;fd'lxs ?kdf klg k|bfg u/LG5 .
cfkm}+ h:tf] ls s'g} lunf;df cfwf kfgL el/Psf]
l;=la=6L – Ps hfgsf/L
cfkmgf] ;f]rfO / Jojxf/nfO{ klxrfg,
d'Nof+sg / kl/dfh{g ug]{ dgf]a}1flgs
pkrf/ ljlw]]
l;=la=6L Pp6f dgf]a}1flgs pkrf/ jf
;xof]u ljlw xf] h;n] xfd|f] ;f]rfO, efjgf
/ Jojxf/sf] cGt{;DaGwdf sfd u5{ . of]
!) b]lv @) k6ssf] ;];g jf e]63f6df
k"/f x'g] ub{5 . o;df jt{dfgdf eO/fv]sf]
;d:ofdf s]lGb|t x'g] ub{5 . of] ;xof]u
ljlw lglZrt kl/lw leq x'g] ub{5 .
l;=la=6L sf] ljsf; s/La cfwf ztflAwsf]
cg';Gwfgdf cfwfl/t 5 / ljleGg
dgf];fdflhs ;d:of / dgf]/f]udf
k|efjsf/L 5 eGg] cg';Gwfgx?n] atfpFb}
cfPsf] 5 .
l;=la=6L sf k|sf/x?
l;=la=6L pkrf/ ljlw cGtu{t ljleGg
xfFuf / ljleGg k|sf/x? k|rngdf 5 . slt
y]/flk:6x? ;f]rfOsf] ljlw a9L k|of]u u5{g\
eg] slt efjgf ;DalGw ljlw a9L k|of]u
u5{g\ / sltn] Jojxf/ ;DalGw ljlw a9L
k|of]u u5{g\ . l;=la=6L Psn ?kdf tyf
k9\b} ul/g] lstfaL ?kdf jf sDKo'6/ jf
df]afOn cfo\k dfkm{t ul/g] l;=la=6L klg
xfn k|rngdf 5 .
l;=la=6L s;n] k|bfg u5{
;fwf/0f tof ljZj el/sf] rng cg';f/ of]
ljlwaf6 ;xof]u ug]{ JolSt Pp6f l;=la=6L
tflnd k|fKt dfgl;s :jf:Yodf bIf
JolStn] lbg] ub{5 . o;sf] nflu ;]jfu|fxL
jf lj/fdL;Fu ;xof]usf] ;DaGw ufF:g
;Sg], dfgl;s :jf:Yo jf /f]usf] hl6ntf
-h:t} cfTdxTof_ ;DaGwL bIftf ePsf] /
dfgl;s /f]usf] lgbfgsf af/]df hfgsf/L
cfjZos x'G5 . ;fwf/0ftof s'g} dfgl;s
:jf:Yosf] bIf JolStsf nflu s/La !
jif{sf] tflnd tyf ;'k/Lj]]If0f kl5 dfq
l;=la=6Lsf] bIftf xfl;n x'g] u/]sf] kfOG5
. t/ o;sf] s]xL ljlwx? eg] ;]jfu|fxL jf
cGo cw{ bIf JolStn] klg cfkmgf] b}lgs
sfddf k|of]u ug{ ;S5g\ .
;f]rfO
Pp6} 36gfdf klg ljlEfGg dfG5]df ljleGg
;f]rfO ljrf/ cfpF5 . xfdL s'g} 36gfsf
af/]df h:tf] ;f]R5f}+ To;n] xfd|f] efjgf /
Jojxf/df To;t} k|efj kfl//x]sf] x'G5 .
5 eg] Pp6f JolStn] To;nfO{ cfwf vfnL
b]Vg ;S5 / lg/fz x'G5 eg] csf]{n] cfwf
el/Psf] dx;'; u5{ / v'zL x'G5 . xfdLn]
cfkmgf] kl/l:ytL / cfkmgf] hLjgsf
cg'ejx?nfO{ klxn] h:tf] lsl;dn]
lnO/fv]sf lyof}+ To:t} u/]/ hLjge/ ;f]Rg'
k5{ eGg] x'Fb}g . ;do;Fu} To; ljrf/df
kl/jt{g cfpg] u5{ / rflxof] eg] clxn]
klg kl/jt{g ug{ klg l;Sg ;lsG5 .
cfkm'nfO{ kL8f lbg] ;f]rfO ljrf/ jf
c;fGble{s ;f]rfO ljrf/nfO{ klxrfg ub{},
km/s 9+un] ;f]Rg l;s]/ km/s / ;lhnf]
cg'ej ug{ ;S5f}+ / cfkmgf] efjgf
Jojxf/df kl/jt{g Nofpg ;lsG5 .
xfdLn] cfkmgf] af/]df jf c?sf] af/]df y'k|}
;f]rfO ljrf/ /fv]sf x'G5f}+ . ToxL ;f]rfO
ljrf/x?dfq ;lx xf] jf ;fGble{s 5 eGg]
ljZjf; klg lnO/fv]sf x'G5f}+ lsgeGbf
xfdL;Fu To;sf nflu s]xL cfwf/ jf k|df0f
h'6fPsf x'G5f}+ . t/ xfdLn] of] sf/0fn] of]
ljrf/dfq} ;fFrf] xf] eg]/ cfwf/ agfPsf
sltko k|df0fx? -ts{x?_ PskIfsf] ts{
jf cfwf/ x'g ;S5 . h:tf] Pp6f l8k|]zg
ePsf] JolStn] cfkm'nfO{ dfG5]n] jf:tf
gu/]sf] dfq ofb u5{ t/ s;}n] cfkm'nfO{
tfl/km u/]sf] s'/f ofb ub{}g . clg of]
PskIfLo k|df0fx?sf] cfwf/df cfkmgf]
af/]df o:tf] ljrf/ NofO/xG5 “d t c?n]
g?rfpg] JolSt kf] /x]5' .” l;=la=6L
k|bfosn] o;/L ;f]rfOdf cfO/x]sf]
PstkmL{ b[li6sf]0f klxNofpg d2t u5{ .
