Step 4 - Learn How To Initiate Sex

Effortlessly

Step Summary - Now you will bring all of your new

knowledge of sexual tension and polarity together and
begin initiating sex.

Before using these steps it’s important to try to initiate

sex without any deep attachment to the outcome.

The more you go into it thinking “We need to have

sex” the more needy and pushy energy you are going
to give off, which will ruin the whole vibe.

So use the following ideas but use them for fun and
take them as far as you can take them, but use them
for fun first, initiating sex second.

And if you try one of these ideas and it doesn’t lead to

sex, it doesn’t matter because you have got her
thinking about sex and the ball is now rolling in that
direction.

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Jump out and scare her, then start kissing
her

Why does this work?

It gets her adrenaline rushing and then you

use that heightened state of emotion and
sexualise it.

This doesn’t have to be anything elaborate,

just be sure to give her a shock and then tell
her she is safe in a cheeky fashion and start
kissing her.

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Come stand behind her, put your hand
over her mouth and tell she’s your's

Why does this work?

This is unexpected, firm, dominant and puts

you in charge. The hand over her mouth
shows her that you are in control and then
telling her she is your's is both sweet and
dominant at the same time.

It will have an instantly sexual vibe, so once

you have done this spin her around and go in
for a kiss.

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Give her a coconut oil massage and go
from there

Why does this work?

An oily massage is overtly sensual and

sexual and it will quickly get your lover’s
mind onto sexual things. This is the perfect
kind of foreplay for a woman as it creates a
build up of sexual tension as you move
towards and then away from her most
sensitive zones.

To initiate this massage, start by giving her a

basic one through her clothing, let her feel
how good it is and then instruct her to lay
down. Let her feel how that is even better
and then tell her you’ll get some oil.

From there, be sure to spend at least 10

minutes massaging her without touching
any of her sensitive zones. This will allow
the tension to properly build up.

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Have her put her hand on your erect penis
in a playful way and she will find it almost
impossible to resist

Why does this work?

When your lover can visibly see and feel

that you are already excited, it makes
starting the sex that much easier for her
because she doesn’t feel as though she has
to put in any effort to get you excited.

It’s a very powerful technique that you can

use to lower the amount of thinking and
“work” that your lover has to do to begin.

Your erection will also be a huge

compliment to her. The fact that you are
hard from just imagining sex with her will
really get her excited.

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Go on a 1 or 2 night trip away from home
then come back and ravage her

Why does this work?

Your absence will allow your lover to stop

taking you for granted and to start missing
you. This trip away will let her clearly see
what you do for her and it will remind her to
reward you.

And on top of that, your lover will be

wondering what you are up to, so to add
extra power to this step be sure to keep the
details about your trip to a minimum.

This will make your lover get jealous for no

real reason at all and it will bring out her
need to keep you interested in her in case
you have other options.

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Give her a shoulder massage, even
through her clothing.

Why does this work?

Similar to a previous massage idea, the

massage is simply about reminding her that
it feels good to be touched, which will then
make her crave a little more.

You can then instruct her to lay down or

take off her shirt/dress so that you can give
a deeper massage.

This will eventually lead to either a lot of

sexual tension being built, or full on sex.

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Give her a scalp massage with your
fingertips or with an actual scalp
massager

Why does this work?

A scalp massage, especially with the correct

tool, is extremely stimulating and will give
her shivers up and down her spine in a good
way.

You can also sweeten this up for her by

reminding her that this is good for blood
flow on her scalp and it will strengthen the
growth of her hair.

Because this kind of massage is so

stimulating, your lover will be left wanting
more, which is where you can then switch it
to a regular massage or some kissing.

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Carry her to the room you want her in over
your shoulder

Why does this work?

So long as you’re having a good day with

your lover and things have been flirty and
playful, this will work.

Simply pick her up like you are a caveman

and then carry her back to your “cave” with
her over your shoulder.

You can even tell her that you are a caveman

and that you are going to bonk her on the
head.

The whole thing should feel both fun and

primal at the same time. Then when you
drop her onto the bed you can passionately
kiss her and tear off her clothing, whilst
keeping a loose sort of caveman roleplay
going.

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Go out to a social event with each other
and let her see you socialising smoothly
and even flirting with other women

Why does this work?

