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So many men are finding that their conversations with girls are dry/boring and lead to getting
friend-zoned, flaked, and ghosted. It’s important to avoid messages that lead to these types of
conversations from the start, which is why your opening line is so important.
Overpowered Openers
OP Openers are “types” of first messages that are battle tested and get responses. Here are two
examples:
● Teases - “Damn, you didn’t strike me as the type of girl who’s into golf.”
● Challenge - “Says her music taste is unique - but listens to T Swift.”
There are a number of OP Openers, each with its own template where you can plug in an
observation from her profile.
● Challenge - playfully challenge her to make her reply back with confidence.
○ I hate to break it to ya *name*, but I would probably beat you at XYZ ;)
○ I just hope you have/can/are XYZ…
○ My mom told me not to talk to girls who XYZ
○ What are the odds you don’t like XYZ but thought it’d be a good pic lol
● Disqualification - Find something you dislike and lean into it playfully.
○ Damn, you're into XYZ. We'll have to work on that.
○ Cute, [hair color], but into XYZ… I knew you were too good to be true.
○ Into XYZ… hopefully you’re open to converting.
○ Into XYZ? Don’t worry, we’ll make an ABC of you eventually
● Tease - Playfully poke fun at her. But don’t be insulting.
○ It's not basic at all that you like XYZ... ;)
○ I didn’t know people were into XYZ anymore…
○ I would’ve known you were XYZ even if you didn’t put it on your profile
● Relating to her - Find commonality and create an “us against the world” vibe.
○ And I thought I was the only one who cared about XYZ.
○ Thank God, finally someone I can XYZ with
○ Are you actually into XYZ? That’s gotta be too good to be true.
These next OP Openers are a bit more advanced and hard to make a general template. But
this should give you an idea of how you can use them:
● Funny hypothetical - Come up with a funny activity or theory based on her profile.
○ "Let's recreate that third picture, but I'm the ATV."
● Playful Misinterpretation - Intentionally misinterpret something in her profile playfully.
○ "Your profile says you love dogs - hopefully you'll date tall blondes too."
KEEP IN MIND - ideally every OP Opener can be 100% made from scratch, but some lend
themselves more to templates than others. So while these templates are a good starting point,
feel free to get creative and create your own openers with the underlying principles.
For example, you could also use a Challenge opener by saying “Bet I have more tattoos than
you” if she talks about loving tattoos in her bio. Get creative and have fun with it!
What makes these openers OP is that they’re custom to each girl, but at the same time you’re
not coming up with them from scratch completely - you’re making genuine observations but
then plugging them into types of openers we already know work.
● OBSERVATION - I start by scanning through her profile to see what stands out to me.
● The things I usually look for are subjective interests like music, TV shows, food
choices, and hobbies. Since they’re subjective, they’re safe to be playful about.
● What is she wearing? What activities does she enjoy? What vibe does she give
off? I dead-ass write down a few things if I need to. This doesn’t take me that
long.
● OVERPOWERED OPENERS - I then write out (but don’t send) a few Overpowerered
Openers. I want to see which OP Openers I can pair with one of my observations to craft
that perfect first message.
● A simple Overpowered Opener is “disqualification” where you take an
observation and then shit-test her on it. The first OP Opener I try to pair an
observation with is always disqualification.
● Disqualification Openers use the following format:
● “XYZ? Hopefully we can change that.”
● “You like XYZ… think we might have to break up.”
● “Damn, fan of XYZ… we need to have a talk.”
● But experiment with other OP opener types so you have a few solid options to
work with
● PAIR - Now that I have a solid selection of opening lines to work with, I choose the
observation + OP Opener pairing that is the best fit, and plug the observation into the
general structure of the OP Opener.
● SEND - Lastly, I just send the damn message.
Infield Example:
Once you have a toolbox of OP Openers to use, all you need are
observations to plug and play - most guys can’t come up with a list of
OP Openers types from scratch, but any guy can look at a profile, make
observations and then plug and play. And it’s simple when you follow
the OOPS Framework.