4 WAYS OF LEADING IN THE WORLD

AS ME THROUGH ME
Life is me I cooperate with life happening

Posture: At one with all Posture: Co-creator

Experience: Peace, spaciousness Experience: Allowing, flow, wonder and awe
Beliefs: There is just oneness. There are no 
 Beliefs: I am the source of all meaning I


ONENESS
problems, and no one to “solve” them. experience. Things are perfect, whole 

and complete. Life handles all apparent 

Key Question: No more questions – just knowingness
“problems.”
Benefits: Experience oneness & non-dualism.

Key Question: What wants to happen through me?.
Unlimited freedom & peace.
Benefits: Non-attachment. Unlimited possibility,

plenty of everything

SURRENDER

HERO VICTIM COACH CREATOR

TO ME BY ME
Life happens to me VILLAIN I make life happen CHALLENGER

Posture: Victim Posture: Creator

RESPONSIBILIT Y

Experience: Blaming and complaining Experience: Curiosity, appreciation

Beliefs: There is a problem. Someone is at fault
 Beliefs: Problems are here for me to learn from.

Someone should fix this. I created the problem, so I can solve it.
Key Question: Why me? Whose fault is this? Key Question: What can I learn? 

What do I want to create?
Benefits: Experience separateness, drama as
entertainment, and adrenaline high. Benefits: Personal empowerment 

Supports empathy toward others. Define your wants & desires.


Created with Kaley Warner Klemp

 4 WAYS OF LEADING IN THE WORLD

TO ME BY ME THROUGH ME AS ME
RESPONSIBILITY SURRENDER ONENESS

Scarcity = never enough I want more It is abundant It is just another form

MONEY
I work hard to get it I can create more It is an energy not a thing It is given and received
My value is attached to it It is a measure of my value Measurement is irrelevant with freedom and joy

There is not the right

I’m in control of my time
amount I have plenty of it I am the source of it
Time management &
TIME I am stressed because of it There is only now - there is It is an illusion - like all
systems
I’m overwhelmed, busy / no past or future other illusions
I use it to do what I want
bored

It is a fleeting moment 
 It is here now

I choose to make myself
of pleasure (ice cream, Happiness is just another
happy It has a deep lasting quality
HAPPINESS vacation, sex). state, it is just one of many
I make happiness if I bring I relax into joy vibrations passing through
It depends on
the right ingredients
circumstances

Always too much or too

little I choose it (to delay It is effortless
gratification) Can you find the one who
DISCIPLINE It’s hard; I “should”; “I have Having and delaying is disciplined?
to” I use it as a tool to create gratification are equals
It is necessary to be good

My purpose
What purpose? Transcendent Purpose
I declare it and go out & What purpose: Being and
I should have one and No more wanting purpose are the same
PURPOSE get it
don’t I receive it through Impossible to be off of it
Both takes energy &
I just have roles I play listening
energizing

It’s a role; I have it or I

don’t There are skills/techniques
It arises in response to
to master which create There is no one to lead and
LEADERSHIP It comes with have-tos, present need; no “one” is
good or effective nowhere to lead to
burden and incompetent the leader in co-creation
leadership
followers

I value my preference & I listen for preference and

I don’t have a right to one
or I’m entitled to one
PREFERENCE
Compromise= no one is
happy
am not attached to the
make it happen; win / win Preferences arise without
choice
possible attachment
I do not give it meaning
Different preferences It is based on the present
allowed

It’s my responsibility; I
Parent and child are equals
have to I ask what wants to happen Who is the parent and who
PARENTING Children are responsible in, as and through this is the child?
MY children are vessels I
for their own well being & being and our relationship
put things in (data, values,
success
skills)