This document provides tips for communicating effectively in a new relationship. It advises being honest about your feelings when talking to your partner, and to look for uninterrupted time to have important conversations. The document also suggests telling your partner about any boundaries or things that make you uncomfortable upfront, and to use "I" statements to avoid blame when bringing up issues. Some examples are provided of how to respectfully address concerns using this approach.
This document provides tips for communicating effectively in a new relationship. It advises being honest about your feelings when talking to your partner, and to look for uninterrupted time to have important conversations. The document also suggests telling your partner about any boundaries or things that make you uncomfortable upfront, and to use "I" statements to avoid blame when bringing up issues. Some examples are provided of how to respectfully address concerns using this approach.
This document provides tips for communicating effectively in a new relationship. It advises being honest about your feelings when talking to your partner, and to look for uninterrupted time to have important conversations. The document also suggests telling your partner about any boundaries or things that make you uncomfortable upfront, and to use "I" statements to avoid blame when bringing up issues. Some examples are provided of how to respectfully address concerns using this approach.
We know that you're excited about seeing someone new, but it might feel a little intimidating to know what to say to them. The thing is, openly communicating your thoughts and feelings to your partner makes your relationship so much stronger. You're probably wondering how to talk with them effectively, so keep reading for answers to some of your most common questions!
1. Be honest with your feelings when you’re talking with your
partner.We know that it can be tough to open up, but it makes it a lot easier to express yourself. Think about what you want to say beforehand, and then look for some time where you can talk without any interruptions.[1] As you’re addressing your concerns, bring up what you need from the relationship and what makes you feel scared so your partner understands you better.[2] For example, you could pull them aside and say, “Hey, can we talk for a few minutes? I know work has been busy, but I’m concerned that it affects our time together.” As another example, you could say something like, “I feel a little nervous and stressed because this is my first relationship. Do you have a couple of minutes so I can tell you why I’m concerned?” 2. Tell them of any boundaries you have.If you’re uncomfortable with public displays of affection or don’t want to be intimate, bring it up to your partner right away. Tell them all the things you like and dislike so they know what you feel comfortable with. That way, they won’t think you’re uninterested in them if you pull away.[3] Use “I” statements so you don’t put blame on your partner.Rather than using negative “you” statements, tell them how it makes you feel instead.[4] Try to avoid saying they did something wrong or that they need to fix it. Instead, see if you can come up with a solution to how you’d like to resolve the issue.[5] For example, you could say something like, “I feel frustrated when I’m cut off during conversations because I don’t feel respected. I was hoping we could wait until the other person finishes talking before saying something.” Avoid starting sentences with phrases like, “you are,” “you should,” “you need,” or “you have to.”[6] Don’t be disrespectful to them. It’s okay if something made you angry, but look for a constructive way to say it. For example, instead of saying, “You always leave a huge mess,” you could say, “I noticed the mess on the floor and it makes me a little anxious. Can we clean it up?”