This will not only create jealous and

protective emotions in your lover, but it will
let her see you as a more competent and
sophisticated man.

Allow her to see different sides to you and

she will get 100X more turned on.

Then once you have charmed many at the

party, you can take your lover home and she
will be very ready for you to make a move
on her.

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Take her on a date night and call it a date
night. (money spent is irrelevant)

Why does this work?

Calling it a date night will give her a

reminder of when you first started dating,
and labelling it this way is actually more
important than the date itself.

Be sure to avoid making the date too

expensive, unless your early dates were that
way.

The aim is to make her feel younger,

nostalgic and reconnected to you. These
feelings and emotions will bring out her
most playful and open side, so you’ll be able
to flirt with her so much more easily.

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Put her on your back and do 5-10 press
ups with her

Why does this work?

Showing her your strength and athleticism is

a very fast way to polarise the relationship.
She will be left impressed and healthily
intimidated by your strength, which will
then let her imagine you dominating her in
the bedroom.

After you have done this, playfully switch

roles and crush your lover into the floor to
then heavily sexualise things from there, this
will be new for her. (She shouldn’t be able
to do a press up with you on her back of
course)

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Remind her of a moment you know she
really enjoyed during a previous sex
session and then hug, feel and kiss her

Why does this work?

It helps you bridge the gap between her

sexual, illogical mind and her everyday,
logical mind and it puts powerful sexual
images in her head of a memorable moment.

Describe the scenario in detail and remind

her of how she felt and she will give you the
naughty look to welcome your initiation.

And getting her to talk about sex outside of

the bedroom is a good way to break some
sexual taboos and get her more comfortable
around the topic, so it’s a win-win.

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Initiate things in the middle of an
argument by looking out for the magic
moment where the tension is just right.
(The argument must be about something
not too serious for this to work)

Why does this work?

This is about converting the negative tension

into sexual tension. You can’t do this if you
are clearly the one in the wrong and are the
subject of the argument, she must be the
subject.

For example, she parks the car badly, you

tell her to re-park it and then she snaps
back at you and things escalate. In this
scenario she is “wrong” and you are “right”,
so it can be used to create sexual tension.

The best way to turn this into something

sexual is to get closer to your lover during
the argument until eventually you are right
in each other’s face, then you can go in for a
kiss.

As a side note, we recommend avoiding any

arguments but if you find one happening, try
making the best out of the situation in this
way.

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Tickle her until she begs you to stop and
then start fondling and kissing her

Why does this work?

So long as you tickle her when she is not in

a depressed or very annoyed mood, then this
will work. The aim should be to take her to
the stage just before she pees herself and
then stop.

Her intense laughter will bring out a lot of

feel good emotions and by simply kissing
her afterwards you will be able to take this
all the way to sex.

Another fun addition you could add would

be to do what we call “Blowing
Raspberries” and do it on her bare stomach.
(You might have to Google that term if
you’re not a native English speaker) This is
even more physical and using your mouth
adds a more sensual element.

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Recreate a date from when you first met
or at the very least, visit the site of an old
date

Why does this work?

The goal isn’t to replicate an early date

down to the exact details, the goal is to
remind her of the past emotions and feelings
she felt with you on that early date.

You will get her into that mindset again, and

on top of that you will look very sweet and
sentimental to her for looking back with
fondness at this early date of yours.
(Remember you need to show your sweet
side 20% of the time and your
cheeky/playful side 80% of the time)

And be sure to verbally remind her of what

you remember the most from that date. If
possible, share something about that date
that she doesn’t know, such as how
confident you were feeling. This will get her
even more engaged and interested.

Once you go back home together, you’ll be

able to pounce on her without any
hesitation.

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Grab her hand whilst you’re driving and
rest it on your crotch

Why do this?

This is extremely playful, cheeky and

“dangerous” so it will either make her laugh
and pull her hand away, or feel risky and
continue. Either way it will show her that
you are fun and it will get her mind on sex,
which is where you want it.

Even if she pulls her hand away, you are still

planting a sexual seed in her mind. But be
sure to try it again a few minutes later and
tell her that nobody can see and that it’s
staying in your pants (your penis that is).
This will lower her anxiety about doing it
whilst driving.

