Self

Development
and Growth
19/10/2018

Lina Gerges
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- Personal development is the conscious choice to improve once
life to become a better person and to grow as an individual.

- Self-improvement and personal growth are an important, and

highly valuable, part of your career and life in general.
The best project
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Steps to be taken
• Know yourself
• Create a plan
• Learn new skills
• Be happy
Know yourself
• Who are you now? Who are you aspiring to be?
• Identifying existing skills.
• Know your weaknesses and your strengths. Talent
• Set your goals.
• Don’t confuse dreams with goals.
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Passion Life experience

Create a plan.
• A plan is the map that takes you to your
destination, so you have to make sure it is the
right map.

• To get to the louvre you can not use the map of London.

• you need a plan, or a road map related to your goals and aspirations
both personally and professionally. This is not a business detailed plan,
it is a visual to what you are working for, what milestones you have
successfully met, and where you need to do better.
Learn new skills
• Learning doesn’t end when you finish school,
Learning is a lifelong journey.
Academic text
books
internet

books
Professional
Sources of journals
information
Magazines and
newspapers
Art and
photographs
Other people Tv and Radio
programs
Be happy
• "To be happy, you have to be willing to be compliant with not
knowing.“ –Shirley MacLaine
• “My happiness grows in direct proportion to my acceptance, and in
inverse proportion to my expectations.” -Michael J. Fox
• "I don’t expect to always be happy, I simply accept what is. And that
acceptance is key. This is what self-love is all about, really,
acceptance and the ability to love yourself right where you are.“ -
Mastin Kipp
• genes account for roughly a third to a half of the variation in
happiness between people. It is not yet known how many genes affect
how cheerful we are.
• Some people tend to be happier, but that doesn’t mean they will be
happier.
• So now it's your turn to begin finding the happiness in you
 How to be happier:
“Happiness is the meaning and the purpose of life, the whole aim and end of human
existence.” –Aristotle.

• 1. Do What You Love • 9. Eat Healthy

• 2. Help Others • 10. Spend Time With Your Loved
• 3. Be Thankful Ones
• 4. Share With Others • 11. Dump Negative Thinking
• 5. Smile More • 12. Forgive and Forget
• 6. Exercise • 13. Take a Walk in Nature
• 7. focus on the positivity • 14. Be Yourself
• 8. Find Ways to Manage Stress • 15. Stay away from social media.
Essential Areas to develop to
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Confidence and self-esteem
• Self-esteem is how we value and perceive ourselves.
• Most dangerous experiences of low self-esteem are:
• Feeling hopeless.
• Blaming yourself unfairly.
• Hating yourself.
• Worrying about being unable
to do things.
Think about what is affecting your self-
esteem
• What affects our self-esteem differs from person to person.

• Your confidence may have been lowered after a difficult

experience or series of negative life event

• But whatever the cause, it can be helpful to remind yourself

that you have the right to feel good about who you are. It can
be difficult to break habits but there are steps you can take
to feel better about yourself, bit by bit.
How to improve your self-esteem
• Avoid negative self-talk
• Connect with people who love you.
• Learn to be assertive.
• Set yourself a challenge.
• Focus on your positives.
• Take care of yourself.
• Get support if things get too much.
Relationships
• Our mental health and personal well being are
tied up in the quality of our personal relationships.
• It is from the web of our relationships and connections with
other people that we draw our strength.
• it is very important to continuously attend to and nurture our
relationships with the important people in lives as well as
taking time to strengthen the communities to which we
belong.
The 2 major types of relationships:

