learn to love ourselves first, in all our glory
and our imperfections. If we cannot love ourselves, we cannot fully open to our
ability to love others or our potential to create. Evolution and all hopes for a better
world rest in the fearlessness and open-hearted vision of people who embrace life.

— John Lennon

[57]

Expose yourself to your deepest fear; after that, fear has no power, and the fear of
freedom shrinks and vanishes. You are free.

— Jim Morrison
[58]

I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The
brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.

— Nelson Mandella

[59]

I have accepted fear as part of life – specifically the fear of change... I have gone
ahead despite the pounding in the heart that says: turn back....

— Erica Jong

[60]

You can, you should, and if you’re brave enough to start, you will.

— Stephen King

[61]

The biggest adventure you can ever take is to live the life of your dreams.

— Oprah Winfrey

[62]

You can spend your whole life imagining ghosts and worrying about the pathway to
the future but all there will ever be is what's happening here and the decisions we
make in this moment.

— Jim Carrey

[63]
How noble and good everyone could be if, every evening before falling asleep, they
were to recall to their minds the events of the whole day and consider exactly what
has been good and bad. Then without realizing it, you try to improve yourself at the
start of each new day.

— Anne Frank

[64]

The best remedy for those who are afraid, lonely or unhappy is to go outside,
somewhere where they can be quiet, alone with the heavens, nature and God.
Because only then does one feel that all is as it should be.

— Anne Frank

[65]

It's lack of faith that makes people afraid of meeting challenges, and I believed in
myself.

— Muhhamad Ali

[66]

What is a fear of living? It's being preeminently afraid of dying. It is not doing what
you came here to do, out of timidity and spinelessness. The antidote is to take full
responsibility for yourself—for the time you take up and the space you occupy. If
you don't know what you're here to do, then just do some good.

— Maya Angelou

[67]

If you don’t do it scared, someone else will; and they will succeed to beat the fear
that you still have to live with. As they move forward in life and success, you are
stuck behind, caught in the waves of people who took action when they could have
easily given up instead. Now that’s something to be afraid of.
 — Scott Allan

[68]

But you have to do what you dream of doing even while you're afraid.

— Arianna Huffington

[69]

Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear, not absence of fear.

— Mark Twain

[70] The greatest mistake you can make in life is continually fearing that you'll make
one.

— Elbert Hubbard

[71]

The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure that you seek.

— Joseph Campbell

[72]

Vulnerability is about showing up and being seen. It’s tough to do that when we’re
terrified about what people might see or think.

— Brene Brown

[73]

All that you accomplish or fail to accomplish with your life is the direct result of your
thoughts.
 — James Allen

[74]

The whole secret of existence is to have no fear. Never fear what will become of
you, depend on no one. Only the moment you reject all help are you freed.

— Swami Vivekananda

[75]

I’ve learned that fear limits you and your vision. It serves as blinders to what may be
just a few steps down the road for you. The journey is valuable, but believing in
your talents, your abilities, and your self-worth can empower you to walk down an
even brighter path. Transforming fear into freedom—how great is that?

— Soledad O’brien
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