: The 7 habits of highly effectively people refers to the seven
most effective ways for self-improvement as per Stephen Covey. According to Covey in order to change a given situation, we must change ourselves, and in order to change ourselves, we must be able to change our perceptions. So the seven most effective steps according to him to be able to change ourselves and our perception are: 1. Be Proactive: The first habit that Covey discusses is being proactive. What distinguishes us as humans from all other animals is our ability to examine our own character, to decide how to view ourselves and our situations, and to control our own effectiveness. Without being over reactive to any change in a situation we should rather be able to look for a way that has a solution to the problem related to the change in that situation and we should be able to effectively handle the situation properly and take control. There for in order to be effective one must be proactive. I usually try to complete any sort of task that seems hard so me with all my effort given to it rather than bragging about how to finish it. Ex 1- I don’t get demotivated or mad when someone tries to demotivate me because I control my own feelings. Ex 2- I don’t sit back and wait for someone to complete my work, I do complete my work all by my own.
2. Begin with the end: Habit 2 suggests that, in everything
we do, we should begin with the end in mind. Start with a clear destination. That way, we can make sure the steps we're taking are in the right direction. I always try to set a particular limit or standard or visualize a particular outcome for myself that I have to reach or gain before starting any sort of work so that I can guide myself to achieve that limit or outcome,
Ex 1: The minimum grade I targeted for myself before
taking this course is an A. Ex 2: The minimum CGPA with which I want to complete my graduation is 3.90.
3. Put first things first: Habit 3 is about actually going after
these goals, and executing on our priorities on a day-to- day, moment-to-moment basis. In order to manage ourselves effectively, we must put first things first. We must have the discipline to prioritize our day-to-day actions based on what is most important, not what is most urgent. I always try to do the most important thing that needs to be done at first rather than doing things that seems urgent to me at the moment.
Ex 1: I should learn to think and visualize the outcome
before taking any decision.
Ex 2: I should learn to analyse a problem before taking
any steps to solve it and keep on beating around the bush.
4. Think Win-Win: For a deal that consists of two parties,
the Win-Win thinking refers to the idea that if you can't reach an agreement that is mutually beneficial for both the parties involved in a deal, there is no deal. The Win- Win or No Deal option is important to use as a backup. When we have No Deal as an option in our mind, it liberates us from needing to manipulate people and push our own agenda. We can be open and really try to understand the underlying issues rather than be arrogant and have a scarcity mentality. Everytime I am involved in a team work I try to help my partners as much as it is possible for me to help them and try to complete the task so that we all can share the credibility of the task completed.
Ex 1: If there is a win lose option in any deal, I should
rather leave it than take the risk to complete it. Ex 2: I should always be humble and try to share the credit of the work with my partners.
5. Seek first to understand, then to be understood: Habit 5
says that we must seek first to understand, then to be understood. In order to seek to understand, we must learn to listen. Before we can offer advice, suggest solutions, or effectively interact with another person in any way, we must seek to deeply understand them and their perspective through empathic listening. Once we understand the point of view of the person next to us, only then should we expect them to understand our point of view.
I never try to force my decisions or solution to any
problem on others as I think that they have their very own way of viewing things.
Ex 1: I should learn to listen to people rather than
coming up with various solutions to their problems.
Ex 2: Try to understand other peoples point of view over
any matter.
6. Synergize: Habit 6 tells us that by understanding and
valuing the differences in another person's perspective, we have the opportunity to create synergy, which allows us to uncover new possibilities through openness and creativity. Synergy allows us to create new alternatives and open new possibilities. It allows us as a group to collectively agree to ditch the old scripts and write new ones.
I always try to be open about my ideas and my point of
view whenever I am in a group so that it might help our group to realize any sort of faults that might exist in our group work.
Ex 1: I should always value the differences in other
people as a way to expand your perspective
Ex 2: I should try to sidestep negative energy and look
for the good in others.
7. Sharpen the saw: Habit 7 is focused around renewal, or
taking time to sharpen the saw. It surrounds all of the other habits and makes each one possible by preserving and enhancing your greatest asset that is yourself. To be effective, we must devote the time to renewing ourselves physically, spiritually, mentally, and socially. Continuous renewal allows us to synergistically increase our ability to practice each habit.
I always try to improve my mental health and try to
keep myself busy expanding my mind and work.
Ex 1: To maintain a good physical health I should tryto
eat well and take sufficient rest. Ex 2: To maintain good social connections I should try to make contributions to meaningful projects that improve the lives of others.
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