Childhood (1-6 Years)

most important stage in life

Formation Shaping
Outcome
Sick Soul Pure Soul

Rapist Calm
Coward Courageous
Liar Social
Thief Truthful
Jealousy Trustworthy
During this Age Bracket
 Doesn’t differentiate right from Required of You
wrong
 Guidance
 Tries to discover/ adventure
 Mainly natural instincts at this age  Moral training
 Discussion
 Do you prefer a quiet or a mobile child?
 How to manage excessive movement?
 How to manage excessive imitation & following?
 How to manage stubbornness?
Unique Features
 Excessive movement
 excessive imitation &  Love of play & praise
following  Imaginative thinking
 Stubbornness
 Love competitions
 Doesn’t differentiate
. between wrong & right
Love for encouragement &
 Inclined to skill
learning
 Fast lingual learners
motivation
 Unique Features of this Age Bracket

Excessive movement & lack of stability

Excessive movement implies a high I.Q
Managing excessive
Managing excessive imitation
movement & lack of stability
• . & following
A girl/ boy child imitates his
Solution:
elders in everything ; good or
 Assigning suitable home
bad e.g prayers
chores.
 Playing with age mates
Solution:
 Visiting relatives with his
 Story telling about the pious.
parents
 Accompany them to good
 A child is so energetic- &
places
should discharge it in
 Visit with them the pious
suitable & useful activities
 Show example by all means
.

especially for the mushrif.

Managing stubbornness Doesn’t differentiate
between wrong & right
 Convincing & inter-  Every stage has what is
understanding with them. right & wrong
 Don’t force them to a  These stages don’t
behavior till self motivated differentiate between:
 Don’t favor others over  Water & Fire 1-6 yrs
him  Good & Bad
7-15
 Team work with his peer. Principles
 Better carrier for 16-25
specialization
Due to this:
 He over asks
. questions
 Asks any time
16:78
 Ask by any means
 Love for Encouragement & Motivation
A child: Did the Prophet Praise his Companions
 Needs to be encouraged
by different ways. ‫ « يَا‬: ‫ قَا َل رسول هللا‬: ‫العاص‬
ِ ‫وعن عبد هللا بن َعمرو بن‬
‫ام اللَّي ِل‬ ٍ ُ‫ ال ت َ ُك ْن ِمثْ َل ف‬، ِ‫َعبدَ هللا‬
َ َ‫الن ؛ َكانَ يَقُو ُم اللَّي َل فَت َ َر َك قِي‬
 Needs moderate praise/ . ِِ ‫متفق َعلَ ْي ِه‬
ٌ .»
commendation
• .
ۚ ‫علَ ْال ِقتَا ِل‬ "Do not be like so-and-so O 'Abdullah! He
َ َ‫ض ْال ُمْؤْ ِمنِين‬ ُّ ِ‫﴿يَا أَيُّ َها النَّب‬
ِ ‫ي َح ِر‬
]65 :‫[ األنفال‬ used to pray during the night, then stopped
the practice.“
O Prophet, urge the believers to
battle.
‫رضي هللا‬- ‫وعن سالم بن عبد هللا بن عمر بن الخطاب‬
the Messenger of Allah ( )‫ﷺ‬said, :‫ قال‬-‫صلى هللا عليه وسلم‬- ‫ أن رسول هللا‬:‫ عن أبيه‬-‫عنهم‬
"What an excellent man 'Abdullah :‫صلي من الليل» قال سالم‬
ِ ُ‫ لو كان ي‬،‫الر ُج ُل عبد هللا‬
َّ ‫« نِ ْع َم‬
is! If only he could perform ً ‫فكان عبد هللا بعد ذلك ال يَنا ُم من الليل إال‬
.‫قليل‬
optional prayers at night." Salim
said that after this, (his father)
'Abdullah slept very little at night.
 Love of play & praise
Did the prophet play with children?

