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Women will throw all kinds of tests your way. On dates and in rela onships, the tests don't stop. That can grate you… or you can learn to love it.
Whether you're approaching a woman for the first ever me, or you're dealing with her in your long-term rela onship, she's
going to test you (//www.girlschase.com/content/when-women-test-men).
These tests never go away. Not permanently.
You can get a woman to a point in a pickup where she is more or less fully on board with you and the tests subside to a light
flirta ous murmur... so long as you maintain the vibe, the forward progress, and don't make big mistakes.
You can get a woman to a point in a rela onship where she has fallen back in-love with you again a er a me not being so,
where the adversity in the rela onship has quelled, and she's staring at you with dreamy eyes again... for a while.
Tests always return, though.
Some mes they sneak back in in li le ways, dancing around the fringes.
The girl you're picking up pushes back gently and playfully when you invite her home: "Oh, we're leaving so soon?"
The girl you've been da ng for 6 months who's mostly pre y happy with you puts your feet to a gentle fire: "Where do
you want this rela onship to go?"
Some mes the tests come roaring in in earth-sha ering ways. She tells you there's no way she'd go with you, or that the
rela onship is done.
The first me most guys realize this, it feels like a colossal burden.
"The tests never end!"
Yet so much of life is how you frame it. This is true with tests as it is with anything.
Tests can be an endless burden, yes. Or they can be a thing you appreciate, or even love.
On that last, when I first moved to San Diego, I no ced how common the pa ern was for monogamous couples (even older
ones) to move to town, then break up. Both partners would then start da ng in earnest. Swinging is also a big thing among
older married couples in Southern California.
The wealth, easy lifestyle, and abundance of good-looking and sexually available partners makes long-term total monogamy a
much tougher sell in that environment. Whereas in other environments with less wealth, harder lifestyles, and/or fewer
available partners, people will tend to be more commi ed.
I tell you all this to paint a picture for you: commitment levels vary depending on the environment an individual is in.
Tes ng has a cost: it is the cost that your partner or poten al partner might get sick of it and leave you.
Therefore, a woman tests only enough to ensure she's got the right guy, compared to her op ons. But not so much she loses
him.
If she meets you and you're the most a rac ve guy she's met all year by far (we're talking overall fundamentals here
(//www.girlschase.com/content/how-many-a rac on-factors-are-there-infinite), not just looks, though use 'em if you've got
'em), she's not going to want to blow it with you by tes ng you hard.
However, if you're about as a rac ve as the last five guys who hit on her, she can afford to throw some tests your way and see
how you do.
If you're less a rac ve than the sorts of guys she normally deals with, well, then she is going to test you even harder,
assuming you can get her to consider you as a poten al mate.
for air." Then she takes a look at your social value (//www.girlschase.com/content/social-value-and-value-imbalances)
and decides it's not on par with hers
3. OR she feels like you came across much higher social value than her, but due to associa on she's now pulled your value
down to her level. Now she is ques oning why she thought you were so good when in fact you're obviously at her level
(or else why would you be cour ng her?)
4. Either
way, this new awareness of your value not being as high as hers, or her value being the same as yours when she
previously thought yours was higher, triggers a reac on. That reac on is that she starts to test (this reassessment --> test
process is one form of female state control (//www.girlschase.com/content/female-state-control-fsc-theore cal-
causes-and-effects))
She starts to doubt your value.
So, to get an honest assessment of it, she turns to tests.
Women = Tests
This is a good formula to remember.
Women test. It is just what they do.
Tes ng is female mate evalua on behavior.
Humans aren't perfectly monogamous creatures. People date mul ple partners, they cheat, break up, divorce, and date new
people.
The girl you're with might be more restrained than others. Maybe she's the sort who wouldn't ordinarily cheat or date mul ple
people, for instance. Yet she is in the same environment and under the same pressures as every other woman.
She rounds your value down to hers, or hers down to yours, just the same, and starts to think the grass is greener on the other
side, just the same.
Women reassure themselves that you actually are as good as they hoped through tes ng.
They won't just take your word for it. People lie and exaggerate all the me. You may do so without even realizing it
(unconsciously). You present yourself as more confident than you are, nicer than you are, more enamored with her than you
are, etc.
Tes ng is like feeling a guy's muscles or poking at his belly fat, but for the brain.
She may not be able to her finger ps to 'feel' your mental strength, self-confidence, or belief in your own sexual market value.
But she can use tests to bring out an honest display from you.
Tes ng is women's way to "keep you honest."
If you are genuinely interested in being a strong, a rac ve, capable man, then it's a net benefit to your life.
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