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Assertiveness Skills
Assertiveness Skills
direct expression of our feelings, preferences, needs, or opinions in a manner that does not threaten, punish or put down the other person.
It involves standing up for our legitimate rights without violating the rights of others
ASSERTIVENESS SKILLS
Objectives. Why Assertiveness is Important. Development of Assertive and NonAssertive Behavior
OBJECTIVES
Assess how frequently you assert ten different behaviors in different kinds of relationships. Explore counterproductive beliefs about assumed consequences and strategies to diminish them.
OBJECTIVES Cont.
Learn to discriminate passive, aggressive and assertive responses. Understand approaches to make and refuse requests, express opinions and justified anger.
Assertive behavior is the direct expression of our feelings, preferences, needs, or opinions in a manner that does not threaten, punish or put down the other person. It involves standing up for our legitimate rights without violating the rights of others
Assertiveness isn't a simple solution for all of our difficulties, but is simply a means of direct and honest communication. The emphasis is on our ability to express our opinions and feeling appropriately. Often, we have not learned to be assertive
Assertion is not something we are born with; it is a skill or behavior that is learned: Typically, we may not be assertive in all situations. Rather, we learn different types of behavior in different situations, sometimes early on in our lives. We may have difficulty expressing disagreement with our parents, but not with our friends or spouse
We all need to learn to express ourselves more effectively with a wide variety of assertive behaviors and with a variety of people.
Counter Productive Beliefs If I voice my opinion and am wrong, how will I look? It's such a-worthy cause. It's not right to refuse. It's easier to say yes than to face how s/he will feel about me is I say no. I don't want to appear demanding or unreasonable. People shouldn't act that way. I don't have the right to impose on or bother others. S/he should know how I feel by now. Why do I have to say so? If I ask for help or a favor,;l am imposing on someone. People really shouldn't compliment me because I don't deserve it.
Aggressive Behavior
Expression of feeling and opinions in a way that is punishing, verbally-assaultive, demanding, sarcastic
or hostile