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INTIMACY &
ATTRACTION
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Liking
• feelings of regard or
The Liking scale (Rubin)
fondness.
• evaluates one’s dating
(Oxford dictionary)
partner, lover, or
spouse on various
dimensions, including,
adjustment, maturity,
responsibility, and
likability.
Determinants of liking
1. Similarity
• We are attracted to people who are similar to
ourselves (birds of a feather flock together)
• Attitudinal Similarity– the sharing of beliefs,
opinions, likes and dislikes
• Attraction-to-stranger paradigm– widely
employed technique for studying attitudinal
similarities.
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2. Shared activities
• As people interact, they share activities. As a
relationship develops, the sharing of activities
contributes to an increased liking for the other.
• Proximity– nearness in place, time, order,
occurrence, or relation.
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3. Reciprocal Liking
• In most relationships, we expect reciprocity of
attraction; the greater the liking of one person
for the other, the greater the other person’s
liking will be in return.
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Love as a Story
• A love story is a script about what love should be like;
it has characters, plot, and theme.
• The theme is central; it provides the meaning of the
events that make up the plot, and it gives direction to
the behavior of the principals.
• According to this view, falling in love occurs when you
meet someone with whom you can create a
relationship that fits your love story.
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THE GROWTH OF
RELATIONSHIPS
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According to study:
Casual relationship
men are less likely to disclose personal information than women
(Reis, Senchak, & Solomon, 1985).
Dating couples
Men and women with traditional gender role orientations disclose
less to their partners than those with egalitarian gender role
orientations (Rubin, Hill, Peplau, & Dunkel-Scheker, 1980)
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Young adults
inquired about the extent to which each had
disclosed in a variety of domains, including
sexual activities, shameful events, personal
health, and feelings and traumas.
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Dyadic withdrawal
Increasing reliance on one person for
gratifications and decreasing reliance on
other
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HOW DO
RELATIONSHIPS
END?
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3 INFLUENCES ON
WHETHER THE BREAKUP
DISSOLVES
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Equity theory
postulates that each of us compares the rewards we receive from a
relationship to our costs or contributions.
• This reasoning was tested in a study of 123 dating couples. Photographs of each
person in the study were rated by five men and five women for physical
attractiveness, and a relative attractiveness score was calculated for each member
of each couple. Both men and women who were more attractive than their partners
reported having receiving.
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Equitable relationships
The outcomes are equivalent—will be
stable, whereas inequitable ones will be
unstable.
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• are especially significant for • include the reactions of others. • involve changes in one’s
partners who have pooled A survey of 254 persons, 123 of whom relationships with
their financial resources. were in relationships, measured the others. Breaking up may
Breaking up will require perception of friends’ and family cause the loss of friends
agreeing on who gets what, members’ support for the relationship and reduce or eliminate
and it may produce a lower and commitment to it. Persons who contact with relatives—
standard of living for each perceived more support were more that is, it may result in
person. committed, in both dating and married loneliness
couples.
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