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LEARNING OBJECTIVES
After study of this chapter, the student should be able to:
2. Explain how married life differs from single life. Describe the kinds of changes that couples have to make
during the transition from single to married life.
3. Describe the role that interactions play in marriage and the needs fulfilled in marriage.
4. Define marital success and the barriers to it. Explain why it is so difficult to develop a working definition
of marital success.
10. Explain how the state and religion regulate marriage and the components of a marriage contract and
ceremony.
I. Marriage Matters
A. Marriage is the broadest and most intimate of all human interactions. It is within marriage that most
adults try to fulfill their psychological, material, and sexual needs. A good marriage acts as a buffer
against mental health problems. A successful marriage can be therapeutic and an unsuccessful
marriage can create problems.
B. Marriage is an important social good associated with positive outcomes for children and adults.
Married men have longer life expectancies and earn more than single men with similar education.
Married women have lower rates of depression and are at less risk for domestic violence than single
women. Married parents increase the likelihood that their children will graduate from college, enjoy
better physical health, and be less likely to divorce when married. Society also benefits in reduced
crime.
person's identity changes with marriage and they lose much of their independence.
B. Transition from dating to establishing a home and a family is often a large step. Leisure time activities
now must be planned with another person and new relationships must be developed with both sets of
parents. The sexual relationships may also involve transition. One must make the transition from the
self-centeredness of childhood to the other-centeredness of adulthood.
C. The transition from being single to married does not end the need for change. Marriage will change
with the passage of time and require both partners to make further transitions. It should also be
remembered that as important as it is to form a united team, individual interests and identity must also
be maintained. If there is a defining characteristic of marriage as opposed to singleness, it is the
continuous need for successful give and take between the married partners.
Many have argued that it is not quantity but quality of time together that counts. The criticism of this
argument is that it ignores fact that quality of time and quantity of time together are interrelated. Also,
it seems that the argument is sometimes used to soothe the guilty conscience of the spouse or parent
who is spending little time with the family.
C. The family needs time to play together, just as courting couples play together before marriage. The
family must be careful not to “work at playing.” Happily married couples don't hide behind phrases
like “we don't have the money.” Strong families have the ability to work, play, and vacation without
smothering one another. Spending time together allows family to develop an identity and sense of
family history. Almost all strong families say they reserve one meal a day as a time of family
togetherness.
extramarital affairs less seriously than women and center more on the sexual aspect than on the
emotional aspect. Men also tend to associate their affairs with an increase in marital satisfaction
due to a decrease in boredom and tension. Older women are more likely to associate their affairs
with decreasing marital satisfaction.
4. The reasons for extramarital affairs are simple curiosity, a desire for variation in sexual
experience, to recover the romance lost in marriage, a search for emotional satisfaction, a
friendship with someone of the opposite sex becoming intense, or rebellion or retaliation against
the spouse. Although we tend to equate extramarital affairs with sexual relations, sex is absent in
many kinds of extramarital affairs. Some people fear nonsexual extramarital ties lead to sexual
involvement.
5. Extramarital affairs are difficult for a spouse to combat. Clandestine affairs that are discovered
damage trust in the relationship. During the 1970s, the media reported a great deal of consensual
adultery. It was estimated that 15-26% of married couples have an understanding that allows sex
outside of marriage under limited circumstances. Such consensual adultery has greatly declined in
the past decade.
H. The Self-Fulfilling Prophecy. Expectations one holds about another person tend to influence the
person in the direction of those expectations. As such, unrealistic expectations can doom a person to
failure. If your mate constantly expects something of you that you can't fulfill, you will feel
incompetent, unloved, and unwanted.
members. The state considers marriage invalid under certain circumstances, such as the case where the
consent to marry was obtained by fraud or under duress; if either party is already married; if either
party suffers from mental incapacity; or if either party is physically unable to perform sexually. No
specific marriage ceremony is required, but parties must declare that they take each other as husband
and wife, and the marriage must be witnessed.
D. Religious faiths regard marriage as a sacrament and most marriages in U.S. take place in church. The
state vests clergy with the legal right to perform the ceremony. God is called on to witness and bless
the marriage. The Roman Catholic Church does not recognize a civil divorce because it believes that
marriage is a divine institution.
E. The marriage ceremony commits the couple to new status and sets minimum limits of marital
satisfaction. Husbands are required to support his wife and family, but the husband has no duty to
support the wife's children from previous marriage. The ceremony ensures the married person's
conjugal rights. An implied condition of the contract is that wife shall give the husband companionship
and a home life without compensation.
F. Some companies, cities, counties, and states have set up domestic partnership policies that recognize
some unmarried couples as valid. Many people feel that these policies undermine marriage. Some
cohabitators feel that legal recognition of this type is a threat to freedom and some businesses fear
increased costs if the policy were adopted. Although these apply to both heterosexual and homosexual
couples, they are seen by some as attempts by the gay rights movement to gain the right of marriage
for themselves. In 2004, Massachusetts became the first state to grant the right of marriage to
homosexual couples; however, other states have passed legislation barring such unions.
G. Writing Your Own Marriage Contract and Prenuptial Agreement. The standard state contract
does not meet every couple’s needs, so an increasing number of couples are writing their own marriage
or prenuptial contracts. The prenuptial contract cannot take the place of the state marriage contract, nor
can it legally override any of the state contract obligations. However, as a supplement to the state
contract, the prenuptial contract can afford a couple the freedom and privacy to order their personal
relationship the way they wish. The prenuptial contract can help the couple move toward an egalitarian
relationship and clarify their expectations. Some people feel it demonstrates a lack of trust in your
future mate; the agreement may cause real problems that may actually break up the relationship before
the marriage takes place.