You shouldn’t escalate to sex whilst driving

of course, but this should be a real warmup
for her. Then once you arrive back home or
at your destination, she will be ready for
more foreplay and escalation.

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Hold her neck as you give her a kiss

Why do this?

This makes a kiss extremely dominant and

puts you entirely in control of it. It will
communicate to her that you know what you
want and that you aren’t afraid to go and
get it.

If your lover isn’t a fan of having her neck

held right now, start with just your little
finger on her neck with your other fingers on
her cheek, then move it down a little during
the kiss.

And if your lover instantly responds well to

the neck hold, get a little firm with both
your hand and your kisses, then tease her
vagina through her clothing.

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Have her suck something sweet off your
fingers in the kitchen

Why do this?

The sugar will give her a little feel good

buzz and she’ll have to do something
incredibly sexual to get that sugar.

It’s impossible for her to suck your fingers

clean of the sweet treat and to not get
turned on by it.

Have her repeat it once more and then pull

her in for a kiss. You can then put some of
the sweet food onto her neck and lick it off
to tease her further.

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Walk around naked for a little after a
shower

Why do this?

This is more powerful if you don’t do it very

often, but even if you do this everyday, it
puts your naked image into her mind more
often.

She will check you out, laugh and tell you to

get dressed. She may also do this herself
sometimes and when she does… take her, as
she is definitely trying to get your attention.

You will need to combine this naked idea

with some of the other ideas on this
initiation list to take things all the way to
sex, especially the next idea!

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Let her feel your erect penis pressing
against her in bed

Why do this?

This will instantly get her mind on sex and it

will make it very easy for her to get in the
mood, as she won’t have any “work” to do to
get you hard.

Spoon your lover, press it against her and

then tilt her head around for a kiss before
you pull her nightwear to the side and enter
her. (Ideally with a lubricated penis to make
things extremely easy for your lover)

Trying this with a flaccid penis will hardly

have any effect at all, unless you have
already built a lot of sexual tension.

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Have her tend to a wound you got doing a
“man job”

Why do this?

It’s important to note that you shouldn’t be

getting injured on purpose to do this. But
when your lover has to take care of your
“battle wounds” she will feel very feminine
and weirdly sensual.

You wouldn’t think that blood and scrapes

could become a turn on, but the story and
emotions surrounding them are what does
the magic. It’s not the blood and gore itself.

Wounds and injuries are clear signs that

you're a man who goes out into the world to
get what he wants and doesn’t sit all nice
and cosy inside for the whole day.

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Cook or prepare her a very aphrodisiac
style meal

Why do this?

When women cook it’s practical and loving,

when men cook it’s exciting and passionate.

Cook or prepare her a meal like steak

tartare, oysters or even just a rare steak
with fries. Pair it with a complimentary wine
and have a simple but homemade dessert
ready for later too. (Panna cotta or a mousse
is a really easy and sensual dessert to
prepare for any skill level)

This will wow her and she’ll instantly see

you in a new light. When a woman gets to
see a new and exciting side to you, it’s
almost like a roleplaying session but for
real. She gets to be seduced by this new
mysterious man who just so happens to be a
man she knows already.

Initiating sex on this night will be as simple

as saying “get naked”, just wait and see!

(Be sure to set a nice table and light a

candle as well, it’s cliché but very impactful)

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Arm wrestle with her and handicap
yourself but still win

Why do this?

This is an extremely fun and playful way to

show off your strength and to make her feel
vulnerable around you. When she feels
vulnerable around you she feels feminine,
which then allows her to feel the masculine-
feminine spark between the two of you,
turning her on.

Arm wrestle her with your arm almost on

the table in the losing position and still beat
her. Then call her weak and puny in a cheeky
way. You can then add on that you’re going
to crush her and that you can overpower her
in any way that you want.

She will then ask you to prove it and from

there you can pin her against the wall or
pick her up and carry her and begin kissing
her. Just create that polarity spark first and
initiating will be easy for you.

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Do a couple of pull ups on a bar with her
hanging off you

Why do this?

This is yet another way to show off your

physical strength, which is very masculine. It
will also communicate to her that you are
disciplined and persistent, as you can’t get
strength like that overnight.

You could then playfully and a little

sarcastically call yourself an animal, just to
put the idea into her head that you are one.

