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Assertive Communication
OBJECTIVES
• Define and differentiate Passive, Aggressive and
Assertive Communication
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COMMUNICATION
STYLES
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ACTIVITY
• Please look for a partner to pair-up. You are each
given 3 mins to introduce and talk with your partner.
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ACTIVITY
• Please look for a partner to pair-up. You are each
given 5 mins to introduce and talk with your partner.
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ACTIVITY
• How did your partner communicate their side?
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There are different
communication styles
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PASSIVE ASSERTIVE AGGRESSIVE
COMMUNICATION COMMUNICATION COMMUNICATION
Shy to express their Interrupts others whole
Expresses self clearly
thoughts speaking
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Passive Communication
• Not expressing feelings or needs; ignoring your own
personal rights and allowing others to do so
• Deferring to others for decision making in order to
avoid tension or conflict
• Often leads to misunderstanding, built-up anger, or
resentment
• Can be a safer communication option when a
conflict may escalate to violence
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Aggressive Communication
• Expressing feelings, needs, and ideas at the expense
of others; ignoring others’ rights in order to support
your own
• Defensive or hostile when confronted by others
• Often alienates and hurts others
• Can help meet your needs quickly
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Assertive Communication
• Direct, honest communication of thoughts and
feelings
• Respecting the feelings, ideas, and needs of others
while also asserting your own
• May not be effective when interacting with
individuals that threaten your personal safety
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PASSIVE ASSERTIVE AGGRESSIVE
COMMUNICATION COMMUNICATION COMMUNICATION
Prioritizes the needs, values Communicates respect Struggles to see the needs,
and opinions of others over with balance between values and opinions of
their own others and self others
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COMMUNICATION STYLES
Acceptable Behavior
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COMMUNICATION STYLES
HOW DO YOU STAY HERE?
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Assertive
Communication
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Three Basic Steps to
Assertive Communication
• Responding afterward
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PREPARING FOR
THE CONVERSATION
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Preparing for the conversation
Confronting Issues
Negotiating
Saying No
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Preparing for the conversation
• Consider your intention
• Understand your objective
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Preparing for the conversation
Scenario:
During a team meeting an idea
was about to be executed and you
have a different opinion about it.
Intention / Objective:
Expressing Opinion
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Preparing for the conversation
Scenario:
You need to get a an update from
your team members regarding a
project
Intention / Objective:
Requesting an action
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Preparing for the conversation
Scenario:
You noticed that data reported to
you are incorrect and you wanted
to review it
Intention / Objective:
Confronting an issue
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Preparing for the conversation
Scenario:
The timeline given to you for a
project is too tight given the current
workload you have.
Intention / Objective:
Negotiating
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Preparing for the conversation
Scenario:
You were requested to work on
project outside working hours
Intention / Objective:
Saying “No”
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Preparing for the conversation
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Preparing for the conversation
Confronting Issues
Negotiating
Saying No
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HAVING THE CONVERSATION
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Having the Conversation
• Actively listen
• Gather information and
understand the message
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ACTIVE
LISTENING
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ACTIVE LISTENING
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ACTIVE LISTENING
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ACTIVE LISTENING
• Be fully present
• Change roles.
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ACTIVITY
• As the one sharing, how did you feel?
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Having the Conversation
• Actively listen
• Gather information and
understand the message
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Having the conversation
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ACTIVITY
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Having the conversation
Scenario:
During a team meeting an idea
was about to be executed and you
have a different opinion about it.
Intention / Objective:
Expressing Opinion
Frame of message:
Validate – Express - Expound
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Having the conversation
Scenario:
You need to get a an update from your
team members regarding a project
Intention / Objective:
Requesting an action
Frame of message:
Current State – Desired State
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Having the conversation
Scenario:
You noticed that data reported to you are
incorrect and you wanted to review it
Intention / Objective:
Confronting an issue
Frame of message:
Verify – Express - Expound
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Having the conversation
Scenario:
The timeline given to you for a project is too
tight given the current workload you have.
Intention / Objective:
Negotiating
Frame of message:
Validate – Reason - Ask
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Having the conversation
Scenario:
You were requested to work on project
outside working hours
Intention / Objective:
Saying “No”
Frame of message:
Acknowledge – Reason – Decline
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Providing Feedback
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FEEDBACK
• Promotes personal and professional growth.
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FEEDBACK
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FEEDBACK
Situation
Describe the situation. Be specific about when and where it occurred.
Behavior
Describe the observable behavior. Stick to the facts.
Impact
State the effect of the behavior on: -You, the Organization or the Team.
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FEEDBACK
Start
Identify behaviors or skills that the employee should start doing
Stop
Identify behaviors or instances that are not working
Continue
Identify behaviors or instances that are working well or value-adding
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FEEDBACK
Situation
Specifically recall and describe situation.
Task
Identify what was the desired outcome.
Action
Recall what was done. State facts.
Result
Compare desired outcome and actual outcome.
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COMMUNICATION STYLES
Acceptable Behavior
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COMMUNICATION STYLES
HOW DO YOU STAY HERE?
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