FAST FOOD OR HOME COOKED-MEALS?

Opening: Good afternoon everyone. I hope you have a wonderful day.

My name is Nguyen Thu Trang from class 12A5. To participate in the
speaking contest of Dak Song High School today, I will bring a topic:
Fast food or home cooked meals? Hopefully I will bring an interesting,
relaxing but no less meaningful presentation. Don't waste your time any
more. Now, I will start my presentation.
My topic divided into 3 parts: 1: Not a battle of the generation gap.
2: distance and independence 3: Fast food or home-cooked meals
I: Not a fight between the generation gap
1.Difference of mind

Have you ever fought with your parents? You say your parents don't
understand you? Your parents think you are unreasonable. Your parents
don't understand you, but it's not their fault or yours.

In Vietnam, over the past 40 years there have been too many political,
economic and cultural changes taking place. The views on life of
generations are shaped by too different social contexts.
So this is not a battle of the generation gap, but a battle of a society
full of rapid changes, out of control of those in it.

2: Difficulties and differences between generations

In our parents' day, there was a famine. Everyone does everything they
can to survive. Therefore, learning is an extremely luxury thing. Many
families have to leave their children out of school so that their smartter
children can continue their studies. Or stay at home to earn money for the
family. Their lives are closely linked and have a affect on those around
them. They can hardly live their own lives and do what they really like.
You must have heard of "Chi Pheo" a character in the work of writer
Nam Cao. For ordinary people, having a wife, having children and having
their own home is a natural thing to happen. But for him, it was a distant
and flashy dream.
What I want to say here, is that in our parents' hard times, having a stable
job, getting married, forever living somewhere peaceful is a lifelong goal.
Because they can't even eat enough.

Our generation, the transfer of technology age and world integration.

Because living in a full environment and just focusing on self-
development. We have completely different problems than our parents.
Because they know the importance of learning to get out of poverty,
giving us a better future without thinking that although they are different
in type of stress, the stress levels are similar. Peer pressure, parents'
expectations, and force fruit early ripening have gradually defeated
children's will. Graduating from college is a common thing. Finding the
right person to love and marry is a happy thing and if not, it's not a big
deal. Living with passion and making money from it is a dreamy success.

Today's generation has a different burden than their parents, but that
doesn't mean there's no burden. Quarrel is the formation of their
personality and ability to integrate into society. This didn't simply mean
arguing, but left them with a huge heartbreak, close-self and over-
protection. Leads to a deep rift with relationships with family.

2. Understand and accept the difference

In my opinion, that difference is suitainable. We ask our parents to

understand and unconditionally accept the new way of living and thinking
with us. And that is absurd. We need to step back before refuting, look
more broadly at what our parents have been through and
understand why they have such different thoughts from us.

My uncle has a dog named Kino that has been raised for 10 years. The
day he died, my uncle allowed the hired hand to eat it. My cousin and I
were shocked and cried a lot. Think that adults are heartless and eavil to a
friend who has been with us for 10 years.
We only think about our feelings but do not know that the time of parents
if the dog dies without sharing food is a waste. There is a true story of
famine from the 60s - 70s, rich people passed by hungry people piled up
in piles. They were disgusted by the sickness and hunger of the starving
people so they vomit. Starving people rush into that vomit and eat really
well.

II: Create distance and independence before you can truly connect.
1. Advice for connection

Why is it that advice such as parents and children should open up to talk
to each other more is not effective but also make everything bad?
Because it is in the upbringing of America, Japan.. and the context of
these countries is completely different from Vietnam. We are often shy
and have a hard time talking frankly about our dreams or sex. If you don't
really open your heart but talk, it will be more likely to have a conflict.

From a young age, parents need to have activities together with their
children to connect. Through games, sports and activities, it will be easier
to connect with each other. And children should actively care and share
the pressures of work and housework with their parents to reduce their
stress. Tolerance is easier to maintain when we keep a healthy distance
from people who are so different from us.

We should start talking about issues related to thoughts and views about
daily life. Then listen with all your heart to understand, not just listen.
Hold on opinions, held back and thought about it later. Then take some
time, agree with them first and gently explain.

For example, my dad thinks tattoos are bad and gypsy. I agree with my
father that it's not kind for young people to fight, race, and use large
tattoos without thinking, just to show they are powerfull , and have
consequences later .
But now there are small art tattoos about family, dreams, reminders are
also very meaningful. I showed my dad the cute and pretty tattoos. At
first, my father didn't like it, but later, he told everyone that tattoos are
like jewelry and beautiful accessories, nothing more.

2. Communicate properly to understand each other

With sincerity, patience and, importantly the right way of thinking. I
believe that if you know how and choose the right time, parents and
children can completely understand each other better. We don't need to
win the argument, because understanding is not about overpower or
forcing them to change their mind and follow us. But to understand
and accept each person's difference and respect that.
You know what, we can make a difference for our generation, our
children. We can completely destroy those things, affecting the next
generation without having to argue with our parents. Because we live
longer than our parents, and winning is not as proud as we think.

3. Children's independence and parents' beliefs

The 1900s felt forced when they could not choose their favorite majors
but had to follow parents. In the 21st century, young people feel confused
and lost when I reach the important important door of life, but I still can't
decide what they're really passionate about and what they want to do.
Young people really need to learn to be independent before asking their
parents to trust them and let them be free. Independence from self-care,
time management, thinking and finances. Simply before going out, let
your parents know who you are going with, where, what to do, about
what time you come back. Tell your parents about your important
decisions. It's not a control, it's a basic thing for parents to feel secure
and know we're safety. I believe that they will let us have our own time
without having to call and have hard question when we get home. When
parents do that annoying thing, they are hurting and worried, not because
they want to bind and hurt you.
The more independent you are, the more your parents trust you. Because
knowing you have the ability to protect yourself, solve problems. And
sometimes, they will even need your help. That sounds great, doesn't it?

III: Fast food or home-cooked meals

1. The unconditional love of parents

Although my father did not know the name of my school and class, my
car was brought to the gate every morning. He always tries to get me a
new shirt for the new school year. And that melts me. In the past, our
parents held our hands and taught us to spell and write. Now, we help our
parents to use the phone and computer.

2.Do you choose fast food or home-cooked meals?

There is a saying that I enthuse: “You can buy a watch, not time. You
can buy a doctor, not health. You can buy a house, but you can't
make it a home.” Do you choose to eat fast food or home cooked meals?
Both are no problem. Fast food for your busy days. But the home cooked
food is always hot because of love. Family members spend less and less
time together even in the same house. Perhaps, mealtime is the only time
for some families to sit together. How long has it been since you took the
time to cook a hearty meal, chat with your family happily? Tonight, let's
make delicious food for the people you love! Have a warm evening!
Thank you for listening to my presentation.