FAMILY ANALYSIS WORKSHEET

BEGINNING TO SEE THE PATTERNS

DIRECTIONS:
Consider your family of origin when answering this and share with your buddy.
If this is not possible, consider the family most influential to you as you were
growing up.

(Let us have our first (2nd, 3rd) batch for group process on our next onsite
class. Please keep things confidential.)

1. As you look back in your childhood (child-preteen), what strengths do you

remember? What weakness do you remember? (consider only 1 -2 each).
Then move to late-teens to your recent memories.

2. Describe based on your memory, your relationship with your:

 Father (pros and cons)
 Mother (pros and cons)

3. What information have you gained from family discussions, stories, shared
memories, that create a different picture than what you remember?

4. Consider the following nitty-gritty things that are currently present in your
immediate family and possibly with those influential during your childhood and
teens.
alcoholism workaholism separation/ smothering parent
annullment
drug addiction neglect verbal abuse domineering father/
passive mother or vice
versa
constant anxiety/ gambling emotional abuse physical abuse
tension
compulsive psychosomatic depression physical abuse/ sexual
behaviors illnesses abuse

5. Describe how the above relationships and family attributes have affected
you relative to:
 Healthy self-esteem ---- shame
 Experiencing forgiveness --- guilt
 Expressing forgiveness ---condemning, critical of others
 Accurate perceptions ---black/white perspective
 Good bonding in relationships ---- loneliness
 Ability to have fun ----stiff or depressed
 Have your own opinions, decisions ---- people pleaser or “just
follow”
 Ability to talk, feel, and trust ----repressed emotions or explosions
of anger
 Responsible for your behavior ---blaming, irresponsible
6. What strengths have been built in your life as a result of your family
background?

7. What weaknesses or needs have developed as a result of your family

background?

8. How do your strengths affect your relationship with people in a group

setting?

9. What have you learned about yourself and your family as a result of this
analysis?