Lesson 6: Personal Development

Relationships
are formed by
interactions
Relationships
The way in which two or more people, groups, countries, etc., talk
to, behave toward and deal with each other.

The way in which two are more people or things are connected.
Merriam – Webster Dictionary
Relationships
Relationships are essential to one’s happiness.
(Berscheid 1985)
Absence of close relationships can produce negative
effect on an individual who is deprived of it.
(Baumeister and Leary 1995)
Types of relationship according to the nature of
interaction;

1. Business – transactional 4.Friendly relationship

relationship 5.Romantic relationship
2.Professional relationship
3.Family relationship
 Relationships
Vs.
Personal Relationships
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What is personal
relationship?
Personal Relationship is….
This is the type of relationship which is closely
associated with a person and which can only have a
meaning to this person.
Involves a degree of commitment to another person or
persons.
 Characteristics of
Personal relationship

PRIVACY INTIMACY
 First
meaningful
relationship
MOTHE
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How attachment
developed?
Three attachment styles;

As defined by Ainsworth, Blekar, Waters and Wall (1978), these are:

1. Secure attachment.
2. Avoidant attachment.
3. Anxious – Ambivalent attachment.
1. Secure Attachment:
Primary caregiver is always present and available most
of the time.

CHILD WILL GROW UP TO HAVE

MORE SECURED AND STABLE
RELATIONSHIP.
2. Avoidant Attachment

Primary caregiver is cold and detached.

CHILD MAY DEVELOP A SENSE OF

REJECTION.
3. Anxious Ambivalent Attachment

Primary caregiver is not consistent in terms of presence

and meeting child’s emotional needs.

PEOPLE MAY DEVELOP

SEPARATION ANXIETY.
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What drives
attraction?
When attraction drives between two person, it is often
understood as based on physical appearance. While
this might be true to a certain extent, there is more to
attraction than what we already know.
Three Stages of Falling in Love:
Lust
Attraction
Attachment
1. Lust

Driven by the sex hormones, testosterone and

estrogen. These hormones affect both sexes.
2. Attraction

“Lovestruck phase”
3. Attachment
It is when they continue with the relationship, they
enter the attachment stage and long-lasting
commitments are exchanged
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Is love a feeling?
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Love is a feeling of deep affection, passion
or strong liking for a person or thing.
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What are the 3
components of love?
• Intimacy
• Commitment
• Passion
Intimacy
“that lovely moment when someone
understands and validates us”

Reis, Clark, Holmes 2004

Commitment
“an act of deciding to consistently fulfill and live by
agreements made with another person”

“expressed continuously in caring and loving actions

for the beloved”
Passion
“intense state of being that drives and
consumes a person to pursue an
interest, a vision, or a person”
Classroom Activity #3

Shape of your HEART.

Heart : Message of Love
Triangle: Sorry
Circle: Thank You
Seatwork #1
1 – 2: What are the two characteristic of personal
relationship?
3-5: What are the three stages of falling inlove?
6-8: What are three components of Sternberg’s
triangular theory of love?