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11 Tips For A Magnetic Presence Attractive To Girls
11 Tips For A Magnetic Presence Attractive To Girls
Attractive to Girls
By Alek Rolstad
You can be attractive to girls before you even open your mouth. You
do this with presence: the hypnotic, mesmerizing masculine quality.
Let us start with a fundamental topic before we get into the juicy
stuff.
It doesnʼt matter how cool and attractive you may try to behave if
you donʼt score at least decently on your fundamentals. It just
comes across as incongruent, weird, and try-hard. You will cause
cognitive dissonance in women: “Why is this guy, who obviously
does not dress like a cool, sexy guy – a guy who usually gets laid –
acting like he is the biggest sex god ever?”
And one thing I have noticed is that when a girl cannot make sense
of you based on things like congruency, they tend to walk away.
Now, this is not to be confused with things like coming off as
mysterious; in those cases, not being able to make too much sense
of you is a good thing.
What Not to Do
Let us now discuss the major BIG NOs that men do in clubs when
they are not interacting with women. Remember that we will focus
here primarily on bars and clubs, but many of these rules can apply
to coffee shops or other social events.
Legs crossed
Inability to give eye contact and hold it
Let us now discuss a few sexy things you can do so that women can
feel from distance that YOU… that guy over there... are a sexy,
charming ladiesʼ man.
There are many positive effects to be realized from gaining this skill
– from getting approach invitations to even having women
approach you. But the most important aspect is naturally
avoiding the sphere of being perceived as a “useless man” who
canʼt talk to girls.
Being Relaxed
But let us now consider that you are in a bar or club and you feel
that your body language and overall vibe is off. You are not relaxed,
but rather tense. You feel stressed and maybe even anxious. There
are no perfect solutions for that, but following these tips may really
help you out.
Breathe in all you can and keep the air in your lungs for 5
seconds... then breath slowly out. Very good and simple trick to
make one feel relaxed. Feel free to repeat this as often as you
like.
Let us now discuss some cool, attractive body language that can
help you attract women. Consider this your toolbox for when you are
standing by yourself and trying to look attractive. Feel free to also
use any of these techniques while interacting with a girl (not just for
outside).
Slow movement: moving slower not only looks really
fucking badass and cool, but it also breaks with the overall
“mood” of the venue, making you stand out in a very confident
manner. It also shows a lot of confidence and control. It just
looks so badass – and really catches womenʼs attention. Not
only when you walk should you move slower, but any move you
make should be slower. Now, I only do this when I see hot girls
around – as a way to attract them. If there are no girls around...
believe me, I will walk much faster to a place where there are
girls around.
Lean into stuff: pillars, walls, etc. Just makes you look cool.
Not to be confused with standing next to a wall – like a wall
flower. Here you literally lean in. Feel free to put one hand in the
air for extra rock star factor.
Try it out and let me know what you guys think. As the winter is
approaching here in beautiful Europe, I will concentrate more on
physical and non-verbal game, as smoking areas tend to die here
during the winter – which forces me to stay inside loud venues...
unless I go to smaller bars or lounges. But I happen to enjoy clubs.
So expect more non-verbal stuff in the near future.
Presence: A Recap
Wall-flowering
Seeming drunk
Moving slower
Until next...
Alek Rolstad