PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT

Subject Teacher: Ms. Janet A. Soriano Attraction

Lesson 7: Personal Relationships
Learning Objectives:
 Discuss an understanding of teenage
relationships, including the acceptable and
unacceptable expressions of attractions.
 Express his/her ways of showing attraction,
love, and commitment.
 Identify ways to become responsible in a
relationship.
Personal Relationships
Refer to close connections between people, formed by
emotional bonds and interactions. These bonds often grow
from and are strengthened by mutual experiences.
Forms of Personal Relationships
 Family
 Friends
 Partnership
Kinds of Personal Relationships
 Privacy and Intimacy- a sense of openness and
sharing with one another and the state of being
apart from others observation.
Are two attributes describing personal
relationships and level of commitment to another
person/s.
 Impersonal- commitment to an organization like
a business entity, a principle or purpose.
 Attraction- refers to a fond or tender interest or
appeal towards someone.
It is a force that unites people and can grow into
an attachment which eventually leads to
commitment.
 The action or power of evoking interest,
pleasure, or liking for someone or something.
Key Components:
 Physical Attractiveness- Attractive people draw
out a more positive first impression. Initially,
people tend to be influences by what they see.
 Similarity- People classify other people based
on information they already knew about them.
That is social categorization, wherein people
mentally group others on where they belong and
that with the same characteristics with them, like
group age, religion, personality, attitude, social
status, or education.
 Proximity- Proximity pertains to physical
distance with other people and it is related to
functional distance (how often people interact or
communicate with each other). The more you
encounter or interact with the person, the more
you allow yourself to get to know him/her better
which leads to a better relationship like
friendship or intimate relationship.
 Reciprocity- We tend to get along with people
or with someone whom we have the same
feelings toward. It is when feelings with
someone are being reciprocated or returned in
the same way as you do.
Love
 A strong affection for another arising out of
kinship or personal ties.
 Attraction based on sexual desire; affection and
tenderness felt by lovers.
 Affection based on admiration, benevolence or
common interests.
Triangular Theory of Love
Developed by Robert Sternberg

Healthy and Acceptable Expression of Attractions

 Mutual Respect
 Trust
 Honesty
 Support
 Fairness or Equality
 Separate Identities
 Good communication

