Improving the relationships between teenagers and parents

Parenting teenagers is a hard task, it demands a lot of patience, but the rewards are worth the
work.
It takes determination, creativity, and perseverance. (kitartás/állhatatosság)
1.Understanding and accepting
●A good parent tries to understand and accept his children.
●Teenagers can be really moody, argumentative , capricious and combative (harcias).
●They complain that their life is miserable and everything wrong is happening to them.
●They are experiencing everything for the first time; this makes them very insecure and confused
about what they should do to face the situation.
●Teens struggle with self-confidence.
●It is really important to be able to accept the fact that teenagers’ personalities are constantly
changing and they are becoming adults/growing up.
●They rebel sometimes for no reason, question their parents, answer back to them (felesel) and
reject everything related to their childhood.
●As I think it is really important to give them responsibilities and make them feel that they are
adding value to the family and their opinions are respected.
●Moreover, it is also important to give them some space, allow them to explore their emotions and
let them get on with what is just the natural phase of life.
●If parents treat their teenagers this way they can bring out the best in them.
2.Listening to them
●It is really important to listen to their problems.
●it becomes easy for them to open up to their parents
●their parents get to know and understand their feelings
●let their teen talk openly (without interrupting)
●give them a chance to hear their own ideas played out loud so they may think over them
3.Treat Them Like They’re Capable Of Taking Responsibility
●treat them like adults
●ask for their opinions
●give them options
●encourage them to come up with solutions to issues that they are faced
●make teenagers more confident and secure
●take their opinion, but not drop the whole responsibility on them
●the parents still the adults, they have to make the final decision
●(have a fine balance)
●The task of parents to prepare their teenager kids to become an independent, fully functioning
adult.
●For parents, that is way more important to be a clear-sighted mentor than being teen's friend.
●They don't need their parents' friendship.
●What they need is their moral leadership.
4.“Together time”
●discuss the day, spend time together
●listen to music and watch films together
●go bowling or swimming or play video games, camping, fishing
●Parents - shouldn’t control everything teenagers see and hear
●positive communication without underestimating is really important
5.Respect their boundaries / respect their privacy
●It's often a challenge for parents to grant their teens increasingly more privacy and autonomy.
●But in order to develop good judgment, they need lots of opportunities to make mistakes and
learn from them.
●Parents should encourage their learning.
●experience freely on their own
6. Showing a good example
●child to be trustworthy, responsible, honest, resilient and good-hearted
●model those values in their own life (parents)
When teenagers know the family rules and are aware of the consequences of breaking them,
they're more likely to make healthier choices in life.