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Passive Behaviour Handout
Passive Behaviour Handout
What is it?
- Violating our own rights by failing to express honest feelings, thoughts and
beliefs, therefore allowing others to violate your own rights
- Expressing thoughts and feelings in an apologetic and self-effacing manner,
so much so that others can easily disregard them
- Allowing others to walk all over you like a doormat
- Feeling like you have no control over events
- Not allowing your needs to be as valid as others
- Allowing others to make decisions for you even though you may resent it later
- Feeling helpless, powerless and inhibited
Aim
To please others and to avoid conflict and unpleasantness at any cost
Characteristics
- Rambling, letting things slide without comment
- Beating about the bush, not saying that you mean
- Apologising unnecessarily and in a soft unsteady voice
- Averting gaze, backing off from others and slouched shoulders
- Laughing when expressing anger
- Using phrases such as “if it wouldn’t be too much trouble” and “but do
whatever you want”
Secondary Gains
- You are praised for being selfless
- You are rarely blamed if things go wrong
- Others will protect you and look after you
- You’re able to avoid, postpone or hide the conflict that you fear
August 2015