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My Collusion Diagram
Tiffany Hartley
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3. I Do 4. Chelsea Sees
Allies Ask her why she didn’t make it Feels I’m pushing her Allies

Start to make dinner but am Sees I’m making something

annoyed she doesn’t like

Get more frustrated and start ….etc.

making something else Siblings
(Sarah)

Parents Parents
(Dad) (Mom)
2. I see 1. Chelsea Does
Chelsea hasn’t eaten yet and Asks me what’s for dinner
waited for me to make it when I get home at 9:30pm

Chelsea waiting for me to do Gets defensive and says she

everything didn’t have time

Shes being picky and Asks me to make something

ungrateful I’m taking the time else
to make anything at all
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Siblings
(Kristen)

Friends Friends

(Lexi) (Megan)
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3. I Do
Allies I would make her food. Make
something that she would like
to eat and ask her how her day
is going.
4. Chelsea Sees
Sees that I am making food Allies
for her and is happy and a
little less stressed.

If I make something she

doesn’t like it can cause an Me
argument. It is better just to
make something she likes.

Parents Megan
2. I see 1. Chelsea Does
She’s been just as stressed and Asks me what’s for dinner
busy as I have been and is when I get home from work
hungry and needs a break. late
Friends Parents
She is taking classes and
doesn’t have a lot of extra
time. I know that when she is
stressed she doesn’t eat.
Maybe she is stressed and just
needs someone to make
something for her.
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Chelsea

Essay Questions (Optional)

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Whom do you think you may be in collusion with in your family life?

In my family I am most likely to be in collusion with my younger sister Chelsea. It’s not

because of what she does but is more what she doesn’t do. I do all the cleaning and the cooking

because she says she doesn’t have enough time. I also feel sometimes she thinks I have more

time because my major is “easier”. Even if my classes are easier than hers we probably still do

the same amount of work.

For the collusion you have identified, whom have you gathered as allies?  You may think that

you do not gather allies into this, but I invite you to think a bit deeper about this as there are

likely allies on both sides of the diagram. We do this almost instinctively.

The allies that I form are with my friends that live down the hall. My sister lives with her

best friend and she allies with her. Then we both ally with my parents. We go to them because

they are closest to us and are willing to listen. I ally with my parents because I ask them for

advice on how to change the situation.