Alber Kelly O.

Nalugon BSCS 3-2A

Week 11: The Beauty of Conflict

1. Do you think communication is enough in solving a conflict? Justify

your answer.

- Yes, a simple conversation may resolve a conflict. One of the most

important advantages of good communication is the ability to solve
problems, whether inside a family, with a neighbor, or in the
workplace. Good verbal and nonverbal communication also
contribute to successful conflict resolution, whether between
individuals or within groups.

2. Why does the speaker want us to view conflict positively? What can
we get from adopting this point of view?

- The speaker urges us to see conflict positively since it has the power
to change us, our relationships with others, and the world around us.
The speaker emphasized that there is always a bigger picture in
every conflict. To avoid severing our ties with others, we must
continually investigate the source of our arguments.

3. What are the three (3) keys enumerated by the speaker in solving a
conflict? Think of a conflict that you are experiencing currently and
how to use these "keys".

- There are 3 keys that enumerated by the speaker, the first key is to
recognize what are our conflict is about, second key is recognizing
when we are stuck and the third key unlocking the beautiful,
transformative power of conflict, As I relate my current experience on
the first key, I asked my younger brother to buy food for our breakfast
but he declined, so we fought about it, and what I realized on this
conflict where he declined to do my favor is that i wanted to feel
respected as the oldest brother and wondered how he valued the
relationship the way I did. Next as I relate to the 2 nd key, I was busy
doing homework and then I borrow the phone of my mother then
returned it again quickly, and after an hour he ask me where is her
cellphone was then I said I already returned it to her, then we fought
about it, in this conflict I realized as what the speaker said that I was
stuck that it is not working so well for me, where justification is
believing that I’m blameless where I think I’m not the one to change ,
else somebody wants to change and for that I realize it keeps us
stuck, so what did I do is find other way, where I help her to find her
phone, just not to get stuck on that conflicts. In respect to the third
key, I recognized that we need to start learning to communicate
properly in situations when we might affect ourselves, our
relationships, and the world around us.
4. What does VOCAB mean? How are these concepts important in
solving your conflicts in life?

- VOCABS means V - Vulnerability O - Ownership C - Communication

A - Acceptance B - Boundaries, Clair Canfield created these concepts
to assist you in thinking about how you can be accountable in your
own conflicts and how you may generate the change that you desire.
It starts with Where is the willingness to let yourself be seen in order
to share who you truly are and how you feel, and the next one is
Ownership where is taking accountability for your own needs,
emotions and choices. Third, you must learn to ask, listen, and
express yourself. It is not enough that we communicate it is also
important how we communicate, therefore we must learn to quit
telling stories that conclude with a period. The next notion is
acceptance, which refers to accepting reality and letting go of what
we cannot control. The fourth one is Boundaries, which is a set of
ground rules for acceptable conduct that explains and informs others
about what you are and are not good with. As the speaker says, this
concept is like learning a new language which if you practice you
become more fluent, where it helps us to create the changes we
want, in our selves your relationships and in the world that arounds
you.