PRAYE

R
 REVIEW:

•WHAT ARE THE HUMAN

STAGES OF
DEVELOPMENT OF AN
 ACTIVITY:

STORY OF LIFE
WITH
THE WRIGHT FAMILY
 INSTRUCTIONS:
• DIVIDE THE STUDENTS INTO 2 GROUPS
• HAVE GROUP 1 STAND IN A CIRCLE, SHOULDER TO
SHOULDER.
• GET A SMALL ITEM (ID OR A CANDY WRAPPER OR PAPER)
• I WILL READ A STORY, EVERY TIME YOU HEAR ANY WORD
THAT SOUNDS LIKE “RIGHT”, THEY ARE TO PASS THE ITEM
IN THEIR HAND TO THE PERSON ON THEIR LEFT, AND EVERY
TIME THEY HEAR THE WORD “LEFT”, THEY SHOULD PASS
THE ITEM TO THE RIGHT.
 QUESTION:

• How Much Of The Story Can You Remember?

• What Does This Activity Tell Us About
Communication?
• What Does This Activity Tell Us About Listening
Skills?
•THE IDEA WAS NOT TO GET
TOO DISTRACTED BY THE
RIGHTS AND LEFTS AND STAY
FOCUSED ON WHAT WAS
HAPPENING IN THE STORY.
•SIMILARLY, IN OUR EVERYDAY
LIVES. WE OFTEN HAVE TASKS THAT
PULL US MANY DIRECTIONS.
•BUT WE SHOULD ALWAYS
REMEMBER WHAT IS IMPORTANT-
THE HEALTH OF YOUNG PEOPLE.
 THE PASSAGE TO
ADULTHOOD:
CHALLENGES OF
LATE ADOLESCENCE:
 PHYSICAL DEVELOPMENT:

• MOST GIRLS HAVE COMPLETED THE

PHYSICAL CHANGES RELATED TO PUBERTY
BY AGE 15.
• BOYS ARE STILL MATURING AND GAINING
STRENGTH, MUSCLE MASS, AND HEIGHT
AND ARE COMPLETING THE DEVELOPMENT
OF SEXUAL TRAITS.
 EMOTIONAL DEVELOPMENT:
• MAY STRESS OVER SCHOOL AND TEST SCORES
• IS SELF-INVOLVED (MAY HAVE HIGH EXPECTATIONS AND LOW
SELF-CONCEPT)\
• SEEKS PRIVACY AND TIME ALONE.
• IS CONCERNED ABOUT PHYSICAL AND SEXUAL ATTRACTIVENESS.
• MAY COMPLAIN THAT PARENTS PREVENT HIM OR HER FROM
DOING THINGS INDEPENDENTLY.
• STARTS TO WANT BOTH PHYSICAL AND EMOTIONAL INTIMACY IN
RELATIONSHIPS.
• EXPERIENCES OF INTIMATE RELATIONSHIPS.
 SOCIAL DEVELOPMENT:
• SHIFTS IN RELATIONSHIPS WITH PARENTS FROM DEPENDENCY AND
SUBORDINATION TO ONE THAT REFLECTS THE ADOLESCENT'S
INCREASING MATURITY AND RESPONSIBILITIES IN THE FAMILY
AND COMMUNITY.
• IS MORE AND MORE AWARE OF SOCIAL BEHAVIORS OF FRIENDS.
• SEEK FRIENDS THAT SHARE THE SAME BELIEFS, VALUES, AND
INTERESTS.
• FRIENDS BECOME MORE IMPORTANT.
• START TO HAVE MORE INTELLECTUAL INTERESTS.
• EXPLORES ROMANTIC AND SEXUAL BEHAVIORS WITH OTHERS
 MENTAL DEVELOPMENT:

