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Husbands
By Chase Amante
Woman Scorned, or
Desperate Housewife
I've never slept with a married woman who was excited about /
crazy in love with her husband. Here are some comments from the
women who've spoken them:
Woman Scorned
Desperate Housewife
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But, just going off that, there are a LOT of reasons a woman may
think she isn't getting what she's owed. Depending on her
temperament, how tightly wound she is, and how low or high her
barriers to sex are, it seems to take a higher or lower threshold of
anger / boredom to inspire infidelity.
If, on the other hand, a man gives her TOO much security, she'll take
him for granted, grow bored with him and think of him as sitting
safely at home waiting for her – perhaps while she seeks thrills in
the arms and beds of other men.
The only time I see long-term relationships that seem to be running
admirably are the ones in which the man keeps the woman on her
toes while meeting most / all of her needs. Usually the guy is
considerate, but doesn't mind giving her a hard time and still teases
and challenges her even if they are (supposedly) exclusive and have
been seeing each other for a while. He refuses to let it get
comfortable.
I'll sum it up. In my opinion, there are three ways a woman can view
a man (going from one extreme to the other):
Basically, it's all about HER and what she WANTS. If she WANTS her
long-term guy, she'll go for sex with him. If she wants revenge on
him, or has lost sexual interest in him, she'll go for sex with someone
else.
It's the man's job in a long-term relationship to keep things fresh
and exciting and challenging while simultaneously meeting the
woman's needs. Otherwise, the balance fails and she ventures into
Woman Scorned or Desperate Housewife land.
Depending on the woman, she may swing back and forth from these
modes at different times. Aim for the happy medium, but err on the
side of being a jerk rather than being boring. Easier to recover from
jerkdom than bore-city, in my opinion.
Also keep in mind that women don't get pissed off and seek revenge
on men they don't care about. You'll never see a girl getting revenge
sex or rebound sex over some FWB she had for three months that
she never really was all that interested in. They only get pissed off at
guys they've bought into and are working to please (or think should
be pleased with them, in any event) and feel like their efforts are
being unrewarded and the guy in question isn't holding up his end of
the bargain.
Chase Amante