What qualifies as

bullying behavior?
QUALIFIERS CONFLICT RUDE MEAN BULLYING

Frequent;
Frequency Occasional Occasional Once or Twice
repeated

Not planned; in
Spontaneous; Planned;
Intent the heat of the Intentional
unintentional intentional
moment

The target of
All parties are Can cause hurt Can hurt others
Who is hurt? the bullying is
upset feelings; upset deeply
upset

Based in The bully is

All parties Based in anger;
thoughtlessness, trying to gain
Cause want to work impulsive
poor manners or control over
things out cruelty
narcissism the target

All parties will Rude person The bully

Taking Behavior is
accept accepts blames the
Responsibility often regretted
responsibility responsibility target

The target
An effort is
wants to stop
made by all
Who wants the bully's
parties to -- --
resolution? behavior, but
resolve the
the bully does
problem
not

Can be Needs to be CANNOT be

Building social
resolved addressed; resolved
Resolution skills could be
through should NOT be through
of benefit
mediation ignored mediation

Source: Jennifer Astles, DASA Newsletter, January 2014, TST BOCES