• BECOMES BETTER ABLE TO SET GOALS

AND THINK IN TERMS OF THE FUTURE.
• HAS A BETTER UNDERSTANDING OF
COMPLEX PROBLEMS AND ISSUES.
• STARTS TO DEVELOP MORAL IDEALS AND
TO SELECT ROLE MODELS.
ROLE PLAY SITUATIONS ON CHALLENGES OF MIDDLE
ADOLESCENCE
• THERE ARE MAJOR DEVELOPMENTAL CHALLENGES
LIKELY TO AFFECT OVERALL WELL-BEING DURING
ADOLESCENCE AND EMERGING ADULTHOOD AND
THERE ARE ALSO PERSONAL AND SOCIAL ASSETS
NEEDED TO FACILITATE A SUCCESSFUL PASSAGE
THROUGH ADOLESCENCE AND INTO ADULTHOOD. THIS
SESSION WILL PORTRAY THESE CHALLENGES AND
REFLECT ON THE MOST EFFECTIVE WAY TO FACE
 ACTIVITY 2:
• DIVIDE YOURSELVES INTO FOUR GROUPS.
• EACH GROUP WILL THINK OF ONE DEVELOPMENT CHALLENGE AND
DISCUSS SPECIFIC SITUATIONS WHERE THIS PARTICULAR CHALLENGE IS
SEEN IN THEIR EVERYDAY LIVING.
• PRESENTATION MUST BE MAXIMUM OF 10 MINUTES PER GROUP.
• THE GROUP WILL BE GIVEN 10-15 MINUTES TO PLAN AND WRITE A
SCRIPT.
• YOU WILL BE GIVEN 10 MINUTES TO REHEARSE FOR THE ROLE PLAY.
• THE GROUP WILL PRESENT A 10 MINUTES ROLL PLAY AND AT THE END OF
EACH PRESENTATION THE REST OF YOUR CLASSMATES WILL SUGGEST
WAYS ON HOW TO EFFECTIVELY MANAGE THESE CHALLENGES.
ENCOURAGEMEN
T 101: THE
COURAGE TO BE
IMPERFECT
BY: TIMOTHY D. EVANS,
PH.D.
• ENCOURAGEMENT IS THE KEY
INGREDIENTS FOR IMPROVING YOUR
RELATIONSHIPS WITH OTHERS.
• IT IS THE SINGLE MOST IMPORTANT SKILL
NECESSARY FOR GETTING ALONG WITH
OTHERS-SO IMPORTANT THAT THE OF IT
COULD BE CONSIDERED THE PRIMARY
CAUSE OF CONFLICT AND MISBEHAVIOR.
• ENCOURAGEMENT DEVELOPS A PERSON’S PSYCHOLOGICAL
HARDINESS AND SOCIAL INTEREST. ENCOURAGEMENT IS
THE LIFEBLOOD OF A RELATIONSHIP. AND YET THIS SIMPLE
CONCEPT IS OFTEN VERY HARD TO PUT INTO PRACTICE.
• ENCOURAGEMENT IS NOT A NEW IDEA. ITS SPIRITUAL
CONNOTATION DATES BACK TO THE BIBLE IN HEBREW 3:11
WHICH STATES, “ ENCOURAGE ONE ANOTHER DAILY.”
ENCOURAGEMENT, AS PSYCHOLOGICAL IDEA, WAS
DEVELOPED BY PSYCHIATRIST ALFRED ADLER IN THE EARLY
20TH CENTURY AND CONTINUED TO EVOLVE THROUGH THE
WORK OF ADLER’S FOLLOWER RUDOLF DREIKURS.
 HOWEVER, EVEN TODAY, RELATIVELY FEW
EDUCATORS, PARENTS, PSYCHOLOGISTS, LEADERS OR
COUPLES HAVE UTILIZED THIS VALUABLE CONCEPT.
MOST OF THE TIME, PEOPLE MISTAKENLY USE A
TECHNIQUE LIKE PRAISE IN AN EFFORT TO
‘ENCOURAGEMENT’ OTHERS.
•HALF THE JOB OF
ENCOURAGEMENT LIES IN
AVOIDING DISCOURAGING WORDS
AND ACTIONS. WHEN CHILDREN OR
ADULTS MISBEHAVE, IT IS USUALLY
BECAUSE THEY ARE DISCOURAGE.
• INSTEAD OF BUILDING THEM UP, WE TEAR
THEM DOWN; INSTEAD OF RECOGNIZING
