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and is in a sort of a
dynamic polarity fight
as a dark empath,
which, as I said, is a
non-clinical definition.
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they actually struggle
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to get that special treatment from people
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and that evokes an awful lot
of feelings of shame in them.
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So they're constantly
in this exhausting cycle
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of feeling very, very grandiose,
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of having these
delusional, grandiose ideas
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about themselves,
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but then when they get into reality,
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they fail to convince others.
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They can't be classic
grandiose narcissists,
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'cause they fail to convince the world
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of their specialness,
of their superiority.
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Every time they go out into the world,
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and they fail to do that, it
induces narcissistic injury,
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which then, of course,
induces narcissistic rage.
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So people who some would
describe as a dark empath,
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I would just say that's a
covert or vulnerable narcissist,
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actually, they experience more rage
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than grandiose narcissists.
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Interestingly enough, some
of the research that I read
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indicates that there's a
higher degree of propensity
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towards violence amongst those
defined as covert narcissists
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versus those defined
as classic narcissists.
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Because of the frustration,
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because of the constant
idealized self-injury,
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that narcissistic injury,
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they can actually be more violent
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than grandiose narcissists
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who are not really known for
being particularly violent.
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In the literature that I read,
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they particularly pointed
out domestic violence,
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violence towards children,
and violence towards animals,
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as being correlated
with covert narcissism.
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Now, if a dark empath
is a covert narcissist,
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which I'm claiming, I could be wrong,
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then that is a trait that
you could find amongst people
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who have been defined
as dark empaths as well.
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The core to this is delusion, grandiosity,
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the sense of entitlement,
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the desire to take revenge on people.
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This is a very vengeful personality type.
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This is a very sensitive personality type.
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The person that you're defining
as being a dark empath,
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you may also notice that
you get to a point with them
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where even though they
are quite empathetic,
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and you can say no, they're
definitely empathetic,
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'cause they definitely understand
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the feelings of other people.
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And yet, you still notice
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that they're hypersensitive to criticism,
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and they are actually prone
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to being quite emotionally dysregulated.
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You may not see any
overt displays of anger,
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but at a certain level, you
realize there is a threat there,
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and they are actually getting quite angry.
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What this leads to, typically,
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is the sense that you
have to walk on eggshells
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to be around this person.
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At that point,
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when you're looking at all
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of the different personality disorders,
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you can start to see how if a
dark empath is a mirror model,
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let's say, of a covert narcissist,
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these are the areas
where covert narcissism
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can, sometimes, start vectoring in
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with borderline personality disorder,
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where the person's very
emotionally dysregulated.
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They're potentially prone to extreme rage.
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But with a dark empath, it
probably would be a cold rage.
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They're not gonna actually
start throwing things
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and shouting and showing
you, no demonstrative rage,
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but the rage manifests in
their desire for vengeance
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and so, if they are slighted,
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they will go after the person
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with a high degree of persistence.
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Ladies and gentlemen, I hope
that you enjoyed this video.
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If you'd like to know more
about overcoming relationships
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with narcissistic personality types,
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please check out my new course,
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It's available from this link down here,
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and I look forward to
seeing you again next time.
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Thank you.