Intimate relationships Social and professional relationships

Family Work colleagues
friends Community groups (football
team, cinema club…)
partner Work customers
Authorities
Neighbours
….
Attending to important relationships
• Assess your self-esteem level and decide which kind of relationships you want.
• Decide what you value most in life as a person.
• Evaluate every relationship in your life at this moment.
• “Water” your relationships.
• Take time
• Be present
• Express appreciation
• Listen
• Don’t argue, but learn to compromise smartly.
• Learn to communicate
• Apologise and forgive
Leaderships
we can define leadership based on common elements
that we all agree on:
• 1. Vision • 6. Thoroughness
• 2. Motivation • 7. Managing
• 3. Serving • 8. Team building
• 4. Empathy • 9. Taking risks
• 5. Creativity • 10. Improving
Some questions we usually ask
• Can Anyone Become a Leader?
• everyone can develop their leadership qualities and use the influence
they have in positive ways.
• If everyone is a leader—then who is following?
• we are all leading in some way. It isn’t about position.
• Everyone leads from their area of strength. We are all leading and
influencing in certain areas.
• Leadership has nothing to do with seniority or one’s position in the
hierarchy of a company.
Definition
• Leadership is a process of social influence, which maximizes the
efforts of others, towards the achievement of a goal.

• leadership is the art of motivating a group of people to act towards

achieving a common goal.
 The 4 Core
Leadership Skills
• 1. Self-Awareness.
• 2. Communication.
Based on a three-year study of over
• 3. Influence.
3,000 executives, Daniel Goleman identified
• 4. Learning Agility. six different leadership styles:
Coercive (or Commanding)
Pace-setting
Authoritative
Affiliative
Democratic
Coaching
Positive thinking
• "Most folks are about as happy as they make up their
minds to be."
- Abraham Lincoln
-positive thinking means approaching life's challenges with a positive
outlook
-happiness is both the precursor to success and the result of it..
-Positive thinking does not mean that you delude yourself that
everything is wonderful, especially when you are hurting inside.
-Positive thinking doesn’t mean that one must deny internal pain.
How to Become a Positive Thinker
• 1. Start the day with positive affirmation.
• 2. Focus on the good things, however small.
• 3. Find humor in bad situations.
• 4. Turn failures into lessons.
• Transform negative self-talk into positive self-talk.
• 6. Focus on the present.
• 7. Find positive friends, mentors and co-workers.
Critical thinking is the new wave in
business:
• Critical thinking is the ability to think clearly and rationally about
what to do or what to believe.
Someone with critical thinking skills is able to do the following :
• understand the logical connections between ideas
• identify, construct and evaluate arguments
• detect inconsistencies and common mistakes in reasoning
• solve problems systematically
• identify the relevance and importance of ideas
• reflect on the justification of one's own beliefs and values
 Motivation
• Motivation is the desire of
doing something.
The Goldilocks’ rule
• Every choice has a price,
but when we are motivated,
it is easier to bear the
inconvenience of action
than the pain of remaining
the same.
3 Biggest Myths About Motivation
• Just Write Down Your Goals, and Success is Guaranteed!
• Just Try to Do Your Best!
• Just Visualize Success!

• You can cultivate a more realistically optimistic outlook by

combining confidence in your ability to succeed with an honest
assessment of the challenges that await you. Don't visualize success—
visualize the steps you will take in order to make success happen.
Maslow's hierarchy of needs
Attitude
• A positive attitude is a constructive perception
to adopt in life, that will help get more out of life,
be it in relationships, in your career, your life purpose….etc.
Ways To Develop A Positive Attitude
• 1. Build your self esteem
• 2. Stop being a victim
• 3. Find an objective that you want to achieve
• 4. Find some inspiration
• 5. Stay away from negative influences
• 6. Recognize the difference between realistic and pessimistic
• 7. Start focusing on why you can
• 8. Get good at being rejected.
• 9. Have solutions when pointing out problems.
• 10. Breathe.
Creative thinking
• Come up with something new.
• Think out side the box.
• Looking at something in a new way.
• bring a fresh, and sometimes unorthodox, perspective to the
situation.
Creative Thinking Skills
• Brainstorming
• Engaging your Right Brain
• Role-Play Situations
Ways to Improve your Creative Thinking Skills

• Try new things • Continuous learning

• build on others
• Change your thought
patterns
• Question everything
• Pay attention to patterns
• widen your experiences
• Look for what is not
easily seen
• Be able to overlook rules
• Ask “what if…”