THEIR EFFORTS AND IMPROVEMENTS, WE
POINT OUT MISTAKES; INSTEAD OF
ALLOWING THEM TO BELONG THROUGH
SHARED DECISION-MAKING AND
MEANINGFUL CONTRIBUTIONS, WE
ISOLATE AND LABEL THEM.
• Most Of Us Are Skilled Discouragers. We Have Learned How
To Bribe, Reward And When That Fails, To Punish, Criticize,
Nag, Threaten, Interrogate And Emotionally Withdraw.
• We Do This As An Attempt To Control Those We Love,
Bolstered By The Mistaken Belief That We Are Responsible
For The Behavior Of Everyone Around Us, Especially Our
Spouses And Children.
• These Attempts To Control Behavior Create Atmospheres Of
Tension And Conflict In Many Houses.
 MOST COMMONLY, WE DISCOURAGE IN FIVE
GENERAL WAYS:
• WE SET STANDARDS THAT ARE TOO HIGH FOR OTHERS TO MEET
BECAUSE WE ARE OVERLY AMBITIOUS.
• WE FOCUS ON MISTAKES AS A WAY OF MOTIVATE CHANGE OR
IMPROVED BETTER.
• WE MAKE CONSTANT COMPANIONS (SELF TO OTHERS, SIBLINGS TO
ONE ANOTHER)
• WE AUTOMATICALLY GIVE A NEGATIVE SPIN TO THE ACTIONS OF
OTHERS.
• WE DOMINATE OTHERS BY BEING OVERLY HELPFUL, IMPLYING THAT
• ENCOURAGEMENT IS NOT A TECHNIQUE NOR IT IS A
SPECIAL LANGUAGE USED TO GAIN COMPLIANCE.
ENCOURAGEMENT CONVEYS THE IDEA THAT ALL
HUMAN BEINGS ARE WORTHWHILE, SIMPLY BECAUSE
THEY EXIST.
• IN ONE SENTENCE, MR. ROGERS DOES MORE FOR A
CHILD’S SENSE OF ADEQUACY THAN A HUNDRED
INSTANCES OF PRAISE WHEN HE SAYS, “I LIKE YOU
JUST THE WAY YOU ARE.” NOT I LIKE YOU WHEN YOU
DO IT WELL ENOUGH, FAST ENOUGH AND GET IT ALL
• ENCOURAGEMENT DEVELOPS CHILDREN’S PSYCHOLOGICAL
HARDINESS-THEIR ABILITY TO FUNCTION AND RECOVER WHEN
THINGS AREN’T GOING THEIR WAY.
• ENCOURAGEMENT ENHANCES A FEELING OF BELONGING WHICH
LEADS TO GREATER SOCIAL INTEREST. SOCIAL INTEREST IS THE
TENDENCY FOR PEOPLE TO UNITE THEMSELVES WITH OTHER
HUMAN BEINGS AND TO ACCOMPLISH THEIR TASKS IN
COOPERATION WITH OTHERS.
• THE JUNIOR LEAGUE MISSION OF “DEVELOPING THE POTENTIAL
OF WOMEN AND IMPROVING COMMUNITIES THROUGH THE
EFFECTIVE ACTION AND LEADERSHIP OF TRAINED VOLUNTEERS”
IS ROOTED IN THE IDEA OF SOCIAL INTEREST.
• The First Step To Becoming An Encouraging
Person Is To Learn To Distinguish Encouragement
From Discouragement. A S Rule, Ask Yourself:
• WHATEVER I SAY OR DO, WILL IT BRING
ME CLOSER TOGETHER OR FARTHER
APART FROM THIS PERSON?
• We All Have The Power To Be More Encouraging
People. The Choice, As Always, Is Yours.
“Successful People Are Always Looking For Opportunities To
Help Others, Unsuccessful People Are Always Asking “What’s
In It For Me?”
- Brian Tracy