CLASS PROJECTS
1. Ask students to define marital success. Discuss why it is difficult to define.
3. Use the controversy surrounding a famous divorce case in which there was a prenuptial agreement to
illustrate some of the problems that can arise when people sign prenuptial contracts.
4. Compare marriage vows commonly used in various religious traditions. Find out if these vows are
consistent with the role expectations of students.
5. Have students do research on marriage in other cultures. Does the state regulate marriage? What are the
contractual obligations? Is divorce an option? If so, what are the qualifications for a divorce?
6. Develop a list of changes that are likely to occur during the transition from dating to marriage. Have
students speculate on the differences in the transitions between three generations in their family. Students
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7. Develop a lecture on the civil and religious wedding ceremonies in other countries. Some resources may
include: Roopnarine, J.L., & Gielen, U.P. (2005). Families in Global Perspective. Boston: Pearson
Education; Stockard, J.E. (2002). Marriage in Culture: Practice and Meaning Across Diverse Societies.
Fort Worth, TX: Harcourt College Publishers; http://marriage.about.com/msubcul.htm;
8. Invite a lawyer or representative of the court to discuss marriage and family law.
9. Ask students to role play “engaged couples.” Instruct each partner to write a marriage contract. Compare
and contrast the contracts in class.
10. Have students write their expectations of marriage. As a class, discuss if some of their expectations are
based in reality. If there are married students in the class, have them comment on the expectations. Then,
have students discuss steps that could be taken to make their expectations a reality. What kinds of
communication must occur?
11. Use Stinnett and DeFrain's “Journey of Happy Memories,” as suggested in the text.
12. Divide the class and debate the statement: “A couple shouldn't get a divorce because of an affair.”
13. Have students explore famous Hollywood marriages. Why does it seem these relationships end so quickly?
What could these couples do to achieve marital success? Are there positive examples of Hollywood
couples?
INTERNET ACTIVITIES
1. Require students to use the Internet to investigate the history of marriage and domestic partnership laws in
their state. Possible resources include http://www.law.cornell.edu/wex/table_marriage;
http://www.ncsl.org/issues-research/human-services/civil-unions-and-domestic-partnership-statutes.aspx
2. Ask students to use the Internet to search for examples of prenuptial agreements. Note the differences. Key
words may include: prenuptial agreements, prenuptial contracts, marriage agreements.
3. Watch the video clip on Paul Ryan’s statement that traditional marriage is universal. Watch the clip before
reading the article. Have students comment on what they believe Ryan means by universal and traditional.
Based on their definitions, is Ryan right? http://thesocietypages.org/socimages/2012/10/03/is-marriage-a-
universal-human-value/
4. Have students explore the site http://www.theweddingreport.com/ and discuss the wedding industry in the
U.S. Is there an economic impact for keeping wedding ceremonies, honeymoons, and other events tied to
marriage happening? Do these things make marriage better? Why do people engage in them?
ESSAY/DISCUSSION QUESTIONS
1. How does marriage create a “social good” for society? How does it affect men, women, and children?
3. What role does compromise play in the transition from dating to marriage?
7. How Cox and Demmitt define marital success? Why is it so difficult to develop a definition of marital
success?
8. What is the difference between superficial interaction and emotional interaction? How can these
interactions go wrong?
11. How important is it for a family to spend time together? Why don't families spend more time together?
12. Which is more important, the quality or the quantity of family time?
14. What is the relationship between personal expectations and marital success?
16. What do the authors mean by the phrase “the honeymoon is over”?
17. Why does romantic love fade shortly after marriage? Does this mean the end of a relationship?
18. What does the marriage and family literature tell us about commitment in strong families?
19. What impact does the dual-earner family have on marital interactions?
20. Do men and women experience extramarital affairs differently? If so, what are some of the differences?
21. What factors correlate with greater acceptance of extramarital sexual relations? How common are affairs?
24. What impact does the self-fulfilling prophecy have on marital relationships?
26. Do self-actualized people have any distinguishing characteristics? If so, what are they?
29. Why does the state set minimum standards for marriage?
30. What legal requirements must be met before a couple can enter into a marriage contract?
31. Can a couple end a marriage by stating they want out? Who or what is the only way to legally end a
marriage?
32. What does the marriage contract require the husband to do? What is the wife's implied legal responsibility
in a marriage?
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33. What kinds of policies are advocated by people who support domestic partnerships? What kinds of
concerns have been raised by critics of domestic partnerships?
34. What are the Navajo marital expectations and how do they differ from dominant U.S. culture?
35. What are prenuptial contracts? Why would a person want to enter such a contract?
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Monogonopora, in which a single orifice serves for both male and
female organs, may be taken the common garden snail (Helix
aspersa), the accompanying figure of which is drawn from two
specimens found in the act of union (Fig. 53).
Fig. 53.—Genitalia of Helix aspersa Müller,
drawn from two individuals in the act of
union, from a dissection by F. B. Stead.
A.G, albumen gland.
C, coecum.
Cr, crop.
D.S, dart sac.
E, eye (retracted).
Fl, flagellum.
H.D, hermaphrodite duct.
H.DF, ditto, female portion.
H.DM, ditto, male portion.
H.G, hermaphrodite gland.
L, liver.
M.G, M.G, mucous glands.
Ov, oviduct.
P.S, penis sac.
R.M, retractor muscle of penis.
Sp, spermatheca.
V, vagina.
V.D, vas deferens.
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CHAPTER VI
RESPIRATION AND CIRCULATION—THE MANTLE