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Passive Aggressive Behaviour Handout
Passive Aggressive Behaviour Handout
What is it?
- An incongruence in that non-verbal behaviour does not match what is being
said, which can foster anxiety and a lack of trust
- Overtly appearing angry or disappointed, but not communicating this openly
or honestly
- Outwardly appearing polite and well-meaning, but covertly manipulating or
scheming underneath
- Allowing ‘negative’ feelings and emotions to build up which are held-in on a
self-imposed need for either acceptance, dependence or avoidance
What are you communicating?
This is what I think/feel but I’m not going to give you the opportunity to listen or
respond to it
Aim
To express some emotion, but not enough to communicate openly so as to avoid
any potential conflict or disruption
Characteristics
- Non-communication – ‘the silent treatment’
- Sarcasm
- Being obstructive
- Being ambiguous or cryptic
- Sulking
- Withholding
Secondary Gains
- Some emotion is able to be expressed
- Conflict is usually avoided and social acceptance maintained
- Others’ ability to respond is disarmed
- Can elicit a response from the other person that ineffectively gets your needs
met
August 2015