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All of us have conditioning, but most of us don�t really know our own
conditioning very well. Furthermore, we may be averse to exploring it,
except perhaps intellectually, being spellbound by such notions as �It�s all in
the past� or �What�s done is done.� Though we may think we�re done with
our past, our past isn�t necessarily done with us�and it won�t be until we
recognize its impact on us and begin the work of not letting ourselves be run
by it, of bringing it out of our shadow.
When we don�t recognize our conditioning for what it is, we�re operating
on automatic; we may think we�re free, making our own choices, but we�re
actually not, for our conditioning is calling the shots, making the choices for
us. If we�re identified, or fused, with our conditioning, we�ll assume that we
are making the choices.
When our conditioning has its way with us, we�re in the dark. The lights
may be on but we don�t really see, because our conditioning is looking
through our eyes.
Using the same words and ideas from previous times we�ve been
triggered. It�s as if we�re on stage saying our lines as dictated by the
same old script. We�re acting and re-acting, even when we know we�re
doing so.
At such times, our shadow is still very much present�not as that particular aspect
of our conditioning but as our resistance to handling it the way we�ve learned to.
Having that resistance in our shadow, out of sight or mostly out of sight,
gives us the green light to act�including melodramatically!�as if we can�t
help but be taken over by our reactivity or unhealthy behavior. But once we
see our resistance, bring some compassionate light to it, and explore its
origins, we increase the odds of being able to skillfully work with our
conditioning.