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Emotional Regulation
Emotional Regulation
We experience a challenging life We have thoughts about the Difficult emotions arise, such as We use unhealthy behaviors to
event like death, illness, abuse, experience such as, “That’s not anger, sadness, fear, regret, mask the difficult emotions:
financial issues, or injustice. fair”, “I wish this never confusion, betrayal, or despair. substance abuse, violence or
happened”, “My life is over”, or abuse, avoidance, self-isolation,
“Nothing will ever be the same” orself-injury.
We experience a challenging life We have thoughts about the Difficult emotions arise, such as We use unhealthy behaviors to
event like death, illness, abuse, experience such as, “That’s not anger, sadness, fear, regret, mask the difficult emotions:
financial issues, or injustice. fair”, “I wish this never confusion, betrayal, or despair. substance abuse, violence or
happened”, “My life is over”, or abuse, avoidance, self-isolation,
“Nothing will ever be the same” orself-injury.
● Interrupting the cycle can lead to more positive thoughts and feelings
● Everyone copes with thoughts and emotions in different ways
● What works for one person may not work for someone else
● It’s important for everyone to learn what works best for them
● Breaking the cycle is hard work, but you can get there!
● Emotional regulation starts with understanding the thought-emotion-behavior
relation.
Questions to ask yourself…
● What specific thoughts trigger the most negative emotions for me?
● Which emotions are hardest for me to tolerate?
● Which emotions are easiest for me to tolerate?
● What behaviors do I tend to use to calm down the feelings?
● How well do these work in the short and long term? Do I want to use these
behaviors?
● What are the underlying beliefs about myself, others, or life in general that
tend to most strongly perpetuate the negative cycles?
● Conversely, what thoughts and beliefs do I have that assist me most in
generating positive feelings?
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● Women are more prone to self- ● Women report experiencing emotions
reflection, understanding, and more intensely than men which can
dealing with emotions. make emotional regulation harder for
● Women are more likely to talk about women.
their feelings and express them. ● Women report more depressive
symptoms and ruminating behaviors
such as thinking about something
over and over again or having a
low/sad mood.
Let’s talk about how to regulate our emotions!
The Window of Tolerance
Body Body
- Agitation, difficulty relaxing - Weak muscle tone
- Muscle tension - Fixed gaze, glassy eyes
- Increased heart rate - Extremely still, frozen
- Hot flashes, sweating Emotion
- Easily startled - Flat, blunted emotions; lack of emotion
Emotion - “Can’t feel” emotions; feeling “numb”
- Mood swings - Apathy, feel nothing matters; no motivation
- Euphoria, mania, grandiosity Cognitive
- Irritability, anger - “Mind is blank”, can’t think
Cognitive - Slow responses
- Racing, repetitive, intrusive thoughts - Feeling “spacey” of ungrounded
- Worry, rumination - Can’t think of past or future
- Rapid, disorganized speech Perception
Perception - World appears unreal, dreamlike
- Sensitive to sound, light - Objects feel flat, 2-dimensional, “cartoon-like”
Motivational Self
- Obsessive, excessive effort; perfectionism - Disconnected from body, emotions, thoughts
Social - Feeling outside of body or at a distance
- Difficulty engaging socially Social
- Disruptive, interrupting, lack of inhibition - Not seeking social support/engagement
- Withdrawn, avoidant
- Eye contact is difficult
Centering, Orienting Become aware, open, - Place hands on heart and belly
and connected to - Sit with back against the wall
- Self-massage
the sensations happening
- Spine movement
within your body.
Reassurance Using internal or external - Reminding self that anxiety/difficult emotions will pass
reassurance to calm our - Confiding in a friend or loved one
doubts or worries - Rating anxiety on a scale from 1-10, and re-rating after using other coping skills
Coping skills for hypoarousal
Change temperature Contact with cold can - Splashing cold water on face; cold shower
increase mind-body - Holding ice cubes in hands
connection - Rubbing ice cubes or ice packs on area of your body
- Drinking cold water
Mental stimulation Engaging mind in mental - Counting by 5s as high as you can go: 5, 10, 15, 20, etc….
games or puzzles - Naming all the colors in the rainbow that you can see in your surroundings