ELE17 - Good

Manners and
Right Conduct
(Edukasyon sa
Pagpapakatao)
1ST Semester, A.Y. 2021-2022

Module 6
(Week 13)
Prepared by:

Markhill Veran Tiosan, LPT

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 Social Relationships
Overview
Interaction between individuals affects every individual. Social relationships
include the interactions, which bind people together into sports teams and groups. In
this module, we will discuss the social relationships, their influence, and Goleman’s
Social Intelligence Theory.

Objectives
 Discuss social relationships and their influence.
 Understand the social intelligence theory

Discussion
WHAT IS SOCIAL RELATIONSHIP?
Broadly defined, social relationships refer to the connections that exist
between people who have recurring interactions that are perceived by the
participants to have personal meaning. This definition includes relationships between
family members, friends, neighbors, coworkers, and other associates but excludes
social contacts and interactions that are fleeting, incidental, or perceived to have
limited significance (e.g., time-limited interactions with service providers or retail
employees). Scientists interested in behavioral medicine often emphasize the
informal social relationships that are important in a person’s life, or the person’s
social network, rather than formal relationships, such as those with physicians,
lawyers, or clergy.
GOLEMAN’S SOCIAL INTELLIGENCE THEORY
Daniel Goleman's five components of emotional intelligence

Emotional Intelligence, as a psychological theory, was developed by Peter

Salovey and John Mayer.

"Emotional intelligence is the ability to perceive emotions, to access and generate

emotions so as to assist thought, to understand emotions and emotional knowledge,
and to reflectively regulate emotions so as to promote emotional and intellectual
growth." (Mayer & Salovey, 1997)

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The following steps describe the five components of emotional intelligence at work,
as developed by Daniel Goleman. Goleman is a science journalist who brought
"emotional intelligence" on the bestseller list and has authored a number of books on
the subject, including "Emotional Intelligence," "Working With Emotional
Intelligence," and, lately, of "Social Intelligence: The New Science of Human
Relationships."

The Five Components of Emotional Intelligence

Self-awareness. The ability to recognize and understand personal moods and

emotions and drives, as well as their effect on others. Hallmarks* of self-awareness
include self-confidence, realistic self-assessment, and a self-deprecating sense of
humor. Self-awareness depend on one's ability to monitor one's own emotion state
and to correctly identify and name one's emotions.

[*A hallmark is a sure sign: since self-awareness is necessary for, say, realistic self-
assessment, that is, without self-awareness no realistic self-assessment, the
presence of of realistic self-assessment is a sure sign (sufficient to conclude that
there is) self-awareness.]

Self-regulation.The ability to control or redirect disruptive impulses and moods, and

the propensity to suspend judgment and to think before acting. Hallmarks include
trustworthiness and integrity; comfort with ambiguity; and openness to change.

Internal motivation. A passion to work for internal reasons that go beyond money
and status -which are external rewards, - such as an inner vision of what is important
in life, a joy in doing something, curiosity in learning, a flow that comes with being
immersed in an activity. A propensity to pursue goals with energy and persistence.
Hallmarks include a strong drive to achieve, optimism even in the face of failure, and
organizational commitment.

Empathy. The ability to understand the emotional makeup of other people. A skill in
treating people according to their emotional reactions. Hallmarks include expertise in
building and retaining talent, cross-cultural sensitivity, and service to clients and
customers. (In an educational context, empathy is often thought to include, or lead
to, sympathy, which implies concern, or care or a wish to soften negative emotions
or experiences in others.) See also Mirror Neurons.
It is important to note that empathy does not necessarily imply compassion. Empathy
can be 'used' for compassionate or cruel behavior. Serial killers who marry and kill
many partners in a row tend to have great emphatic skills!

Social skills. Proficiency in managing relationships and building networks, and an

ability to find common ground and build rapport. Hallmarks of social skills include
effectiveness in leading change, persuasiveness, and expertise building and leading
teams.

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SOCIAL INFLUENCE
Description
Social influence is the change in behavior that one person causes in another,
intentionally or unintentionally, as a result of the way the changed person perceives
themselves in relationship to the influencer, other people and society in general.
Three areas of social influence are conformity, compliance and obedience.
Conformity is changing how you behave to be more like others. This plays
to belonging and esteem needs as we seek the approval and friendship of others.
Conformity can run very deep, as we will even change our beliefs and values to be
like those of our peers and admired superiors.

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Compliance is where a person does something that they are asked to do by another.
They may choose to comply or not to comply, although the thoughts of social reward
and punishment may lead them to compliance when they really do not want to
comply.
Obedience is different from compliance in that it is obeying an order from someone
that you accept as an authority figure. In compliance, you have some choice. In
obedience, you believe that you do not have a choice. Many military officers and
commercial managers are interested only in obedience.
Research
Solomon Asch showed how a person could be influenced by others in a group to
claim that a clearly shorter line in a group of lines was, in fact, the longest.
Stanley Milgram did classic experiments in obedience, where people off the street
obeyed orders to give (what they thought were) life-threatening electric shocks to
other people.
Example
You ask me to pass the salt. I comply by giving it to you.
You tell me to pass the salt. I obey by giving it to you.
I notice that people are using salt and passing it to the person on their left without
comment. I conform by doing likewise.
So what?
Using it
Social Psychology includes a large domain of knowledge around Social Influence
(much of which is on this site). This provides a powerful basis through which to
persuade others.
Defending
Understand the psychology of social influence and how you respond to it. Notice
yourself in social situations. Also notice how others are deliberately or unconsciously
influencing you. Then choose how you will respond.

Assessment

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Essay/Reflection (15pts each)
1. Why social relationships important among individuals?
2. Reflect on The Five Components of Emotional Intelligence of Daniel
Goleman?
3. How understanding the social relationships and its influences help you as a
future educator?

Rubric for Essay

CRITERIA

CREATIVITY Ideas were Ideas were Ideas were dull

written written fairly and incoherent
creatively (5pts) creative (3) (2)

CLARITY OF Ideas were Ideas were Ideas were not

CONTENT expressed expressed in a under (2)
clearly (5pts) clear manner
(3)

ORGANIZATION Ideas were Ideas were Ideas include

organized and expressed but unrelated
easy to could have sentences. (2)
understand (5 been organized
pts) better (3)

References
Berkman, L. F., Glass, T., Brissette, I., & Seeman, T. E. (2000). From social
integration to health: Durkheim in the new millennium. Social Science and
Medicine, 51, 843–857.
Social relationship. Oxford Reference. (n.d.). Retrieved December 1, 2021, from
https://www.oxfordreference.com/view/10.1093/oi/authority.201108031005
15404.
Goleman’s ET. (n.d.). Retrieved December 1, 2021, from
https://web.sonoma.edu/users/s/swijtink/teaching/philosophy_101/paper1/
goleman.htm.
Asch, S. E. (1946) Forming impressions of personality, Journal of Abnormal and
Social Psychology, 41, 258-290
Asch, S. E. (1951) Effects of group pressure upon the modification and distortion
of judgement. In H. Guetzkow (ed.) Groups, leadership and men.
Pittsburgh, PA: Carnegie Press

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 Asch, S. E. (1956) Studies of independence and conformity: A minority of one
against a unanimous majority. Psychological Monographs, 70 (Whole no.
416)
Asch, S. E. (1966). Opinions and social pressure. In A. P. Hare, E. F. Borgatta
and R. F. Bales (eds.), Small groups: Studies in social interaction, (pp.
318-324). New York: Alfred A. Knopf.

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