‫ت ِع ْندَ النَّ ِبي ِ صل هللا عليه وسلم َو َكانَ ِلي‬ ِ ‫ب ِب ْالبَنَا‬

ُ َ‫ت ُك ْنتُ أ َ ْلع‬ ْ َ‫شةَ ـ رض هللا عنها ـ قَال‬ َ ِ‫عائ‬َ ‫ع ْن‬َ
َّ َ‫س ِربُ ُه َّن ِإل‬
َ ُ‫ فَي‬،ُ‫َّللاِ صل هللا عليه وسلم ِإذَا دَ َخ َل يَتَقَ َّم ْعنَ ِم ْنه‬ َّ ‫سو ُل‬ ُ ‫ فَ َكانَ َر‬،‫ب يَ ْلعَبْنَ َم ِعي‬ُ ‫اح‬ِ ‫ص َو‬
َ
.‫فَيَ ْلعَبْنَ َم ِعي‬
(Sahih al-Bukhari 6130 Book 78, Hadith 157)
• .
I used to play with the dolls in the presence of the Prophet, and my girl
friends also used to play with me. When Allah's Messenger ( )‫ﷺ‬used to
enter (my dwelling place) they used to hide themselves, but the Prophet
would call them to join and play with me. (The playing with the dolls
and similar images is forbidden, but it was allowed for `Aisha at that
time, as she was a little girl, not yet reached the age of puberty.)
Importance of play & praise Requirement Games grow:
 Attaining skills Guidance on choice of a game Social relations
 Attaining experiences Teach how to benefit from a with peer.
 Growth of intelligence game  Helping each
 Method of learning Choice of who plays with them other.
 Imaginary Thoughts
 Riding a donkey of a stick Love for Competitions
Inclination to
 Dressing mum’s shoes Acquiring Skills:
 Competes with those
older:
Fast lingual learners  Running
 In games
 Tries speech  Standing
 In reading & revision
 Repeating a word  Different plays
• .
 Lifting babies

Role of Mushrif with Children

Wisdom in guidance according to:

 Wide knowledge of children ; their nature & thinking

 Wide knowledge of children’s environment e.g immorality

 Patience over their mistakes & not giving up due to their repetition

 Not ignoring their challenges & onducting well with them

.

 Doing good to chilgren in word & action

 Role of Mushrif with Children
‫ع ْن ُه ْم َوا ْستَ ْغ ِف ْر لَ ُه ْم َوشَا ِو ْر ُه ْم فِي‬ ِ ‫ظ ْالقَ ْل‬
ُ ‫ب َالنفَضُّوا ِم ْن َح ْو ِل َك ۖ فَاع‬
َ ‫ْف‬ َ ‫غ ِلي‬َ ‫ظا‬ ًّ َ‫نت ف‬َ ‫نت لَ ُه ْم ۖ َولَ ْو ُك‬ َّ َ‫﴿فَبِ َما َر ْح َم ٍة ِمن‬
َ ‫َّللاِ ِل‬ .

﴾ َ‫ب ْال ُمتَ َو ِك ِلين‬ َّ َ‫عل‬

َّ ‫َّللاِ ۚ إِ َّن‬
ُّ ‫َّللاَ يُ ِح‬ َ ‫ت فَتَ َو َّك ْل‬ َ ‫ْاأل َ ْم ِر ۖ فَإِذَا‬
َ ‫عزَ ْم‬
]159 :‫[ آل عمران‬
by mercy from Allah, [O Muhammad], you were lenient with them. And if you
had been rude [in speech] and harsh in heart, they would have disbanded from
about you. So pardon them and ask forgiveness for them and consult them in
the matter. And when you have decided, then rely upon Allah. Indeed, Allah
• .

loves those who rely [upon Him].

‫الرفق في األمر‬
ِ ‫((إن هللا يحب‬:- ‫ صلى هللا عليه وسلم‬- ‫ قال رسول هللا‬:‫ قالت‬- ‫ رضي هللا عنها‬- ‫عن عائشة‬
.‫كله))؛ متفق عليه‬
‘Ā’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her) reported that the Messenger of Allah
(may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) said: "Allah is Lenient and He
loves leniency in all matters."

‫ ما ال يعطي على‬،‫ ويعطي على الرفق‬،‫ «إن هللا رفيق يحب الرفق‬:‫وعنها أن النبي صلى هللا عليه وسلم قال‬
‫ متفق عليه‬:‫ [الحديث األول‬- ]‫ [صحيح‬.»‫ وما ال يعطي على ما سواه‬،‫العنف‬
The Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) said: "Allah is Lenient
and He loves leniency. He rewards for leniency what He does not reward for
harshness or for anything else."