Unacceptable Expression of Attractions

 Cheating
 Putting you down
 Not supporting your dreams
 Controlling
 Lack of Communication
 Unnecessary Sacrifices Three Components:
 Unreliability  Intimacy- the feelings of closeness and
attachment to one another. Additionally, having
a sense of intimacy helps create the feeling of
Attraction, Love and
being at ease with one another, in the sense that
the two parties are mutual in their feelings.
Commitment  Passion- can be associated with either physical
arousal or emotional stimulation.
 A strong feeling of enthusiasm or excitement for
something or about doing something.
Strong sexual or romantic feeling for someone.
 Commitment- involves a conscious decision to
stick with one another. The decision to remain
committed is mainly determined by the level of
satisfaction that a partner derives from the
relationship.
7 Forms of Love
 Liking/friendship- (Intimacy alone)
-This includes friendships and acquaintances
 Infatuated love (Passion alone)
-Puppy Love
 Empty love (Commitment alone)
-Arranged Marriage
 Romantic love (Intimacy + Passion)
-Romantic Affair
 Companionate love (Intimacy + Commitment)
-Long-term Marriages
 Fatuous love (Passion + Commitment)
-Love at first sight.
 Consummate love (Intimacy + Passion +
Commitment)
-Ideal kind of relationship
Commitment
 It is a long-term relationship between
individuals. Commitment is a choice, a long
and not easy process that needs to be
participated by you and your partner.
Becoming Responsible in a Relationship
A sense of responsibility in taking care of your
personal relationship can only be established when
you realize the boundaries and limitations of your role
and influence in the relationships.
6 Major Elements of Becoming Responsible in a
Relationship
1. Mutual Respect- Establishing mutual
respect is easier when one is guided by the
virtue of the Golden Rule "Do unto others
what you would want others to do unto you."
For us to gain respect from our loved ones or
vice versa, we should instead use
encouraging words and learn the art of
acceptance to someone's unique personality
or traits and lastly practice the principle of
forgive and forget.
2. Value Quality Time - Having time for fun
will absolutely help you create more
memories worth treasuring. Quality time
with your loved ones may mean learning to
love them more.
3. Trust and Honesty - The person who
consistently receives someone's trust will
definitely grow trusting him/herself based on
how others trust him/her. Indeed, positive
encouragement may create a positive outlook
in life. “Trust is the heart of all
relationships.”
4. Well-communicated Love -Open
communication is one of the most essential
elements for any kind of relationship to keep
it going. A tap on a shoulder, a kiss on a
cheek, a very encouraging smile, a simple
hug, may just be some of the most genuine
and sincerest ways of expressing your love
towards one another.
5. Reliability and Security - Each one of us
dearly loves to have somebody whom we can
depend on and who will guarantee to protect
us from any harm or trouble at any
circumstance.
6. Non-judgmental Listening and Presence-
Listening is the key factor that makes
communication prosper. Sincere listening is
also a kind of expressing how genuine you
communicate your love and affection to
someone special to you.
Listening with a high value of integrity
indicates your presence which is non-
judgmental and not discriminatory.
Lesson 8: Social Relationship in Middle and Late
Adolescence
Learning Objectives:
 Distinguish the various roles of different
individuals in society and how they can
influence people through their leadership or
followership.
 Compare one’s perception of himself/herself
and how others see him/her.
 Conduct a mini survey on Filipino
relationships (family, school, and
community).
ROLE
Defines a set of norms, values, behaviors, and
personality characteristics attached to a status such as
leader, follower, or club president.
Roles Of An Efficient Leader That Can Influence
People
 Set example
A good leader sets the best example. It is the
first rule. Walk the talk.
 Assume and do responsibility
Should be guided by your own duties and
responsibilities. Be proactive in guiding,
teaching and developing excellence in
everyone.
 Show Initiative
 Find out what needs to be done.
 Life-long Learner
Capacitate yourself.
 Show enthusiasm
If you come to work happy and cheerful, it
provides motivation.
 Willing to serve
This quality is known of a servant leader.
 Active Listener
To become an active listener, you must
maintain an eye contact. Pay attention to
facial expressions and body language.
 Show empathy
Try to understand where people are coming
from and their point of view.
 Be sensitive to the need of others
As a good leader, you must be the one who
should know and feel the needs of your
constituents.
 Delegate work
Sharing work among members at the
organization should be divided into a
manageable task.
 Learn to appreciate
If someone has done great with the assigned
tasks, be sure to let them feel they are
appreciated.
 Be Patient
Do not get easily annoyed if untoward
incident happens hold your temper.
Roles Of An Effective Follower That Leaders Need
 Courage to do responsibility
Effective follower feels a sense of personal
responsibility and ownership for his or her own
behavior in the organization.
 Courage to challenge
If the leader's actions contradict the best interest of
the organization, effective follower takes a stand.
 Courage to participate in transformation
Effective followers view the struggle of change
and transformation as a mutual experience shared
by all members, support the leader and does not
afraid to confront the changes.
 A "can" do attitude
A leader's job becomes smoother when he or she
has followers who are positive and self-motivated,
can get things done, accept responsibility, excels in
required tasks and willingly accept difficult
assignment.
 A collaborative approach
Each follower is a part of the leader's larger system
and should realize that his or her action affect the
whole.
 Courage to serve and subservient
Effective follower understands the needs of the
organizations and seek those who need.
 The passion to drive personal growth
Leaders want followers who seek to enhance
their own growth and
development.
SOCIAL INFLUENCE
It is characterized by a change in your
behavior caused by the people that empower
you to adjust to a particular situation.
SOCIAL INFLUENCE IS CATEGORIZED BY:
o CONFORMITY
Changing your behavior to be the same with the
