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thyRel
ati
onshi
pTi
ps:GetaBal
ancet
oyourRel
ati
onshi
p

Astr
ong,balancedrel
ati
onshipi
sfoundedononefundamentalidea.Becausey
outwoare
t
ogether
,yourli
vesarebetter
.Ther
efore,
eachpar
tnermustenrichtheli
vesoft
heother
.Thi
s
i
mpli
esthaty ouputyourti
meandef f
ortint
omaki
ngt heconnecti
onsecureandhappy.

Thisi
sunmi stakabl
yarelat
ionshi
pinvestmentdemonst r
atingyourloveandconcer nforyour
companion.Italsoser
vesasacr uci
alpredict
orofhowwel l y
ourfutur
eunionwillworkout .
Unfort
unatel
y,becauseofthis,
manycoupl eseventual
lyceaseinvesti
nginthei
rrelati
onship,
thei
rspouse,oracombi nat
ionofallt
hree.Andthisgradual
lydestroysthei
rrel
ati
onship.

Soit
'scruci
altocomprehendthef
oll
owingideasify
ouwishtobr
inghar
monyandbal
ancei
nto
arel
ati
onship.I
twil
li
mpr ovet
heremainderofyour(
lov
e)li
fe.

Ourhappi ness,health,
andstresslevel
shav eall
beenf oundtorisewi
thhealthyrel
ationshi
ps.
Accor di
ngt ostudies,t
hosewhohav ehealthyrelat
ionshi
psarehappierandlessstressed.Even
thoughev eryrelat
ionshipi
sunique,somef undament alt
echni
quesexisttomaintai
ngood
relat
ionships.Allr
elati
onshi
ps—fri
endships,prof
essional,f
amil
ial,
andromant i
c—canbenef i
t
from thi
sadv ice.

I
nst
eadofcompl
aini
ng,
communi
cat
e.

Communi cationisthemostcr ucialcomponentofanyr elat

ionship.Thetechniqueinvol
vesboth
tal
kingandlisteni
ng.Therefor
e,itiscrucialtoli
stenintent l
yandt alki
tout.Makei tapointt
o
communi catewi t
hy ourpar
tnerifsomet hingisbotheringy ouratherthanconst ant
lywhini
ng
andf i
ndi
ngreasonst onagthem.Thi scanbebenef i
cial andwi l
lundoubtedlyprovideyouwit
ha
sensibl
esolution.

Pl
easer
especteachot
her
'suni
quenessanduphol
dit
.

I
ndividuali
tyi
sauniqueandper sonalqual
it
y.Rarel
ydoestheadage" t
wobodi es,onesoul"appl
y
torel
at i
onshi
ps.Buthowaccurateisit?Yousteponeachother'
sindivi
duali
tyassoonasy ou
begint oi
nvadeeachother
'spersonalspace.Maint
aini
ngandhonoringthedistinctiv
enessof
bothy ouandyourpart
neri
scr ucial
.Youwon'tbehappywiththerel
ationshi
pt i
l
l thatpoi
nt.

Don'
tcompr
omi
se,
butdocommi
t.

Commi tt
inganddedi
catingyourti
meandy our
selft
oar elati
onshipisagooddeed.I t
str
engthensandsoli
dif
iesyourrel
ati
onshipwithyoursignif
icantother
.Howev er
, makingtoo
muchofacommi tmentmightpreventyoufrom wanti
ngorwi shi
ngforotherthi
ngs.Ofcourse,
youcouldprefert
ospendy ourt
imehangingoutwi t
hy ourfriendsoronasol otr
ip,butjust
becausey oucommit
teddoesn'tmeany ouwon'thavetomakeconcessi ons.Thismayappear
heal
thyatf
ir
st,
butwi
tht
imei
twi
l
lundoubt
edl
ywei
ghony
ourment
alheal
thandcausest
ress.

Mai
ntai
nbal
ancei
nyourl
i
fe.

Other
scontri
butetoourl
if
e'ssat
isf
act
ion,yett
heycannotsat
iat
eallofourneeds.Fi
ndacause
t
hatinter
est
sy ou,
thengeti
nvolv
ed.Outdooracti
vi
ti
eswouldhelpy
ourr el
ati
onshi
pthri
veand
i
ncreasebondi
ng.

Mostpeopl eoncampusreportworr
iesaboutf
itt
inginandgett
ingalongwi t
hot hers,
despit
ethe
i
mpr essionthatev
ery
oneisconfi
dentandconnected.Meet
ingnewi ndiv
idualsandget t
ingto
knowt hem takest
ime.However
,healt
hyrel
ati
onshipscanbelearned,pr
acticed,andimproved
upon.

Ber
eal
toy
our
sel
f!

Bei
nggenui
neismuchsimpl
erandmoreenjoy
ablethant
ryi
ngtopassassomet
hingor
someoneel
se.Real
peopl
earethef
oundat
ionofhealt
hyrel
ati
onshi
ps.

Howt
ost
artaddi
ngv
aluet
other
elat
ionshi
p

Youandyourpar
tnershoul
dtakeact
ivest
epstoimpr
oveyourr
elati
onship.Mostoft
hem can
bedonet
ogether
,butyoushouldal
soconsi
derhowyoucancontri
bute.

Thi
nkofyour
selfasarel
ati
onshi
prol
emodel
.Youcan'
texpecty
ourpar
tnert
oinv
esti
nyour
fut
urei
fyoudon't
.Someoneneedstot
aket
helead.

I
fyou'vegottheri
ghtpar
tnerf
oryou,
theywi
ll
recogni
zeyoureff
ort
stobett
ertherel
ati
onshi
p
andfeelencour
agedtojoi
nin.Thi
screat
esacycl
ewhereevery
onefeel
sinspi
redandexcit
edto
nur
turetheconnecti
on.

Her
ear
esomedoabl
eact
ionst
oimpr
ovet
heent
ir
erel
ati
onshi
p:

Pr
epar
easpeci
alev
eni
ngf
ory
ourl
over
.

At
tendawor
kshopasapai
rtohoney
ourcommuni
cat
ionabi
l
iti
es.

Dosomer
esear
chf
ort
henextf
ant
asyget
away
.

Changet
hingsupi
nthebedr
oom.

Wheny
ourpar
tnermustt
rav
elal
one,
putat
hought
ful
not
eint
hei
rsui
tcase.

I
ntr
oducenewpeopl
etoy
ourpar
tner
Concl
usi
on

I
fyou'r
edatingori
ntendtostartone,
commi tt
ojuggl
ingt
hethr
eeli
vesyouhaveast akei
n.One
ofthem i
ssimpletoover
lookforawhileanddisr
egar
dbecauseyoudon'
texper
ienceany
negati
veeff
ectsri
ghtaway.

Butifyoudisr
egardanyoft hethreeli
vesov erti
me, yourr
elati
onshi
pwi l
l deter
ioratetothepoint
whereitmaybenear lyhopeless.Spendmoneyt odayony ourrel
ati
onship,yourself,andyour
part
ner.Evenifyourrel
ati
onshipisnewandappear sunstoppable,t
hisist r
ue.Not hingismore
ful
fi
ll
ingthanli
vi
ngl i
fewit
hapar t
nerwhor espectsyourindependencewhi lesimul t
aneously
makingdailyi
nvestmentsiny ourfut
uretogether.