cfkmgf] PstkmL {;f]rfO ljrf/x? aGb}
uPsf] jf cfpFb} u/]sf] cfkm}nfO ofb gx'g
;S5 . o:tf ;f]rfO ljrf/x? cfP/
xfdLnfO{ cgfjZos ?kdf kL8f eO/fv]sf]
x'G5 / cfkmgf]] kl/l:yltaf6 efUg
vf]lh/fv]sf x'G5f}+ . hasL tL ;f]rfO
ljrf/x? cfkm}+df c;fGble{s jf ;do
kl/l:ylt cg';f/ gldNbf] klg x'g;S5 .
s'g} klg kl/l:yltdf cfkm} cfpg] u/]sf]
cfkmgf] ;f]rfO ljrf/ k|lt ;hu x'g, Tof]
;f]rfO sltsf] ;fGble{s 5 jf ;do ;fk]If
5 eg]/ cfkmg} ;f]rfOnfO{ sf]6\ofpg /
rflxPsf] v08df gf}nf] lsl;dn] ;f]Rg
l;Sg ;S5f}+ . h:tf] ls cl3sf] l8k|]zg
ePsf] JolStn] gf}nf]] lsl;dn] o;/L klg
;f]Rg ;S5 -sf]xL dflg;n] dnfO{ /dfOnf]
/ /fd|f] dfg]/ af]Ng] klg /x]5_ .
Jojxf/
xfdL h] u5f}+ -Jojxf/_ To;n] xfd|f] efjgf
/ ;f]rfOnfO klg k|efj kfg]{ u5{ .
pbfx/0sf nflu s'g} ljBfyL{ hfFrsf]
cl3Nnf] lbg ;Dd klg cfkmgf] k9\g] sfd
gu/La:5 eg] p;nfO{ c? t}of/L
ul/;s]sf ljBfyL{sf] t'ngfdf a9L tgfjsf]
dx;'; t eOxfN5 . l;=la=6L n] gofF
Jojxf/sf] s'/f / kl/l:ylt;Fu ;fdgf ug]{
:j:y Jojxf/ jf tl/sf l;Sg d2t u5{ .
o;/L ljleGg ;Lk l;Sg ;lsG5 .
pbfx/0fsf] nflu ;fdflhs ;Lksf] s'/f
u/f}+ . ;fdflhs cj:yfdf rflxg] ;Lk
gx'Fbf c?sf] ;xof]u sd kfOG5 /
kl/l:ylt;Fu h'Wg] -h:tf] ls s;}n] cfkmgf]
s'/f sf6\bf jf cfTdLotfsf] s'/fdf_
Ifdtfdf sld x'G5 . ;fdflhs kl/l:yltsf]
;kmntfn] xfd|f] cfTdljZjf; a9\g] u5{ /
l;=la=l6 df o;}nfO{ a9fjf lbg]
Jojxf/x?df hf]8 lbOG5 .
Jojxf/df kl/jt{g ug]{ ljlw 8/ qf; sd
ug{df klg dxTjk"0f{ 5 . h:tf] ls, cflQg]
;d:of ePsfx?df 8/ gxf];\ eg]/ efUg]
jf ;fd'Gg] gkg]{ k|j[lt x'G5 . t/ o;n] ubf{
cflQg] ;d:of sd x'g'sf] ;f6f] emg\ a9\g
;S5 / b}lgs hLjgdf ug'{kg]{ sfd s'/f
5f]8\g] / 8/sf] 3]/fdf l;ldt x'g'kg]{
afWotf cfpF5 . o;df Tof] JolStnfO{
8/sf] kl/l:ylt;Fu efUg' eGbf klg, lj:tf/}
/ ;'/lIft lx;fan] 8/sf] kl/l:ylt ;fdgf
u/]/ cg'ej ubf{ -h:tf] ls y]/flk:6sf]
lgu/fgLdf_ Tof] 8/sf] kl/l:ylt / cflQg]
k|ljltsf] ;DaGw sdhf]/ x'G5 -cflQg] sd
x'G5_ .
s]xL cfwf/e"t kIf
l;=la=l6 sf s]xL cfwf/e"t kIfx? tnsf
a'Fbfx?df 5g\ . To;af/] yk hfGg OR5's
x'g'xG5 eg] cfkmgf] dgf];fdflhs ;xof]uL
jf :jfYo Joj;foL jf l;=la=l6sf]
Joj;foL;Fu ;Dks{ ug'xf]nf .
!_ ;xof]uL / ;]jfu|fxLsf] ;DaGw
@_ pkrf/ jf ;xof]u s] s'/fdf ug]{ eGg]
p2]Zo agfP/ cufl8 a9\g]
#_ clxn] jf jt{dfgnfO{ hf]8 lbg] s'/f
$_ cfkmgf] kL8f jf ;d:of s;/L oyfjt
eO/fv]sf] 5 eGg] a'em\g] cfFs8f
%_ ;d:of km]l/ kl5 gaNemf];\ jf aNem]df
s] ug]{ eGg] k|of;
Translated & Adapted by :
Suraj Shakya
Orientation in Cognitive Behavioral
Approaches in Counseling
Kathmandu, 2018