Hannah Mae C.

Gahisan
Bachelor of Science in Accountancy (For SHS ABM Graduates)
Understanding the Self (TTHS 3-4PM)
Final Exam

1. Langley laid out some tips on managing emotions, how would you apply these strategies
to avoid outbursts and negative feelings?

The suppression of emotions, especially negative ones, should not be done and is
not helpful as not only can it take a toll on one’s mental and emotional health but as well
as deters the physical well- being of the body. In order to avoid such circumstances, one
must learn to manage his/her emotions.
Langley laid out eight tips on managing emotions that includes; (1) smiling to
make yourself and others feel good, (2) getting up and move, (3) checking in with your
body, (4) physically removing the tension, (5) breathing, (6) talking to someone, (7)
disengaging and reengaging emotions, and (8) labelling your emotions and others’ too.
These tips should be applied deliberately because emotions must always be recognized,
acknowledged, and released in a way that is not hurtful towards others.
In my case, when experiencing sadness, anger, or other negative emotions, I tend
to recognize, acknowledge and release my emotions in a holistically appropriate manner
in order to not hurt the people around me. Examples would include being calm and
collected when talking to someone, considering others’ feelings and opinions, and
avoiding the use of inappropriate and harsh language. This does not only help me in
assessing my emotions but also enhances my ability to listen, understand, and
communicate with others. Therefore, the development of my physical, mental, emotional,
and social health will be given way.

2. Compare and contrast interactions and relationships.

In contrast, interactions are the mutual and reciprocal exchange of communication

or action that occurs between two or more persons or groups that have effects with each
other wherein the effect is resulting from a situation or occurrence whereas relationships
refer to a particular way, state, or condition in which two or more individuals, groups or
even countries talk to, behave toward, deal with, or connect with each other. Building
relationships require time, effort, and commitment whilst interactions necessarily do not.
However, interaction and relationship are interrelated as interaction is a part of
relationship. Relationships not only include interactions between two or more persons or
groups, but also the intellectual, psychological or even emotional investments made by
the parties. In other words, interaction is the act of communicating and connecting with
others while relationship is the manner in which the interaction is being carried out.
3. How to validate one’s perception to avoid wrong judgment of the person?

Personal or social perception refers to identifying and utilizing social cues to

make judgments about social roles, rules, relationships, context, or the characteristics of
others. It is simply the general tendency of generating impressions on, most commonly,
other people.
The assessment of one’s personal perception or judgment involves what kind of
person he/ she is, intentions, traits, behaviour, physical appearance, and first impressions.
It is prudent to behave, talk, or dress appropriately and in accordance with societal,
cultural or institutional rules, policies, norms, or guidelines to avoid misperceptions.
It is recommended to always validate one’s perception before creating judgments.
Validation is done through further observations, gathering feedbacks and reports,
interactions, avoidance of hasty judgments, and acceptance, understanding, and nurturing
of someone’s feelings. It is important to validate perceptions because every individual
perceives the world and approaches problems differently.

4. Explain the nature and depth of relationships.

The nature of relationships refers to the kind of relationship a person has with
another. It can be a friendship, sexual only relationship, petting relationship, without
intercourse, familial relationship, and any other arrangement that is mutually satisfactory
to those involved wherein some relationships are closer that of others. Moreover, the
depth of a relationship pertains to the deepness of the connection and intimacy of the
parties involved.
The nature and depth of a relationship is attributed with familiarity, attraction, and
love wherein:
 Familiarity is a necessary condition for a close relationship to develop that refers
to being comfortable with another person. This may include the consideration of
a person’s attitude, behaviour patterns, personal characteristics, interests,
intelligence, and personality;
 Attraction is when a person is drawn to another due to reasons of similarities,
life goals, lifestyles, and familiarity in general. It paves the way for enjoyment of
the company and comfort of the other person, as well as the feelings of ease and
confidence in the relationship; and
 Love is a special attachment one has for himself/herself or for somebody else. It
encompasses a range of strong and positive emotional and mental states, from
the most sublime virtue or good habit, the deepest interpersonal affection, and to
the simplest pleasure. It is an intense feeling of deep or constant affection and
 emotion in which a person always sees the good, happiness, and welfare of the
other.

A person will most probably be friends with, if not attracted to, people who they
are in regular contact with, or within a proximate reach (otherwise known as proximity).
A person will also be attracted to those who are familiar to them. That is why proximity is
important to attraction as it breeds familiarity, and, consequently, familiarity breeds love
that results to relationships of any kind, depending on the parties involved. Such
relationship is then maintained through reciprocity, the give and take in a relationship, as
well as the willingness to exert time, effort, and commitment.

5. Explicate the triangular theory of love.

In 1986, Robert Sternberg postulated in his Triangular Theory of Love that a

healthy relationship of love will have three components namely passion, intimacy, and
commitment. Passion is the physical and sexual attraction to a person, intimacy is
characterized by the emotional feelings of warmth, closeness and sharing of emotional
and intimate thoughts in the relationship, and commitment is the cognitive appraisal and
intent to maintain the relationship even in the face of problems.
One or a combination of these ingredients forms a kind of love or love-like feeling
as follows:
 A relationship with passion only will result to infatuation, an intense but short-
lived admiration for someone or something;
 A relationship with intimacy only will lead to liking, a feeling of regard or
fondness;
 A relationship with commitment only is deemed as empty love;
 The combination of passion and intimacy leads to romantic or passionate love,
includes an intermingling of different emotions and the major reasons for
marriage;
 The combination of intimacy and commitment results to affectionate or
compassionate love, the type of love that occurs when someone has deep and
caring affection for a person and desires to have him/her constantly;
 The combination of commitment and passion produces fatuous love, typified by
a whirlwind courtship in which passion motivates a commitment without the
stabilizing influence of intimacy; and
 A relationship that is characterized by the presence of passion, intimacy, and
commitment is recognized as the strongest and fullest type of love that is
consummate love.
 Sternberg’s Triangular Theory of Love focuses on the amount of emotion,
passion, fascination, trust, and commitment we have with our partners. The theory relates
people to their decisions in the existence and long- term commitment to a loving
relationship as well as bears significance towards maintaining a lasting love.