others in the group. This change is in response to
real (involving the physical presence of others) or
imagined (involving the pressure of social
norms / expectations) group pressure.
o COMPLIANCE
Granting a request or demand asked by another
individual in exchange of either a reward or a
punishment. This occurs when an individual
accepts influence because he hopes to achieve a
favorable reaction from another person or group.
o OBEDIENCE
Changing your behavior to follow the demand
given by an authority or an adult you have high
regards with.
SOCIAL RELATIONSHIPS
It refers to the connections that exist between people
who have recurring interactions that are perceived by
the participants to have personal meaning. This
definition includes relationships between family
members, friends, neighbors, fellow worker, and
other associates.
Types Of Relationships
 FAMILY RELATIONSHIPS
Connected through some form of kinships
such as parents, brothers and sisters,
grandparents, aunts and uncles or step-
parents.
 FRIENDSHIPS
People we are not related to but choose to
interact with. A person whom one knows and
with whom one has a bond of mutual
affection, typically exclusive of sexual or
family relations.
 ACQUAINTANCESHIPS
People you may encounter oftentimes but are
not friends or relatives. For instance, they may
be a neighbor who lives in your road, a work
colleague or someone you have seen a few
times at a social event but do not yet know
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 COMMUNITY RELATIONSHIPS
Describe a company's interactions with the
community in which it resides.
Lesson 9: Family Structures and Legacies
Learning Objectives:
 Appraise one’s family structure and types of care
he/she gives and receives which may help in
understanding himself/herself better.
 Make a genogram and trace certain physical,
personality, or behavioral attributes through
generations.
 Prepare a plan on how to make the family
members firmer and gentler with each other.
Family
 Came from the Latin word familia which means
group of people living in the household.
 Family could be related by blood, or birth or
by other relationship.
Types of Family Structures
 Nuclear Family
Also known as "conjugal" or "traditional"
family, consisting of married couples and their
offspring.
 Extended Family
It includes all relatives in proximity such as
grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins.
 Single Parent Family
It includes one parent and their children only.
 Step Family
The parents have divorced and remarried,
bringing the children from other unions
together to form a new nuclear family.
 Foster Family
It includes parent who serves as a temporary
guardian for one or more children to whom
they may or may not be biologically related.
 Adopted Family
A family wherein parents may adopt a child to
whom they share no blood relationship, or one
parent may adopt the child of the other parent.
 Bi-racial or Multi-racial Family
A family wherein parents are from different
races.
 Trans-racial Adoptive Family
A family wherein parents adopted a child with
a different race.
 Conditionally Separated Family
A family wherein one of the family members
is conditionally separated from the others.
 Childless Family
Married couple without children.
 Gay or Lesbian Family
A family wherein one or both parents has a
different sexual orientation and is part of the
LGBTQIA+ community.
 Migrant Family
It is a family who settles together in a different
place; it could be from one place to another.
 Immigrant Family
A family wherein one or both parents are
already an immigrant of other country.
Legacy
 Passed from our ancestors, from
generation to generation such as culture,
traditions, and customs. It is also called as
heritage.
 It could be passed to us socially,
emotionally, or spiritually.
Emotional Legacy
In order to prosper, children need an enduring
sense of security and stability nurtured in an
environment of safety and love.
 Provides a safe environment in which
deep emotional roots can grow.
 Fosters confidence through stability.
 Conveys a tone of trusting support.
 Nurtures a strong sense of positive identity.
 Creates a resting place for the soul.
 Demonstrates unconditional love
Social Legacy
Learn the art of relating to people, the art of
socialization.
 Respect, beginning with themselves and
working out to other people.
 Responsibility, fostered by respect for
themselves that is cultivated by assigning
children duties within the family, making them
accountable for their actions ang giving them
room to make wrong choices once in a while.
 Unconditional love and acceptance by their
parents, combined with conditional acceptance
when parents discipline for bad behavior
actions.
 The setting of social boundaries concerning ho
to relate to God, authority, peers, th
environment, and siblings.
 Rules that are given within a loving
relationship.
Spiritual Legacy
We adopt attitudes and beliefs about spiritual
matters from one person or another. Parents nee to take
the initiative and present faith to their children.
 Acknowledge and reinforce spiritual realities.
 Clarify timeless truth.
  Make spiritual activities a routine part of life.
 Incorporate spiritual principles into everyday
living.
 View God as a personal, caring being who is t
be loved and respected.
How to draw Genogram?
Genogram
Is a graphic representation of a family tree that
displays detailed data on relationships among
individuals.
Genogram Symbols
 Know your reason for making a genogram to
help you determine the type of family
information you want to indicate.
 Name all the members of your family kinship
that you wanted to include in your genogram.
 Organize questions to gather facts and figures
about your relatives to be included in the
genogram.
 Write down notes how everyone in your
family is connected.
 Solicit information starting with the oldest
generation down the line.

What is a firmer and gentler family relationship?

 It is a relationship that makes the family
stronger amid difficulties and crisis they are
experiencing.

Ways on How to Make Family Members Firmer and

Gentler with each other.

F- Foster Unity
I- Involve each other
R- Respect Individuality
M- Model the behavior
E- Explain expectations and consequences
R- Reward good behavior

G- Give love and forgiveness

E- Express gratitude
N- Nurture trust
T- Take time together L- Listen attentively E-
Ensure safety
R- Remember God

P- Pray always
L- Learn good communication
A- Accept failures
N- Nourish each other
S- Serve one another