If you don’t think you’ll be able to do any

pull ups with your lover hanging off your
back, then avoid the anti-climax and perform
a few pull ups by yourself for her to see.
This will still impress your lover and make
her think about you in a more
sexual/animalistic way.

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Spend a few hours of your time and make
her something very sweet and meaningful

Why do this?

This is about balancing out your dark and

light sides. Remember that a man should be
80% cheeky/playful and 20% sweet and
kind, whereas a woman is the opposite.

Making her something could include pretty

much anything. A picture frame, a flower
basket, baked goods, a table, a painting, a
beautiful photograph you took with her in
mind, write her a song or poem etc.

Whatever your talents are, show them off

and let her know that you spent 1-2 hours
to surprise her specifically. This will round
off your “darker” side and let her see you as
a more complete package.

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Get checked out by other women within
view of your lover

Why do this?

Although this isn’t fully in your control, it is

mostly in your control if you:

Stand up really straight

Wear clothing that highlights your
muscles
Make deep eye contact with people
Walk like you own the place
Slightly puff out your chest confidently

You will get checked out more when you are

with your lover than on your own, so it is
likely that she will see this and if not you
can cheekily tell her when it happens.

This will trigger a lot of healthy jealousy in

your lover and is the perfect kind of mental
foreplay that will lead to incredible sex later
on.

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Instantly start roleplaying with her

Why do this?

If you confidently, yet playfully pretend to

be somebody you're not, she will jump into a
new character of her own and play along
with you.

What this light roleplaying does is it melts

away your lover’s inhibitions and sexual
hang ups as she is now “somebody else”.

It will allow her to become somebody new

with a different set of sexual limits.

Roleplaying needs no planning or

announcement, simply play a new character
in a funny way and make it obvious what
you are doing and she will play back.

Another powerful tip you can add to the

roleplaying is to make yourself the “bad”
character who is cheating on his lover and to
make her the innocent single one who gets
swept up in his charm.

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Buy a nice glossy Kama Sutra book for the
two of you to work through

Why does this work?

A physical, well presented book is 100X

better than trying to show her something
online, as it’s more intimate and private.

Seeing the positions laid out like this will

make it seem like a fun quest for you both to
complete.

It will also really obviously get her mind on

sex and picturing herself in those positions
with you, which is all the foreplay you need.

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Make some time and have a wine tasting
party together

Why do this?

This party should only involve the two of

you, but the sexual tension will be built by
you blindfolding your lover and then gently
tipping the wine into her mouth.

Don’t allow her to tip the wine into your

mouth as that won’t have the same effect on
the sexual tension, but you can be
blindfolded whilst playing the tasting game.

And her wine tasting skills aren’t important,

but get her to tell you as much about the
wine as possible.

Another fun factor to this playful wine

tasting challenge is that you will both get a
little bit tipsy (not drunk) and this will lower
both of your inhibitions and loosen you up.

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Sneak behind her and put a blindfold on
her

Why do this?

“Forcibly” putting a blindfold on her in a

playful way instantly puts you into the
power position as she can longer see but
you can.

This quickly creates a lot of sexual tension

as your dominant and submissive roles have
been established.

Just be sure to begin kissing her neck or

feeling her body as you do this, and for an
extra dominant touch, you can restrain her
wrists behind her back with something too.

This technique is best done when you’re

both having a really fun and connected day
with each other. It’s not a good technique to
use cold on your lover as it may be too much
too soon.

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 Bringing This Altogether

You can initiate sex however you like so long as

there is sexual tension between the two of you.

When she turns you down it's because her 'engine'

is cold and you tried to take her from 0-60
instantly. That never works.

In a long term relationship, sexual tension must be

constantly worked on. Whereas in the early stages
of dating the mystery you have and the frequent
time apart do all of the hard work for you.

It gets harder the longer you have been together

and the more you know about each other.

But the sex itself actually gets better because you

know exactly what each other likes and you can
begin experimenting with more unusual activities.

Which is something that doesn't happen much in

the early dating stages.

Remember...

The most simple way to initiate sex is with a

passionate kiss followed by stripping her down.

And if you want it made even easier still, have a

rock hard erection ready for her so you can jump
right in.

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